could it be true

[Stefanie_in_Mt]

I have crossdressed for most of my life, and Love to do it, if I could, I would dress 24/7, sometimes over the years, I have wondered why I feel this way and maybe whats wrong with me.
Just the other day my mom was talking about her and Dad's plans when they got married, you know the dreams, plans, hopes etc. then she said something that really got me thinking... She told me that I was supposed to be the girl in the family.. then we all just laughed. Later I got to thinking, Maybe thats where my fem feelings came from... If she was so set on having a girl when she was pregnant with me, maybe it affected my development... OK I know it sounds kinda crazy..
What do you think??????

[triciaannmarie]

I was supposed to have an older sister a year before I was born Sadly to say my mom lost the baby, and i was born exactly a year later on the same day she died. Was it fate? Very Interesting.


tricia

[Karren H]

My mom wanted a girl also and told me on many occasions up until the birth of my sister.... the same time or shortly after her birth I started crossdressing..

Love Karren

[Wenda]

My mom wanted a girl also and told me on many occasions up until the birth of my sister.... the same time or shortly after her birth I started crossdressing..

Love Karren
Whoa! that's pretty heavy! Makes you go, HMMM!

[Calliope]

Here's another take. My mother always leaned towards the butch - she was the homerun champ on the girls' softball team (early 50's), etc. - and for sure she was glad I was a boy ... until a decade later when it became evident I wasn't going to be the rough 'n tumble she apparently wanted. Pressure to 'go out' for sports at school, private karate lessons to 'toughen me up,' endless camping trips and, finally, a shrink to investigate why all her efforts failed.

Son number two turned out a rock-climbing professional so, for mom, all's well that ends well.

[NewbieCD]

My mother and my much older sister (14 years older) told me all the time growing up that i was sposed to be a girl to even out the odds at home. Having 2 brothers and my dad there as well.

[Kate Simmons]

Hi Stef, I think we are just born to be who we are regardless of any other influence. I can't really conceive the thought of being anyone else. Ericka

[NickyJane]

Well I was the second boy out of 3 and it's safe to say that both my parents wanted me to be a girl. They even had a name for me, Nicola which got changed to Nicholas when they discovered I was a boy!

Still happy to be a Nicky now!

Nicky Jane

X X X

[Emma England]

I wasn't supposed to be born!

No not accidental pregnancy.

I have 2 older brothers. If the second was a girl, my parents wouldn't have wanted to try again.

But they did try for a girl. I turned out as yet another boy. They gave up after that thinking 3 kids is enough.

Well, I am a girl sometimes, but my parents do not know.

[Charleen]

I Don't think we'll ever know for sure why we are the way we are. I heard it said, nature AND nurture, and that's probably the closest we're gonna get. My Mom was the most feminine woman I have ever known. Growing up, she worked nites in a dress shop, my Father worked days, so I spent alot more time with Mom than Dad. My Dad was a major sports nut and tried to interest me to no avail. Sucked at all sports and did not care either much to his chagrin. On top of that, there were very few boys in the nieghborhood to play with, so guess who my playmates were? I'm sure that all of this might help explain the person sitting at this keyboard, but Lily's here for whatever reason and I wouldn't have anyother way today. Love and xxxx, Lily

[Casey Morgan]

Stefanie, reading your post I'm assuming that when you were born the doctor said "it's a boy" and your mother said "my son!" But now you're thinking that your mother simply wishing for a girl somehow affected you in the womb. Am I understanding you correctly?

I kind of know where you're coming from. The doctor thought I was going to be a girl. It almost sounds like when I was born the doctor said "whoops, sorry, it's a boy, my mistake". And for a long time I wondered if that had anything to do with how I feel.

But I realized one day that it's nothing more than an odd coincidence. Many of us have this deep seated need to understand why we are like this. So these coincidences become straws we grasp at. If my doctor's mistake and your mother's wishing could really change things then the world would be a different place than the one we know. In my case boys would suddenly (literally) change from having vaginas to having penises. In your case women could choose the sex of their babies just by wishing hard enough.

These odd coincidences add a dash of color to our lives. I think they're pretty neat personally. But all they really do is make the story of our lives just a little more interesting.

[suanne]

Yep.....was suppose to be a girl. (Nancy). I heard about that every time I did some dumb boy thing. Hmmmmm Keep the name and just give me some panty hose. :D

[JoAnnDallas]

I am the youngest of three siblings. My two older siblings are female. In fact on average, only one male is born in each generation. In this day and age, a women can find out the sex of the child early on, but when I was born, it was not known until birth. So I have to wonder when Mom was carrying me, if she thought I would be just another girl. Could it be that it can cause hormonal changes in the mother that affects the baby as it developes. Emotions can have an stong affect on ones hormons and hormons play such a dominate role in the development of the baby, could having strong emotions about the sex of the baby early on, cause hormonal shifts in the baby itself?

[paulaN]

I was supposed to be a girl too. Im the middle child of three boys. stuck in the middle sucked. But I made it.

[tamyracd]

youngest child with three older sisters..youngest being 8 years older...they always told i messed everything up...i guess i didn't stand a chance...*s*

[StephanieH]

0.02 There may be something to this. My mother miscarried a girl just a touch over a year before I was born. She was seven months along when she lost the baby. A year and a month later, tada, there I was. I've always exhibited kinda' girlish traits and she always told me the same thing - they expected me to be a girl. This might warrant a huge government grant to study this stuff. Wonder who I write to in order to get a couple million to conduct a study? Later! :rolleyes:

[Marla S]

What do you think??????
No correlation.
But if it gives you some inner peace, go for it.

[Sophia Rearen]

My mom wanted a girl. Be careful what you wish for, mom.

[Marla S]

My mom wanted a girl.
I think it is not too speculative to say that most women want girls as children and men boys (at least as first born).:D

[myMichelle]

I once had a psychiatrist tell me that there is actually a link between one of the commonly used substances in birth control back in the 1960's and the instances of male babies growing up with tendencies tword crossdressing...

Of course, I immediately called my Mom and asker her if she was on birth control when I was conceived, but she said no. There goes that theory!

[karen fox]

I have crossdressed for most of my life, and Love to do it, if I could, I would dress 24/7, sometimes over the years, I have wondered why I feel this way and maybe whats wrong with me.
Just the other day my mom was talking about her and Dad's plans when they got married, you know the dreams, plans, hopes etc. then she said something that really got me thinking... She told me that I was supposed to be the girl in the family.. then we all just laughed. Later I got to thinking, Maybe thats where my fem feelings came from... If she was so set on having a girl when she was pregnant with me, maybe it affected my development... OK I know it sounds kinda crazy..
What do you think??????

My mum has always told me that she thought I was a girl even before I was born! You got that right mother dear!
She has always told me that had I been a girl, then I would have been named Karen & my younger brother would not have been in existence!
I can only think that I was born this way because my brother was meant to be! LOL!
I know just what you are saying though!

[ToxicDisneyGoddess]

You know you bring up a good point, When i was born i was due to be twins one boy one girl, which would have made 3 kids in my famliy me being the youngest cus i was born after my twin sister. But she died shortly after birth and ive always felt extreamly close to her and i think if she did make it we'd have in the end ended up twin sisters anyway but i think shes the one who kinda lead me to the dressing so my mom could have the daughter she wanted so bad.. but thats jus my 2 cents

[Lindahexi]

My situation is similar to Randi's, my mother also miscarried a girl before I came along. When I was born my mother was so disappointed that she dressed me as a girl for the first year of my life. apparently people used to say "what a pretty little girl you have". I honestly feel that this must have had some influence on me, I've always wanted to be a girl for as far back as I can remember.

[DawnLabelle]

I was supposed to have an older sister a year before I was born Sadly to say my mom lost the baby, and i was born exactly a year later on the same day she died. Was it fate? Very Interesting.


tricia

Small world..... exact same thing happened to me except I was born 7 days after my older sister.

Dawn

[GG Vanya]

Stefanie,

While many here seem to follow the trend, I (as usual) am the one that is the exception to the rule.

When I was born, my parents had a son, and a daughter. My Mother was hell bent on me being the second son. She had not even considered a girl name and made all preparations for a male child.

My being born female was such a disappointment for her that she "rejected" me at birth, and I was cared for by her sister, who had never married, for the first three or four months of my life.

This created a strange "distance" between myself and my Mom that I never understood until the age of 12 when my Father finally explained things for me.

Given all these admittedly extreme circumstances, I never felt inclined to dress as a boy. Yes, LOL, I was quite the tom boy and shadowed my poor older brother every day of his life! Did I feel like I should have been born male? Nope, even though it would have made for a much closer bond with my Mother.

I honestly believe the theory of the hormonal wash in the womb when the fetus is about six weeks in developement. But, since Trudi was a twin (paternal twin-female) I've often wondered if that had an influence in the womb. Did close proximity to a female fetus during developement have an influence? We'll never know. I'm just happy with the end result in our case. :happy:

[SAMANTHA_IN_MT]

love to see another montana gal in here get in touch if you like and lets chat.

[Casey Morgan]

My being born female was such a disappointment for her that she "rejected" me at birth, and I was cared for by her sister, who had never married, for the first three or four months of my life.

This created a strange "distance" between myself and my Mom that I never understood until the age of 12 when my Father finally explained things for me.

Wow. I am so sorry you had to go through that. I'm trying to find the right words here but all I can come up with is that really sucks. :(

I think the key words in your post are "I never felt inclined to dress as a boy". I believe that for most people the inclination to dress is just there and these incidents are an atractive answer to the "why" question. Trudy's is an interesting case though. That's one I could believe.

But as you say, the important thing is just accepting the end result.

[CaptLex]

When I was born, my parents had a son, and a daughter. My Mother was hell bent on me being the second son. She had not even considered a girl name and made all preparations for a male child.

My being born female was such a disappointment for her that she "rejected" me at birth, and I was cared for by her sister, who had never married, for the first three or four months of my life.

This created a strange "distance" between myself and my Mom that I never understood until the age of 12 when my Father finally explained things for me.
Very interesting thread.

I can relate, Vanya. My mother was also positive that I would be a boy and didn't even consider for a minute that I could be a girl. She and my father only had boy names picked out and were in complete shock when I was born (also, Mom feels that she failed and disapponted my father). Anyway, neither parent has ever been close or affectionate with me, and I always suspected this may the reason why. At least your father explained it to you. No one has ever given me an explanation.

I don't think this is the reason for my crossdressing, though, and definitely not my reason for transitioning. On the contrary, I know my parents would reject me more for wanting to become a boy than for not being born one in the first place. Ironic, huh? :rolleyes:

[kwebb]

Although she won't admit it to me now, I once overheard my mom tell some of her in-law relatives that she swore up and down that she was gonna have a girl when she had me, I mean right up to the time she had me.

She won't admit it now because since I told her about the CDing some 15 years back, she thinks she is somehow responsible for it some way, thus has never really accepted it in me.

But she sure made that statement about me being girl.