Discovering Why

[kayla_cd_va]

Has anyone here experienced anything like this? I was curious about dressing and enjoyed it when I would put my moms stockings on when I was a teen. Now I am in my early 40's and into crossdressing in a pretty big way. As I look at why I desire it so much and want to be with other crossdressers and guys when I'm dressed is that I'm to small to please women in bed. I've always been very small. When I was in school I'd always be ashamed after gym class. Since I probably knew at some level that I wouldn't be good in bed with women I think I thought I could enjoy sex as a female. Maybe this all doesn't make sense but I wanted to see if this is a unique experience or if maybe someone else has had a similar experience.

huggs

K

[angelfire]

The thing is, size makes NO difference. Just know your anatomy, and know how to use what else you have. "Theres more than one way to skin a cat" as the saying goes, and there is more than 1 way to please a woman.

[Teresa Amina]

A funny one I heard once applies here- "It's not how deep you fish, but how you wiggle your worm" :D

[angelfire]

Or "its not the size of the wave, its the motion of the ocean"

But regardless, if you are good at giving oral to females, or are good with your hands, you can make up for any 'shortcomings'

[Karren H]

Well since most of us here started dressing at an early age, before we knew what sex with a woman was (I hopefully its not just me. Hehehe) I think your experience is unique, in my opinion. And I agree with Angel that size doesn't matter. I always considered myself smallish and that's a plus for a crossdresser but I have had more than a few girlfriends tell me otherwise..


So I don't know which came first, the chicken or the egg....I mean the small tool and percieved inability to pleasure women or the sexual attraction to the same sex, dressed enfemme or not?? Just wondering out loud here!!

Love Karren

[Atlanta Peach GG]

well since my spay job in 2002 I can't handle anything more than 2" anyway...........

Whooops!! Did I say that??? :GD:

[Stephacuse]

I think i discovered why i dress last week finaly, I think i do because i liek to be the center of attention a lot even as a guy, and what gets the attention of alot of people, a pretty girl of course.

[Calliope]

There's a million routes to dressing of course.

I can relate to the idea of this thread. I'm a bit smallish for a guy, which was a disadvantage in the macho scene. The idea 'I would have made a good woman' has persisted throughout my life.

Regarding sex, I have heard it said that big schlongs rarely receive oral. Gee, how crude - I'm blushing.

[Charleen]

Was always told that size don't matter. I ain't big, but my wife never complained, actually the opposite. I'm with Karren on this. My size had nothing to do with my CDing. When I started, didn't know about nothin' about sex. Just knew I loved putting on my Mom's stuff and wishing I was a girl so I could wear it all the time. Still do as a matter of fact, but that would be another post. Love and xxxx, Lily

[Stephenie S]

Dear Kayla,

It is too bad that you have reached your early 40s without learning that size has NOTHING to do with pleasing a woman in bed. As this is not a sex education forum, I cannot go too much further into this subject but as others have already mentioned it is very true. Perhaps some GGs here could reinforce this statement. It is even possible to be too big. Most of the time pain is not a turn on.

Sexual pleasure for most women has a very large mental component, and those who learn this have the most success in bed. A slam bam, thank you mam with a huge johnson may rate high in the porno industry but it carries little importance in the real world.

Lovies,
Stephenie.

[Phyliss]

In High School I had the nickname of "pencil point" for obvious reasons. I developed a cute way of "getting on" ......face first.

That isn't why I CD. As with many here it started with my Mother's clothing.

[Lisa Golightly]

What is it with boys and their things?... :)

[Jasmine Ellis]

don't worry about the size just worry about how to please her frist

[Kaitlynn]

Apparently only the first 2 inches of the vagina has any erotic feeling anyway, so I would agree, size doesnt matter.

[Helen MC]

To be honest although I am Hetero, have been married, and find women and not men sexually attractive I have never really liked penetrational sex and when I have done it I must have the woman on top so she is (if you excuse the rude word), shagging me rather than the other way around. I get far more enjoyment out of giving her cunnilingus and have often wondered if I had been a woman or had had GRS would I have been a Lesbian?