Purging!

[NickyJane]

God I cant tell you how much of an urge I have had the last few days to purge:( I started feeling guilty because my GGF was coming round for a few nights. Managed to resist the urge and instead I put all my clothes, hemp breast forms and make up in a big sports bag and hid it in the loft knowing full well that I would regret it if did!

Anyway had a fantastic time with GGF (some amazing sex!) and am back home alone so to speak. Still felt the urge so kept everything hidden until I came back on here and started reading some of my previous posts, then up into the loft i went! ! !

So I'm now sitting back having just cooked spag bo whilst dressed and now enjoying a glass of wine before I take a long slow bath with lavender bubbles and get ready for an early night!

Nicky Jane

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PS: Got some very sexy glossy hold ups from E Bay and they feel amazing! ! !

[gennee]

Be glad that you didn't throw away all your stuff, Nicky. It would have cost you more to replace it.

Gennee

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Nicky

Purging is one of the most expensive hobbies ever invented.

You did the right thing by putting your things in the loft.

[Ann Craven]

The joys of living alone

Ann

[Nikki Dee]

Thank goodness you resisted the urge....many have regretted giving in to it...many times...and you know the feelings only come back.!!!!...enjoy.!!!
Nikki. x

[janelle]

Yes Dear its good you saved your things. I feel like purging also,but it won't be my girlly things, hehehe
Take care dear
:hugs: Janelle

[Ashley Helen]

Nicky Jane, I know exactly how you feel. I have retired to Spain and purged before we left the UK. I couldn't have a removal box marked up with 'Helen', especially as I have not come out to my wife!
We have been in Spain two and a half years and I find little opportunity to dress as Helen and, although I started collecting more clothes, I have hardly ever dressed. An hour to myself is the best I manage.
But, I live in hope and have decided never to purge because the chance to dress may present itself to me. I just may be out of fashion when it happen!

Love

Helen xx

[Francine]

The next time I purge..it's going to be those drab ol' male clothes! :heehee:
to make room for more skirts, dresses, and tops!

Franicne

[Tina Dixon]

Good for you for not purging, for use that aren't in the open with our dressing it can be a easy thing to do then a day or so latter you regret it, just put it away when you feel that way because it's like riding a bike, you don't forget.

[Kate Simmons]

My purging days are over, Hon. Did it three times. Last time was a big one and cost me a lot both in money and emotional costs. Always better to take it easy and get perspective on things. Ericka

[Sarah Rabbit]

Good for you Nicky. I have never purged and do not intend to. I have read so many threads of 'Purges' and 'Restock' of wardrobes, What a waste. Hope you find peace soon..:hugs:

Sarah R. :bunny:

[trannie T]

I'm way too stingy to purge. I still have my first pair of panties-too bad they don't fit any more.

[Lindahexi]

This subject crops up often, and the general concensus is DON'T PURGE! In the past I have purged and deeply regretted it. But despite that, and despite me giving advice to others, I still occasionally get that urge to clear everything out, remove all traces of my femme side; why I just can't explain, unless it's some form of guilt complex.

[sky0629]

DON"T DOOOOOOOOOOOO IT!:eek:

[Wenda]

Yes Dear its good you saved your things. I feel like purging also,but it won't be my girlly things, hehehe
Take care dear
:hugs: Janelle
I am with Janelle. I have not purchased male underwear in two years. As I retire them, they are replaced by their femme counterparts. The longer this goes on, the longer my Cavin Klein shorts will survive. In 25 years I will still have 4 pairs of male shorts and about a hundred sets of femme. Whenever I get the idea to reduce my inventory, I put in in a box, and store it away, and really try to forget it. When I rediscover it, sometimes I take it to the Salvation Army, or, sometimes, I think, "OMG, this is beautiful! why has it been in storage!?!" My upbringing just will not allow me to throw away nice things that omeone else might enjoy. Especially me.

[Bernadina]

How about letting your GGF in on your secret?

She will need to know sometime especially if you are moving into a serious relationship. And sooner is better than later. A lot better than if she finds out for herself.

[Wenda]

How about letting your GGF in on your secret?

She will need to know sometime especially if you are moving into a serious relationship. And sooner is better than later. A lot better than if she finds out for herself.
Bernadina is right.

[Denise01]

DON"T PURGE.

I purged only once and have regretted it ever since.

Fortunately it was only a short while after I started dressing, so the cost to replace was not great, however I did discard a couple of outfits i would still like to have.

I have not worn guy shorts now for over 2 years, except when i am going to the doctors, and then not always.
I was wearing panties last fall, when I was taken into the hospital, guess they have seen it all, and they had more important things to do than see what kind of underwear i had on.

I also have not bought any guy clothes now for about 2 years, and when i do a purge next, it will be my guy things to make more room in the closet for my skirts, slacks dresses and skirt suits.

I feel so comfortable when dressed, and just wish i could dress 24/7 but some day the time will come

Denise

[NickyJane]

How about letting your GGF in on your secret?

She will need to know sometime especially if you are moving into a serious relationship. And sooner is better than later. A lot better than if she finds out for herself.

I wouldnt know how to broach the subject.Maybe theres a part of me that would love her to find out but I'm so scared that I would lose her which makes me want to stop CD, but then I know I dont want to stop arrrhh

What a wicked web we weave......


Nicky Jane

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[Lisa Golightly]

I hope you didn't get any sauce down your front... I'm hopeless with spag bol... all over the table, me and anyone sitting near. :)

[ArleneRaquel]

Over the years I have purged twice,everything out!! It WAS a dumb and rash thing to do,if for no other reason than that by purging everything I was also throwing away a lot of money.Also,but I guess I didn't realize at the time I was also purging part ME!! Now that I have decided to be "Katrina Maureen" 24/7 i would NEVER think of doing it again!! Have any of you other ladies had a "purging" experiance?:love:

[Scotty]

Think we just talked about this one -

Ya I've done that too, some things were too small but now if I ever feel the need, haven't for a long time, I just box it up and put it in the attic.

[Dee 1062]

Yes, I belive it's part of being a Cd......along with doing a few other dumb things:)

[Barb Valentine]

I think that purging is a part of being a crossdresser
I'm sure we have all done it
My last purge was about 10 years ago
I just didn't throw them out, I shredded them swearing never to dress again
Well that didn't last long
So now when I feel that way I just pack every thing up and put it away
(It's a hell of a lot cheaper that way)

[AmandaM]

All my 80's hot chick clothes in the 80's, sniff...

[Charleen]

Been there. Done that. NEVER AGAIN! What a waste, but when emotional for what ever reason, I do tend to do things without thought to long range consequences much to my regret. Love and xxxx, Lily

[Gurly]

I doubt there are any crossdressers who haven't purged.

[Bernadina]

I doubt there are any crossdressers who haven't purged.

I've never purged or ever had a desire to do so.

Why would I. I don't feel guilty. I'm not hiding anything from my wife.

Occassionally, we cull the closets and drawers as we are continually running out of room, holding onto things that we don't want anymore or won't ever wear again.

But purge? Absolutely not.

[Angie G]

Way to go NickyJane god I hate that word purge it just nasty Iwill never do it again you can't make me:Angry3:
Angie G.

[Deanna2]

When it comes to purging you need won't power, not will power.

[Tanya K]

Well ever sense I told my wife and she has been very very cool with it (she even got me pantys and a nighty) About a week or 2 later the gilt and shame set in and was thinking maybe I will just stop But I really know better so I am just going to give it time I love to still look at what I want but just have not been in the mood to dress ( + alot of othere things going on to ) Good luck

[Jena11]

Well, I once in my lifetime purged my things but, I was young and did not have much. When I was married and had quite a bit my wife pruged them when I was out of town and came home to it. It was very stressful and I was deeply depressed for quite some time. After our marriage ended, I have never purged again except for clothes that do not fit. If at all possible give them to a friend or donate to the goodwill. At least they will go to a good home. Jena:love:

[Tina Dixon]

Ok Ok I have the feeling now my self, with my wife losing her job and things being a little tighter at home and here feeling low I have a feeling of tossing ever thing out right now, but I'm doing my best to fight the urge.

[ronni white]

Good morning,
I have never felt the need to purge.
I just get rid of things that I no longer have an interest in.
That keeps the closet managable.


Ronni

[bgirl]

I didn't tell the then to be wife about it and purged instead. One of many purges I might add. It still came back and I had mini binges and mini purges as well. Six years later it was time to tell the truth. For some reason I thought love was the cure. Love does many wonderous things but it didnt cure the desire. It seems its part of me. Love did bring some understanding and we are still together.

[dee-liscious]

I have purged a few times....
I too have a lovely wife that doesnt know and I am so scared of her freaking and leaving. Its a difficult balance between the love of your partner and the feelings we cant supress. (I know I cant tell her). I always feel strong after a purge and vow never to dress again....BUT you cant help those feelings coming back after a few days. Its a crazy world eh!

[Olivia]

While I have purged before, many years ago, I would never do it again. If I did, then all I would have to wear would be "his" ol' guy things! :( Yuck! Think before you do it young sisters. Take all the good advice that's been offered-store your clothes away-don't throw them away. Later, Olivia.

[Jasmine Ellis]

Looking back now aren't you just glad you didn't

[Melissa A.]

The next time I purge..it's going to be those drab ol' male clothes! :heehee:
to make room for more skirts, dresses, and tops!




THAT'S the way to purge.

Hugs,

Melissa:happy:

[Shelly Preston]

Can we make Purging Illegal on the grounds of cost

[Siobhan Marie]

Can we make Purging Illegal on the grounds of cost

Please! I've done it too many times, the financial cost, awful and the emotional cost, unbearable.

Nicky Jane, I'm so glad you didn't purge, its not really not a good thing to do.

:hugs: Anna x

[TexasBG]

There is a power that comes from purging but the conditions that usually allow one to purge don't last and the need to CD comes back as strong as ever.

The biggest error in purging is that this is not something that can be thrown away. Wherever you go, the need to be dressed up in whatever manner you desire goes as well. I learned long ago that trying to kill something inside you makes it stronger. What is there doesn’t want to be killed off and it will put up a terrific fight for its life.

My suggestion is always to hide things away or pack things away, because if throwing things away was a solution, there wouldn't be anyone here.

[Lacey]

I can't tell you how many times I have purged all my things over time. I myself am fighting the urge right now. My most recent ex g/f has kinda showed interest again and the utge came back instantly. She was alright about the dressing but didn't really want to see me fully as Lacey. But she did make love to me wearing her nighties and panties a few times.:heehee: We're going to the lake this weekend with her kids and my daughter. I'm not putting alot into it because we are EX's for a reason. But we have remained really close since the breakup last christmas. So the purge urge is strong but I combatted it by ordering some pink keds I've wanted for awhile this morning. :D So keep fighting the good fight gurl! Cya, Lacey.:hugs:

[sparks]

Can't count the purges. The items I miss. I'm CRYYYINNG OVER YOU.
Just stick em back in the closet I seem to make it back there frequently enough. Do or die.
The last quit I almost made something like two and a half months nad most likely would have went longer but I went for the comfort zone when I got layed off. To much time on my hands.

[Wendy me]

glade you did not purge i tryed it before and gathered all my stuff ... it would have filled my truck and more ... looking at it all i thought there is no way in hell i can go through with this.......

[Wendy me]

Ok Ok I have the feeling now my self, with my wife losing her job and things being a little tighter at home and here feeling low I have a feeling of tossing ever thing out right now, but I'm doing my best to fight the urge.




OK silly if things are going to be tight ..... and if you do something silly like purgeing ..... now think silly .... yar that's right !!!!! your going to end up a naked crossdresser.....:eek: :eek: :tongueout :tongueout

[myMichelle]

Been there, done that! Like so many other sisters, I have purged in the past. Also like so many others, I am resolved never to purge again if I can possibly help it. I think what you're experiencing is just an inescapable part of being a male (to female) crossdresser. Putting your femme things in the loft until the urge passes is probably your best defense. Good luck.

[Sam-antha]

Tina, keep a tight hold on reality, just go virtual for a time.
I have things that I do not want, definitely, worn once things and they have been told never again will I wear you lot. I still have them, since I learned the hard way, ie before a move and after a move.
Someone metnion Spag Bol. I am just tucking into some Spag Ecossaise.
Minced Venison, straight off the hill as of Tuesday and for colour I have added a few peas. It looks a bit wierd, the venison being such a dark brown.
But it is so good.
~Samm

[DonnaT]

I've never purged, thank goodness. Heck, I've still got a pair of wedge heels (who knew they'd come back in style) that are 31 years old. Shame the leathers starting to crack.

[immike]

My purging days are over, Hon. Did it three times. Last time was a big one and cost me a lot both in money and emotional costs. Always better to take it easy and get perspective on things. Ericka
I will purge at a moments notice,to keep from being caught

[Snookums]

I purged once,it cost me thousands of dollars

[Snookums]

I've never purged, thank goodness. Heck, I've still got a pair of wedge heels (who knew they'd come back in style) that are 31 years old. Shame the leathers starting to crack.

Donna try a product called Lexol,it's a cream made just for leather,it will restore the leather but will not get rid of the cracks,I have a pair of leather heels I bought in Spain in 1975,have used lexol on them forever,and they are still just like new.
Tandy leather stores carry Lexol.

[Nicole24]

Shortly after telling my girlfriend about my crossdressing i felt very guilty.
I dont know why i felt guilty i just did, i decided i would stop dressing and be 'all man' for her. I sold my female items on e-bay, packed them up and sent them away.

Well to cut a long story short i lasted about a day before i felt like part of me was missing (not a nice feeling) and day by day the urges got stronger until i had to stard buying and dressing again.

I really wish i hadnt sold the lot as i miss most of the clothes i had. Plus it was damn expensive starting all over again.

[Dominique Melt]

These feelings will come and go ... I think the trick is to know that the essence always remains and that purging is akin to a reflex or reaction, such as when we touch a hot surface. The first impulse is to remove the painful object or stimulus. But as others here have said, purging is wasteful and it leaves a sad taste in the mouth, not to mention the emotional and economic costs. I, too, have purged several times, and I regret it with a remorse that is truly deep. Let your feelings run their course; this is important. And you did a wise thing by stowing your gear away, out of sight, until the feelings faded.

[princessmichelle]

Nicky Jane,

Congratulations on not purging.

When I read your posts I began to be afraid about your ggf: will her reaction be worse if you wait to tell her?

Purging and dating are two ways in which cd can complicate our lives. I don't have any answers but do wish you luck.

"princess" Michelle

[REBECCA62]

God I cant tell you how much of an urge I have had the last few days to purge:( I started feeling guilty because my GGF was coming round for a few nights. Managed to resist the urge and instead I put all my clothes, hemp breast forms and make up in a big sports bag and hid it in the loft knowing full well that I would regret it if did!

Anyway had a fantastic time with GGF (some amazing sex!) and am back home alone so to speak. Still felt the urge so kept everything hidden until I came back on here and started reading some of my previous posts, then up into the loft i went! ! !

So I'm now sitting back having just cooked spag bo whilst dressed and now enjoying a glass of wine before I take a long slow bath with lavender bubbles and get ready for an early night!

Nicky Jane

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PS: Got some very sexy glossy hold ups from E Bay and they feel amazing! ! !
Have you seen the price of frocks and wigs? Just keep hiding it until you can get round to tellin her. And do work out a way or else you will probably regret it girl. You never know she might surprise you. There are enough of us on here to offer advice on how we told an 'so' at one time or another. Good luck, dont purge, stay femme all the way.lots of love and support.rebecca

[AprilMae]

Done a few purges over the years, mainly not out of guilt, just because I would lose interest from time to time, Sometimes I would go for a few moths to a couple of years. But I never shredded or destroyed the clothes. Usually I sent them to the Salvation Army or Goodwill> One time I went down to the Laundry Room in my apartment, washed and folded everything, put it on the table and keft. Over the span of a few days all the items were gone, I guess some of my neighbors liked them.

[Ashley Helen]

This is an old thread but I thought I might throw my experience in for good measure. I am totally in the closet.
We moved from England to Spain in 2003. The fem items I did have were purged because I didn't know what the future held. We moved out of our house and were homeless. The majority of our possessions were in storage and the remainder were in the car on their way to Spain.
There was no space in the car for Helen's things and elsewhere would have meant the removal men packing them, then who would unpack them at the other end? I purged the lot!
Since arriving in Spain I have managed to obtain a few items of clothing but as the Spanish drive 'on the wrong side of the road' from England my wife has not driven far on her own. We go everywhere together (except when I play golf). It makes obtaining items very difficult. Also, I have yet to see a pair of female shoes in my size and have only seen one wig shop (when I was with my wife).
Mail Order you ask! We don't receive postal deliveries, instead have to go to the Post Office in the village - it's open 1 hour a day.
I will be handing out tissues at the door.

Love

Helen xx

[Vivian Best]

I've purged at least three times in my almost 60 years of dressing! The last time, lasted maybe 10 hours! I then realized how expensive it was. I had destroyed movies that I would never be able to replace and breastforms worth over $450.00 and many many other things. Made a pact with myself that I would never purge again and haven't!

[Lisa Renee]

Yes it does seem that purging is part of being a CD, I don't know how many times I have purged over the years. But I do know now that I won't ever do it again, I haven't thrown any thing away, except for things I have worn out, a couple of bras and some panties, and well a couple of things that don't fit anymore. But all in all my days of purging are over.

[Kristen Marie]

This has been so helpful in reading. I have purged several times and each time I swore it was the last. While it has been expensive, that's not the point. Kristen is still here. Sometimes she is quiet, but she is still here. I have not purged in several years, but like so many others, have thrown out over used garments (except for a couple of favorites...)

[malindaj007]

I've purged a over a dozen times in the past 15 years or so. It's expensive to replace and sometimes you get rid of a great outfit never to be found again, so sad :(

[carolinebrookes]

Hi Nickyjane,

I purged once when I was moving house. I threw all my clothes, wigs etc in the bin. I regretted it within a couple of weeks. The urge to dress will always be there and purging just costs in the long run.
Now if I feel the urge to purge, I pack it all up and put it under the house where it's quite difficult to get to. When the feeling to dress comes back, I have a lot of hassle to bring it back up, not to mention wash it all. This means that my desire to dress is strong enough and I also then feel glad that I didn't purge.

Hope this helps

Caroline

[Bunny_B]

I've thrown so many clothes (and ermm.. more private things) out.

Always regret it. Not least for how much some of it has cost me.

And sometimes, just like someone trying to quit smoking, I've been seen rummaging through the bins the next night trying to get back that 'pack of cigarettes' (or more likely wig and panties).

As we speak, I have ZERO fem clothes. But Christmas might be coming early..

[ellieparsons]

I've purged a couple times before, lost my favorite pair of heels doing that, plus its really expensive doing it, having to buy everything over again.

[suzy]

I have never had the urge to purge....so I can't imagine how terrible of a feeling it must be. I am so glad, however that you didn't toss away all of your things... hiding them makes much more sense...and as long as you don't feel like dressing they will still be there. But should you change your mind....then you know where they are!!! :love: