Where is all of this going?

[Trudy]

Hello,

I have been on a long path from the first time I tried on my first piece of feminine attire. About eight years ago my wife discovered my secret that I had kept well hid for many years. I had ten years keeping it a secret when we got married and more than that while I was married. With all that experience who would have thought I would have gotten caught.

I now have three quarters of a closet and dresser full of female clothing. My male clothing is kept in the back third of my closet and no where else. After my wife’s discovery I confessed all. I never told her that most of my clothing would be female in eight years. Heck I didn’t even know myself. I could have dreamed it in fantasy. I am afraid it is not over. She is very persistent about getting me to wear female clothing all them time when it is possible. I have more ladies jeans than men’s. Time will tell where all of this is going. Most people who know me have no idea.

All of this got me to thinking about other people. Suppose your wife was willing to take it as far as you wanted to and maybe even a little further. Where would you be in a couple of years? It seems to me the further I go the more seems possible so it has a domino effect. I never thought I would wear panties to the doctors but the day may come.

Enjoy
Trudy

[BethCD]

Trudy, Youre very lucky to have a supportive wife. Take what she allows and what you are comfortable with. Good luck, Beth

[BlueKat]

She is very persistent about getting me to wear female clothing all them time when it is possible.
She wants you to wear skirts/dresses in public?


All of this got me to thinking about other people. Suppose your wife was willing to take it as far as you wanted to and maybe even a little further. Where would you be in a couple of years? It seems to me the further I go the more seems possible so it has a domino effect. I never thought I would wear panties to the doctors but the day may come.

The slippery slope syndrome...
It's easy to slide down the slope...not so easy to stop once you get going...

[Rikkicn]

My sweet heart is supportive of what ever I want to do. I've decided not to take hormones and I'm not interested in SRS. I do want to remove my beard and I'm considering breast implants but not ready yet. She would love me to have the implants but she's OK if I decide not to.
I think if you have the freedom to do what you want then take it one step at a time and find what your comfortable with. My coming out to myself and the world has been a 5 year process and I still discover new things about myself and my desires.
My honey likes me very femme but will never pressure. When we go out she likes me in dressy skirts and sexy dresses and sexy lingerie underneath. It's really interesting that the lingerie she loves me in isn't my favorite. It's a sacrifice but I do it for her. LOL

[Mindy Jean]

I'm a little confused here, Trudy. So let me start by asking the same question BlueKat did. Does "She wants you to wear skirts/dresses in public?" The answer must be, "No" because you say, "Most people who know me have no idea." So it sounds to me like she isn't forcing you into this.

You say that, "I never told her that most of my clothing would be female in eight years," not that SHE never told you that most of your clothing would be female in eight years." Then on the other hand you say, "She is very persistent about getting me to wear female clothing all them time when it is possible."

After I first read your letter, I thought you trying to blame all of this on her. As I re-read your last paragraph to make my point, I thing I got YOUR point. You say, "It seems to me the further I go the more seems possible so it has a domino effect." I think that's what finally tipped me off. Correct me if I am wrong, but you seemed to be heading down a certain path long before you ever met your wife. Did you not have a "final destination" in mind or at least some "rest-stops" along the way? I couldn't tell you thirty years ago that I would be at this point in my life, anymore than I can tell you where I will be thirty (gasp!) years from now, but at least I had some idea of where I was going.

"The Big pedal in the middle is called a brake." If you think your wife is going too fast, tap on it once or twice. It doesn't sound like she has suggested or done anything that you haven't agreed to. And if she does, talk to her about it. "I never thought I would wear panties to the doctors but the day may come." So what would be the worse that would happen? I think that deep down you knew the day would come, you just don't want to admit it.

I, as many of the other gurls here, wish I was so lucky to have a wife like yours. When she insists on SRS and it's something that YOU don't want, message me and then we'll talk. In the mean time, enjoy what you've got.

Please feel free to reply if I misread your post.

Hugs,
Min