Advice/Help

[LilDolly87]

Hey, I need advice/help I'm a 19yo bi male that want to be a girl very bad (ever since I was 8) and I've decided after many years of concideration research on the internet about this issue and long talks with friends that it's time for me to take the risk and go for it but I don't know where to start. I'm asking all of u wonderfull people to point me into the right direction. Where do I need to start my transfomation into the beautyful woman I see myself as? +?

[~Dee~]

that would depend on what you are trying to pursue.
there are many different avenues that a person might be able to take, and depending on what they want to happen will also change where you should go talk.

i think that most people will tell you to go seek therapy first, talking with a councellor who has experience or speciality in gender issues pertaining to transexualism might help you. it may allow you to understand things better and help you in that research that you spoke of.

personally when i started to transition i went to my local doctor (just my General Practitioner) first and had a little talk with him. he was able to refer me to an endocrinologist in order to seek out hormones, as well as refer me to a psychiatrist in order to obtain my little piece of paper that specifies that i have gender identity issues and no other maladaptive mental concerns.

i do not know how it is in the states, but here the GP is the one who is going to be the ring leader .. s/he is the one who refers you to all the other specialists/consultants .. so to me, they are the first port of call .. they should be able to recommend people to go see, people who specialise in this sort of thing.
they may also know of other councellors that you might want to see and talk with, if you find it hard to find a councellor on your own.

if you arent looking to jump onto that path, then you might want to look at other options ..
many people avoid hormones due to medical issues or health concerns/fears .. and so you may speak to your GP and find that you do not wish to take that chance, and therefore do not require the endocrinologist anymore.

if anything else, if you have facial hair, you are probably going to want to get rid of that .. which means any form of hair removal techniques .. most popular seems to be electolysis .. though you can look at such other treatments like IPL or Elos.

umm, ... i cant think of what else ..
but id say that hair removal (due to the time involved) is a good place to start .. as well as either a councellor or your GP .. and they should be able to help you .. provided you've found nice helpful people.

im sure ive forgotten something and others will jump on and shout them out too ..

if you are still lost you could always pm me.

D.

[GypsyKaren]

I would definately seek out a therapist who specializes in gender issues. If nothing else they will be able to guide you on the journey you choose, and at the very least help you to confirm that's the way you should and want to go.

There are different options you know. Yes, you can go the medical route if that's what you find best for you, but it's not a necesity. I'm non-op and don't do hormones, and I am very happy with my life as Karen and with the direction I'm heading. You may find this alternative might work for you too, that's where I think having someone to talk to can be of great help, getting a little help with guidance on such things never hurts.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best, and we're always here for you if need be.

Karen

[cindianna_jones]

Have you gone out dressed en femme yet? If you have, is it comfortable for you or is it arousing?

In addtion to the excellent advice of finding a qualified therapist, you can also experiment a bit. I caution you to be carefull. Do not engage in sexual activity and don't chase the boys. You can get killed that way. Also, stay out of the restrooms until you can pass fairly well. Just going out shopping can be a gas.

Cindi

[LilDolly87]

Yeah I've dressed in femme a couple of times I go out with some friends when ever I do to insure some small since of security it gives me a small amount of satisfaction. I haven't made the mistake of trying to use a public restroom yet and I'm to shy to make an advance on a guy so haven't tried but some have been made on me by acouple of hispanic fellows in my apartment complex. (There pretty cute to.) and I don't really know where to seek therapy. I've looked for some places online.