Hard to dress down?

[Stephanie Kay]

Hey, girls, I just got a couple new outfits for my big weekend with my son. I decided to purchase some hot weather things and found a pretty peach calf-length cotton skirt and coral cotton T to wear to the drag show Friday night and a pair of straw-colored capri pants and an orange sherbet-colored T for being out and about town on Saturday. I intend to wear sandals with bare legs.

Yikes, I feel like I am dressing down and that has always been hard for me to do. Usually Stephanie likes to dress up and does a pretty fine job! Love the feel and look of all those slinky synthetics!! But I have always found it harder to dress down--to look like everybody else. I'm usually way overdressed when I go to the mall as I look around at the other women there. Do any of you girls have the same problem? Do you feel the same way or is it just me!!

Like all this cotton for this weekend, even cotton panties and bare legs! I wonder if I am going to miss my nylon undies & hose!! Well, let's just say it will be an experiment!! Don't get me wrong, I intend to have fun, fun, fun!!! And stay cool, calm, collected, AND comfortable!!!:happy:

[tekla west]

What would I know, i'm a hippie, formal to me means wear shoes - dress down means get naked.

[Staci]

I never go out dressed but when I dress at home it is almost impossible to dress down. I want to feel as pretty as I can.

[Charleen]

on my days off, I am always en femme, but dressed way down. All womans clothes, but butchy- jeans, blouse, ect. I'm way comfortable, yet the unwashed masses don't notice. Love and xxxx, Lily

[Olivia]

on my days off, I am always en femme, but dressed way down. All womans clothes, but butchy- jeans, blouse, ect. I'm way comfortable, yet the unwashed masses don't notice. Love and xxxx, Lily

Yeah, what she said! Olivia

[sandra-leigh]

I'm usually way overdressed when I go to the mall as I look around at the other women there. Do any of you girls have the same problem? Do you feel the same way or is it just me!!

I have a range of outfits, a number of which are chosen specifically to "blend in" -- to look female within the range of looks "expected" at the places I would tend to be (e.g., on the bus, in the shopping malls.) I also have a fair number of tops that are deliberately chosen as being unexceptional for male -or- female, but which show my shape at least partially when I'm wearing my forms.

In other words, a fair bit of the time I want the casual glancer at me to think "female" or "okay-looking female", and then not to pay particular attention to me. Dressing well attracts attention -- attention long enough to possibly notice something that gives me away, or possibly enough to remember enough of my face to recognize me again in drab. (A number of people have seen me both ways and recognized me quickly en femme, even with wig and makeup and earrings and dress or skirt. My face isn't remarkable, but somehow I'm transparent that way.)

It is much more difficult to buy "everyday wear" than it is to buy "dress up wear". The stores tend to sell long-sleeved casual shirts and blouses mostly during the mid fall (i.e., winter clothing); the long-sleeved tops during the other seasons tend to be partial-sleeve, or tend to be midriff baring, or tend to be too "busy" (e.g. too much colour, too much bling). And except for those winter clothes, the tops tend to end not much below my belt line: especially when I have my larger forms in place, they tend not to stay tucked-in and tend to rise up flashing my "I could stand to lose some" waist.

[Sally24]

I think that is a common problem with us. We want to enjoy the skirts and dresses and don't get allot of chances. I occasionally wear jeans, or capris, but I usually wear some sort of skirt. In the evenings I almost always wear a dress, usually silk or a slinky fabric. Depending on how well you pass, you can be more or less dressy.

[Bernice]

I don't think that dressing down has to involve pants or sweats. I have lots of skirts/dresses that I would never consider "dressy enough" for the office or church. Granted, I probably would not pass wearing them, partly because so many who dress down do indeed go for sweats or jeans. Yuck. I remember when "school clothes" were not "church clothes" but also were not the sloppy trash people wear today. What's wrong with a house dress, other than that nobody (besides me) wears them anymore?

[Karren H]

What would I know, i'm a hippie, formal to me means wear shoes - dress down means get naked.

Didn't I see you hanging around Haite-Ashbury?? hehe

Love Karren

[Melissa A.]

There's lots of pretty skirts one could consider casual. Tiered skirts, etc. Same with shoes. They don't have to be stiletto heels to be pretty. as for tops, this time of year, a womans t-shirt or a lacey tank top go great with a casual skirt. In the cold weather, a sweater. I think I showed this photo on another thread. sorry it's so small.

Hugs,

Melissa:happy:

[Melissa A.]

&@$#%&$!!!!!! lemme try that again:



Well well. the site won't let me upload the picture precisley BECAUSE it's already in another thread. I get it. No repeats. That's a rather silly rule, if ya ask me. If ya wanna see it, go to "heels are problematic for either sex" started by Karen Hutton. Yeah, like anyone's gonna do that, Melissa!

Hugs,

Melissa:happy: