Baby steps

[Byllie]

Like many of you, I've been going through baby steps with my wife and her accepting the fact that I really enjoy crossdressing. We've gone through many of the issues I've read about, here - sexual preference, what people might think, the kids, etc. - and I just want to thank every one of you for being so forward and so helpful. I had appropriate answers and guidance for her each step of the way.

She's at the point where what I do in the house is fine, with such things as panties, toenail polish, etc., but outside is a "no-no". That's fine with me, as I'm not sure I wish to go en femme outside myself. She still, though, would rather not see me en femme in the house, but perhaps time will alter that.

I'm just satisfied that I no longer need to suppress, to hide what is a part of me. Did I choose to be CD? No, but then again I feel I've been blessed. I get to allow myself to appreciate both sides of my nature. How many non-CD males can say that?

Interesting how the LGBT community has adopted a rainbow for it's logo. This is so appropo. We, as a race, are more of a spectrum of colors, and sticking us into categories doesn't reflect the true nature of who we are.

So, for now, I'll continue my journey, one baby step at a time, thankful for each success, yet ever mindful that the road ahead is long.

Love to you all!

[Tina Dixon]

Thats what a lot say, baby steps, so keep going.

[Byllie]

Thanks, Tina. There is one "step" that might take the longest, and that's her feeling about my beard. I grew it just out of college, and essentially have had it ever since. It was, I see now, a way for me to expresss my feminine side, a way to adorn myself in a manner that's acceptable to general society. Now, as I wish to shave it off, periodically, to become truly en femme, she states very clearly that she's not ready for that step. I think I'll "back burner" the idea for the time being.

[Wendy me]

see the babby steps are a biggy as let her get use to things and gain in accptence better than this is the way it is deal... time and babby steps,.....you will get threre....

[geri-tg.]

I think we all need to take baby steps.I came out to my wife 20 years ago and it has taken alot of sharing to find were we can both be happy.We have been able to talk and share one anothers needs and fears.My baby steps have led me to being the person I need to be and give my wife the room she needs.We live in common ground and the end result is wonderful and worth all the baby steps it took to get there.