Proudest moments

[~Kitty GG~]

I'm sure its a tough road .. but along the way what proud moments have you had?

As an observer and supporter, I've been especially proud of Dee when she informed the faculty at school that she would be transitioning and agreed to speak to the psychologist so that he would be better equipped to help those who follow her.

But there are lots of little victories as well.. So how about y'all?

When have you felt proud along this discovery/transition?

Love & Hugs
~Kitty~

[Rachel_740]

There have been loads of proud moments for me Kitty,

1. going out en femme (first time)
2. interacting with somebody (first time)
3. making the decision to transition
4. transition
5. name change/new drivers licence/passport
6. going into work
7. first time somebody call me madam/love/pet
8. when I was talking to a woman about my children living with my ex and she said 'they live with their father then!'
9. when I first got chatted up by a guy
10. when that guy got too pushy for sex I told him I was having a sex change and he replied 'why do you want to be a man' (and he was being serious) (I'm still seeing him now :) )
.................................................. .................................................. ................................and the list goes on

Life is just so wonderful :love:

Rach
xxx

[Amelie]

Rachel, I like number 10 on your list.

This is the same with me, whenever someone recognizes me as a woman, this is a small victory for me.




Yes there are the big victories in being transgendered but as you say Kitty, there are the little victories that make life all that much more livable.

I remember coming home late from a night out and there were these guys in my hood, working on their stalled out car. I went over to these guys and got their car started again. This let them know that I wasn’t the neighborhood weirdo, from then on these guys respected me and they made others in my hood respect me. Word traveled around, that I was OK.

I try to deal with people one to one. I don’t hang out with only gays and t-girls. I want to interact with all kinds of people. I want them to see me for who I am, not for the way they think I am. And almost all times, when people get to know me, they throw away the stereotypes and treat me like I am their friend. It is these everyday encounters with people that make life that much better.

Interacting with people also has it’s benefits. Sometimes strange people come into the hood for their entertainment, Sometimes these guys are nasty, but because I interact with people who live in my hood, there is always someone to help if there is trouble. Just as I would help them if they need it.

One night I was approached by three suburban type thugs, they started to mess with me. I tried to walk away, then from around the corner came two guys who I hardly even knew. They got in between me and the bad guys. These suburban guys weren’t going to mess with the two guys who came to my aid, they weren’t brave enough.

And just the same as these guys help me, I do my best to help others in my hood whenever I can. These are my little victories in life. Just being able to have people treat me as a friend.

[Maria D]

Not many proud moments really. I've had people say they're proud of me, but mainly I've just been either too nervous to feel proud, or not seen what I've done as proudworthy (it's a word! Maybe...).
Um, my first day as Maz at work in Feb I suppose, because I was terrified but did it anyway; or last week when several of the girls said I had sexy legs and they were better than theirs' (first time I'd worn a skirt, but it was 30°C in the lab).
Oh, and going down to London last year as Maz alone on the train when I looked like a dog, to see the psychiatrist for the first time; when the physical transition really started. I suppose that counts as the deep end when I'd only been out a bit in Leeds at the time.
But then again, not proud as such, it was just what I had to do, so I did. Compared to WWI veterans from, say, the Somme, it's not medal-worthy is it?

Take care :)

[Kimberley]

Maria, lots of little hurrahs add up hon.

I think you deserve every ounce of accolade you can get.

:hugs:
Kimberley

[CaptLex]

Not many proud moments really. I've had people say they're proud of me, but mainly I've just been either too nervous to feel proud, or not seen what I've done as proudworthy (it's a word! Maybe...)
Sure . . . sounds like a word to me (the one who's always making up words).

Like you, I've been told by others that I'm brave (for coming out to people and to my firm) and that they're proud of me for taking steps to do whatever I need to do to be happy (therapy, support, medical help), but I guess I don't really see it as brave - just necessary.

This may sound strange, but I think the thing that really made me proud was when I told my son and he took it so well. It made me realize how well he accepts diversity in the world and I hope I had something to do with that.

[Ms. Donna]

I suppose have a few:

Finally accepting myself. I hated who and what I was for far too long.

Remaining married. It's been about nine years since this all came to a head for me and I was determined to find a balance and to not lose my family. Granted, it's a wobbly balance at times, but a balance nonetheless.

Being 'me' at work. I kinda eased into it, but I did it. OK, so I definitely stand out, and get a doubletake now and then entering or leaving the men's room, but I'm not hiding.

Sitting down with HR and coming clean with them. I explained my situation and asked to follow the woman's business casual dress code: they were fine with it. Probably the most nerve-wracking thing I've done.


Much like Maria, I see as things I had to do more than accomplishments in which to to take pride.

Love & Stuff,
Donna

[GypsyKaren]

I have a few things that I'm proud of, one of them posting a letter at work explaining that I was TS. I work at a steel mill with over 6500 employees, and that letter has ciculated all over. I can't believe the number of co-workers who have come up to me to offer their support.

Without a doubt, the biggest thing for me is the support of my wife and son Chris. I've already talked plenty about how great Kat has been, so let me tell you what my son said to me recently. "I am so proud of you for having the courage to live your life as Karen, I admire you for it, and I'm so happy to see you finally happy." I am truly blessed to have such a wonderful son, and a wonderful family.

Karen

[MarieTS]

Rachel: Thats a fabulous "top ten", and so exciting to know that its totally true. Thanks for sharing and lifting our spirits.

[Kristen Kelly]

With all the trouble we go through on a daily basis, it is so nice to read so many Positive posts about proud moments.

[~Kitty GG~]

Just because something needs doing.. I don't see why you shouldn't be proud that you did it.

I mean really... lots of people find a way to not do the things that need doing.
Now I don't mean others who don't transition to the same extent as y'all. I mean people of all sorts in all sorts of situations.

Its so much easier in all aspects of life to not do what's needed.
To make excuses - To ignore what we should do - To put it off for "later" - To pass the buck..

So each time you do accomplish a milestone. I think you should be proud.

:hugs:
~Kitty~

[heather_nouveau]

Hi Kitty:

While I've only taken a few faltering, baby steps down this road, I'd have to say that I'm very proud of three things so far:

1. Making my initial appointment to see a therapist who specializes in gender issues.

2. Actually showing up at said appointment!

3. Finally accepting that I'm gender dysphoric and have to take real concrete steps to deal with it.

Well, that's three anyhow.

Just wanted to share,

Hugs,

Heather