I Did It! I Did It! Told My Doc

[Yael]

Called the Drs office this morning 'cause my back has been bothering me for a week. Couldn't get an appt. with my regular Dr., but his female partner had an open slot.

She prodded and poked and finally diagnosed a spasmming muscle and gave me some samples of muscle relaxers. Just as she was about to walk out the door I said, "Um, there is one more thing".

So I told her the Big Guy upstairs had put me in the wrong body and I'd know this since I was about 5-years-old. Getting this out was one of the hardest things I've every done -- got a bit emotional and shed a few tears.

She was uber cool about it (I wasn't her first, I asked) and will be looking for a counselor who specializes in gender disorders. Got to call her in a week.

It's taken me 50+ years, but I've made the first step on what I know is going to be a long path.

Hugs to all,
Yael

[GypsyKaren]

That's good to hear Yael, I'm very happy for you. It also took me that long to finally come out, and I can tell you that it really gets easier from here. I wish you the best of luck, hope you find a counselor you're comfortable with.

Karen

[CaptLex]

It's taken me 50+ years, but I've made the first step on what I know is going to be a long path.
Yael,

Congrats on making it over the first big hurdle. I'll bet it feels great to have gotten that off your mind. You're on your way! :D

[Barb Valentine]

Good for you
Now don't you feel better
:hugs:
Barb

[Clare]

Yael, I'm so pleased for you.

No matter how much planning we may do, sometimes we just take a chance at random times and it works out just fine.

I hope the gender therapist the Doc refers you to is very experienced and professional.

[tori-e]

So cool! You did good girl! :thumbup:

In the past year I've done about 100 little steps like this. I've got about 10,000 left to go. One of my mentors says to do something to stretch your comfort zone every day.

Don't stop now!

Tori


Called the Drs office this morning 'cause my back has been bothering me for a week. Couldn't get an appt. with my regular Dr., but his female partner had an open slot.

She prodded and poked and finally diagnosed a spasmming muscle and gave me some samples of muscle relaxers. Just as she was about to walk out the door I said, "Um, there is one more thing".

So I told her the Big Guy upstairs had put me in the wrong body and I'd know this since I was about 5-years-old. Getting this out was one of the hardest things I've every done -- got a bit emotional and shed a few tears.

She was uber cool about it (I wasn't her first, I asked) and will be looking for a counselor who specializes in gender disorders. Got to call her in a week.

It's taken me 50+ years, but I've made the first step on what I know is going to be a long path.

Hugs to all,
Yael

[dancer1]

Ihave an apointment on the 16th with my md she is way cool and i feel the time is rigt to change but i feel better as nadeen than i ever felt as steven.
Love Nadeen

[HaleyPink2000]

Yael:

You've got one on me for sure. I'd not have the nerve to tell my Doctor anything. Wish He had a better bed side manner. Then maybe I'd feel more like talking to him about feelings etc.:(

I'm very happy for you, and so hope things work out for you!:D

[ChristineRenee]

Congrats Yael on taking that first step...it is often the hardest. Best of luck to you on finding a good gender therapist to counsel you now.:thumbsup::)

[Kimberley]

It is a good feeling isn't it?

A few years ago I had the displeasure of having a so-called pdoc violate the privacy of the relationship and she outed me to my GP. To say I was angry and hurt would be an understatement but my GP was more understanding than I ever would have thought. Unfortunately he retired about 6 months later and I had to find a new one.

I did find a new doc a couple of months ago (thank god!) but have so far not come out to her. My pdoc agrees with this and in fact has been very protective of my privacy. When the GP asked for history she received a very carefully crafted letter outlining privacy issues while at the same time pledging any help and cooperation with physical ones. It was enough to satisfy everyone. Maybe down the road I will let the GP know but only when I am totally comfortable with her and if I think there is a reason she needs to know.

:hugs:
Kimberley