why i think i cross dress

[Tanya]

third time i have written this ahhhhhhhhh!

There are many resons that i crossdress . some days iits because i just need to feel that wonderfull feeling , sometimes its erotic sometimes not . More than often i dont dress fully as i really dont have the chance or time . I started dressing when i was almost a teenager. I had found some garments in th ebatroom and was curious as to why women wear this stuff. It was a wonderfull feeling .i will add to this later as the first two i got kicked off .
later ,

[Tanya]

ok it worked . yee haw!

anyway like i was saying there are many reasons why i think i like to dress up . It started when i was really young finding nylons and heels in the bathroom .I would take baths instaed of showers just to spend more time dressed . good thing we had more than 1 bathroom in th ehouse lol. My SO got a reply that it might be because of my astrologicall sign ...... yeah smoke another one they also stated that cd's are god chosen on this earth .....It's one thing to be at one with yourself , but hey thats a little extreme !I am comfortable in both roles and no i'm not a flamboyant type becaus ethats just not me. i like the feeling of nylons and heels and have gotten quite a few compliments on my legs to boot ! that makes me feel good! sometimes i even get aroused by dressing but not all the time . I just like to look beautifull. we are bombarded with images of gorgeous women all the time in movies , commercials posters and yes even porn! I like a classy look but i also like a sultry bedroom look it just depends on my mood.one just has to look at the history on this planet . Crossdressing by todays fashion has been around for centuries. powdered wigs are still used by bothsexes in the british courts . Men had heels in the 17 and 18 hundreds. make up was worn by both sexes in the upper class and royalty of europe . Growing up as a teen ager in the 1980's most of our idols were rock stars who in fact were crossdressing and we copied the look of that day .david Bowie , motley crue etc.when i was in my mid teens my g/f at the time thought it would be fun if she and her friend were to dare me to let them dress me up as a girl . I let them with little a fight ( wink) . we ordered pizza and they rushed me to the door to pay . The pizza guy didnt even give it a second thought until i had spoken . we all got a laugh that day . when i was little older one of my friends g/f's dared me in front of everyone if i had the guts to let her do my hair ( it was past my shoulders . consider the era.) and apply make up . after she had done it one friend looked at me then to his girlfriend and remarked " i dont know who's more prettier you or my g/f" needless to say we laughed and he got a shot in th earm from her . I used to try on my then wifes clothing when i was twenty something . She had caught me and i lied about it .i know i should have been more truthfull now. I did eventually open up to her and in th elast years of our marriage she even went shopping on my behalf for clothes and shoes and make up . She now holds this against me to this day . i am in a wonderfull relationship with my g/f of whom i wanted to tell and did early in our relationship and she seemed okay with it up until a few weeks ago . we are talking openly and seeking advise on how to cope with it on this site thanks to all who have responded .Anyway back to the topic at hand . I dress for me . I dress fully but not often .I dress with just a pair of nylons and shoes but not often . The reasoni dress i guess is that to me a woman is the most beautiful creation on this planet . If only i could look that good. immatation is the best form of flattery they say . when a woman or GG gets dressed to the nines she feels like a million bucks and she knows it and feels great . That is one resaon i do it . why dress fully ? Because when i have acheived that look of total femme it makes me feel like a million bucks. i dont go out like this but rather stay in the privacy of my own home as this is comfortable for me at this time .any way thats all i have but i'm sure i'll come up with morre later .

thanks for letting me vent

[JoannaDees]

Venting as you have done is why this forum exists, at least in one respect. We all dress for different reasons. Myself, it just feels good, not sexual, just good as in correct? Well, still confused and wondering, but no longer anxious or freaked.

[Dana]

I like it because half of the other side of the human race likes it ~ so why shouldn't I?

[Kate Simmons]

I dress because it's the connection to my female self. It's not just that though. Sometimes I do it because I want to feel pretty just like the next guy--uh girl. Sometimes it just makes my day........! Ericka

[Dana]

I dress because it's the connection to my female self. It's not just that though. Sometimes I do it because I want to feel pretty just like the next guy--uh girl. Sometimes it just makes my day........! Ericka


Becuase shopping, getting "girly" is fun!

[michelle19845]

pry because,i am quite androgynous,have femme feelings/interests love shopping,talking about emotions of self and others,lots of friends are girls,not too many men.yet at the same time i get into a few male interests and get in a upwhirl.for the most i feel so proud of myself when iam dressed fully cause i feel so......graet..proud of myself.i like myself to be more femme and have lots of tastes in femme things.i feel more "full".

[saturnion]

I dress for relaxation and some times sexual reasons. Love nylons of all sort and high heels. Love shopping for girls appearl of kinds. Wish my wife were more accepting.

[Barb Valentine]

I dress because I just like the way the cloths feels
It just feels right

[sierracd6]

I dress for most reasons you all have posted. But also it is an escape from reality also. Just to put behind the same ole same ole behind for a while....Spice up life a bit.....and try to look hott.ttsssssssssss

[Casey Morgan]

Vent away Tanya. As with all aspects of our lives it's so important to know who we are and what role CDing plays in our lives. It's great that you have been able to figure out what you told us.

[Kimberley]

Hmmmm. Okay, here's a bit of a twist.

About 15yrs ago I "hit the wall". I made the decision to suppress Kimberley and go on in my male role as best I could. Over time a lot of Kimberley has become a part of my visible personality to the point that distinguishing the difference is sometimes difficult even for me.

I started young (earliest memories)
As a teen it was sexual but there was also a strong gender element.
As a young adult it was a combination of sexual and gender.
As an adult (thirty something) it was all gender.

Today I am not sure what or why.
Do I dress because it is a denial of the male or because it is the need of the female side?

Kimberley.

[andrea6er]

Looking at what has been written so far and from my own habits why is it we all (mostly) start off with say just knickers, then progress through to in later life, for me mid 40's into wanting to go out dressed to the nines, wig and all. Is it due to hormonal changes, others attitudes relaxing towards us or am I missing the point altogether?

[Faye Emmette]

I don't like to think that my love of dressing differently has a reason but I think it's this:
All us humans are born with different levels of "X" and "Y" chromosomes. The more "X" leads to Femaleness. The "Y"'s lead to the other.
I suppose that all humans don't have the 999 "X" plus 1 "Y" to be a female and all blokes don't have the 999 "Y" and ony 1 "X" to be a bloke.
The degree of variation of chromosomes is made evident on this very forum. The Polls asking 'How Much This.. and How Much That... ' arise from all our different levels of Femininity.
O'course everyone is a product of DNA and environment but I think the environment is the subsequent result of the hereditary line.
That's been my theory anyways.
XX
F.

[Tanya]

Now ya can't tell me that when a GG gets all dolled up to the 9's she dosn't feel sexy or if she dresses up in very provacative clothing she dosn't feel "HOT". I dressed up today , did my make up put on a luxurios evening gown , slipped into strappy high heels and looked in the mirror and god was i hot ( at least i thought so lol).

kisses,:D

[Kate Simmons]

I believe you are right. As when I'm Ericka I consider myself a woman and not a guy in a dress. That's the way I feel a woman feels when she is dressed as you say to the "nines". She looks nice and knows she is appreciated for it. Really don't know how else to describe the feeling. Ericka

[Sandy]

because its bloody good fun and it keeps me off the street

[Ms. Donna]

I started young (earliest memories)
As a teen it was sexual but there was also a strong gender element.
As a young adult it was a combination of sexual and gender.
As an adult (thirty something) it was all gender.


Unless you dress purely for 'fun', the above is a fairly standard progression for 'gender challenged'. ;) Crossdressing during puberty always seems to have a strong sexual component to it. By the time you're an adult 30 to 40 years old, there is almost no sexual component to it.

The bottom line is that we do it because it feels right - because it makes us feel right - because it resonates for us in a way that nothing else does.

We do it because it is who we are.

Do we need any other reason?

Love & Stuff,
Donna

[rocknred]

I registered on this site yesterday and have spent some time reading various threads to see if this was an appropriate venue for my rather undefined and fuzzy interests/desires. As perhaps was to be expected, clearly attitudes are all over the board. My own sexual meanderings over the years have been somewhat mentally extensive and I have learned not to "wonder why" or label my yearnings but simply accept them. I must admit that many of the things I "would never consider doing" in my youth have become areas of pleasure now. For me, unlike many on this site, cross dressing is still highly sexual in nature and provides opportunity to be feminine in that context. Perhaps having lived as the ultimate handsome, macho man psychologically plays a role in this need as well as the various (and many) fetishes I have enjoyed.

While some years ago, my "wardrobe" was limited to panties (thongs only) and my wife's pantyhose, I have recently purchased a garter belt and stockings (black) as well as my first pair of 4" strappy open toes sandals. I must admit I love the look and feel very sexy "dressed." My fantasies in this mode involve only male partners. I have also grown my nails....fingers a bit over 1/4", toes 1/8"....and was literally overwhelmed by my excited reaction to the result. I am fortunate in having quick-growing and very strong nails and the bright red polish (taken as my screen name) looks wonderful if I do say so myself. I immediately bought toe rings and anklets to highlight the effect. Frankly, I can't stop looking. My feet, which I've been complimented on throughout my life, look completely feminine. Unfortunately, circumstances dictate almost immediate removal of the finger nail polish. Is this "cross dressing?" I certainly am not "out," but have had to suppress a very strong urge to hit the streets in my White Stag sandals.

Where will this lead? I don't know nor do I care to predict. My experience suggests a progression on sexual levels of interest, but it appears that many here view cross dressing as more of a life style. That's fine, of course, but perhaps not for me. I (at this point) enjoy being a man...except when I pretend to be a woman. :rolleyes:

Anyway, I apologize for my self-indulgence and rambling, but, as always, find the differing views on this, and all subjects, fascinating. I hate to define myself as anything, but perhaps I am a sexual fetishist as opposed to a "true" cross dresser.

[Tanya]

Hey there Rocknred. that had to be one of the most open and honest replies i have heard. Good for you and feel free to ramble on . that's what we are here for .I too have some sexual urges when i am dressed up as i feel totally femme when i do so . You can say i am bi . Can anyone tell me why that when we are in male mode some of us wouldn't even consider being with a man and when we are en femme some of us have the urge to be a submissive female with other crossdressers and men for sexual pleasures? For me i do like the attention i get as i have been told i am very hot .

thanks,

[Angela Burke]

I just love wearing female clothing, I have done all my life.
Although I've done it thousands of times the sheer pleasure I get from slipping on a nice skirt and blouse has never dimmed in the slightest in all the years I've been dressing.
I love skirts!

[MsJanessa]

I dress because I enjoy it---that simple.

[alysonatl]

Because it feels good to see the image in the mirror. I love going through the primping and dressing process, the trying on and buying of prety clothes. Most of all, I love seeing the well-dressed, flirtatious, smart, stylish, girly woman that I can be.

[Tanya]

I always wanted one of those 60's star trek uniforms . they are real hot with the mini dress, black stockings and balck knee high boots. I think gene roddenberry had a great outlook to the future of womens fashions!

[Julie Avery]

Tanya, I pretty much have had the same feelings you described in your first two posts on this thread.

[nibel]

I recall one experience of mine from very early age, like 4 or 5... but I don't count this as a starting point, it was in teenage droven by the same feeling of curiosity you said. Later this moment of curiosity began to stalking me into my dreams and to regain my peace I had to do this again and now I won't stop anymore since it looks pointless. (I've detailed this in my introdution post)

And I envy you in the matter you were "initiated" by a girl. I wish I could meet a girl like that.

[Dee 1062]

Because I was so depressed....it makes me feel good and forget some of my problems......I always wanted to be a girl,as I look back over my life and when I look at a GG...I said wow wish I look that good, I didn't want to throw her in bed, I just wanted to be her or at lease look like her..Have long hair, nice nails, great legs, nice butt and breast.....As far as guys, I do get hot when I see a big one or a hard on...and I get turn on.. but the man alone don't do much for me.