They have no idea how much it means.....

[Emma_Forbes]

Hi All,

Some time ago I posted a thread about a weekend experience I had with my aunt and uncle, where they expressed in no uncertain terms their acceptance of Emma. I was grateful for the subsequent comments made in spite of the negativitiy expressed although it did leave me wondering how much I had imagined. (BTW, thanks to those who abuse this forum with bogus posts - you have created an understandable scepticism amongst respondents - go post elsewhere!)

Anyway, I finally plucked up the courage to ask my aunt on the phone whether I had imagined it. No, I hadn't and she said this key thing to me. 'We love you, however you are!' I am relieved - that I wasn't imagining it. I don't feel deliriously happy but I do feel a sense of contentment because they accept me for who I am.

I have come to the conclusion that your peers (read CD's) can give you encouragement (and my thanks to those who do) but only your non-peers can give you acceptance.

Now, I can start giving serious thought about what to wear when they meet Emma for the first time!

Em
p.s. I'm not discouraging cautionary posts because I understand that the sentiment is real. Just having a rant - hopefully justifiable!

[Tracy_Victoria]

Well done Em

Hope it all goes well for you, the sound like nice people

[Nikki Dee]

Good for you Emma...what a result.!!!...go girl.!!
Love Nikki. xx

[Bev06 GG]

Oh Emma,
How lovely. Everyone needs to share with someone else and its great that youve found someone, and that its someone who cares about you too. As for what your going to wear, Im sure you dont need me to tell you this, but go gentle with them. Best of luck
BEVxxxx

[mistunderstood]

Hi Emma. I am glad to see you are doing well. Also glad to see you are gaining acceptance from your Aunt. I love your new advatar you look like you are doing well. Good for you.

[andrea6er]

Hi Emma
Good to hear some of your family are accepting your true self, with me it's known about partially, yes some know but as with most British families, it's hush hush maybe it'll go away, nobody in my family has seen Andrea and to my knowledge probably never will, the closest they've come is when I've been in drag for fancy dress partys, my last was as ginger spice and how I loved getting the gear on.

[Sandra]

Hi Emma

That is good news, having someone accept you for who you are must be a good feeling :).

[dancinginthedark]

Anyway, I finally plucked up the courage to ask my aunt on the phone whether I had imagined it. No, I hadn't and she said this key thing to me. 'We love you, however you are!' I am relieved - that I wasn't imagining it. I don't feel deliriously happy but I do feel a sense of contentment because they accept me for who I am.

Emma~ I think you aren’t able to feel that deliriousness yet because of apprehension about them seeing and meeting you as Emma that first time. This is perfectly understandable and I hope once that first meeting is done you’ll bask deliriously happy in the glow of unconditional love and acceptance. :love:

[carol ann]

It is wonderful to have a family member who accepts you totally for what and who you are.

I suppose i am still one of the cautious ones. if I was in your place I would still be careful not to surprise your aunt and uncle by ensuring that an advance phone conversation and perhaps other conversations take place before they actually see you fully dressed.

Nevertheless, I do envy you having someone close with whom you can share.

i just wonder are they likely to share their knowedge with other members of your family or associates?

[Methos]

glad to hear they accept you and hope you will tell us what you wear and how the meeting goes:)

[Emma_Forbes]

Thank you for your comments and encouragement so far. This is so much easier having people to talk to about it.

I will approach the situation with a certain amount of caution. The provisional plan is to go en homme and take femme clothes as well. Then I'll just wait until it crops up in conversation and, if they ask whether I brought clothes with me, I'll tell them. If they are then happy for me to dress, I will do so, fully but conservatively. I suspect that one outfit will be enough and I probably won't dress again after that for the rest of the weekend. Tonight I'm wearing a black, knee length Sara Neal dress (one of my favourites) and I'll probably go for that. It's smart, comfortable and feminine but not tarty at all.

However, since I haven't even got a date planned in the diary, things could change - you never know.

Em

[gennee]

I'm so happy for you Emma. I trust that all will turn out well for you.

Gennee


:thumbsup:

[Khriss]

..dressing the way you like....enjoyable
..telling those close to you...your desires and feelings..scary!
..acceptance by those who love You or You hold dear ... PRICELESS !!!
, onward and upward ! Emma... though take care? oops..hehe :eek: :D xx"K"

[SherriePall]

Emma -- I'm happy to read about your aunt and uncle's acceptance. It's always nice to read things like that. Best of luck in the future.

[LucyTwitch]

Hi

Acceptance is the key. Hope it all gose well and just be yourself.

Love
Lucy

[Clare]

I have come to the conclusion that your peers (read CD's) can give you encouragement (and my thanks to those who do) but only your non-peers can give you acceptance.What an appropriate statement! I hadn't thought of it like that, but you're right Emma!

[GypsyKaren]

Good going Emma, I'm very happy for you. I've found since coming out that those who love you still do, the one's who didn't still don't, and who cares about them? It really does my heart good to hear such good things happening to others, way to go!

Karen