bi_weird
08-14-2006, 01:46 PM
Well I've been nosing about on the ftm side of this site for a while, enjoying all of that, but I have something applicable for this side of the wall also.
Back when I still lived at home (I'm three years into college now) occasionally some of my clothing went missing. Now I'm the only girl with three brothers, so it wasn't a sister borrowing my clothes. Eventually I figured out that it was my younger brother. Mostly I just ignored it, not really knowing what to do, and figured out when to go into his room to retrieve things I needed. The closest I ever came to confronting him was after I found a dress stretched out. I left a note on my dresses, without naming him, asking him to please stop wearing them because he was damaging them.
Of course, now I live away from home. I don't keep track of what I left at my parents place, so I have no idea if he's still borrowing my stuff. I honestly haven't even thought about it much since moving out, until I started poking around the mtf forum for kicks while avoiding work.
Should I try to approach him about it? Maybe by talking to him about my identity issues? He's kinda a moody kid, seeing as how he's seventeen and male and weeks away from college stuck at home with his parents, so talking to him about anything is already a challenge, but I wonder if I should say something. I know how great it is to have someone accept you, but I don't want to get in his space, especially if it was a phase or if he's gonna get mad at me or somethign like that.
I dunno. I guess I can continue the status quo, but I wonder if I could be a better big sister by talking to him about it. Any advice would be welcome.
Back when I still lived at home (I'm three years into college now) occasionally some of my clothing went missing. Now I'm the only girl with three brothers, so it wasn't a sister borrowing my clothes. Eventually I figured out that it was my younger brother. Mostly I just ignored it, not really knowing what to do, and figured out when to go into his room to retrieve things I needed. The closest I ever came to confronting him was after I found a dress stretched out. I left a note on my dresses, without naming him, asking him to please stop wearing them because he was damaging them.
Of course, now I live away from home. I don't keep track of what I left at my parents place, so I have no idea if he's still borrowing my stuff. I honestly haven't even thought about it much since moving out, until I started poking around the mtf forum for kicks while avoiding work.
Should I try to approach him about it? Maybe by talking to him about my identity issues? He's kinda a moody kid, seeing as how he's seventeen and male and weeks away from college stuck at home with his parents, so talking to him about anything is already a challenge, but I wonder if I should say something. I know how great it is to have someone accept you, but I don't want to get in his space, especially if it was a phase or if he's gonna get mad at me or somethign like that.
I dunno. I guess I can continue the status quo, but I wonder if I could be a better big sister by talking to him about it. Any advice would be welcome.