telling your doctor

[psdibe]

How many of us have told our primary doctor about our cross dressing. Do you think it is a good idea/
Hugs PD

[Calliope]

I guess it's a good idea if you want to score some hormones. Otherwise, why?

[Staci]

I have not and don't plan to. Of course for me it is private between my wife and I and I don't go anywhere dressed as a woman.

[Stephenie S]

I agree with Tripper. Unless there is some medical reason you need to share with your doc, why bother?

I did mention it to my doctor because I plan on starting hormones and my therapist wanted me to get a testosterone level test. So, I had to tell him.
He said he had never had a TS patient before and that it would be an interesting journey for the both of us. So that was a nice reaction. I was a bit concerned about his nurse, though, as she had always struck me as a bit of a prude. Later, in a phone conversation about the results of my tests, she delicately refered to "my condition". hehe.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[tekla west]

A few years ago in California we decided that the war on drugs was stupid - drugs had won flat out and all - and so we went ahead and made marijuana legal. The only catch was you needed a note from your doctor. So I went into my doc, (female, African-American, about my age) on the way to usher a party for a porno film company dressed to the nines and hand her the forms. She asks - because its on the form - "And what medical reason do you need this for?" I look over my glasses at her (they teach you that at grad school) and she says "Nevermind, I got this one covered."

So my form says "stress relief from fashion tension." True story.

[Francine]

I told my doctor.. because I told him I was interested in hormone treatments to transgender. He wouldn't do it. He referred me to a 'clinical therapist' at a mental health clinic.

Done that.. did it... not doing it again.... yet.

Francine

[Charleen]

Yeah, I agree that if not for a medical reason, WTF? Ain't none of their business! Don't mind me, can't stand them anyway. Love and xxxx, Lily

[dancer1]

My Doctor is a female and i share everything about my life and marrage with her , reason being if they dont know you they cant help you.
Same applys to your lawyer, if you did wrong tell him or her , they will decide the best possible defence for you , if they dont know you they can;t help you.
I must amit that I'am pro female i wont share my life with a male doctor or therphyst.
And we all know here already i can't spell very well but you get the guist of it.:hugs: Nadeen

[Edwina]

I guess I let the cat out of the bag the other day when I went to mine for a checkup. I asked him to look at a vein in my calf, completely forgetting my shaved legs. He knows from my physical condition that I am not a competition swimmer or cyclist so what other reason is there? :heehee:

[trannie T]

If I wind up in the ER wearing a bra and panties or if I wear panties for an exam I guess he'll find out. Otherwise he doesn't need to know. If I were going for SRS or wanted hormones it would then be a medical issue. If I were seeing a psychologist I would tell them.

[Caitlintgsd]

I think mine has figured me out. Something to do with breast development and a large fairy tattoo. Duh...

[My_LiaSophia_Dream]

Having been an office nurse and a practice manager and being a non CD'er, I had to add my 2 cents here. These are my opinions and certainly not expert or meant meant to offend in any way shape or form.
I think if you live in a big city and do not have personal friends in the office or friends of friends with staff - then your secret is "probably" safe. In a smaller town or rural community I have seen more "slips of tongue" and persoannly fired people for confidentiality violations.

Your chart is a legal document and can possibly used against you later - it can subpeona'd for just about any reason (and yes a good attny can prevent it) but even applications for health insurance, life policies, and in many cases - after we "depart" from this world, this record is required for reveiw - -can you imagine your family finding out "by accident". Or a perspective employer whose insurance company raises a red flag for possible mental health issues upon review? Even in cases where a suit is filed for personal injury such as a work related accident - your record can be reviewed and can you imagine being in court fighting for workers comp when an attny in local courthouse asks a question relating to your injury and says - I see in your medical records you are cd'er - on the day in question where you wearing acrylic nails which may have contributed to dropping the machinery?" I know it seems WAY OUT there - - but it could happen.

Just my 2 cents! Again - just pointing out possibilities.

[tekla west]

"after we "depart" from this world" -- at that point my medical records would be the least of my worries I would think. What are they going to do? Kill me again?

[Helen MC]

Never ask, never tell! I am with the majority here. There being no medical reason as I don't want Female Hormones and I don't want GRS, I have no reason to tell my Doctor or anyone else I do not wish to of my CD activities. When I go to the Doctor's I ensure that I am wearing a pair of plain panties, not pink, not with a pretty floral pattern, not lace trimmed but still a pair of women's panties as those are what I always wear. No comment has ever been made by the Doctor or the Nurse, but of course these days, at least over here, male and female underpants are to an extent unisex, except of course for Boxers for those who wear those horrible garments, but briefs are still more popular in the UK and Europe.

I feel that unless I want someone to know, then why tell and take the risk of mockery or of someone finding out that would use it against me as happened 30 years ago in one place I worked when a hostile co-worker pushed open the door of the stall I was using in the toilet (restroom) the bolt being broken and saw me wearing women's panties and told everyone else. I had a few very unhappy months in that job until I left and have been very careful ever since.

[My_LiaSophia_Dream]

I have to agree on that point from the end of the departed!
I was just thinking about an incident where the wife found that her husband of 30 years hed been having an affair when she found out he had been treated for STD's several times. I guess for anyone who is open about it, then thats no issue but perhaps for anyone not able to be open it might be something to think about.

[Helen MC]

Like Tekla, when I'm dead I'm dead so no worries there for me anyway.

[Jackie-Ann]

I have not and don't plan to. Of course for me it is private between my wife and I and I don't go anywhere dressed as a woman.

Hi, Staci, I practice the same policy, there is a lot of encouragment on this forum to those that adventure themselves CD "out of the closet", sort of speak. None encouragement for those that Cd "in the closet". I congratulate you for your way of life and its very good that you decided to be a conservative CD instead of a flaming one. Love, Jackie

[Joy Carter]

Having been an office nurse and a practice manager and being a non CD'er, I had to add my 2 cents here. These are my opinions and certainly not expert or meant meant to offend in any way shape or form.
I think if you live in a big city and do not have personal friends in the office or friends of friends with staff - then your secret is "probably" safe. In a smaller town or rural community I have seen more "slips of tongue" and persoannly fired people for confidentiality violations.

Your chart is a legal document and can possibly used against you later - it can subpeona'd for just about any reason (and yes a good attny can prevent it) but even applications for health insurance, life policies, and in many cases - after we "depart" from this world, this record is required for reveiw - -can you imagine your family finding out "by accident". Or a perspective employer whose insurance company raises a red flag for possible mental health issues upon review? Even in cases where a suit is filed for personal injury such as a work related accident - your record can be reviewed and can you imagine being in court fighting for workers comp when an attny in local courthouse asks a question relating to your injury and says - I see in your medical records you are cd'er - on the day in question where you wearing acrylic nails which may have contributed to dropping the machinery?" I know it seems WAY OUT there - - but it could happen.

Just my 2 cents! Again - just pointing out possibilities.

I can't see any reason for telling. I trusted my counselor who told me several times there were no writen record of out talks, HE LIED ! Not it's in my medical records.:Angry3:

[Jackie-Ann]

Having been an office nurse and a practice manager and being a non CD'er, I had to add my 2 cents here. These are my opinions and certainly not expert or meant meant to offend in any way shape or form.
I think if you live in a big city and do not have personal friends in the office or friends of friends with staff - then your secret is "probably" safe. In a smaller town or rural community I have seen more "slips of tongue" and persoannly fired people for confidentiality violations.

Your chart is a legal document and can possibly used against you later - it can subpeona'd for just about any reason (and yes a good attny can prevent it) but even applications for health insurance, life policies, and in many cases - after we "depart" from this world, this record is required for reveiw - -can you imagine your family finding out "by accident". Or a perspective employer whose insurance company raises a red flag for possible mental health issues upon review? Even in cases where a suit is filed for personal injury such as a work related accident - your record can be reviewed and can you imagine being in court fighting for workers comp when an attny in local courthouse asks a question relating to your injury and says - I see in your medical records you are cd'er - on the day in question where you wearing acrylic nails which may have contributed to dropping the machinery?" I know it seems WAY OUT there - - but it could happen.

Just my 2 cents! Again - just pointing out possibilities.

Hi, LiaSophia_Dream, I keep my feminine side between my wife and I as much as I can but is almost impossible to keep everything "confidential". Most of us removed our body hair to look and feel more sensitive and feminine.That alone it would cast doubts in any nurses or doctor's mind, they're not naive. You being a nurse are going to suspect something if I'm in the hospital an you see my armpits and whole body, including my anus hairless, don't you think ? When I started shaving my body and I was working at a job, some guy noticed my arms being smooth, hairless and asked me if I shaved them off. I said to him:"I have a skin disorder and the doctor recommended a skin peeling, do you want to see my balls?"
The large majority of Cds know deep inside that they don't pass the "woman test".We are, what we are, its our nature. Some of us they need to go all the way to reach their happiness. Like goin' out Cd,taking female hormones and some of us end up TG. Others just stay "in the closet", sort of speak, the rest of their lives.Nature,society,and the world that we live in have placed some rules at work.I don't plan to change them, I just "roll with the punches".

[suezeq]

had been to docs before with chest pain and weeks later was there with wife and out of the blue he asked to listen to my chest (this was not planned)so up went tee shirt exposing red bra him red faced me smiling nothing has ever been said and nothing on notes

[Lilith Moon]

Not sure why this body shaving is such a big issue. Plenty of people, male and female, shave their bodies simply because they prefer it. The only people who connect this with CD-ing are CD-ers and their SOs. Heck, body shavers for men are available in most shops around here. I have a Philips BodyGroom which my wife also uses sometimes. It is great. I shaved all over yesterday and feel much more comfortable in the current heat wave.

I have visited my GP several times with...gosh...hairless arms&legs and nothing was mentioned, nor would I expect it to be. If he did ask me why I shaved my legs I would ask him why he didn't wear a moustache and beard.

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[Wendi_cd]

Most of us removed our body hair to look and feel more sensitive and feminine.That alone it would cast doubts in any nurses or doctor's mind, they're not naive.


Ever watch MTV during spring break?
Not a single one of those college students has body hair, not ONE.

Are they ALL CD'rs?

[swiss_susan]

I think that unless you want him to refer you to some sort of specialist, there is certainly no need.

I don't see what the motivation would be. But its up to you.

Susan

[Angie G]

I with Stacy I'm not going to tell.:happy:
Angie G.

[LindaTS]

I started a thread recently about just this. I had to change doctors because my other one went into semi-retirement. My new doctor is a female in her late 30's and when I saw her for the first time I told all about me being a TS. She fully accepted me. I was never comfortable with any male doctor so this is a great thing for me. Not having to explain my totally smooth body, growing breasts and long fingernails is a blessing for me. Another thing is not worrying about bra lines and polished toenails. This makes is my life much easier.

[tekla west]

"there is a lot of encouragement on this forum to those that adventure themselves CD "out of the closet", sort of speak. None encouragement for those that Cd "in the closet"."

That dear is because people need to be encouraged to do what they are not doing. No one needs any of that to continue to do what they are doing. The root of encourage, is of course, courage, it is to share that with others, to give them a bit of what you have. It does not take courage to hide. It does not take courage to stay home.

Funny enough, in my experience, that courage is all self-directed. Its only ourself we need to get over.

And, another thing. How is it that you don't trust your doctor (OK, the English girls I will let off the hook here, they have National Health, not a real medical system) about whether you shave or not (and many do) but you trust him/her with your heart and lungs? I would think that if you can not be 100% honest with your doctor, you need a new doctor.

[Jackie-Ann]

When I decided a few years ago that I wanted to be referred to the gender clinic, which was the only way in, I thought long and hard about how I would tell my GP. The dilemma for me was that my GP was also my family's GP and he actually attended all three of my kids' deliveries. I would have wanted him to be the one to refer me but the fact that one of his daughters had recently been hired as an assistant to the receptionist, and his daughter knew my kids, made me nervous. But not as nervous as the receptionist who had a very loud voice and seem very discreet in how she dealt with people coming into the office. I'll never forget the day I had an appointment for hemorrhoids... I went up to the counter and identified myself quietly. She asked what I wanted to see the doctor about (in her typical loud voice) and proceeded to repeat my answer so that all could hear. Consequently, I feared what she do with my "new" information. Instead, I called the clinic one day and explained that I wanted to come in and that I was aware of the referral policy... I asked if they could give the the name of a doctor who was TG/TS friendly and had referred other to the clinic. They were more that happy to give the the name of the doctor and has now been my GP for the last 7 years. If there is a clinic in your area, you might do the same thing to find a doctor for yourself. You may wonder what ever came of the clinic episode -- I've shared that in another post. But back to the question at hand, for me, having my GP know my situation is very liberating. I present myself as male but my underwear is feminine and my body is hairless -- this has never been an issue I need to worry about with him. Out of respect for him and because I would feel like somewhat of an exhibitionist, I will wear only cotton panties that are very "unisex" and no bra (though the bra lines are well marked from wearing one almost full-time). The best part of him knowing, is that it allows him to treat me as the whole person I am. This has also allowed me to discuss possible future steps such as HRT.

Hi, LisaDelNorte, I deduced for what you wrote that you're not just a Cd but you want to be a TG woman.That's ok. but the issue here is for those of us that we don't want to go that far. Many of us we fantasize with the idea of being a woman for a variety of reasons.We don't want the "rest of the world" to know our "secret". In my case, its enough to share Jackie Ann with my wife. Going to a GP, a job, walking down the street,shopping dressed as a woman is out of the equation, comprende ?. So good luck with your quest for "real womanhood", I do wish you the best.

[Bonnie D]

I never told my GP for years because I didn't see the point. I am closeted and last Fall I went out of town and knew I was going to have a free evening. I got partially dressed in my motel room and then drove to a private cd club I knew about. I paid the non-members fee which allowed use of their facilities and entrance to their karaoke. I finished getting dressed and applied all my makeup and eventually went out on the town with a few others. This was my first time ever going out dressed. I couldn't stop thinking about it and started realizing that I can't continue living in secrecy for the rest of my life but circumstances wouldn't allow me to come out yet. This is very stressful and so when I went for my physical later on that Fall. I decided to tell my GP (male) so that he could watch for signs of stress possibly affecting me physically. I have read how stress can have such a negative effect on a person both mentally and physically. He asked me if I would like a referral to a psychologist but I said not yet.

So my whole point here is that I felt my doctor should be aware due to the stress that I'm under. I also told him that I am a member of a few TG message board sites and that they do help me psychologically.

Bonnie