Living situations

[Chrissycd]

This is a touchy subject for many girls, but I think it will make a good thread.
We all have very basic needs. Food and shelter are primary, and very basic needs that we must have in order to even begin considering any other needs we might have in life. Because many of us are in living situations that might be disrupted if we come out, we often stay in the closet. We fear the loss, or disruption of this basic need, ie; a home.
So, what are your living situations? Are you happy with them? What would you change if you could? Who has it tough? Conversely, who has it all? Please share your situations here.
For me, I divorced and lived alone the past four years, but my ex needed a hand recently, so she moved back in long enough to get here act together. She's moving out in January, but I had to inform her of my lifestyle when she moved back in, and I was pleased that she was loving about it. In some ways, I guess she didn't have much of a choice but to be hospitable about it considering the situation, but it has gone quite well.
This winter I plan to finish my basement and seek a new housemate. I need to find someone who is like us, so now I'm just a bit worried about finding the right person. How to advertise??? I want to do it though to save some $$$ b/c I'm changing careers over the course of the next year. Isn't it interesting how our lives are forced to change as we begin to accept who we are?
Chrissy

[softandsmooth]

I am married, we own our home (well - a mortgaged home but I am sure you understand). My wife knows, and is understanding. THings are about as good as they could get.

With regards to seeking a roomie, perhaps quietly letting out the word at a local CD support or social group?

Charlotte

[Vallari]

Well right now i live with my folks on the weekend. The know about me and let me keep my stuff in my closet. We havent talked about times to dress though, so I do it at night in my bedroom. Id like an apt maybe with a CD or hot guy or a bunch of chics or something - whatever happens I just want more privacy to dress MORE! :p

[racquel]

i am like charlotte,married,understanding wife,own home,family knows.wish i had told everyone years ago.as for a roomie,i'd suggest an understanding g/g.

[ieya]

live alone . own my own home (mortagaged only one third of it.) work as a care worker.

Seeking to move out from this town and going transexual

[DonnaT]

Married, house almost paid for, son lives in the basement :(

Hate moving! If I win the Lottery, well....

Wife wants to move to TX when (if) we retire. I've said no!

Won't move back to WV either.

If you want to go shopping you gotta drive forever (it seems), in both places. I like it here where everything is close. A bit overpopulated though (understatement of the year).

[Bonnie-OR]

Hi All. I'm divorced, so live alone, if you call living with three cats and two cockatoo's alone. Own, or should I say am buying, my house. Work 40+ hour week, and have a decent retirement from the military. Things are comfortable, but this is not a good area to be a CD, but a great place for a guy that likes the great outdoors.
Jenny, if you ever need a spot to take a break, you are always welcome here. Huggs, Bonnie

[Sara Kat]

I live by myself in the dorms on base. I'm itching to get out and get an apartment somewhere offbase. :(

[Sharon]

I live alone :( in my own house.

[Chrissycd]

I should say that I didn't expect this thread to get many responses, simply because many cds have uncomfortable living situations and it hits a nerve to bring it up in conversation here. BUT, that's why I think it IS a good thread, so thank you, girls, for responding. It gives comfort to know a little more about your day to day lives and the way you manage. Some of us are a bit lonely, others a bit claustrophobic and all. I think if we're not just going to be a bunch of strangers with dressing in common, it does us good to bring these things up.
BTW, I'm still looking for that housemate... ;)
Chrissy

[NewShy21NJmtf]

live in my college dorm with good friends, who unfortunately would never understand, and with my parents during breaks. can't wait till i can afford to live alone, and probably move somewhere far away from here, like California maybe. i have no privacy, noone to confide in, and no money to buy the clothes that i have noowhere to hide anyway. that's why this forum is such great stress relief for me. you girls are in some ways my closest friends. i've been away for about 2 months, and it's great to be back, even though i'll be away from the forum for at least another month.

stephanie

[MonaSmith]

I live at home with my Mum. I have bought, and am currently paying for, half her house to stop her from losing our family home. She knows about my dressing and it doesn't bother her, but I am very self-conscious about it and don't dress in front of her. I have a full time job quite locally and apart from the occasional bout of lonelyness I am doing better now than I have been in quite a few years. Oh, I also have an older sister, not living at home, who doesn't know I dress and a dog, who is living at home, who loves me either way.

[Georgette]

I hope I still live here, after all I said sorry.
Live with my wife own home, selling bussiness, ( sign final papers Monday) that will help my apologie to her( fingers crossed). Oh well I will do some hard work for this.
LOVE & HUGS
Georgette

[wilma]

about 1 month ago I got fed up with my wife and her BS so I moved out and filed for divorce. so far its been great living alone. I have my free time to do as I choose and I can dress whenever I want. The move has been great for me and I look forward to a brighter future. After the divorce is final I'm going to buy my own place and get out of this apartment, Its not the best place. a bit run down.

[GraceUSA]

Single but live with a roommate in a large appartment. He knows about my crossdressing and can't understand it but our relationship has not changed at all. We have a unspoken agreement that I will not dress infront of him.

I'm also currently unemployed so looking for work has been fun. Doing the interviews in drab but with hints of my femme side like perfume and body language. So far no offers but then again so far all the managers I would have been working for were all guys. Be nice to get a job working under another gal, must nicer and I tend to get allong so much better.

Its kinda nice being in limbo, so many options open to me and hopefully less mistakes made in the future choices.

Grace

[Pamela girl]

I own my own flat, at least I'm keeping up the mortgage payments on it!! Live alone, no S.O., not since having my heart ripped from my chest and stomped all over last year, and am not looking for anyone else at the moment (ever?).

Work a forty hour week plus whatever overtime I can get. (Xmas will mean 12 to 14 hour shifts, seven days a week, starting Monday!!) Pays the bills and feeds the cat, though my own feeding sometimes gets left at the wayside (sp, possibly it's weighside?).

I find buying clothes, drab and girl's, much more important than buying food. ;) Splurged on a fantastc Versace men's winter jacket only yesterday, about to buy an Armani, hand stiched and beaded, evening dress. Is there food in the cupboards? Nup, only catfood!!

Catfood ain't so bad! Little friskies tears my stomach up though.

[Pamela girl]

I live in a paidfor house and work from home doing low risk high yield investing and showing others how to do the same. (You would be surprised how many people don't want to earn more money)
I have a GF and when she isn't here I can dress all day if I want and just go about my bussiness like normal. She doesn't know about my dressing though. Don't know if I could trust her but I don't want to tell her then for mabey another reason she rips my heart out and stomps on it.

[Rhonda Callahan]

I live in a cheap apt. which is not easy in Colorado. Got lucky and got in, back when my son was with me.It's got all the necessarys, just small. Will be paying off the bills from divorce, for another 6 or 8 years, before I can even think about buying a place, depressingly. The great advantage is being able to dress whenever I want, and I Love that ! It's almost like having a SO.

[Chrissycd]

I am considering, rather than staying put and getting a housemate, is quite radical, but very enticing to me. I have a gg friend whose family owns an old run down farmstead with 80 acres of beautiful rolling farm land and forests in eastern Wisconsin. I grew up in the country but never tried my hand at farming. I have always wanted to write children's stories and maybe a novel, and I wonder if it's an opportunity I'd be foolish to pass up or just foolish to chase after. We could always make it a tranny ranch... ;)
Seriously though girls, am I nuts to consider this?
Chrissy

[Sweet Susan]

The wife and I live in our own home alone. Kids are men, now, and grandkids come around whenever we are lucky. She knows and enjoys it, but isn't all that eager. It's good. In fact, it's all good. I can do most anything girlish that I want to do, and I'm satisfied with things the way they are.

SaraKat, where are you stationed, and how long have you been in the Air Force? I spent four years in the AF from 69-73. Hated every minute of it. I lived on base, off base, apartments, houses, barracks, dormitories, you name it. I thought life in the AF sucked. How is it for you?

[maryjanecapri]

i live in the basement of my best friend's (of over 20 years) house. he knows about my CDing and tells everyone he brings home in case they have a negative reaction. he says he'd rather them say something to him before they arrive than say something in front of me - at which point he says he would succinctly boot them out of the house.

it's a good set up. it's cheap (which is good since i'm an actor), i have a closet full of femme, and a huge room to work on my bikes.

[LauraB]

I got lucky 2 years ago and landed some nice contracts (iam paid a fee per contract) This meant that i now have a 2 bed flat in a reasonable part of london a car and more important a garage to put it in.

I live alone apart from wednesdays when Nick (my BF) stays over and a few weekends that he can spare. I now see my family more than i ever thought i would. I spend most nights socialising for my job and do straight clubs often. My flat is my anchor as are Nick, my family and friends. I am alone but not lonely i enjoy being at ease with myself and like my own company.

Gosh does this make me a antisocial bitch

Love
Laura
:eek:

[Jerry]

Thanks for the thread. (I just love our "threads" threads.)

I have a great situation in our house. Wife with 4 little kids. Travel on work frequently, but don't dress out of the house. Even on business trips. Wife still trying to get around this whole thing. I do simple dressing (skirt, top, shoes) if I have an hour or so. I get 3 to 4 hours for more elaborate dressing maybe once or twice per month. That's not enough.

Nobody else knows. (for sure)

I dream about having a separate flat. Studio, cabin at the lake, small apt. etc where Jerry could go without interruption. Probably not going to happen any time soon.

Hog hugs. Jerry

[Rachel Ann]

live in my college dorm with good friends, who unfortunately would never understand, and with my parents during breaks. can't wait till i can afford to live alone, and probably move somewhere far away from here, like California maybe. i have no privacy, noone to confide in, and no money to buy the clothes that i have noowhere to hide anyway. that's why this forum is such great stress relief for me. you girls are in some ways my closest friends. i've been away for about 2 months, and it's great to be back, even though i'll be away from the forum for at least another month.
stephanie
Ah, Bergen County! I used to live in Rutherford. If you decide to try California, the San Francisco Bay Area probably has more GLBT resources per capita than anyplace in the world. Unfortunately, it is also one of the most expensive places to live in the world.

Good luck to you. In many ways this forum has become a home to me, too.

Love

[Brianne]

Hi, my wife caught me dressing a couple of years ago in our home and left for a couple of hours. When she came back we talked but she said she didn't really like it. Well being patient for a couple of years has improved things a bit. We have 2 children, a boy 22 and a girl 16, who don't know and I don't want them to know.
My wife lets me keep my feminine clothes on her side of the closet and lets me keep my lingerie in one of her dresser drawers. When I get the chance to be alone I get completely dressed. Otherwise I'm just wearing panties most of the time. When we are in the love making mood we have a couple of martinis, she then showers and puts on some lingerie. I then also shower put on some lingerie, makeup, perfume and jewlery. She takes the dominant role and takes me in her arms and kisses my lipstick lips and perfumed neck. I used to be a silent lover but now when she touches me between my legs like a woman I moan softely and that turns her on more. Sometimes she makes me do a fashion show for her and walk around and bend over so she can see my cute ass. I feel great when she says "how cute is that!". It's really great being lesbians in the bedroom.

But of course we always want more. I always want to go shopping as girlfriends. Let me say that I wouldn't pass but I like to be as feminine as possible. Which is more or less unisex. On one rare occassion we went to a mall about an hour away. They have a nice restaurant there and we had a nice lunch and a couple of martinis of course. I was wearing a thong under my jeans, some light makeup, perfume,clear nail polish and a gold necklace and bracelet. We shopped and went into the Gap where I took some jeans into the dresing room and tried them on which seemed exciting because my wife knew I was wearing a red lacey thong. In one department store she held up a skirt to me and said this would look cute on you. I was in heaven. But as I said that was one rare occassion most times I get comments like "do you have to wear that" or "go take that off".

Sorry this was so long but I could go on and on because it feels great to share my feelings here.

Love,
Brianne