bringing subject up with gg's

[Jessicafem]

anyone had any luck with finding gg supportive of lifestye. How did you bring up. What maybe would be some indirect questions that might test the water to see if they might be a good possiblity. Where are some places that you might look?

[cindie]

The toughest thing I ever did was tell my wife everything. She, in all fairness, was very understanding and has accepted it.

Unfortunately I don't think there is an easy way or roundabout way to explain to a gg your desires. Having said that the support and advise my gg gained from this site has made her feel a whole lot better.

I can only wish you luck.

Cindie

[suezeq]

i meet my wife on internet 6years ago i told her befor we even meet and the rest is history lololo

[KarlaRissa]

anyone had any luck with finding gg supportive of lifestye. How did you bring up. What maybe would be some indirect questions that might test the water to see if they might be a good possiblity. Where are some places that you might look?

One of my GG friends who I told about was very comfortable with it. She told me how her unkle is the same and how she doesnt mind it at all. The reason why I told her was because I wanted to tell someone and in the past when I have made off comments about it, she always seemed to respond back in a positive manner.

One of my other friends who I told at a party was very understanding. We had struck up a convo, and after a while I mentioned off topic about how one of my other friends were dressed (They had an aweful dress and top combination on) and I pointed out that she had very visible panty lines. She then asked straight out if I was a crossdresser. Being me, I just said yes. She said "I thought so." Then we started talking in a much more comfortable manner about it (Like how I started, sizes, etc).

For indirect questions, I have usually just asked what they thought of men in womans clothing. They usually didnt cotton-on to what I was talking about, and I guaged it on that.

Hugs and Kisses,
Karla

[Talon DeRojo]

Martina - I have a thread going entitled "When did you tell your S/O that you were a CD?" It's currently on page 3 of this forum. Reading some of the 40+ responses might help you out.
Talon

[Bev06 GG]

Hi girls,
Having a friend as a CD and having a partner as a CD are two very different things. I too had a CD friend years ago, and to be honest it didn't really affect me greatly so couldn't have cared less. The only time I ever used to be involved with it was if he wanted advise on makeup or wanted to go shopping etc.
Now I have a partner who dresses I can talk confidently from the other side of the fence. I personally dont have a problem with it and never have done so I suppose you could argue that my previous experience kind of broke me in gently. However, I have known it go the other way and because a female has had experience of it is totally against it.
All GGs are different so I suppose the best way of testing the water is to get to know that person, and even then there are no guarantees. My partner took a chance and it paid off. He now has a free reign and doesn't have to live a life of lies and deceit. If you can be honest I would sincerely advise you to be so because sooner or later it will cause you problems if you are not. Not an easy situation really because unfortunately CDing is still on the fringes of social acceptance, and even if it does get accepted it might be a case of the old Nimby attitude, Its Ok for others but not my partner thank you very much.
I wish you well in your search and admire you for your wanting to be honest and upfront with it all. There are many of us out there who really do not have an issue with CDing and if were honest actually like it, we just take abit of finding thats all. Abit like a needle in a haystack.
Take care
BEVxxxx

[Tracy_Victoria]

In my case, I'd had one failed marriage, I was living on my own, and I said if ever I got into a relationship then I would tell that person (giving them a way out) before I ever got serious.

When I met Raksha (my SO) I tried to tell her face to face about my dressing but just could not do it. So I sat down wrote a very long and detailed letter. It was a bit of a cowards way out, but I wanted her to know, before we got in to deep. (I feel this is only fair to do, but I know how you keep say your going to tell, but never get round to it!)

Sadly in our case, other people created a problem for us, but now we are moving forward again.

Small steps and Honesty (total) is the way forward, but not every GG can or even wants to understand, so be aware of that.

[HaleyPink2000]

anyone had any luck with finding gg supportive of lifestye. How did you bring up. What maybe would be some indirect questions that might test the water to see if they might be a good possiblity. Where are some places that you might look?


Well how about this?

" Hun, I'm joining a Support group". Oh, and BTW I need to wear something nice to it. Can I wear your new Pumps? Hmm, if not I need to go shopping, and will you go with me? Oh, and can you go with me to the meeting"?

[raksha GG]

When Tracy Victoria and I were exchanging letters and lots of phone calls prior to meeting for the first time, s/he asked lots of questions about the involvement my family had in amateur dramatics etc. My Mum was a big fan of many of the popular drag artists on UK telly in the 60's, 70's and 80's and this was something else we discussed at length. There are ways of 'sounding out' the ground before telling the whole truth and judging how it might be received.

HTH