When men stare...

[Stephanie Kay]

When you are en femme and a man stares at you or keeps on looking over at you with a glance that seems to linger he is usually not admiring you as a woman. A lot of men envy you because secretly they would like to try CDing but don't have the nerve and so just keep looking and wishing:happy: !! What do you think?

[Priscilla Ann]

In my opinion, I don't think most men that are looking are wishing they could crossdress. Men look. When they see something that doesn't seem right, they stare. Once again...just my opinion.

[CarmenG]

when i stare at a woman, i look at what she is wearing first, then i look at her. when i stare at another cd, i admire the fact she has the courage to go out in public. i've been at both ends of the stares. but who care outside of you... but when they stare and make cat calls of how good you look and whistle and say all those disgusting things...... damn that feels good..... but those cheese heads up your way may be different, either way sweetheart hang tough and just keep on keeping on......:hugs:

[Phoebe Reece]

Stephanie,
Like most generalizations, sometimes it's true and sometimes not. Given that in a large sampling of the population, there are going to be some CD's present, it stands to reason that some of those taking a longer look are CD's themselves. But also, some men will be attracted by anything in a skirt (whether they know it's a CD or not), so a lingering look from them may have an entirely different meaning. And then there are those who, for whatever reason, seem threatened by the idea of a crossdressed male. They will often stare because they just can't believe they actually saw one of us. Unless you talk with them, you really can't know what they are thinking.

[Kimberly]

... or they could have just read you.

In which case - make the situation worse!! Go over and hit on him!!



- No no. Not hit him.

Oh dear.

[Dee 1062]

Men look because they want me :)

[lostmyhubby GG]

lol Dee you give yourself so much credit, how do you do it?? how do you actually know they want you and not find you disgusting and a embarassment to the male species?

[Kate Simmons]

I think whatever their reason Steph, I eat it up. Guess it's the woman in me. Ericka:happy:

[noname]

Nothing is creepier to me than some guy checking me out. I never try to pass so I know he's not thinking I'm a chick. I had one guy follow me around the store. c r e e e e p y

[Deidra Cowen]

Sometimes I get guys looking at me and I can tell they are attracted to me...thats because I got them fooled. Usually for me thats when I am in my car but not always! :p

Sometimes they lear at me...that happened for example at Walmart and at the Grocery store. They knew i was a tranny...got a lot of that the last time I went to a Str8 bar. :eek:

Then a whole bunch of time I just blend in and no one really bothers checking out the middle aged chick walking thru the mall....or so I hope! :tongueout

[Matty]

When you are en femme and a man stares at you or keeps on looking over at you with a glance that seems to linger he is usually not admiring you as a woman. A lot of men envy you because secretly they would like to try CDing but don't have the nerve and so just keep looking and wishing !! What do you think?

Sounds very silly !



Honestly I've never seen a cd in public, but if I did I would stare.

Regards
Matty

[GINA-CD]

I stare when I find something I like or dislike, you could say I stare if there's something worth staring at...

and you can read someone's face when he/she's staring at you... is he attracted? puzzled? angry? jealous? maybe it's me, but I find it easy to read their faces...

[cindianna_jones]

I just grin and give them a look that says: You have no hope of getting any of this sweetheart.

One time, as I was entering a convenience store dressed in tight jeans and a pink tank top, a fellow was coming out. He said "Gawed, I'd do anything to have you." I responded with "I'm sorry honey, but I'm not doing miracles today." He nearly choked with laughter. He held the door open for me as I entered and we never saw each other again.

;)

Cindi

[Karren H]

I never notice!!! Have that stuck-up, I'm better than you female thingy going...hehehe

Love Karren

[Tina Dixon]

I need to go out more to find out.

[Kate Simmons]

I need to go out more to find out.They DO notice Tina. I catch them looking all the time. Ericka

[kathy gg]

I think there are 4 many reasons a guy might stare

1) Yes Stephanie, Jealousy. Some guys probably do wish they could do it, but either are too scared or have supressed it

2) they are into what the porn industry calls :she-males and don't know a cd from a ts. Or are true tranny chasers and are liking you because they know you are a guy dressed as a girl.

3) they find it apalling and strange or against god...or something negative and the staring is just meant for meanness.

4) BAMM !! you fooled them really really well and they are looking at you because they think you are gg and find you attractive

[LindaTS]

I do most of my shopping in the Utica/New Hartford, NY area and very few women wear skirts or dresses when out during the daytime. Most wear jeans of shorts, depending on the weather, so this is what I usually wear when I go out. The big difference is that I always wear heels and most of them don't. When I do wear a skirt I can always be assured that the men will stare, starting with my legs and working up. They're not trying to figure out if I'm a guy or woman, they just want to look at me. It always happens with skirts. Let's face it, men are very predictable.

[Jasmine Ellis]

when a man stares just keep walking

[nettiereno GG]

Hi,

I think that if you are a CD that can pass, perhaps they find you attractive; if a CD that is an obvious CD, perhaps they are surprised and/or curious.

Annette

[myMichelle]

Sometimes I get guys looking at me and I can tell they are attracted to me...thats because I got them fooled. Usually for me thats when I am in my car but not always! :p

Sometimes they lear at me...that happened for example at Walmart and at the Grocery store. They knew i was a tranny...got a lot of that the last time I went to a Str8 bar. :eek:

Then a whole bunch of time I just blend in and no one really bothers checking out the middle aged chick walking thru the mall....or so I hope! :tongueout



Middle aged or not, you're one hot chick, Diedra. I bet the guys flcok to you!:D

Serously, though, I hate it when guys stare. Over the years, however, I have become a lot more comfortable with myself; Most times, I'm able to hold my head up and keep right on doing whatever. Sadly, that wasen't always the case. I used to really let people's reactions get to me.

I think people stare at anything that catches their attention. In our case, people stare because we as CDs dare to break just about every social norm ever devised! I think most people stare simply because our behaviour is so "outside the box" compared to most of society...Of course, there are definitely some who stare foor other reasons--and those are the people to be mindful of:2c:

[Kate Simmons]

Whatever the reason, I figure I'm worth a look. Ain't bad in my opinion either way. Ericka

[Becky Blue]

I once went to a fancy dress party, so naturally went as a girl, but had to make sure I did not give myslef away so makde sure i was not too femm looking, for example no base etc. I found more than 1 guy looking at me, I was wearing heels and fishnets, was clealry a guy, in a dress, but they couldnt help themselves.
Bec

[Stephenie S]

Geez girls, get a grip! Men stare at women.

I thought you wanted to present as a woman. If so, ya gotta take the good with the bad. This just goes with the territory. LOL. Ask any GG how she feels about this. Most don't really like it, but what can you do? It's a fact of life.

Do what Cindianna does, give 'em a nice smile and a "not in your wildest dreams" look and keep on walkin'.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[Tamara Croft]

Hmm.... I'm guessing they are looking at you to try and figure you out. Not because they 'want you' etc..... but probably because you have on caked makeup, or shocking blue eyeshadow :p dressed up like a tart..... dont deny it.... picture gallery doesn't lie ;) or they just really do not know what they are looking at..... confused.....

Women, they look, they sum you up and move on...... whereas guys..... they just carry on staring..... they enter that WTF stage ;)

[Lisa Golightly]

I remember the Eddie Izzard skit that the average bloke has a 1/5th of a personality so it is only when he has 4 other like minded types near him he can go 'Look... a bloke in dress!'

[DeniseNY]

Well, maybe they just like what they see from an aesthetic viewpoint. I'm guilty of that when not dressed.

Then other times, they are staring because you've been 'read'. That has happened to me. I've noticed that when I am not being read, the fellas just steal a glance and go on about their business. That's happened to me, too.

[Tonya-Anne]

I love it when men stare at me, its such a turn on, makes me feel so special

[ArleneRaquel]

In early June of this year at about 2:00 AM I was sitting on my front porch,wearing black bra,black mesh robe, back panties,shoes, Red Lipstick, and Red Wig. I walked to the sidewalk, near the curb, and "stuck a come hither pose"", a van with ( 4) 20 something year old boys stopped, and not only did they look, but they also wolf whistled and approached me until I waved them off .A little while later I did the same thing, as this van slowed down I turned away heading back to the porch, again whistles and a cry " can I have picture taken with you" I pulled down my robe beneath my arm pits and waved with my finger, " No, No ", and again sat in my chair, on the porch . That was a thrill !-An " old broad " can still get attention---Wonderful ! ! ! :love: From Katrina

[maid phylis]

dear stephanie ,you are 100%right last month our group cdi went on our summer boat ride the circle line here in new york city.we were all of us eleven girls sitting in the stern of the boat which is for smokers,i was sitting by the raili:love: :love: ng and in front of us there was a family enjoying the ride like us.as i was sitting and taking pictures i noticed the man in that group probally the father turning his head and looking directly at me .well i looked at him and smiled and he just kept looking so i ignored him .he was probably doing what every man does when he looks at us like that ,wondering what we are and probably wishing he could do the same thing,ps he was a real slob,,love phylisanne

[Julie York]

I think there are 4 many reasons a guy might stare

1) Yes Stephanie, Jealousy. Some guys probably do wish they could do it, but either are too scared or have supressed it

2) they are into what the porn industry calls :she-males and don't know a cd from a ts. Or are true tranny chasers and are liking you because they know you are a guy dressed as a girl.

3) they find it apalling and strange or against god...or something negative and the staring is just meant for meanness.

4) BAMM !! you fooled them really really well and they are looking at you because they think you are gg and find you attractive


phnaa phnaaa (Ref: Viz comic. UK)


I love reading your posts kathy because they are what I would have said if I were sober and less volatile.

[kwebb]

One of my first, few and only times out I was on the way out of the hotel when this delivery guy was on his way in. He stared and it scared my half to death 'cuz did not know what to expect or what the deal was.

Then I had to go back in and he saw me coming, opened the door for me (which still was one of the biggest thrills, which is pathetic- a damm door being opened,lol), then commented on my height. In those shoes would have been about 6'7". He was really flirty.

But looking back, and that was about 3 years ago. It seems like a different reality and a differnet person altogether. I'm sooo far removed from it its like I have to say wow, how did I even pull that one off?!!

[Calliope]

Generally, when men look I keep my mind focused on where I'm going. I guess I don't expect much good to come from the attentions of men. (I can easily talk rock&roll with men at my favorite bar, it's a small joint with a regular turnout and everyone there knows me).

What I do watch for are the signals women send out when they notice me. Usually these are pretty special moments - bemusement, approval, curiosity, benevolence are the usual gifts ... and I never tire of these little sparks of cautious distant connection.

My ultimate fantasy (if anyone wants to know) is getting read by Grace Slick and right as she's about to blurt out her usual blunt witticism, I go right up to her - and ...

... tell her all about her comeback album I'm gonna produce!

[Gooeymac]

I generally find guys dressed as women attractive and i will stare at a crossdresser for exactly the same reasons i stare at good a looking GG. On the exterior, i find that exactly the same things attract me in both groups. But it's what's underneath that really matters to me. Does that make me a 'tranny-chaser' ? I've never heard that phrase before

[MsJanessa]

lol Dee you give yourself so much credit, how do you do it?? how do you actually know they want you and not find you disgusting and a embarassment to the male species?

I'm with Dee---when men stare at Me they usually do want Me. How do I know this? Because they usually come over and tell Me so, after they have offered to buy Me a drink.

[MsJanessa]

Hi,

I think that if you are a CD that can pass, perhaps they find you attractive; if a CD that is an obvious CD, perhaps they are surprised and/or curious.

Annette

Or they are attracted to T-Girls---a lot of men prefer Us.

[Girly Sara]

I had what i thought was a 'creepy' guy eyeing me up and down at a tranny club here in London earlier this year. However, he approached me, asked if he could buy me a drink and was a real gentleman. No crude comments were made but told him i was spoken for and into women only. Found out he was a doctor who worked for a well known London hospital! hehe

I don't mind people staring at me, be it in admiration, curiosity or whatever. I'm enjoying myself too much to worry!

Sara xxx

[Robin Leigh]

I generally find guys dressed as women attractive and i will stare at a crossdresser for exactly the same reasons i stare at good a looking GG. On the exterior, i find that exactly the same things attract me in both groups. But it's what's underneath that really matters to me. Does that make me a 'tranny-chaser' ? I've never heard that phrase before

The term 'tranny-chaser' is often used negatively to refer to men who primarily want to have sex with CDs or pre-op TSs, but refuse to see themselves as gay. The term 'tranny-admirer' has much more positive connotations.

From what you've said here, I'd describe you as a bisexual man who is attracted to feminine people (I can dig that :)). It's rare for somone to be completely neutral about CDing, many people have a negative attitude towards it, some see it in a positive light. Unfortunately, people like yourself are the exception, rather than the rule.

Most crossdressers have some negative feelings themselves about CDing, especially when young. We might not have responded to the social programming in the standard way, but some of our societies' standard prejudices about gender deviance rubs off on us, especially if we grow up in a religious family, and attend religion-based schools. Learning to trancend this shame & guilt is a necessary part of the maturation of LGBT people. I'm pretty happy about myself now that I'm in my forties, but I still bear the emotional scars. :)

If more guys thought CDs were ok, I'd feel safer going out alone at night.

Robin

[Calliope]

Once in a while, I'll notice a guy - usually young, slim, hip (the rock&roll type) and I'll think, 'Hmmm, he's got the bod for crossdressing.'

[julie w]

yes Tamara women are very good at checking people out without them
knowing , If you are out wearing a skirt and look good guys will check you
out ,I find it easy to tell whether they have read you

.#1 If he is with his partner and hasnt read you he wont tell her he looked

#2 there s the is that a man or a women look you can usually tell because
they will appear slightly startled ,

#3 if they read you they may say somthing like hallo ladys and give a small
laugh ( has happened to me ) or a disgusted look,

I am sure people can add to this list

[nettiereno GG]

Hello dear,

I read your post, about flagging cars down at two AM, and it alarmed me. I think doing that could be dangerous, if you get the wrong group of guys to stop.

I was not going to say anything, but it troubled me that you might be putting yourself in a bad situation.

Annette

[Sky]

I think there are 4 many reasons a guy might stare
...
2) they are into what the porn industry calls :she-males and don't know a cd from a ts. Or are true tranny chasers and are liking you because they know you are a guy dressed as a girl.
...

Umm, quite unlikely. What you called tranny chasers -some prefer calling them just guys- don't stare at cds in the street.

[ArleneRaquel]

Hello dear,

I read your post, about flagging cars down at two AM, and it alarmed me. I think doing that could be dangerous, if you get the wrong group of guys to stop.

I was not going to say anything, but it troubled me that you might be putting yourself in a bad situation.

Annette

Thank You for the concern. I did that crazy thing just that one time. I don't drink or use use drugs, but one evening I just went nuts. I usually have more sense than that.:love: From Katrina - - - I've learned my lesson.

[jjjjohanne]

If I were to see a man en femme, I would probably take longer looks at him than I would a GG. The topic of CDing is just more interesting to me than many other topics. A car enthusiast would stare longer at a hot rod, a gun enthusiast might pay attention to an officer with a special weapon, etc... I am not interested in a physical relationship. I also might change my path in the store to watch and see how successful the CD is at passing. I would not follow them very far. I might even try to communicate, "me too," to them. I don't know if I would start a conversation.

Once I had the opportunity. I was in a book store and I saw some hose covered legs walk by. That is what got me into CDing, so I noticed it. I realized that the legs looked masculine. Sure enough it was a CD. He had short hair that was teased, makeup, hose, sandals, and a one piece shorts and top combo outfit. He was not very feminine, but he was out. I took note of where he was. A few minutes later, he moved to an aisle near where I was, so I went around the book shelf onto the same aisle as he and started looking at books near by. I was going to try to say, "hi," but he only stayed a few seconds and then went to the restrooms. I did not pursue or see him again.

To turn the situation around, I wore a skirt, hose, and heels with a man top to work for Halloween one year. One of the guys at work kept hanging around me. It was kind of creepy. I didn't talk to him about it. He definitely made me think that he must have an interest in this world to behave this way.

Another Halloween, I was enfemme and my wife was enhomme. I was wearing a dress that was a bit too short for my tastes, but my wardrobe was very limited... I had on sheer hose and heels. I think my legs looked very nice. We were at a Movie rental store. I looked at one of the clerks and noticed him looking at my legs. He immediately looked up. Later, I was approaching his cash register and again he was looking at my legs and immediately looked up. I didn't feel like he was likely a CD, but he at least liked shimmery legs. I wonder how many women have noticed me doing the same thing!

Joe

[Snookums]

I don't get stared at by men,but I sure get a lot of snickers,not the candy bar,from both men and women,sometimes women look at me with anger in their face sometimes men get violent.