New thoughts

[bredalee25]

Lately i'm having some new thoughts about CDing. Up until now i've considered myself a woman. Now i'm feeling like it's just a fun thing to do to get dressed up and look pretty for a while. I even have time right now to dress and can't seem to get into the mood to dress.

I've always enjoyed dressing but now i'm just going through some changes i guess. It used to be as soon as the gf went somewhere i'd run to my stash and get all dolled up. Here i sit just typing this in drab am i losing my mind or is this common to go through stages of dressing?

This is so confussing i don't know what i'm doing anymore. Maybe i'm just tired of dressing and going to all that trouble to look fem. Maybe i'm just growing out of it.

I'd like your oppinions on this what do you girls think?

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[Wenda]

For me, and it seems for many others, it definitely ebbs and flows. It depends upon what else is happening in my life, health, finances, etc. I think I feel more like dressing in winter, shorter daylight time, than in summer. I also tend to go through phases, for example, for two weeks, I tucked and taped every day, went to work tucked, even though it was a nuisance when I had to use the washroom. Right now, I am obsessed with growing my boobs. I have been using natureday for a month, and the girls are actually responding. I think everyone has different life cycles, they are interesting to study, but I wouldn't worry about it, unless it is related to something else, like depression for example.

[Stephanie Kay]

Brenda, honey, I'll say the same thing to you that I said to Tina in a similar thread. I like to think of my CDing like the wind. Sometimes it rages a fully hot hurricaine and I can't get enough! And then it starts to calm down to a breeze and I can take it or leave it. And sometimes (strangely, I think) it simply quiets down to nothing and stops for a period of time, sometimes short and sometimes long. But then it ALWAYS starts up again and I just go with the flow as I make my way through this wonderfully real and amazing life. Pay attention to the feminine/masculine emotional weather forecast and enjoy!

[Kate Simmons]

Bren, Just hang in there Hon and you'll be fine. If we lived closer, I'd have you to the club in no time and all of the confusion will have been forgotten. I love you for who you are no matter what you choose to look like, never forget that.. Take care, Love, :love: Ericka

[Tina Dixon]

I just posted some thing along the same line, must be common I guess.

[Angie G]

Before my wife know of it and wae at work when I was working 2nd shift some times I'dstart dressing then atop & spend the day in drab now she knows and I can dress whenever glad to say it back big time.
Angie G.

[Rachel Morley]

Yep, this has happened to me as well. Not that often, mind you, but it has happened. I plan on going to a Tri-Ess dinner or whatever, and then the time comes to get dressed, I don't feel like going.

I agree with others, it's just normal (well normal for CD's I guess. I'm not sure it's normal for TS's) to sometimes not feel like dressing.

[bredalee25]

Thanks for the oppinions girls. I did manage to get into some fem stuff after all. So i'm just gonna take it one day at a time for now.

Ericka thank you from the bottom of my heart. I really needed to hear that it makes me feel so much better now. I love you to hon.

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[Jennaie]

It has always come and gone for me. Sometimes I go through stages where I feel like I am a woman in a mans body and I dress everyday. Then the desire just seems to go and I begin to feel guilty and end up purging thousands of dollars worth of fem things.

I have not dressed much lately. It seems that my dressing was intruding on my life a little too much. I barely got out of school last semester with A's.

Although I did not purge this time, "smart move", I did lock up all my things and just lived life as usual.

It is strange but I have noticed a pattern of sorts. It seems that the urges to dress are much stronger between the months of Nov thru april. This year was not much different. I have however worn panties everyday since March.

I don't worry anymore about whether or not I am dressing at present. What I do worry about is how my dressing affects my life. During the last several months I really went through some strange feelings, overemotional, moody, angry that I was not born female, feelings of attraction towards men and confusion about who I am inside.

All this is part of what it is like to be transgendered. That much I can accept and deal with the best I can.

Don't feel alone, I believe we all struggle with our gender issues.:hugs:

[Kate Simmons]

As Jennaie says, transgendered means we go "back and forth" sometimes. At least we have the option. Once you decide to transition, you can't physically put things back the way thay were, only mentally. Ericka

[Marcia-B]

Maybe you are expressing you feminine side on the internet and don't need to dress so much too feel feminine.

[bredalee25]

Maybe you are expressing you feminine side on the internet and don't need to dress so much too feel feminine.

Interesting thought Marcia that could br right on target

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[Kimberley]

I agree with others, it's just normal (well normal for CD's I guess. I'm not sure it's normal for TS's) to sometimes not feel like dressing.

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Dressing is of no real consequence to us in that there is no thrill. It is just life, a part of who we are. For me it is often just jeans and a T or track suit. No need to get dolled up to go shopping, or do household chores. Even so, I always try to downplay my dressing so as to blend into the wallpaper.

Kimberley.

[Calliope]

For me it is often just jeans and a T or track suit. No need to get dolled up to go shopping, or do household chores. Even so, I always try to downplay my dressing so as to blend into the wallpaper.


Caring for small children all day, I can completely relate. What's most important for me is my fem headset.