bit of a problem...

[KayleighTV_UK]

Hi everyone..

Just thought i would see if anyone could help me out!

You see, what it is.. tomrrow.. im going out, well not really going out, going around to my best friends house... and well, he wants Kay to go...

Now i know this sounds nice.. because it is ;) he has never met her before, and has always wanted to .. and now i finally get the courage .. ...

Problem.. i work in metal manafacture..and this afternoon i got caught in the face by a red hot shard of metal... and now i have rather noticable burn on my cheek..

Anyone know how i can cover it???? I want to go tomrrow.. but i look..well.. Horrible

A very confused and anoyed kayleigh X

[DonnaT]

Sorry to hear that Kay

I wouldn't cover it with anything, as it might get infected, not even a water proof bandage.

[Stephanie Brooks]

Geez Kayleigh, that's a tough one. So sorry about the injury!

I would NOT try to cover it with makeup. You risk harming the wound more, and in the long term you risk potentially worse scarring. Vanity must take second place to health.

Now, whether to go as Kayleigh or not. Hmmm...

One of the tech directors (one level below Vice President) in my company is a woman. She's bright, tough, and damned good looking. One day two years ago she was walking her dog, and in a freak accident, the dog apparently brought her off balance and she went face first into a large rock, taking out some of her teeth. Given what I know of her, the story is true (versus a coverup for abuse). For the month or so where she was having reconstructive dental surgery, she worked from home. For meetings, she teleconned. When she returned to the office, she still looked like a doll as if nothing happened.

She clearly needed to be able to function, but she minimized having people see her that way. Is it appropriate? Is it a bit excessive? Our company is certainly accommodating, even at the executive level; from experience, I know they are accommodating at the lower worker levels.

It's sad in some ways. Had that have been a man, he'd have been in the office, and most would think nothing of it. Society drives women to be beautiful to the point of it being a neurosis. In this case, a beautiful woman had been made ugly.

Here's another example.

My dentist does very nice work. He's an alpha geek of dentistry, one of the best. When he does crowns and onlays, he prefers to use gold, as it generally matches the hardness of teeth. He says he won't do a crown or onlay on a woman with gold exposed. In his experience, they don't like it and become self-conscious. Against his technical preference, he'll use porcelain (or other white material). Men don't care. Women don't want to believe they're ugly.

So, what to do?

He's your best friend. You certainly want to look your best! And now because of your burn, you believe you do not.

Personally, were it me, I'd probably go. I'd just be so damned excited to be doing it that I'd take the temporary blemish. as the one flaw I bring. No need to worry if the slip is on backwards or if a hair is out of place. I have the little blemish, nothing else will go wrong.

He knows you. He'll see beyond the blemish. Besides, he'll be looking at everything else. If you go, I have to think everything will go just fine.

In any case, think about it. There's reason and precedent for not going. There's also reason for going. Good luck in either case!!!!!!

[KewTnCurvy GG]

It's sad in some ways. Had that have been a man, he'd have been in the office, and most would think nothing of it. Society drives women to be beautiful to the point of it being a neurosis. In this case, a beautiful woman had been made ugly.

Or if the exec had been a not so beautiful woman. Don't think we ALL get special treatment cuz we're female (i.e., GG); it's simply not true!!

hugs
kew

[KayleighTV_UK]

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Personally, were it me, I'd probably go. I'd just be so damned excited to be doing it that I'd take the temporary blemish. as the one flaw I bring. No need to worry if the slip is on backwards or if a hair is out of place. I have the little blemish, nothing else will go wrong.

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Wow... thank you stepanie... that is one of the most down to earth answers i could have asked for.. i think your right, that i should look beyond it.. as you said, he's my best friend, and he will probably look beyond it!!

And i am excited... its all new to me, its been a while since i was able to be anywhere as Kay.. nows my chance!! i should take it with both hands!

A very happy Kayleigh X

[MistyCD]

you could call him on the phone and let him know what happend, and tell him you can't wear any makeup, or get a harem girl outfit with scarf and go as a jeannie

misty

[Paula A]

Kay;
Burns are tough healers please usa a burn ointment, not neosporin or something else, go get the good stuff made for burns. Burns need to be kept steral and clean but be allowed to breath. IF you only have a minor burn just redness and soreness like a mild sun burn, if its not bad you could cover it. if there is any blistering, seeping, or broken skin, get the burn cream and keep on, I worked is a steel fab shop and I have had some good ones, bets to let it heal right.

Kay dress up, do you eyes and areas not effected by the burn, but remember that you have to wash it off later. Put on some burn ointment on your wound and go out and have fun, he is your friend he will understand if you were hurt.

The bottom line is.. if you really want to go. go have fun.

[KayleighTV_UK]

Thank you all for your advice.. it means a lot to me..

Ive been thinking.. and ive come to the conclusion that its not my face that im going to show him.. its me.. whats inside my head! And its me he wants to see.. so burn or not, i can still be me right?

At the end of the day, i could hide and cover it, but that wouldnt be me? that would be me 'hiding' something..

So im gonna go.. put on my best dress.. or maybe a skirt/blouse.. not sure yet.. might roll out the little black dress that dosent cover much! he he.. (joke) either way, im going to be me.. and thats all that matters right?

Kay X

[Tristen Cox]

Thank you all for your advice.. it means a lot to me..

Ive been thinking.. and ive come to the conclusion that its not my face that im going to show him.. its me.. whats inside my head! And its me he wants to see.. so burn or not, i can still be me right?

At the end of the day, i could hide and cover it, but that wouldnt be me? that would be me 'hiding' something..

So im gonna go.. put on my best dress.. or maybe a skirt/blouse.. not sure yet.. might roll out the little black dress that dosent cover much! he he.. (joke) either way, im going to be me.. and thats all that matters right?

Kay X

You go girl! That's the spirit!

[Stephanie Brooks]

Go for it Sweetie, and have an enjoyable visit!

[Rikki]

Go for it Kay, He is your best friend and he won't notice the burn. Rikki