out spoken / pushy bitch

[Wendy me]

OK for shure that got your Attn , we all know that being this wonderful two sided person we are the "him" side and the "her" side ...( what a gift) .
you all know our "him" sides can be from macho to wimpy... loud to vary meek and quite.... and sometimes thats what we need to get by in our every day lives.... we have to fit in a role or a standard and stepping out side that box not only can be scary it can cause a lot of trouble in our lives.....


now the twist if you will .... here comes this wonderful person climbing out of "his" everyday rut and life... slipping into something a little more fem ... she can be anyone she wants to be .... hell she could also be you....for as that "other person" she can be free to be and think as SHE wants too....


now for me my "him" side is shall we say a little rough around the edges... while with the help of my fem side not as out of control as often ... in a good way .. shy and with drawn "he" is not !!! and that's OK as i have come accept more of "him" and blend a little of her in .....:hugs:


OK still with me ???? cool ... now i add my fem side , my WENDY side and something relay weird happens i think that a softer more mellow more compliant person is what i should be and thats were i notice something happening .... i start to feel Wendy curling up withdrawing .... and losing that girlie feeling ....hell i can stop shaving and not care much about being a femy... then something happens ... something inside wakes up and goes wtf are you doing ??? i open my mouth i speak her mind i become more forward ... more pushy and won't let myself be quite .... and i might also be what some might call bitchy.....and i feel as fem as can be plucked ,tucked shaven and femmy as i can be....

could it be that for me to truly be Wendy to be and feel fem... that i need to be that outspoken / pushy bitch???????+? +? +? +? :tongueout

[swiss_susan]

Hmmmm... you might be onto someting :tongueout

I think in the end we all go through a range attitudes and emotions, but unlike many others we actually get the opportunity to explore them a little more in depth.

I totally understand where you are comming from though.

Susan

[Melissa A.]

Hi Wendy,

Male or fem, you are who you are. Someone with opinions who isn't afraid to voice them. No need to demurely fade into the background, ever, sweetie. experiencing our girly side may bring on some subtle changes in taste and tolerance(how could it not?) but who ever said being a woman means you have to be compliant? (I know, LOTS, but this is the 21st century!!) I love the wendy you are. Don't hold her back.

Hugs,

Melissa:happy:

[Charleen]

Hi Wendy, We are who we are. I am two in one. What a experience I am having now that Lily is no longer denied. Yes I am very much more femme now, but Charlie's still around too, and it's a definate trip. I am learning that I haven't been, nor never will be seperate, though for more years I care to remember I denied who I was. Told myself that I just got a kick out of dressing up. Even though I have come a long way lately in accepting me as I am, I also know I still have a long path of more discovery ahead, and to tell you the truth, I'm looking forward to it. As I go through this discovery I have to keep in mind what myself and others have said- we need balance, and if I get confused, or out of shape about the way I am, I have to look at the why, then try to figure out how to get back to a balance. If you fell like a bitch sometime, fine, go with it. we all get that way occasionally. We have moods and then we have moods. I'll sign off with a little Elton John- "The Bitch Is Back" Love and xxxx, Lily

[Joy Carter]

Great Wendy We are so gald you are you. Me I find I'm more Joy in guy mode and have always been just held back more. When being Joy I'm more like a gurl than when a GM. Or is that the otherway around +? Hmm I'm confused !:cute:

[avawho]

I am basically one person no matter the outter wear, the only real differences are subtle, such as that Ava is way more fun... more layback, talkative intuitive, nurturing and far less aggressive. Cases in point, I drive as an aggressive testerone filled male wanting to arrive first and in the shortest time possible, but fly an airplane (mentally at any rate so far) as a cautious, overly protective mother worried about her offspring and future long life ahead...

I'm sort of like a oil painting, well mixed blends of colours...

Cheers
Ava

[Calliope]

Sometimes I wonder if my sweeter fem self isn't simply a guy idea of what a woman should be ...

Woman's lib!

[Ms. Donna]

Hi Wendy,

Please see my reply (http://crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=25662#post366947) in Sophia's thread I Can't Shut Her Down.

In short, there is no 'him' and 'her' - there is only you. You are but one person and to try and section off parts of yourself doesn't work - you need all the 'parts' to be a whole person.

Methinks that's what you are discovering - there's more to 'Wendy' than just the "plucked ,tucked, shaven and femmy" bits. :)

Love & Stuff,
Donna

[Wendy me]

oh i belive that in some ways "him" and Wendy share some of the same things ... out spoken/ push bitchy is not a bad thingy for shure......

[Lisa Maren]

Hi Wendy

At least in my case (I think I'm a bit more confident when I'm dressed), I think it's because I'm more confident being the real me and when I'm in guy mode I lose confidence because it's not me and the male world I'm forced to live isn't right for me (I know that I don't do male like other men).

Hugs,
Lisa

[CarmenG]

oh I hear voices in the chambers of my mind, I hear tell they can no longer step aside. Wendy dear be who you are together in mind and soul. express your thoughts and feelings together as one.
Do your thing...... Peace, Love, Unity...... it's all YOU.....

[Bev06 GG]

could it be that for me to truly be Wendy to be and feel fem... that i need to be that outspoken / pushy bitch???????+? +? +? +? :tongueout
Well why the hell not Wendy. Ive been thinking of buying a basque, leather coat and whip because I think that would have a similar afect on me too. Im almost certain that theres a bitch in me just waiting to burst forth.

Honestly Im only kidding ya. Sounds to me like its part of the character you'de like to be and is as much a part of the person as the dressing is.
Take care
BEVxxxxx