a GG just pondering over a thought

[lisa j]

Hi Ladies xx

I was just sitting here wondering what your feelings are on the way that your wife/girlfriends dress? do you wish they dressed more like ladies?
Do you feel you dress better than them- when in fem mode?
and since you have told them that you CD have you noticed a difference in the way they now dress?

My boyfriend told me last week that he sees me also as a CD!all because i wear jeans & combat trousers!:eek: since he told me this i try to wear skirts more when his about! lol
not because i want to, but because i feel i have to now,his made me paranoid as to what i wear around him now and that he doesnt see me for me- just the clothes i wear :sad:
please give me your views on this
thank you

Love Lisa j
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[Kimberley]

Lisa Dear, the chances are he sees you, heart and soul first.

Please do yourself a favour and get in touch with the GG Forum.

As to dressing more feminine. I think most of us appreciate it from our SO. It is hardly a prerequisite but remember that most of us put GGs on a pedestal. Enjoy it.

Hugs
Kimberley.

[Sandra]

Lisa,

You wear what you feel comfy in, if you don't want to wear a skirt then don't. Nigella often use to say to me "I do wish you would wear a skirt or dress", I do but only if we are going out, most of the time I am in baggy trousers and a t-shirt because they are comfy.

[elizabeth nicole]

I would have to say that my gf has started to dress in what I would call a more thoughtfull way.She is now wearing clothes that are more feminine and flatering to her wonderful curves.She is younger than i am and said that if I could dress like a lady then she should also, not that she did not before.She just puts more thought i think behind the way she does dress.I know i dont look better than she does i just try to look my best at all times even when in drab.:D

[DawnRodgers]

Lisa,
Well, I would think that most of us find most women's clothing erotic that we would be attracted to women wearinbg very femnine apparel. At least I am. The sight and the sound of a woman in heels, nylons, dress or skirt and blouse, nicely made up always turns my head - even if only to think "my that's a nice outfit. Wonder where I can get that".
I can spend hours shopping for shoes and the sound of heels clicking on the sidewalk always gets my attention. I just have to look and admire. The things that make us CD's also instill in most of us our "fashion sense". I would love to be the one to turn men's heads, to be looked at and thought "Mmmm, Would like to go out with her".
While, initially, we may dabble in overtly sexual things such as short, short skirts, ultra high heels, seamed and patterned stockings and extreme make-up I think that's because we haven't had the chidhood and teen years to experiment and assuage our curiosity of these things. All that takes place at a much later age. As with GG's some of us stay there and some of us outgrow it and look for a more everyday look, a more natural look. We just want to look like and be taken for a woman, a natural girl. When I am addressed as miss or ma'am, well it just makes me smile and I am totally happy the rest of the day.
Dawn

[HaleyPink2000]

Yep!

I believe my Wife dresses down for comfort. Like when She comes home, 1st thing off comes the Bra and on goes the jeans and T shirt.

My thred a couple days ago was exactly about the same thing!
Oh but did I get slamed to the mat. LOLOL

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=30812&highlight=lounge

[Anita Mae GG]

heck out this thread from Haley.....

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=30812

[lisa j]

yes i know what you mean Haley, im the same in the evenings.. bra off ! i like the freedom of not having my boobs touching my chin and that underwire sticking in my ribs everytime i sit down lol ;-)

[Marla S]

Good questions !

I was just sitting here wondering what your feelings are on the way that your wife/girlfriends dress? do you wish they dressed more like ladies?
I like a good, unobtrusive sexy, feminine style, which is not exatly what my SO wears (she dresses down). I tried to change her style for a while and though the both of us had some fun first, at the end it was frustration for both of us. Now she dresses down more than ever:p (knowing I am CD), BUT now I do know why, repsect that, and see the way she dresses in a different way.
Though my favorite style hasn't changed, I do not whish anymore that she changes her style if she isn't in the mood to. Finally, she is it whom I love and not her clothes.

Do you feel you dress better than them- when in fem mode? I dress different. Due to the fact that I am in the closet and don't have to care for comfort and restrictions I can dress as I want to.

As for your boyfriend. While I was trying to change my SO's style I tried definetly to project my favorit style as a CD upon her.
Kind of: "I'd like to wear these clothes but I am not allowed to, so be my mannequin."
Though I don't subscribe to the statement that women wearing jeans are CDs, one of my "excuses", while struggeling with myself, to wear womens clothes has been: "There has to be a certain amount of feminity also reflected by clothes. If you don't, let me do it."

Today, as I did come to terms with myself I did come to terms with her dressing style. Me is me and she is she and I love her for that.

[Bernice]

Hi Ladies xx
I was just sitting here wondering what your feelings are on the way that your wife/girlfriends dress? do you wish they dressed more like ladies?
Do you feel you dress better than them- when in fem mode?
and since you have told them that you CD have you noticed a difference in the way they now dress?


I do wish my wife had spent more of her youth in professional office attire. She ran her own extermination business for 14 years, and obviously she dressed very drab for crawling under crawl spaces, in attics, and whatnot.

I do dress better (more feminine) than she does. She is virtually unable to put pantihose on. Either a lack of flexibility due to figure or arthritis, or because of runs.

For me there was no change to notice after telling her, because I told her about my hobby while we were still in courtship.

She never competes with me for the best look. She will occasionally borrow something of mine for special occasions, and she usually looks better in it than I do.

She does dress somewhat better after getting an office job, but she also dresses down at first opportunity when arriving home. None of this matters much now. After nearly 30 years (coming up in less than three weeks), she knows I did not marry her for her clothes, just as she did not marry me for my clothes.

I've pointed out a variety of very casual feminine clothes that are comfortable without hose or bra, but she still prefers jeans or sweats.

I would suggest that you live your life for you, and only dress to please him if pleasing him also pleases you.

[Miss Vicki]

There have been many times that I was glad to watch my wife get dressed and leave for work in the morning. That was when she had to wear a suit or skirt and blouse. Her legs were always showing and with the pantyhose she wore always got me to stare and want to dress as beautiful as she was. However, after work she would come home and within 5 minutes, she would be out of the nice dressy clothes and into loose jeans and a sweatshirt.
Now her job is in the medical field where she wears scrubs and then comes home and gets more comfortable.
My desire to dress was more, when she looked like I wanted to look. Heels, hose and dress / skirt. Now my attention is being turned to other women that I see that are still dressing to impress. And I try to dream and remember thier outfits so I can purchase similiar later.
So, my answer is YES, I do wish that my wife dressed sexier, or at least she desired to dress up more often. I would pay closer attention to her, not only by admiring her outfits and ladie-like appearance,but also in a passionate way.

[Joy Carter]

Just be your self he/she has to respect that I'm one who used to press my SO to dress more but with age and GROWING UP it's not so important to me just what's important to her that counts now. JUST LOVER HER TO DEATH or is that till death ? LOL :hugs:

[Kate Simmons]

Doesn't matter to me Lisa, She's ana individual after all. Ericka

[EricaCD]

Usually my wife dresses pretty casually because she is chasing after two small kids. Even I would not ask her to do that in June Cleaver regalia. Fortunately, she is beautiful--and astonishingly feminine--in any clothes.

Perhaps because dressing down is now basically a job requirement for her, when she is able to get out, she wants to look nicer. And her taste, while not especially ornate, is superb. So I haven't even had to prod, really. As far as changes in her style, she is wearing much more attractive clothes now but that's because she lost all the baby weight :)

I do not dress better than she does; I do not look better than she does; I am not more feminine than she is. Period.

Erica

[TGMarla]

When I dress, I'm usually dressing to the 9's. Well, the 8's at least! So most of the time when I'm dressed, I'm dressed nicer than my wife. But some of the clothing I'm wearing is also hers, so it's a bit unfair to say I dress nicer than she does. When she decides to dress up, it's quite a treat, to say the least. I am not, nor will I ever be, more feminine than she is. She, by her own admission, needs to lose a few pounds, and when she does, she often dresses nicer. As for you, while any of us would appreciate that you wear a nice skirt here and there, you should wear what makes you feel right.

[allisonrn06]

I wish my wife would wear more skirts and dresses,with her disability,it would be difficult for her to wear heels though.She doesn't dress like a guy,I just wish she would dress more fem sometimes.

[Bonnie D]

I definitely wish my wife would dress better for the office at least. An older woman at her office has told her to wear a skirt every once in a while, and I would agree, but she hasn't yet. She used to when she was younger. She just dresses for comfort. I never say anything because it's her own business what she wears. If I were her I would dress a lot better than she does. Then I think, if she were me she would dress a lot better than I do. I guess the frustrating thing about it is that women can wear so many beautiful clothes, under and outer, and they often choose not to even when they can.

Bonnie

[~Dee~]

i dont think that 'dressing down' is such a nice term ..

but i do know that my wife is the comfort queen.
she will be the first one to tell you that she'll jump straight into a pair of PJs as soon as it is humanly possible... in fact, im surprised she hasnt ask if work will allow her to attend in them,
.....we have our computers networked and hers has to extend to her comfy reclinable chair.
.....she hates restrictive clothing of almost any kind. if its not comfortable, then whats the point in suffering? i think is the motto.

BUT ...
by no way shape or form would i think that this makes her less feminine.
it makes her my kitty.
who cares that kind of clothes shes wearing? .. its the person in them that im more interested in.
its like art.. i dont care what kind of frame you buy.. if the paintings worthless, it will show.
my kittys like a rembrandt wrapped up in a tonne of bubble wrap. people might think its a shame, but it sure feels safe and secure in there.

well seeing my lovely kitty in a pair of PJ's is great by me, it means that i can look over to her and see that shes comfy and feels relaxed .. and what more could i ask for?

i dont dress 'better' than her .. at one time i did tend to dress more formal.. (not that thats the same thing) but now that my casual wardrobe got extended and 95% of my boy clothes have been pitched .. now i get to wear what ~I~ feel comfortable in.
so now we are both comfortable .. casual.. and very happy.

oh, and still as feminine as ever.
:D

[RikkiOfLA]

My lovely, accepting wife of 28 years is dying of cancer. And even though her hair has become very sparse from chemotherapy, and her skin is pale and flaking badly from the medicine she takes, and putting on any clothes is an effort for her, she looks beautiful beyond belief to me, whatever she's wearing.

Rikki

[Casey Morgan]

You wear what you feel comfy in, if you don't want to wear a skirt then don't.

:iagree: If he doesn't see you for you then that's his problem. Don't make it yours.

And it's intent, not the clothes, that make a CD. If you're not trying to feel like a male in the clothes you wear then you're not a CD. Simple as that.

Feel free to tell him all that, and more.

[Jerry]

Since coming out to my wife, I think we've both changed a bit. I've come to learn the pleasue of just being casual. (Capris, slacks, kitten heeled sandals). Where I use to be a for-the-office dresser. Suit skirts, dresses, heels, and hose. I still enjoy the dresses and skirts to mix it up.

I think she's also a little more aware. She's been a stay at home mom for a while, too, and the June Cleaver era is long gone. Comfort and function rule the day. I've noticed she does have a few more dressy tops and sweaters. Not so many tee shirts. But when we go out to eat or on a date, she does a great job of looking office-casual. For her, dresses are for weddings or black tie affairs.

Pretty normal and natural. Jerry

[DonnaT]

Its a rare occassion to see my wife in a skirt or dress. She's more comfortable in trousers. Growing up, her mother made a lot of her clothes, which were dresses, and she apparently no longer likes to wear them because she was made to wear them when younger.

Doesn't matter to me what she wears, as long as she likes it and is comfortable.

Hell I don't want her telling me what to wear or not wear, I'm certainly not going to tell her what to wear. I may suggest something, like a gypsy skirt, would be just as comfortable as pants if not more so, put I'm not going to tell her what to wear.

So, Lisa, just be yourself. Wear what you want. It's not a competition to see who can be the better dressed.

[Delisa]

I do wish my wife dressed more femine. She use to but as she increased in birthdays she changed in her way of dressing. I understand that her body has changed but I do believe she still is beautiful and looks great when wearing nylons, pushup bra's, slips, peticoats, low cut dresses, sheer blouses and skirts. I would like us to both get dressed up and go out some evening together as girls but that is my fantasy right now.

[Marla S]

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@Rikki::sad: Your wife and you have all of my sympathy. May God bless you !!!

[lisa j]

I just like to thank each and everyone of you for your replies to my question..
your straight to the point and true views are always a great help to me :thumbsup: i love this site theres always an agony Aunt around when you need one! love you all :hugs: xxxxx
A lot of you have told me to just be myself, well thats me all over! what you see is what you get and if you dont like it then lump it lol
but over the last year i have lost nearly 4 stone and still losing it, i think im going through a stage in my life where even i dont know what i want to wear these days? which is a good excuse for shopping to find out :GD: :clap: : !!! lol
i did buy two new lovely skirts last week and a lovely new black top with black shiney beads on the shoulder straps...need new shoes to go with them now!
After buying these my boyfriend said " i hope your not wearing them out without me with you" ! i cant win can i !!! lol

love & :hugs:

Lisa j
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[Casey Morgan]

You know, a rolled up newspaper makes a great sound without causing pain. :D

[lisa j]

You know, a rolled up newspaper makes a great sound without causing pain. :D

lol i like that advice shari it sounds good to me! but knowing him he would see that more as a treat :laughing:

[janedoe311]

Have to say I would rather seem woman in dresses than pants. It used to be women looked like women, silly me.

I always have found pants constricting, I take them off as soon as I get home. Never figured out why women would wear them in public. Sports, bicycling, horse riding, house work maybe but in public do not see it. Oh well.