Is jealousy a problem?

[MarciGrrl]

My wife isn't exactly enthusiastic about me dressing, but I suppose you could say she tolerates it. You know about that subject, right? More than once I've gotten the impression that she's actually jealous of certain pieces of my wardrobe. I suspect it may be due to the fact that she's put on a few pounds and that I now wear a much smaller dress size than she.... When we first met (22 years ago), she and I could wear each other's clothes, but now most of my things are just not big enough for her to even consider wearing.

Just wondering if anyone else had similar thoughts as to whether our (GG) wives, gf's, etc. were jealous in this was....

Also, I'd love to hear from GG's on this subject to help me understand it better.

Marci

[lisa j]

yes im jealous!! his got better thinner longer legs than me to start with,so i can only imagine he looks great in stockings and skirts, and just to rub salt in a bit more his only a size 10/12 and im a size 16 !! so the only sharing we do is my point of view ! lol
oh yes ... he can also stand and walk better in high heels GGRRRRRRRRRRR !!! haha
apart from all that i love him dearly ;-)

lisa j
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[Tanya]

Yes at first i thought my SO was in fact jealous as she stated that she would only let me dress from the waist down and that my under garments were prettier and i looked better in them than she. But thats another story as it goes deeper than that i have found.

[Tanya]

by the way , why dont you buy here some sexy outfits that fit her and maybe you both can do the fashion show thing for each other?

[kittypw GG]

Well I do have some expirence with this topic. My husband is tall and very lean. He has those model legs and can wear just about anything. I on the other hand have many curves and have to try on a lot of clothes to find something that fits just right. My hubby can add padding or bigger breasts to fit a certain outfit but I can't take anything away. This causes some of the frustration. He can wear outfits that I would love to wear but would look ridiculous on me. This is only part of the problem. Sometimes when I get jealous it has to do with my own self-esteem. Certain times of the month cause women to become water sponges which makes fitting into favorite outfits difficult along with the hormone changes that make you not really feel like even going out of the house. My husband does not have to deal with this sort of thing. It is a touchy topic.

At one point in our marriage I took an inventory and found that my husband had more sexy pairs of panties and more shoes than me.:eek: This made me a little upset and showed me that things were getting a little out of balance. I felt the need to step back a little and take things a little slower. Lately we have been mostly dressing up together in sexy nighties that we either have or have bought new. Similar yet different outfits that express our personal style. I feel more comfortable when we both feel sexy and he reaps the benifits of that. You will have to find what works for you.

The moral of the story is that she is the genetic girl and is used to being the sexy one. Try not to make it feel like a competition. What can I say, having a husband who has girl clothes is not the most common thing. Give her time to get used to it and make sure she knows that you still find her attractive and sexy. Sometimes I think that my husband is so wrapped up in how he looks that he forgets that I am in the same room.

Good luck and :hugs: Kitty

[Bev06 GG]

Hi Marci,
Why dont you ask her how she feels about it. I would imagine that a GG who's jealous of a CD would have to be having one of those times of the month or have a seriously low self esteem. Please dont misunderstand me, I think alot of CDs look fab, mine is gorgeous. But at the end of the day, Im the GG and whatever my shape, size or mindset, he'll never be more feminine than I am however gorgeous he looks, unless of course he goes for the change.
And on the self esteem front. Do you tell your wife how good she looks. You know there is a distinct possibility here that what you interpret as jealousy could be feelings of neglect. Not saying that it is, but knowing some men like I do, you can be very economical on the compliment front. GGs need compliments just as much as CDs need support and encouragement.
BEVxxxx

[kathy gg]

THis can can be for some women a touchy subject. It seems some men seem to shed pounds or lose weight easier as they get older, while it takes us so much longer to even loose 5 pounds. So weight gain and just feeling 'less' womanly-sexy can be a sore spot. BUT>>>>>>>>>>what is the cure for making HER feel better.

Complimenting her {And I dont' jsut mean after she has spent loads of time getting ready}. sometimes when my husband wakes up in the morning and rolls over he looks at me and says the most beautiful things. Those words mean more than when I have spent an hour getting ready for a big night out.

Surprsing her not just with lingerie or clothing. Because I have heard so many guys say how they buy things for their wives yet then they are drooling over the item wishing it was for them. So suprise her with something she knows you can't drool over. Say an implement for a favorite hobby {nice gardening tools, or if she sews a nice case}. Buy her something that you could nto possibly get any enjoyment out of. When I see a present that is for my fav hobby which my hubby does not particpate in, I know he went through trouble and effort to get me something just for "me".


Make her your screen saver or desktop background The photo does not have to be new. It can be a fav old photo of her that you always liked. My husband has me as a background on his computer and it is such a boring pic, but it is one that he took while we were dating. And when I see it on his computer {which he takes to work} I know that it shows other people that he is proud to have me on "display".

Leave a lovenote reminding her that you think she is beautiful in an odd place, dashboard of the car, or in a book she is reading, or send her a naughty email.

People wonder why they hit slumps with their lvoe oens...it is because we dont' take the time to do this little shows of affection and attraction.

I can remember a ncie thing I did one time for my hubby .....I took his car while it was parked at work and washed and vacumed it and filled it up with gas. yes it was something that we had planned on doing during a weekend ...but it was unexpected and a nice gesture that said ....I want you to enjoy your weekend with one less thing to worry about.

Doing nice things, dont' have to be huge gifts or elaborate things. Just small things which show you always are thinking about her and will make her know she is appreciated.

As marriage partners, it is both peoples job to keep the fire alive. Here is the match...get started!

[janedoe311]

Number one rule of crossdressing is “Do not look better than your wife!”

If you have a better figure than your wife, like I do, then that could be part of the problem. So it might be best not to dress with her around.

[Bridget]

Wow, that rather sounds like a friend of mine. One of my GG friends, of whom another friend introduced me to after a rather hard time in my life. (It doesn't involve crossdressing, it involves a formerly close family friend, rejection...and not ever talking to eachother ever again) He initially had the intention of setting us up, but I kind of decided against it after finding out her first experiences with relationships were highly abusive, in all ways, physical, emotional and even sexual. Big sign to stay away. So we became friends instead, and i told here along with most everyone else about crossdressing. She seemed fine first, but when she found out my size, and saw me dressed, she drifted apart, and always refused to go shopping. She's a plus size, and almost all of her exes made a habit of telling her that, "She is a nice person, but is fat or ugly." The idea that I can fit in regular junior size 11 or 9 clothes, whereas she has to go to plus sizes, i think hit a nerve, and she eventually just didn't talk to me anymore. I think the tim she saw me dressed was the tipping point...

[Sandra]

Jealous?

Get real :rolleyes:

[janedoe311]

Jealousy is an emotion by one who perceives that another person is giving something that he/she wants or feels is due to them (often attention, love, respect or affection) to an alternate.

Envy is the desire for another's traits, status, abilities, station, or worldly goods. It need not be associated with an object; its salient characteristic is the unfavorable comparison of one's own status with that of another.

Sorry to be picky one of my more annoying traits being a perfectionist.

[Di]

No ...not .. jealous ...very very proud....I am amazed everytime I see her how beatiful she is.......she has those killer legs...and looks great in everything.......I get so excited finding clothes that I think she will like...But she always makes me feel loved,,,sexy...pretty too...The ideas the girls gave you are fantastic.....can't add to them...except to say give them a try...best wishes Di