neighbors

[Michelle8]

I have some new neighbors that moved in recently and
it has made ny dressing much more difficult.They have two
teenage boys.It makes it extremely difficult to go out
anymore.I liked to go out in my back yard but not anymore.
Anybody else have the same problems?

[Raychel]

It sounds like it is time for them to find out about the real you. Put on your nicest dress and go out in your backyard. Afterall you lived there first. They will just have to get over it. Just be carfefull about what you hang out to dry. Those teenage boys could be steeling them for there own dressing needs. :hugs:

[GypsyKaren]

If we spend our lives worrying about what others might think of us and try to satisfy them instead of ourselves, what a miserable life we would have.

Karen

[Tina Dixon]

Well my wife discovered my dressing a while back, so i'm not worried that she going to find out any more, though she has not seen me dressed only in a couple of pictures, as far as the nightbors go if they see me well they see me but I do enjoy going out in the yard.

[Lawren]

That's why I live so far out in the stix that my neighbors can't see me. :D:D Yeah right! In my dreams. O h well, I don't go out anyway. I am looking to buy a home. It would be nice to find one with a nice private back yard. :daydreaming:

[bredalee25]

It's high time that we girls band together and put it all out there. Tell the world were here and were not gonna hide anymore so you can just kiss our a**es. Yea right like we could change this world. But I bet our numbers are higher than any of us can imagine. Just think of it this way if all the CD's in the whole world were in one place. How large of a place we would need to accomidate a group that huge. Makes you wonder doesn't it. ttfn

[Annesah]

Michelle8

I've found this to be a good tactic for all the neighbors. Greet or introduce yourself in drab and just have the normal chat. Finish up with something like " oh, BTW, I want to let you know that I ..........." "I'm telling you this in the hope that I won't unnecessarily shock or surprise you or any of your family." I think this approach sends good messages. 1) I'm your neighbor and wish to be a good one. 2) I'm honest. 3) I'm not ashamed of who I am. 4) I intend to be allowed the use of my back yard as I might wish. Most people, even those that I felt were somewhat uncomfortable with it, seemed appreciative of having been put on notice. Good luck. Best Wishes. Annesah

[Eileen]

Michelle I sit on my back porch all the time enfem! The neighbors go by all the time, only about 60' away. I do not know or care if they see me! Just enjoy being who you are!

Eileen

[~Dee~]

we have a nice little place, i do love where we live.
most of the people in the area are retired and couldnt care less about what we do in or around our place.

but we do have the other neighbours .. they are on higher ground and the fence between our properties is just shocking .. they can look from their lounge and look right into our backyard.
im frequently in the backyard, not because im a gardener or anything crazy like that, but because my workshop is in the backyard.. so im always going back and forth.

what makes it worse is that these neighbours are a bunch of teenage guys who love cars, beer and sitting out front of their house and probably spit.
it used to bother me a little .. cause why should they get to see me? .. now .. doesnt bother me at all .. hell, id wave if any of them paid any more attention to me.

most people just dont care to actually take the time to look around.
if they do spot you .. just :tongueout and go about your business .. afterall, its your backyard and your life .. who are they to make you feel uncomfortable in either of those?

[~Dee~]

oh .. and btw -
"neighbours" isnt a typo .. its just a different, Australian, species of critter ..
:D
apparently quite fond of beer and football.

[michelle19845]

i kinda live in the sticks,the only catch is my neighbor is a relative that wouldn't approve of dressing at all.therefore if i go out it's during the dark.it's hard enough just to get out of the home dressed cause of family.

[jo_ann]

i have no fence to speak of, and I have a feeling that unless i got like a 7 foot tall.. and even then there's a chance for neighbors to snoop (I have a pretty hilly yard). I talk to my neighbors maybe once every couple months. most of them are snobs that talk behind each others backs, so I don't really care what they think of me, but at the same time i dont want to deal with them.

[Kate Simmons]

My neighbors have three small boys. I am very careful about not being Ericka in front of them as I don't wish them to be exposed because of being of impressionalbe age. It may take some effort but I take pains to ensure this. The adults are a different story. They know about Ericka but never mention it to me even though I would have no problem discussing it. It seems to be some kind of "inferred understanding" with the children. It's one of those: "Don't go there, don't do that" things. Ericka

[mskilmer]

I live in a small town and I'm on the Planning Commission. My neighbor runs a barber shop in his basement and, although he's nice enough, he's an ignorant hick. I have to sneak out to the van whenever I want to go out en femme ... my family is rather "cutting edge" as it is, with me living with two women and having a child by each ... cross dressing would just be too much for the barber shop crowd to handle, I fear. My painted toenails are no doubt a topic of conversation around town.

[Joy Carter]

It's high time that we girls band together and put it all out there. Tell the world were here and were not gonna hide anymore so you can just kiss our a**es. Yea right like we could change this world. But I bet our numbers are higher than any of us can imagine. Just think of it this way if all the CD's in the whole world were in one place. How large of a place we would need to accomidate a group that huge. Makes you wonder doesn't it. ttfn

So sorry to change the thread but hey I'm with Brenda !

[Momarie]

Dear Michelle8,

I really sympathize with you.
I'm so sorry your privacy has been invaded.
I can see you now, sitting pretty and comfortable, quietly enjoying the evening in your own home, in your own back yard and now that has been jeopardized, through absolutely no fault of your own.
This is what bothers me so much about the world today, that you should even have to give it a second thought....I bet you are such a nice person and a good neighbor and you shouldn't have to go to the expense of building a fence or going door to door to introduce yourself or explain anything.
You should be allowed to enjoy your home the same as the next person.
I am so sorry you have to go through this hun....

[Rachel Morley]

I'm not on the fence with this one (pun intended) :heehee: we have a 7 foot high wooden fence all around our back yard. I can happily go outside dressed however I like with the confidence that no-one can see. We're not friends with either side (not because they're horrible people or anything, it's just that we keep ourselves to ourselves) so the chances of them peering over to say hi is very unlikely.

However, I do share your concern about neighbors checking you out when you're dressed. Outside the front of our house across the road is a family that likes to sit in their front yard on garden furniture and "watch the world go by". This is a big problem for me every time I want to go out in daylight en femme. Now that it's almost summer and the clocks have gone back it's becoming a potential problem when Marla and I go to Tri-Ess dinners because they tend to start early.

[RenaCD]

I have a new neighbor (2 years) that is a very good old friend from the Fire Service, Who is also a Camera Buff with super telephoto lens, we have caught him numerous times focusing in on our house. He says he's just adjusting the lens, I think he's a Peeping Tom looking for a shot of Sage my wife. So I think the next time it happens, He'll being looking back at my looking at him through my 30/30 scope lens, he's also a gun buff he'll get the message real quick!:tongueout (BTW I'm Not Loaded) The corner of his house and his drivway are on my property so he better behave!!:lol2: :meditate: :Playnice:

[RikkiOfLA]

When I started going out dressed (about 10 years ago) I worried about our next door neighbor. He's the neighborhood gossip, with many juicy tales about everyone. One day, my wife (who knew all about my dressing, and was/is fine with it) overheard him telling his girlfriend "the guy next door likes to wear women's clothes." And that was that. We knew he'd tell the whole neighborhood, and we waited nervously for the reaction. There wasn't any.
Next time I saw him and I was en femme, I had just driven home. He was puttering around the garage. I cowered in my car for a couple of minutes, then realized that was ridiculous. So I got out, strode right over to him, big smile on my face, and said "hi, John." He was tongue-tied, so I asked him what he was doing. That broke the ice--he told me all about it, in full detail, like he usually did. Within a few days, Rikki was on speaking terms with all the neighbors. I'm still the president of the condo association. I've been invited over to the neighbors' homes. Everything is fine.

Just be comfortable in your own skin, and you'll invite everyone else to be, too. And most folks will happily accept the invitation.

Rikki

[Rikkicn]

It's high time that we girls band together and put it all out there. Tell the world were here and were not gonna hide anymore so you can just kiss our a**es. Yea right like we could change this world. But I bet our numbers are higher than any of us can imagine. Just think of it this way if all the CD's in the whole world were in one place. How large of a place we would need to accomidate a group that huge. Makes you wonder doesn't it. ttfn

There is a march. This June will be the third annual Tranay March in San Francisco. It is the Friday before the huge Pride parade and the night before the Dykes on Bikes march/ride.

Last year the tranny march had over 2500 people. I was great! this year may be even bigger.

Rikki

[pinkshelly]

Well my 2cents?
If you plan on ever living full time, you will run into these people someday. You might as well do it now, if ya hide now you will hide forever. If ya run now, keep runnin.
Hugs, Shelly.

[cindybarnes]

I have a very private back yard, so no worries about my neighbors seeing me if Im out there while dressed. We have lived here almost 17 years now and I may have spoken with the folks on both sides 3 or 4 times .

What does bother me is the fact that I seem to be the un-announced drop in place for a few friends. Not that Im anti social but do like my peace and quiet .
Two weeks ago I got my first quality dressing time here at home after a loong break, and had 2 close calls having to do the quick change and clean up !!
My wife thought the 2nd close call was funny,, she said I still smelled like perfume,,, I wasnt quite as happy LOL

I have asked friends to call first and see if we are busy , but am getting close to saying something harsh now,, doesnt matter if Im dressed up, It just frustrates me big time !!
Ok Im almost ranting now LOL,, Michelle , its a good thread

Cindy

[Scotty]

I have two military members living on each side. But the advantage to that is they are gone for a couple months at a time when they do leave......but seldom is it at the same time anymore :D

I went out Friday and did some sunbathing though... :)

[Katiegirl]

Around 3 sides of my bungalow is a 7' fence and the 4th (the front) except for the driveway there is an 8' high by 5' wide Hedge. I have one neighbours up stairs window overlooking my small back garden so in all its very private.

I don't know if they have seen me as Katie though I am often gardening dressed, no one has said anything to me and they talk to me often so who knows.