Dressing: Public or Private

[beauty_babe]

I myself have figured that I just wanna keep my dressing private, but will share via the net that I am a crossdresser

[Rachael Turner]

Rachael is too outgoign to be dressed alone in the house, so its definitely public.

The one thing about public is its all about attitude and confidence.

[tekla west]

I hate being at home, I love the big city, bright lights, wild nights, all that, so out and about is the only way for me to go. I do not want to finish life at home in my spare time.

[Charleen]

Already going out as Lily, and even in drab, I have a very effeminate look. May be if the unwashed start to see more of us it would begin to get more accepted. Don't know, but it worked for women and pants, gays to a large degree, and the like. So who knows? For me though, I'm Lily, and:tongueout to the unwashed! Love and xxxx, Lily

[Michelle Ellis]

I voted public... not because I am, yet... but because I can't imagine staying in this god forsaken closet forever :(

M

[beauty_babe]

Others do know about me being a crossdresser, so in some sorts I'm public, but at this present time of my lifeI have come to figure, I'm only a crossdresser & would rather leaving the times I do dress at home

[Calliope]

Hey, it takes forever - and costs a lot - to get beautiful. When I run outta smokes, I'm not going to hit delete, trot down to the 7-11, then what, reset when I get home? Exhausting!

Dressed all day.

[Paula G]

It's still a private thing for me at this time, of course who knows what the future will bring...

[Stephanie]

Although I am mostly an "at-home" dresser right now, I have been out at least a couple times with my wife. Frankly, I think going out enfemme is different and exciting and I would love to go out more but between my work, school, and family (2 stepkids and 1 on the way) I don't get many opportunities to do so and don't see the situation changing too much in the forseeable future. My participation in these and other forums is pretty much my only "public" outlet at the moment.

[HotLips1234]

I'm very private and only dress behind closed doors. Even when I play dress up with frends, it's behind closed doors.

kisses

[Mistybtm]

Dressing Private to most but i am out to a few and i have ventured out a few time late at night but i would have to say 95% private 5% out .
Mistybtm

[Barb Valentine]

Private all the way
I'm to shy to go public

[Tiffany Anne 9954]

I dress privatly and it probably will allways be private. I might have went out on a halloween night but that was it. Would dress with other cd's if the oppertunity comes but again will only be private.

[Kristen Kelly]

OUT...I want to be the social buttery , been going out since October now that GF knows want to get out dressed with her if I can.

[Tina Dixon]

Hard choice, I would like to go out a bit but I don't want family or frends to know of Tina.

[paulaN]

I would rather be out. but in my small town that is not the thing to do. so most of my dressing is done in private. I have been out in portland, and in vegas. and even once in or twice in my home town. but that is not the norm. oh my would the gossup run wild in my little town if I was out.

[Teresa Amina]

Can't stay in the comfy closet forever, Teresa has gotta see the world and be seen in the world outside. How else do you really know how deep this goes?

[Mardi]

I voted private, need somebody to push me to get me out more in public.

[Adrienne Heels]

I like to be out and about in the great clothes I am always buying! And my girlfriends in the stores want to see me dressed, too.

[MAGENTA]

private.thatis why i am so glad i have joined this forum.been out once fully dressed.it was to a charity screening of the rocky horror show and i was absolutely amazed that i was able to pass so easily.sadly that was the exception and not the rule.maybe one day

[Maria2004]

Being able to go "out" in the real world and interact with other human beings used to be my impossible dream, now it's the most fullfilling aspect of my dressing.

[Sarah NZ]

I vote public, however am still private.

I have gone for drives in my car and walks at night when dressed en femme but that is generally when no one was likely to see me or when they did not recognise that I wasn't a GG.

I also try before I buy, and the shop staff have helped me out (so some have seen me dressed albeit without makeup etc)

Certainly have thought about going to one of the shops en femme to try on some clothes.

[sue ellan]

i think that going out in public would be the greatest thril that you could ever have.
sue ellan

[allisonrn06]

For the most part I want to keep it private,but would go to a support group meeting or if my wife would go with me, to bar that was tg friendly.

[MarinaTwelve200]

I concider CD as somthing I do in private---like taking a shower or pleasuring myself. I have no urge to go out publically dressed any more than going out NAKED---(It seems the equivalent in my mind)

I think that the urge to be private or public depends upon the personal factors that drive us to CD to begin with. Some of these factors or personal needs CRY for publicity---the need to "show off" or "be honest to the world" or "the RUSH from being seen" for example. While in other people CD is a satisfaction of a personal "curiosity" or a mere aid to mastrabation etc. that one feels needs NO publicity.----

So Public or not depends on WHY we as individuals CD. If we are HAPPY . fine. The only sad cases are the "public types" who feel they MUST hide.

I CD to "Escape" my real self from time to time, and RELAX. I feel that is something PRIVATE with ME. I feel no need to go out and also I would fear publicity anyway---So borh factors workto keep me private--But I AM happy, and thats all that counts.

[susann_gardener]

I haven't given the "going out" a fair chance, so cannot factually answer the poll. I know I would like to try going out.

[Tiffany 1953]

I have been out several times (7) dressed and usualy with GG'S as escorts. There are as many reasons for dressing and going out as there are for dressinng and staying in. For me it was finding a comfort level for Tiffany and therfor for me as the vessle that Tiffany emerged from. "Out and about" varries with the stress level that I am under. The more stress the more I plan excursions... Might see the Pdoc on Thursday en fem as I have this summer outfit that needs to see the light of day. Hugs to all my friends on the forum. Tiffany

[Angie G]

HI Beauty when I work nights some times I change in the car (in a dark place) for the ride home my wife knows so no problem when I get home:hugs:
Angie G.

[Cassy11]

I vote Private because I can't pass in public. That alone makes me feel uncomfortable. I dress for my own peace and to be able to relax.

[Ranee Daze]

For me it is most fun to be out and about enfemme, but then I live in a bigger city and I think that makes a huge difference in whether you get recognized, and that is the big fear, isn't it?
For me I think that being able to get out freely and shop or visit a salon was a challenge. It took alot of work on my look and alot of guts those first times out. Halloween and visits to The Ballet Trocadero de Monte Carlo productions here at Ottawa's National Arts Centre were my first "outs" where a crossdressed man wasn't such a suprise to the general public.
I am sure that there is a release of endorphine in the brain when one confronts such fears. That, combined with the downright welcome of makeup counters, salons and dress stores produces a kind of euphoria which can only be had from the "out" experience.
Anyway, I've really worked on my look and manner when I am out and it is now more fun than ever. As I've said in other posts, it takes real planning to pull it off. ie: where to park, washrooms, where to eat, getting back home past the landlord....whatever, but for now it is worth it.
Not for all I realise, but for those on the edge with their toes in the water, dive in! The water is wonderful!
Ranee

[tekla west]

I also think that bigger cities tend to be more liberal. Fewer people care. More people are used to it - its not the first person they have ever seen dressed. And they have big city lives too, which means, for the most part, they are too busy to care. The stores too are in big time competition, if they don't take your dollar, or loonie, the next one will.

In the small towns I've lived in there is nothing better to do than to talk about everyone else, so that is what happens.

[Sam-antha]

Ranee has said it for me. In a city or a strnge place most definitely out.
And folks the water is wonderful, come on out !

[keeley]

Definately private for me.

[Siobhan Marie]

I dress indoors as I won't go out as there are members of my family who live near me also friends and colleagues of my parents live near me as well. In any event, I'd scare the crap out of people dressed! :redface:

:hugs: Anna x

[julie w]

although I am dressed at home most of the time .I love to go out there is
nothing like the wind blowing you skirt

[ellieparsons]

I've kept me dressing private, never out around people, maybe out for a drive in my car, but mostly dressing at home.

[WINDDANCERS]

At Home Dresser As Yet''in The Future'' We Will See''

[sparks]

Always been private and always will. But I guess it's kinda public when you are shopping for girly stuff.

[dazzed]

Im keeping it private. Im a private person dont go out except when I have to. Im an inside person that hates crowds.

[Jasmine Ellis]

very open

[QZ2]

I agree with Michelle, Going public is coming...

Susie

[Sharon86]

I voted for private, however, i do get bored from time to time just being in the house, it's impossible to go into the garden as we are overlooked, and would i have the courage to venture out? who knows, maybe one day in the future. But enjoy it if you do go out:thumbsup: . LOL Sharon.

[phoebe61]

I WILL ALWAYS DRESS IN PRIVATE AS I'D NEVER PASS.
IF I COULD I WOULD LOVE TO GO DRESSED PUBLIC{SHAME}
ON THE OTHER HAND I'D LOVE TO GO TO A GROUP MEETIN OF OTHER CD'S
ALL THE BEST DONNA.:heehee:

[pepsi]

I dress in private at home so I can wear pretty dresses and v short minis,but i do sometimes go out at night then i wear mostly black and longer skirts so i dont attract unwanted attention.one day i hope to find a gg who understands my need to dress and is ok about it(no luck yet! haha).:hugs:

[Ranee Daze]

First: If I am going to go through all of that work to get dolled up, you bet I want out! I am a bit addicted to the danger out in the real world of getting caught doing ladies' things, maybe it's a bit of a masquerade.
Second: Since there is that erotic element in my dressing, well the danger of being out only heightens it.

C'est juste moi!

Ranee

[carolinewalker_2000]

The poll was about whether we would wish to go public or private. Circumstances at present means I can only dress in private, but I just wish I could be more open and go out in public. I'll never pass for a woman but what the heck; I'm not ashamed of who I am.


Caroline

[vbcdgrl]

The poll says I've already voted, which I haven't. I would have voted "public" because I do go out quite a bit en femme to a club and to run errands such as the bank ATM, get gas, post office, etc. Trying to work up the nerve to go "shopping" en femme. To me, shopping for girl stuff in drab is no fun.

Vikki

[ranma 1/2]

Im private right now but maybe in the future when i find the right outfit and master the art of make up then i could see myself going out on the town.

[Susancd]

I would love to go out in public, but i would struggle to pass!

[juliek]

But tend to keep it private. I don't pass so well.

[Kate Simmons]

I didn't vote because I'm not dressing for any one other than myself one way or the other and really don't have to prove anything one way or the other. Ericka Kay

[roberta1945]

I wear ladies slacks,jeans &tops almost all the time no bad commints.
I love skirts & dresses but only in private.

:love: :hugs: Roberta 1945

[Dee 1062]

I like going out,Public and just being me,Dee

[Amber_8281]

I mainly dress in private because I really can't pull off the look good enought to go out. pluss all I were is skirts. So I think I will keep it private. But here I don't care. I fell at home. Plus I am the youngest one here. I am 19yr. So I still don't have the confidence to go out. By myself anyway.