StephanieCD
12-17-2004, 03:54 PM
Hey all!
I haven't posted much lately - been going through a tremendous amount of personal life stuff :(
An interesting thing, though - because of somehting going on in my life I've been forced to move and, thusly, reevaluate me relationship. As we were having the "why won't you see me if you move away" discussion my GF got real emotional thinking it was her... when I really think I just need some space to sort out my CD stuff - I've been a codependant relationship junky my whole life.
So I told her about my CDing!
Oh my God that was emotional...
She didn't have much to say - I answered the newbie questions all in one breath. And now she's taking her time thinking of things to talk about. But she still wants to see me and I get mixed feelings. I'm afraid I need space to work this stuff out but acceptance would feel real nice. It'd be unfair to invite her "in" if I'm not sure how I'd react, right? What if she tries to accept me and I still end up not wanting to see her - is that fair? If? If? If?
Felt nice to get it off my chest but now... it's not like we're married - but she'd go that far while I don't think I can... it's not fair to expect her to accept me if I feel that way - even if she wants to try. What if she thinks accepting me is a way to win my eternal commitment and it's not? Ya know? I just don't know - there's so much fear involved.
*sigh*
I haven't posted much lately - been going through a tremendous amount of personal life stuff :(
An interesting thing, though - because of somehting going on in my life I've been forced to move and, thusly, reevaluate me relationship. As we were having the "why won't you see me if you move away" discussion my GF got real emotional thinking it was her... when I really think I just need some space to sort out my CD stuff - I've been a codependant relationship junky my whole life.
So I told her about my CDing!
Oh my God that was emotional...
She didn't have much to say - I answered the newbie questions all in one breath. And now she's taking her time thinking of things to talk about. But she still wants to see me and I get mixed feelings. I'm afraid I need space to work this stuff out but acceptance would feel real nice. It'd be unfair to invite her "in" if I'm not sure how I'd react, right? What if she tries to accept me and I still end up not wanting to see her - is that fair? If? If? If?
Felt nice to get it off my chest but now... it's not like we're married - but she'd go that far while I don't think I can... it's not fair to expect her to accept me if I feel that way - even if she wants to try. What if she thinks accepting me is a way to win my eternal commitment and it's not? Ya know? I just don't know - there's so much fear involved.
*sigh*