What brings us to even TRY

[calliekat]

This isn't meant to be offencive. I hope no one takes it as such.
I got to thinking as to what brings a man to even try wearing womens clothing?
I don't even know how to ask that, accept "Why?"

I for one like it becasue it is more comfortable.
I don't dress to look like, or be, or pass as a female. I just like the clothing and it is often so much more comfortable in the summer heat. (Ie: skirts, dresses...) Then ANY mens clothes are. (I guess I am what they call "Gender F**k." )
But again, what brought me (or anyone) to even try the clothing on?

[rosiegurl]

good question, afraid I can't really answer it properly though :D

I was way to young when I first started to remember what drove me to it, about all I can honestly remember is the fascination with the fabrics, satin and silks and such

[Dee 1062]

For me I always wanted to be female...not so much the cloths..I can dress in Jeans and a sweater as long as I have my makeup on hair fixed and finger nails looking good, so for me...I want to be fem.

[Karren H]

I dress enfemme because I can't help myself!!! Plain and simpley put!! It's what I'm driven to do, whether I want to or not, or whether it makes any sence or not!! It's what I do and it's what makes me feel good........

Love Karren

[Paula G]

For me it was curiosity--what did it feel like to wear women's heels, hosiery, skirt, etc. Once I tried them on, I found that they just felt so good that I couldn't stop wearing them. It's now just a part of who I am.

[GINA-CD]

I always liked the clothes, but I also fancied to feel what girls felt, I mean, receive all sorts of attentions, the caressing, being the one receiving while he has to worry how to proceed... I guess it's a mix of both, appearance and sensations...

[Calliope]

I started when I was 11, a fairly common age. I would guess the bewilderment of puberty, with its hardening of gender, is involved. I started out of curiosity ... then was fascinated by the empowerment of 'switching genders' ... and, later on in life, as I grew to reject sports, trucks, dogs, war and all that stuff, crossing became a natural completion of my identity.

[Connieminiskirts]

How to answer this question, and NO offense taken..

I had to look deep at my life when I asked myself the same things a few years ago.
It part of who I am. I "started" dressing when I was less than a year old, or at least my sisters did. stopped when I was 5(by force of dear daddy) and started on my own at about 9 or 10. had to hide for many years.

I cant NOT dress. I have to be who I am. Connielynn is as real as is my male self. She just isnt out and about as much.

For some CDing is a hobby or fetish. For others its away to get attention, and then still for some of us it is simply who we are. well maybe not so simply but it is part of who we are and makes us a complete person. What I know I would not be without dressing. I have tried several times to purge, to eliminate "Connie" from my life. Found out I can get rid of the clothes, but the feelings are always there. Not a thing that I or anyone else can do about it. I am a man who wears dresses, skirts, lingerie, make up, jewelry etc. And I really do like myself!!

now if I could just get my life made into a big hit movie and make a million or 3 off it, I would be really happy!!!!!:heehee:

[connie rotten]

Heck I don't know why. My SO use to ask all sorts of why questions. She read everything all the experts had to say about cd, tv, tg, ts to formulate even more questions to ask me on the matter to the point I told her crosdressing is my personal thing she is not going to be involved in it. After months her of grilling questions to me with my giving her a constant sincere I don't know as my reply I came to the realization I will never under stand this any more than I understand why my heart beats. It just does. Why do I put on womens clothes? I don't know. I just do. I realy have no answer as to why I crossdress is as self honest as I can be. I now accept I am a crossdresser ,and I do wear womens clothes.

[PennyH]

Wow, what an open question. There must be many many reasons why we do it. For me, I want to feel feminine, be thought of by others as a girl, being gay i want to my guy to treat me feminine sexually (although i dont have a b/g at the moment :-(). I love the things girls talk about, and feel comfortable in their company. oh and the clothes are great too.

[Billijo49504]

It makes me feel good about myself. I like the feel of the clothes. Not because it's a turn on, but because they feel soft. They also look nicer. Don't ask me shy, but I had a choice of grabbing a pair of Levi size 14 shorts or a pair of mens shorts. It says Levi above the pocket....BJ

[KateW]

I'm not really sure why I started, but I have been doing it practically all my life. For whatever reason, I feel more comfortable in women's clothing, and always have. I don't really feel like "me" without them. LOL - which is quite a problem while spending 98% of the time in man-mode! Being on this site helps me feel more connected to myself when I cannot dress, so thank you to everyone for that! xxx

[dann]

I just recently learned to let go of that question. I just think back to the first time I can remember dressing (between 5 and 7 y/o) and just having a feeling drawing me to do it. I describe it as an inclination. Some guys have the inclination. Some don't."Why?"....well who knows. For me personally, it may be a subconcious reaction to growing up the youngest of 5. None of which are brothers.....Yea, that's right, 4 older sisters. The nearest in age being 4 years older. Something must've rubbed off. But that's only my situation. It seems that all of ours are slightly different, eleviating any ability to show a pattern.

What keeps me doing it? Becuase when i don't, and when I try to tell myself I'll never do it again I know I'm lying to myself. There's a crack in my heart that tells me, "if you never do it again, part of you dies."

Dann

[trannie T]

I wear women's clothing because I'm a crossdresser. I am a crossdresser because I wear women's clothing. In my personal experience and in all that I have read about the subject nobody knows why we become crossdressers.

[tekla west]

I'm sure the reason I did it was because I was really bored at the time. That is my reason / excuse for doing just about all the good and bad things I've ever done. But, I suppose the real question is - where did the idea to do that come from, given anything I could pick to do, why did I have the thought to do this particular thing? I'll have to think about that, but I'm sure abou the boredom part.

[Angie G]

I don;t know but glad I did I like it.
Angie G

[eleventhdr]

That's it you have hit it just right about

So why do we even try to lable it at all
it is what a whole lot of males feel most comfortable doing wearing the cloths

and then even wanting to become female

And be rid of the anger and agression thta mlaes are so very carefully taught.

I mean who would not want to escape all of that either by wearing the cloths and or being female and being freedd from a ll of that.

It makes perfect sense to me

I mean it is so relaxing either and all ways really indeed.

So why are we still kept from being how and what we really do want to be hmmm!.

Let's just do it and then!:

Jay Suzy!:

[Calliope]

And be rid of the anger and agression thta mlaes are so very carefully taught.

I mean who would not want to escape all of that either by wearing the cloths and or being female and being freedd from a ll of that.

It makes perfect sense to me



Wow, both clearly and poetically put!

[Bev06 GG]

Hi Girls,
I think CDs have a million and one reasons for doing what they do, and no two crossdressers seem to be the same. It can be anything from escapism, to sensuality to sexually driven motives. I do think however, that today society places a huge burden on to mens shoulders. Theyre supposed to be the all singing all dancing provider and sometimes its good to swap roles. I know when my partner has had a hard week at work he loves nothing more to escape from all the responsibility and reality.
I have to say tho that women do definitely get the better deal when it comes to clothes. Mens are so damned drab and boring. Even if Im having to wear jeans and sweatshirt for work, I can put on some nice silky or satiny underwear and feel as femme as hell even if I dont look it. Going shopping for Jay is much more exciting than shopping for Andy, infact theres no competition. I dont know why more men dont try it, shopping for girlie clothes is definitely a great stress buster. Why do you think most women go shopping when theyre depressed.
Take care
BEVxxxxx

[tekla west]

Its interesting, because I've often wondered if some closet dressers do it in part becasue it keeps them at home, responsibiltiy free, errand free, its home time as much as its fem time.

[Teresa Amina]

Just the inner Me pushing through the defensive shield, a necessary expression of self.

[Samantha_S]

Hmm......long ago in a far away galaxy, the future ex-wife suggested 'role-reversal' to liven up sex play. I stubbornly agreed to it. I never admitted to her that I enjoyed the hell out of it! It was a one-time thing.
(Maybe I should have?)

[bgirl]

I don't think I'll ever know why. I only know what happens if I don't.

[ava_bruna]

I dress enfemme because I can't help myself!!! Plain and simpley put!! It's what I'm driven to do, whether I want to or not, or whether it makes any sence or not!! It's what I do and it's what makes me feel good........

Love Karren




RIGHT ON Hon, DITOOOoooo
Now all we have to do it TRY to make other's understand we are us, we do as we do cause we want to, whatever the reason.

[Kate Simmons]

I dress enfemme because I can't help myself!!! Plain and simpley put!! It's what I'm driven to do, whether I want to or not, or whether it makes any sence or not!! It's what I do and it's what makes me feel good........

Love Karren
It makes perfect sense Karr. The reason it makes sense is it doesn't make sense. Kind of like why men love watching The Three Stooges and women think it's stupid. Once we stop trying to figure it out and simply enjoy it, we feel better about everything. All seems to fall in place and it seems totally natural. That's what worked for me anyway. Ericka

[annekathleen]

The look?
The feel?
Because you're "not" supposed to? (A forbidden taboo?)
Knowing who once wore them, and maybe you were attracted to her?
Knowing that the clothes you are wearing were once close to that persons private parts?
Pretending to be that person?
Sexual arrousal?
Mental arousal?
Emotional arousal?
....hell, probably all of the above reasons work for me!!!!

[Holly]

Sometimes the simplest answer is the best... Why? Because!

[gennee]

I dress because it's a part of who I am. I started dressing last year. It wasn't a fetish nor was I trapped in the wrong body. I love my male AND my feminine side. Gennee has liberated and completed me.

Gennee

[ava_bruna]

I dress because it's a part of who I am. I started dressing last year. It wasn't a fetish nor was I trapped in the wrong body. I love my male AND my feminine side. Gennee has liberated and completed me.

Gennee


That's it hon, put very well ;);)

[Mary Jane]

I dress because it is fun and I enjoy it. I need no other reason. I have no idea as to why I started in the first place. I am just glad I did. :heehee:

[ava_bruna]

Sound's like the message is getting out:D RIGHT ON !!!!!

[Scrunchie-Bunchie]

I have periods when I'll do it daily and periods when I won't. I wear women's panties almost every day.

Why? I find dresses etc more comfortable. I prefer the colours, fabrics and styles. I'd love to go out in a dress and be accepted.

It's just part of me.

[Elena Ambasce]

what brings a man to even try wearing womens clothing?
But again, what brought me (or anyone) to even try the clothing on?

As others have already pointed out, the answer to this varies widely for different inviduals, so I'm going to just take this as a poll question and answer strictly for myself...

My first time was around the age of 12 or so, early puberty, not long after (or before?) I had discovered the wonders of, er, "manual genital manipulation". I had recently moved in with my dad and stepmom, and was home alone (bad move! o/~ mommas, don't let your babies grow up to be crossdressers o/~). Being a teenager and not yet having learned to respect others' privacy, I was poking around in my parents' bedroom, and having found my stepmom's intimates and makeup, of course curiousity brought the fatal questions... "How would it feel to wear these? How would I look wearing these?" And you all know how that goes.

I will say that makeup has held a special fascination for me for a long time... due to her religious beliefs, my birth mom never wore even the slightest bit of makeup; that would be *gasp* VANITY! Panties and bras, while forbidden to men, were something that all women wore, but makeup, that was doubly taboo...

Now, calliekat's question also reminds me of another question... "why even try" in the ongoing sense... I have to admit I've felt that way often enough... after all the work of getting dressed, I look in the mirror, and not too happy with what I see... what can you do but just keep on keepin' on? Ganbatte kudasai ne, minna!

[Jena11]

Hi, My answer to that all of us try to understand or answer to ourselves, I think that I found my answer a few years back, I started sharing with my close friends. All GG's, I really do not have any guy friends and have not since I was in 8th Grade. I stared wearing girls clothes at around 5 years old. I truely feel that I am a girl and have alwasy wanted to be a girl so I want to wear women's clothes to feel like a girl. I get very upset at having to wear any men's clothes. I am not sure where to go with my life but I am trying to find the best place for me. In the meantime at least I have accepted me for myself and do the things that I want without too much issue. I am somewhat uncomfortable at times but, as time goes by it gets easier. I always have my leggs shaved and my under arms. I do not have much of any hair on my chest so that helps. I only own panties, I will not ever wear men's undwear again. I also know that I will not purge any of my women's stuff again. I also, have both of my ears pierced and almost alwasy wear earings. I mostly try not to attact attention to myself but I have to be myself and I have gained some confidence if anyone says anthing negative about something I do. I would not have gotten this far in my life without some really great friends and lots of counceling. Hopefully, I will get to a happy place in my life. Jenna

[Karren H]

It makes perfect sense Karr. The reason it makes sense is it doesn't make sense. Kind of like why men love watching The Three Stooges and women think it's stupid. Once we stop trying to figure it out and simply enjoy it, we feel better about everything. All seems to fall in place and it seems totally natural. That's what worked for me anyway. Ericka

Hey!! I love the Three Stooges!!! Have a Curley mug to prove it too!!

Love Karren

[annekathleen]

Curiosity May Have Killed the Cat,
But It Created the CrossDresser!

[avawho]

Well for myself, there has always been a part of me that is male and another that is female, been a tug of war over the years as to whom I was ultimately destined to eventualy become, but without the aid of recent scientifical breakthroughs and my huge aversion to pain...

OOppps... Different story... Guess I have always felt way more at ease, comfy and secure when dressen enfemme...

Cheers
Ava:love: