An honest question.

[michelle-h]

Hi Everyone,

I am still pretty new here, and this is the first thread I have started. I have a question that I want your thoughts on. First let me say that I am 32 and have been dressing all my life. I am married and my wife knows and is supporting.

My question is this: Do any of you still get aroused when you dress, but wish that you weren't? I have always gotten aroused when dressed, but it is getting to be less about that and more about just feeling good and relaxed. I feel like I have reached the point where I should be beyond it being a sexual stimulation. And it is kind of annoying at times. Example: My wife keeps trying to buy me some pretty panties, but every time I try them on, they will not fit. Not enough coverage, so to speak. And I can't help it. I just get excited thinking about them. I just wish I had a little more control over certain parts my body.

Has anyone had this problem, or am I the only one? Please reply. I value all of your opinions and input.


Michelle-H

[Nikki Dee]

Hi. Michelle...You are the only one love.!!!!........LOL...Seriously..you are NOT alone..some do, some don't...some do some of the time, some do all of the time.!!!. what we do and what we wear are very sexy things...can't be that surprising that we "show" it sometimes can it.?. It is of course true that it's not ALL about sexy feelings...but I don't see how you can escape those feelings all the time...I don't analyse it...I just enjoy.!
Love Nikki. x

[stacie]

Hi, michelle, for many who, I have talk to and including myself, Cding at earlier stages can be sexual. I belong to a support group who meets every month were we talk about what goes on in our lives "past and present", and the sexual feeling of Cding has been a topic that most have went through at one point in there life. As you said the feeling is getting less and you are feeling good and more relaxed. It sounds like the fem side of you is developing into a stonger person. One thing I have learned about CDing is there are many stages to it.

[ava_bruna]

PROBLEM???? gee wish that was my only one. Yes wearing women's clothes do tend to shall we say, TURN one on? this has alway's been one of my question's also, more or less, ive wondered if having all these beautiful sexual feeling's went along with the idea of C Ding, and as ive learned from this wonderful group. IF IT FEEL'S GOOD, DO IT, enjoy all those wonderfull feeling's while you can, I do and will as long as I can, sit back, relax, and enjoy your wife enjoying you. huggie's, Ava.

[Vivian Best]

Welcome....Good question! When I first dressed around 8 or 9 it certainly wasn't sexual. When I reached puberty it certainly changed. As I've grew older it became less and less of a sexual event to more of comfortable that is who I am and what I want to do event.

Vivian:rose2:

[GabrielleS]

Hi Michelle-h,

I remember when back when -- yep, it was pretty sexual then and still is (but no nearly as intense). Now I enjoy just getting dressed up and all. Guess as Stacie said, the fem side just keeps getting stronger every day ;-} Am also looking forward to the day that I venture out (of the house that is!).

And like Nikki says, ENJOY!

Debbie

[JamieTG]

Hi Michelle. I don't see where thats a problem since your wife is supportive. It could certainly add some spice to your sex life. For me it was very sexual earlier in life. Now that I'm in middle age the sexual response is much less frequent and much less intense. Now, dressing just feels more natural and in tune to the way I feel inside. I wouldn't worry about it; enjoy it!!!
Jamie

[Byllie]

Ya know, I'd love to hear from the GGs on the forum about this topic. I figure even GGs get sexually aroused when wearing really sexy lingerie, true?

[michelle-h]

Thanks everyone,

I'm glad I'm not the only one. Sometimes I just wish I could dress without getting the stimulation. But I certainly have been enjoying myself. I feel better about myself now than I have in my entire life. And I feel like I owe most of it to my wife. She has made the decision to be supportive because dressing is something that makes me happy. Her acceptance has strengthened our relationship in ways that I never knew were needed. It's almost like falling in love all over again.

Thanks again for the input.

Michelle-h

[ava_bruna]

Ohhhh My, how sweet Michelle-h wish I had said that, in fact, think I will:) so glad your finding your way and enjoying it with your wife, lucky gurl:D best of luck.

[Sky]

Sometimes I just wish I could dress without getting the stimulation.

Just make sure you are properly covered if you go out...:p

[Tracy_Victoria]

Hi Everyone,

I am still pretty new here, and this is the first thread I have started. I have a question that I want your thoughts on. First let me say that I am 32 and have been dressing all my life. I am married and my wife knows and is supporting.

My question is this: Do any of you still get aroused when you dress, but wish that you weren't? I have always gotten aroused when dressed, but it is getting to be less about that and more about just feeling good and relaxed. I feel like I have reached the point where I should be beyond it being a sexual stimulation. And it is kind of annoying at times. Example: My wife keeps trying to buy me some pretty panties, but every time I try them on, they will not fit. Not enough coverage, so to speak. And I can't help it. I just get excited thinking about them. I just wish I had a little more control over certain parts my body.

Has anyone had this problem, or am I the only one? Please reply. I value all of your opinions and input.


Michelle-H

Michelle

We are all different and all enjoy this in one way or another, if we did not, we probably would not do it. Sexual feeling come from anything you do that is exciting hence your dilema whilst dressing, but your certainly no different from the majority of us.

When I started dressing it certainly was due to a sexual need, lead to one, or it was certainly involved in someway, but over time I've learn to control that feeling till a correct time, and I think this is probabaly a case for some of the other girls as well.

[Sandra]

Ya know, I'd love to hear from the GGs on the forum about this topic. I figure even GGs get sexually aroused when wearing really sexy lingerie, true?


I can honestly say that I don't get turned on when wearing sexy undies, yes I feel nice but thats about it.

But when I see Nigella in sexy undies then that is a different matter :drooling: :winking:

[Han]

I my readings I have heard it is fairly normal to lose the sexual thrill after a while. Of course not for everyone, and some don't start with a sexual thrill at all.

I wish it was controllable at times. Sometimes the rush can be quite inconvenient.

For me I am quite new to it all and yet to lose that buzz.

Han
:dom:

[amandacd2002]

Well When I started dressing at a young age I think it was a sexual thing, but not anymore. if I was married and my wife bought panties for me I would love it. but I don't think it would be a sexual thing anylonger. I hope you can find a happy middle point to where your ok with it .
Amanda
www.myspace.com/amandacd2002

[Lilith Moon]

Ya know, I'd love to hear from the GGs on the forum about this topic. I figure even GGs get sexually aroused when wearing really sexy lingerie, true?

I started a thread on that exact topic a few months back. None of the ggs said that the clothes themselves were a turn on. They felt attractive when dressed up but any sexiness was down to the extra attention from SOs and others while looking good.

[Julie Avery]

Lilith is reliably truthful and insightful. What she said.

There is an erotic component to crossdressing, for me. This marks me as a genetic male with male libido - who likes to wear womens' clothes.

The erotic component has become less over the years, but it's still present, and I'm no longer going to apologize for it. I was born male, and part of the package was this sex drive I have. In my experience, women who take a romantic interest in you, who have lived beyond the age of 22, first want to make sure you're not Jack the Ripper, and then enjoy seeing signs of virility.

I don't think genetic females get turned on by wearing Victoria's Secret outfits, except to the extent that they know it arouses their genetically male partners (in the case of hetero fems), and this knowledge is a turn-on to them. (A comparable question might be, do genetic males get turned on by wearing boxers, or briefs, or men's undershirts of any style?) How genetic females feel when they dress in a deliberately suggestive way for a partner is a very different question from what an MTF CD experiences when he dresses as he chooses.

I do not any longer at age 52 regard the erotic component of my crossdressing as a problem. It's a fact, not a problem.

The more truthful we can be, the more we can learn from each other.

[Sophia Rearen]

Hi Everyone,

Example: My wife keeps trying to buy me some pretty panties, but every time I try them on, they will not fit. Not enough coverage, so to speak. And I can't help it. I just get excited thinking about them. I just wish I had a little more control over certain parts my body.

Has anyone had this problem, or am I the only one? Please reply. I value all of your opinions and input.


Michelle-H


A good tuck should take care of your problems.

[Siobhan Marie]

I used to get aroused by wearing panties and other lingerie. But since I started wearing panties 24/7 and sleeping in nighties that has gone. I don't get aroused when I get dressed. I just like to look good and feel good.

Hope this helps you.

:hugs: Anna x

[Deborah]

Hmmm stop...no musn't say it....grrr.... can't help it.

Honest question....as opposed to a lying question?...sorry couldn't hold it.

[Caitlintgsd]

Nah, I don't get arroused. Period. Well, maybe once every 6 weeks or 8 weeks I guess. I think it's the meds. Don't miss it though either.

[Jillian310]

As I approach my 69th birthday, I can sagely observe that mother nature has solved that 'problem' for me. Now Viagra is necessary to reach that stage of arousal, and that doesn't always work. Ahh, to be young again! Good luck with it, and my advice is to enjoy it while you can!

[Julie Avery]

So we're all agreed, mtf cd's are uncomfortable admitting that crossdressing is sexual...but we all know, "It is."

[jo_ann]

I should take a poll.. I know it's arousing for me so I'm sure that has a lot to do with it. I wonder if that's the reason why every person who gets aroused is that way. I think it can be both a gift and a curse.

gift:
1. you always have a back door to arousal if things aren't going well

curse:
1. sometimes it sucks having to spend well over an hour to get aroused
2. some fantasies don't come true
3. A lot of the time I have no desire to dress unless I'm "in the mood"

[TGMarla]

Don't sweat it, dear! The moment that stimulation goes away, something in you has died. It's part of what makes you you. You 've already stated that it's becomming more about relaxation and contentment. What's wrong with a little erotic stimulation along with all that? Sounds like the best of all worlds to me. Let it ride. Don't worry about it. There is no set point at which you should necessarily be beyond erotic stimulation with your crossdressing, if ever. Sorta helps keep it fun, don't you think?

I figure, if I ever stop feeling aroused by crossdressing, how will I feel when my wife puts on the ritz some special evening? Or if she puts on a sexy nightgown just for me? Shouldn't that stimulate something? Well, it's much the same (but different) when I put them on, too. I hope it never changes.