livy_m_b
06-17-2006, 06:22 AM
There are lots of theories about cd and ts etc. and I'm sure most of them have a central core of phenomena that they explain very well and I'm not arguing against any of them but....
Sometimes I think that part of our experiences are just due to what could be called "low boundary resistance" - that is, that there are certain boundaries that most of the population find it difficult to cross over whereas that group of us I'm talking about simply can't stay on our "side" of things: when we see women, we can't understand why we shouldn't share some of their experiences, we see men and can't understand why we shouldn't think they're attractive. Speaking simplistically, there are people who see similarities and people who see differences and there is a group of us who tend to see similarities and wonder why the full range of benign human experience should be denied to us.
Just because you are cd/tg/ts doesn't mean that you fall into this subset - you can be ts and have strong boundaries - for example, there is a group here that insists that any same sex attraction is "gay"; but, this point of view suggests there is another group for whom, looking at human relationships, thinks (even if they would never act on it) "I can see how that could be kinda nice too" or that looks at the "other" gender and thinks "why shouldn't I experience some of those feelings etc.?"
Sometimes I think that part of our experiences are just due to what could be called "low boundary resistance" - that is, that there are certain boundaries that most of the population find it difficult to cross over whereas that group of us I'm talking about simply can't stay on our "side" of things: when we see women, we can't understand why we shouldn't share some of their experiences, we see men and can't understand why we shouldn't think they're attractive. Speaking simplistically, there are people who see similarities and people who see differences and there is a group of us who tend to see similarities and wonder why the full range of benign human experience should be denied to us.
Just because you are cd/tg/ts doesn't mean that you fall into this subset - you can be ts and have strong boundaries - for example, there is a group here that insists that any same sex attraction is "gay"; but, this point of view suggests there is another group for whom, looking at human relationships, thinks (even if they would never act on it) "I can see how that could be kinda nice too" or that looks at the "other" gender and thinks "why shouldn't I experience some of those feelings etc.?"