View Full Version : Taking more risks
melody
12-09-2004, 06:28 AM
Okay, this may be a bit of a rant, and I understand completely if you don't want to respond to this, as I don't usually post here, I am an extreme intravert.
I seem to be taking more risks, doing things far more daring than I used to since I began visiting this board. I feel compelled to tell my family about my CDing tendancies a lot of the time I talk to them now. I never really gave much thought to crossdressing before I started reading about others experiences with CDing here. I always saw it as a part of my personality that I would rather be without, and tried to hide it under personas which I thoroughly dislike, which are so against my being that I resent living them.
What I am trying to say is this board has brought about a change in me. I know I don't post much but I do read as much as I can of what is posted here.
Does anyone else have some positive changes brought about from this board?
Amelie
12-09-2004, 07:09 AM
I think I went in the other direction. i have become more negative in my behavior.
I can understand what you are saying. I see this with a few others here. What I see is this. It seems like a few here are influnced in a positve manner because of this forum. Which might not be a good thing. It seems some are rushing things about their dressing and even transistioning. There is so much good feedback from this forum, sometimes the harshness of the real world is missing and a false feeling of good comes to some. I,m not saying we should be mean to each other, just we shouldn't rush things because of good feedback from this forum.
If someone here is thinking of transistioning, don't rely soley on this forum. You have to go out dressed many times before a descision like transistioning is made. You have to face the harshness of the outside world. this forum is good but it won't toughen you up for dressing in public.
All you have to do is look at the "hot or Not" threads, there you will see only a small part of interacting with outside of this forum. Cding is a little tougher outside of this forum.
This is only my opinion, from what i read in these threads. All I suggest is that you think before you act. Take your time. Find out what is or isn't needed to be done. For instance, is it needed to tell others, why not just keep it a private hobby. Is it needed to go out, why not just stay home. Ask yourself, what is right for me, not what this forum might tell you.
Once again this is only my opinion.
Amelie
Christiane
12-09-2004, 09:13 AM
I only joined the forum a short time ago, as well. Like you my initial reaction was to rush forward impetuously but I've backed off of that a lot. The feeling of being among girls like me for the first time was and is very intoxicating. But Amelie is correct and she and other girls gave me similar advice. Go slowly. Be sure before you act.
In the meantime all of us a here to help. Enjoy the forum.
Love,
Christiane
Vallari
12-09-2004, 11:09 AM
I think I went in the other direction. i have become more negative in my behavior.
I can understand what you are saying. I see this with a few others here. What I see is this. It seems like a few here are influnced in a positve manner because of this forum. Which might not be a good thing. It seems some are rushing things about their dressing and even transistioning. There is so much good feedback from this forum, sometimes the harshness of the real world is missing and a false feeling of good comes to some. I,m not saying we should be mean to each other, just we shouldn't rush things because of good feedback from this forum.
If someone here is thinking of transistioning, don't rely soley on this forum. You have to go out dressed many times before a descision like transistioning is made. You have to face the harshness of the outside world. this forum is good but it won't toughen you up for dressing in public.
All you have to do is look at the "hot or Not" threads, there you will see only a small part of interacting with outside of this forum. Cding is a little tougher outside of this forum.
This is only my opinion, from what i read in these threads. All I suggest is that you think before you act. Take your time. Find out what is or isn't needed to be done. For instance, is it needed to tell others, why not just keep it a private hobby. Is it needed to go out, why not just stay home. Ask yourself, what is right for me, not what this forum might tell you.
Once again this is only my opinion.
Amelie
I have to agree with Amelie on this. The HotorNot threads are a good example of a real world situation. I think this is why so many are liking the HotorNot website less and less because there's millions of people with millions of views/opinions there to judge you and they usually arent as kind as many are here (Im including the moderators too when i say this).
Think before you act definitely though. This is your life your dealing with and when it comes to things like disclosing to your family or transitioning or any one of those situations, its usually a one way deal - so choose carefully. Think long and hard and do other things besides this forum to discover yourself.
DonnaT
12-09-2004, 11:45 AM
So far everyone is in agreement!
One thing to keep in mind, however, is whether or not you are out-and-about. If you are going out dressed anything can happen to you, accident, illness, car breaks down, etc. You may find your self in need of calling someone you know or a family member. If you are "dressed" what will their reaction be? Keeping that in mind, you may want to confide in someone you can trust and who you are fairly confident will accept your CDing.
Other than that, you need to weigh your need to divulge this information against potential losses.
I know I've wanted to discuss it with my Mom, but my wife doesn't want me to. There is no real need for me to discuss it, though, so I have done as my wife asked, even though I am 100% sure she will accept it.
Rachel_740
12-09-2004, 03:05 PM
Does anyone else have some positive changes brought about from this board?
Hi Melody,
I have certainly benifited an untold amount from the support of the girls here. So much that I've really gained the confidence to be myself and after xmas it's out with him and I become Rachel :) :D :)
Rachel
Jenna1561
12-09-2004, 03:32 PM
Hi Melody,
I am experiencing similar feelings and actions. I connected with this forum in October and now, 2 months later, find myself desiring to dress more often and wanting to go out and be seen. I live deep in red neck country of Oklahoma, and getting caught could turn ugly.
I venture out about once every two weeks, and do so in the daytime, as my family life (they don't know) precludes me from doing so in the evening. I take along a quick change bag, with a change of clothes and makeup remover - just in case.
This forum is a positive influence in my life and I enjoy the cybercompany of the girls on this forum. But yes, I do take more chances - almost caught by wife 2 days ago , when she came home in the middle of her workday. Fortunately, I hide my tracks as I go, so a mad dash to the bathroom, disrobe and stash the clothing and wig, hop in the shower, and begin furously scrubbing off the makeup.
Bathroom's steamy and she comes in and says hi. I turn off the shower and stick my head out and talk to her. She's heading back to work - will see me at 4:00pm. Kept my hands behind the shower curtain - nails polished up in the prettiest Parisian Pink! Don't have the foggiest as to what I would've done about the nails, if she were home for the day.
Anyway - be careful at home and particularly when out en femme.
Love,
Jenna
Nikki A.
12-09-2004, 05:57 PM
In realizing that you are not alone there is a euphoria and you want to go out and do all the things that you've been told are wrong. That is the good thing about this forum.
Of course society is not as open as we would like it to be, just ask Jenny and you must be careful who and where you come out to. Some of the girls here might have no problem passing as GGs but some of us (me included) will never pass easily if at all. I enjoy the forum and would like to meet some of you and have a great time as dressed up as we care to be and go where we want to go. Hey imagine 50 CDers all walking into some redneck bar.
Tristen Cox
12-10-2004, 05:33 AM
Okay, this may be a bit of a rant, and I understand completely if you don't want to respond to this, as I don't usually post here, I am an extreme intravert.
I seem to be taking more risks, doing things far more daring than I used to since I began visiting this board. I feel compelled to tell my family about my CDing tendancies a lot of the time I talk to them now. I never really gave much thought to crossdressing before I started reading about others experiences with CDing here. I always saw it as a part of my personality that I would rather be without, and tried to hide it under personas which I thoroughly dislike, which are so against my being that I resent living them.
What I am trying to say is this board has brought about a change in me. I know I don't post much but I do read as much as I can of what is posted here.
Does anyone else have some positive changes brought about from this board?
Yes. For me this place has helped me find more happiness than I can say I remember in a very long time. I've found friends, come out about who I am, decided that i wanted to transistion, and even found love. Not to mention all that I've learned along the way. This site has given me so much, as I hope it will bring to you.
Love & hugs
Tristen
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