On Being Outed

[Sweet Susan]

After reading Windycissy's post entitled "outed." I began to wonder how many of us have been truly outed? Outed being having yourself brought out of the closet unwillingly, without your approval or instigation. To be outed ungainst one's will is extremely horrifying and intrusive. It can cost one a job, livelihood in their community, or put one in a position of defense at all times. So, who of you have been outed? What did it cost you? What can you tell the rest of us about having to protect ourselves?

I have been outed. It was a most grievous experience and cost me a great deal, including my job. I would say that to best protect yourself 1) be extremely careful with whom you share pictures 2) be on top of the scene when and if you go out in public 3) if at all possible share your trans self with your s/o 4) don't go places that aren't safe or where you know that a possibility exists that someone you know from your job or personal life could be there and recognize you.

That's my 2 cents.

[carolynhcd]

I hope that this wasn't recently that this ill befell you. When did it happen and who did it?

[JennyCD]

Sorry to hear about this Susan. Would you care to share the details?

[kimmjacoby]

I Was Intentionally Outed By One Of Our Own In 2000. I Was Already Out To All My Friends And Neighbors, But Not Out In My Profession. I Took Years Of Sexual Harassment From Piers In My Office Building And Lost A Lot Of Business From Clients Due To It. I Did Finally Move My Office To A Different Location, But The Roumers To This Day Have Followed Me.
My Industry Is Still A "good Old Boy" Red Neck Enviroment And Everyone Knows Everyone Else's Business.

[StephanieCD]

One of my biggest personal fears is being outed by my ex in an angry moment. Or having something like that happen. I trust so few people with the information.... it's a shame. I feel for you - I can't imagine how it must have felt.