EricaCD
06-15-2006, 09:54 PM
Note to all: this is essentially a copy of my most recent blog entry. Usually I try not to cannibalize my own writing. But I thought I'd give you an update as to the relationship situation since my wife indicated she wanted to learn more about my crossdressing a couple months ago. Any of you who read my blog can skip this :)
First, though, a digression... I finally got some dressing time in last night (first time in 2 weeks!), which was just terrific. I decided to go with a casual look. Minimal makeup (in a closeup you can actually see my freckles), no jewelry, no nail polish. Fem t-shirt and denim mini. I have placed a couple photos in the gallery at my 360 page; judge for yourself if you think Erica looks ok in casual attire. Sorry to not post anything here but I am omitting pictures here to avoid any discomfort should my SO choose to read my posts.
The important part of last night's dressup is that it took place in our house, with everyone home! (Separate floor, so no chance of anyone barging in on me.) Which means, as you have no doubt surmised, that my wife has agreed with me that dressing at home, after the kids' bedtimes, is ok. The discussion that led to this point was calm, candid and pleasant. We also agreed that I can take over one of the unused third floor closets for Erica's stuff. In a purely selfish sense this is all great. I needed the space, and I needed a way to let Erica out of the cage every now and then without running to a hotel or our apartment in the city.
More importantly, this is pretty indicative of how the relationship has been doing since Erica re-announced her presence to an unsuspecting wife. Looking back on the discussions we have had, none were unpleasant. None were even too emotionally distraught. My wife has acknowledged that she is basically through the panicky stage. She is a long way away from anything like true "acceptance" and she has made it utterly clear that she wants no personal involvement with me when I am en femme. Both of which are perfectly reasonable requests.
We still have some marginal differences of opinion. I'd really like to be able to do more about shaving, but that's still a big point of personal discomfort to her. On the other hand, she has been great about not getting upset when I inject a little bit of Erica into our conversations. She has not flinched as I have gone from envying some of her clothes silently to telling her as much. (Though we are both clear that my clothes are mine and hers are hers.) She gave me a beautiful new chemise that she had bought for herself but that did not fit her well (fits me wonderfully!!!). She has indicated that she might be willing to listen to Erica's requests for gifts - though I plan to confine myself to non-clothing items for quite a while. Just as well, really: Erica needs a lot of jewelry :)
Would I like her to spend more time talking about my CDing? Sure. Reading up on her own and learning everything she can? Of course. But at the same time, looking back at the totality of the last couple months, I would be an absolute fool to feel anything other than relief, happiness at her progress and gratitude for her understanding.
I knew I had picked a winner 18 years ago. It's nice to have my faith in her confirmed so fully by her conduct in addressing a very thorny matter. I look forward, with great eagerness, to see what the next few months brings.
Love,
Erica
First, though, a digression... I finally got some dressing time in last night (first time in 2 weeks!), which was just terrific. I decided to go with a casual look. Minimal makeup (in a closeup you can actually see my freckles), no jewelry, no nail polish. Fem t-shirt and denim mini. I have placed a couple photos in the gallery at my 360 page; judge for yourself if you think Erica looks ok in casual attire. Sorry to not post anything here but I am omitting pictures here to avoid any discomfort should my SO choose to read my posts.
The important part of last night's dressup is that it took place in our house, with everyone home! (Separate floor, so no chance of anyone barging in on me.) Which means, as you have no doubt surmised, that my wife has agreed with me that dressing at home, after the kids' bedtimes, is ok. The discussion that led to this point was calm, candid and pleasant. We also agreed that I can take over one of the unused third floor closets for Erica's stuff. In a purely selfish sense this is all great. I needed the space, and I needed a way to let Erica out of the cage every now and then without running to a hotel or our apartment in the city.
More importantly, this is pretty indicative of how the relationship has been doing since Erica re-announced her presence to an unsuspecting wife. Looking back on the discussions we have had, none were unpleasant. None were even too emotionally distraught. My wife has acknowledged that she is basically through the panicky stage. She is a long way away from anything like true "acceptance" and she has made it utterly clear that she wants no personal involvement with me when I am en femme. Both of which are perfectly reasonable requests.
We still have some marginal differences of opinion. I'd really like to be able to do more about shaving, but that's still a big point of personal discomfort to her. On the other hand, she has been great about not getting upset when I inject a little bit of Erica into our conversations. She has not flinched as I have gone from envying some of her clothes silently to telling her as much. (Though we are both clear that my clothes are mine and hers are hers.) She gave me a beautiful new chemise that she had bought for herself but that did not fit her well (fits me wonderfully!!!). She has indicated that she might be willing to listen to Erica's requests for gifts - though I plan to confine myself to non-clothing items for quite a while. Just as well, really: Erica needs a lot of jewelry :)
Would I like her to spend more time talking about my CDing? Sure. Reading up on her own and learning everything she can? Of course. But at the same time, looking back at the totality of the last couple months, I would be an absolute fool to feel anything other than relief, happiness at her progress and gratitude for her understanding.
I knew I had picked a winner 18 years ago. It's nice to have my faith in her confirmed so fully by her conduct in addressing a very thorny matter. I look forward, with great eagerness, to see what the next few months brings.
Love,
Erica