Unbelievable thing happened to me

[Nicole_P]

I need to tell you all something I just found out about an hour ago. I was at a reunion of sorts with some friends from high school (an annual golf tourney really) and 2 of my sisters and my mom were there. I had planned on telling my sister (one year older) about Nicole on this trip as things have been happening with my wife and I and things might get back to my mom (whom I didn't want to tell)- So, I had a moment and told her. She was shocked, but not why you would think. Her ex-husband who she just recently divorced a few years ago-(they were married for 17 years-3 daughters) is probably TS!!!! And she hasn't told a soul accept my mom until she told me! She had been living with this secret for years! THEN, when my sister told my mom about her husband, my mom proceeded to tell her 'You married your father, he was a crossdresser too!! My Dad!!! I was shocked! My sister still loves the guy, but he has drank himself into such a depression over it and sort of just put her aside. All because he is TS- and she couldn't tell anyone! She was so relieved I told her. She said 'you need to be who you are!' We hugged and said we loved each other for about 5 minutes while crying tears of joy. It was surreal. Can you imagine?? I'm still sort of in shock. I suspected my dad might have been a CD when I was in high school when I found him putting on pantyhose before a football game. He just said they help his legs stay warm which made sense to me, but me being who I was I thought 'is he?'. Anyway, now it has been confirmed. The stress of it probably killed him as he died at a young 55. So sad- he took his secret to the grave (accept for my mom).

Well, I'm not going to let that happen- People are going to know Nicole! You just never know what you're going to find out when you start telling people :eek:

Nicole

[Melissa Ryan]

That is quite ironic! I hope this news helps all of you to get through life! Good luck! :happy:

[Clare]

WOW! And they say crossdressing is not hereditary!

Good to hear the news went well with your Sister and Mom. Perhaps you can all support one another now. I'm sure it will be easier for you to let Nicole loose on society and family also now!

I'm happy things are going well for you.

[Ginagirl]

That is unbelievable!!
Wow
I' can't imagine...... Ya know it makes you think. I always said that if my family ever made a comment about my shaven legs that I would tell them to look at my fathers..... Hmmmmm. I just kinda thought that for what ever reason he doesn't have any hair on his legs...... I wonder...... I may have to explore this further.

Thank You for sharing this news..... I think it's great. Hopefully it's even better for you

[Natasha Anne]

The stunning coincidences aside, it's stunning to think how lucky you are to have a family that appears to be in a position to be supportive. That is going to be so helpful.

[Sarahgurl371]

Nicole I am so glad to hear about your family's acceptance. And the coincidence is absolutley out there.

[Michelle Ellis]

Certainly strange how things turn out sometimes. It was touching to hear how well your mom took the news. I can only imagine.

M

[Katrina]

Wow! That's an absolutely amazing set of coincidences. Congrats on having the "good cry" and not the bad one. That's what I'm hoping for sometime soon.

[Nicole_P]

Thanks for replying gals~ Yes, it was quite a revelation that I'm still in shock over. It will be intersting to see how my mom reacts. I'll let you know, but I can't imagine she wouldn't be accepting after all she's been through. The journey goes on!

Big hugs-
Nicole

[Sophia Rearen]

That's an awesome story. I wish all you ladies well.

[Angie G]

HI Nicole hope your mom is cool with the news :hugs:
Angie G.

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

Pretty amazing coincidence!

But mainly I'm glad you're family is supportive.

[cindianna_jones]

Nicole,

This is absolutely amazing. You are very fortunate to have people in your family to experience this first hand. Sometimes it is that way... the people you fear sharing your secret with the most are your best supporters.

You go girl!

Cindi

[Nicole_P]

Update- I talked with my mom last night on the phone. Her first words were 'Why didn't you tell me sooner?' I said- dah mom- no way! She understood why I didn't but was also sad that I carried the secret myself all those years. Bottom line- She accepts me and wants me to be happy! :D But can you imagine- we were both carrying a secret that if told would have set us free- go figure. At least it's out now thank god. She also told me that the day my father died, he was wearing her underwear. She also said that just before that she had ordered a big dress for him so that he would quit stretching and wrecking hers. He also tore up many of her pantyhose- BUT she loved him and couldn't imagine her life without him. Way cool. He said he would do anything for her as long as she allowed him to dress. He even wore her nightgowns to bed, and even 11 kids later no one ever knew accept my mom.

I have also been in contact with my sisters ex-husband, and I plan on helping 'her'heal. She has been hating herself since she was 5 years old, and is now 53! She used to get beat all through high school for dressing. She was from a very macho big wig in the community family. I couln't believe what she told me. My guess is she is TS as she wanted to go full time in high school, but was turned down because she still liked her penis. I will keep you posted on her life, but right now I will start with acceptance.

Again, thanks gals for the responses-
Hugs-
Nicole

[Ginagirl]

Well Nicole,
Just goes to show....... Enjoy this current event and don't just let it pass by without celebration.

[Sophia Rearen]

He even wore her nightgowns to bed, and even 11 kids later no one ever knew accept my mom.
Nicole

Maybe she should have taken the nightgown away sooner? Holy cow!

[cindianna_jones]

Nicole,

For me, that was the most difficult thing to do... .come out to my parents. Fortunately, the gossip chain got to them so I didn't have to tell them myself. I don't know how I could have ever told them up front. I wrote my book to help my mother and kids better understand me.

So, bear with me for a little on the fly prose just for you...

You are now free to fly
from now on you'll never need
question why
you can't do the things
you were born to do.

Remove your shackles and drop the chains.
From now on you'll not not feel the pains
of hiding your secrets so dreary.

Life is now yours to enjoy
to treasure each moment
where you're not a boy.
You can explore your feelings and dreams
you've longed for.

Lift your spirits and away you'll fly.
Open your wings and you'll know why
what it means to be whole.

Cherish the moment that you divulged
your secrets to those you love.
You know they'll be with
you for the rest of the ride.
A time you'll no longer hide
your inner soul.

May you enjoy your life doll.

Cindi