Do your wives know you are visiting this forum?

[Randy]

Once my wife found about my bras, she asked all the "usual" questions, and then proceeded to tell me that I could still do what I wanted, just that she wanted no part of it. Funny, but after all these years of hiding, somehow, now that she knew, all I wanted to do was talk about this with her. That, in itself, was a great feeling.

Well, the other night, I was on here, reading and I think I wrote one note, and then I wanted to watch a show. I left the site up and locked the computer, fully intending to return for more reading. As sometimes happens, I fell asleep in front of the TV and later, my wife woke me and we went to bed. In the morning, I was eating some cereal, when my wife goes over to the computer. She unlocked it and saw this site. I had asked her to look at it with me before (no, this really wasn't planned because she really gets a bit angry when I try to talk about this) and all she could say was that I'd better be more careful with what I leave on the computer.

She did not like the fact that I was chatting on here and had to ask why I was doing this. I told her the truth, and that is because I asked her to talk about it, but she refused. Needing to talk about it leads me back here time and again.

I still hope to get her to read more (she said that she did, but is a little put off by the fact that there are so many men dressing as women - LOL) and to talk more about this. It is wonderful being able to open up here, but nothing beats that feeling I had when we first spoke about this together - when she was willing to listen to everything I had to say on the subject.

So, how many of your wive know about you and also know you come here?

[DAVIDA]

Mine does.We talk about things I see here. I am very blessed to have her!

[Caitlintgsd]

Mine knows I venture in here. She does want to me stay off of it when the children are around and I respect that. She's not a member here. Perhaps I'll suggest it to her to drop in and take a look. She used to belong to a "S.O." support group but found that the schedule conflicted with too many other things on Sat mornings.

[Robertacd]

I am pretty sure she knows, but this is one of the reasons we both have our own computers and seperate user accounts on each others computer.

[dancer1]

My wife works from home and looks over her shoulder and watches me and said we sound like a bunch of women chating. And wonder when i speak of the person in the forum she said i refer to them in conversation as with thier fem names i said i dont know the male names daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa too funny:love: Nadeen

[Karren H]

NO!!

Love Karren

[tasha]

Yes, and has even looked over my shoulder a few times aswell.

[admirerplus GG]

Randy,

I hope that more married men who participate in this forum will have the courage to speak to their wives about it. I have been fortunate to have chatted on occasion with married CDs here. I am happy to share that my conversations with married men have always been respectful and platonic.

Sadly, it seems to me that a few CDs appear to keep their participation in this forum a secret from their wives. Sadder still, I believe that some CDs stray away from the nest in search of extramarital affaires.

It would be so wonderful if every CD was able and comfortable to talk about their CDing with their wives and or GFs. It would be wonderful if SOs, equipped with the knowledge of the mate's CDing, willingly participated in this forum so they could learn more.

I think this is a fantastic forum! The opportunities to learn and to share are really tremendous, if people had to courage to try.

[Roberta Lynn]

Yes she knows, and is very happy I found this site.

[randi32869]

That brings up a question - mine knows I CD but does not know about this site. I am afraid if she browsed the web looking for info that she would fine it and some of the threads I have replied to. I am not sure she would approve of some of those thoughts. Is there a filter that she would not see my name or pic? That is why I removed my pic. Maybe I need a less 2+2=4 identity?

[AmberTG]

Mine knows, I showed her a few things last night. I don't think she's very interested in this website though, she doesn't seem to care one way or the other.

[GG Vanya]

I am the wife. :D My husband Trudi (screen name NIKE) found the site first and invited me here.

I knew before marriage, and crossdressing is just one additional facet of the prism of our life.

[Glenda Grant]

I am the wife. My husband joined this site a couple years before I found out about his CD. I searched the web looking for info and support and found this site and joined before I knew my husband was also a member. I made the mistake of reading his previous posts in hopes of understanding him better. Unfortuneately some were very upsetting to me. I even asked him about reading then beforehand and he said it was up to me if I wanted to read them so I did. It was a mistake. I took into account that my husband was still drinking at the time and very depressed so I did get over it. So think about what you post, it might come back at you someday.

[Sarah Rabbit]

My wife knows and has seen this site. She is o.k. with it although she says I spend way to much time here....:D . She does not understand what I find so compelling here and why do I laugh sometimes when I am here..I've tried to get her to join but she does not want to, for reasons she keeps to herself:straightface:

Sarah R. :bunny:

[Stephenie S]

Yes.

I share some of what I find here with her. I don't think she is interested enough to surf for herself. She doesn't spend much time on the computer.
Emails the kids, looks for recipies, does some political stuff.

Steph

[Raychel]

My wife does know that I visit here. I have printed and showed her some of post's at times. It would be great if she would join, But I don't ever see that happening.

[sue ellan]

my wife knows about this site and we read it togeather. it has helped in her understanding about cding. i love her for all the understanding and support. i asked her if she thought it had brought us closer and she said yes. told her i wished that i had told her years ago. can't cry over spilled milk.:hugs:
sue ellan

[CDsWifey GG]

I found the forum for my hubby and am on here more often than he is :heehee:

[Emeralddragon]

My girlfriend usually sits with me and reads through the topics alongside me. Its great fun. Shes usually interested in stuff when Karren replies in it or starts it or has anything to do with it. Her first words are always "Oh what that mad lady up to now."

[Calliope]

My wife knows about this forum, I mentioned ot once or twice, and I wish I had kept it to myself.

Like a lot of wives, she blows hot and cold, and sometimes she scans posts here looking for 'ammo.'

I would recommend thinking carefully about sharing this site with a wife - once you do, you have to weigh your words (which kinda defeats the whole purpose).

[brittanny]

my g/f knows and really could care less what I do on the internet

[Josie]

My wife is aware of this site and has looked through some of the posts. Often theres a post I'd like her to read but when she looks for it she gets sidetracked to a post thats not helpful to my cause. I guess I should print the posts I want her to read and show them to her. For me the best course is a slow one.
The time is approaching when she will see me fully dressed for the first time. She'll come home from work and not find her husband, but she'll find Joann preparing supper for her. It takes planning, planning and more planning. When that time is here I'll let you all know how it goes.

[Kandi]

My wife knows and we considerate amusing entertainment. We have had great conversations after and had a great time checking out all you hotties. She always was skeptical about the existance of others and you all have definatly helped me convince her I am not the only manly man that likes to dress occasionaly like a girly girl. Thanks you all for a great forum.

[Daphne Renee]

No she doesnt know..

[ColleenCD]

I showed her this site on Sunday night. We haven't spoken about it since, but we both have today off from work. We'll see about the fallout.:o

Colleen

[Sandra]

Yes I know Nigella visits , but I'm here more than she is :heehee:

[Peg]

My wife know i read something because i've shared some beauty tips and dressing ideas with her she is also helping pick out clothes and breast formsPeg:love:

[Jennifer4cd]

She knows that I go on the computor but does not know where and why, and is not all that interested in finding out; although I want her to know more about what I'm doing.

[Angie G]

My wife kmows with limited accetance no bras &no nightwear in bed.
She knows I come here and give me my space. :hugs:
Angie G.

[Jenna1561]

I only recently (7/4/06) came out to my wife of 20 years. She still prefers to make believe she doesn't know. She doesn't want to talk of it, or read the books I've provided. We have our own computers and when I am on this site, I don't hide it from her, but she has never asked about what was on screen.

Jenna

[Wendy me]

my wife dose not know abought this place nor dose she have a intrest in anything on the coumpteri would like her to check this out ... who knows someday it might happen...........

[Carroll]

My wife knows....and receintly started posting (marleneGG)

[Ellie]

...we sound like a bunch of women chating...

Toooo funny! My GF says the same thing!

I'm sure she means it as a bad thing but it sounds like a complement to me!

My GF knows about my reading and posting on this board, she even has her own login, but she doesn't read or post much herself.

[jennylou]

My wonderful wife knows I frequent this forum and also knows that I rarely post anything, but read alot. She is also appreciative of the fact that it is a sex and smut free zone.
Although fully supportive of my CDing I cannot get her to read anything on here. (except the joke threads)

[loki_uk]

Oh no I don't think I'd have an answer to the inevitable why questions

[gennee]

Yes, she knows.

Gennee

[susann_gardener]

No, although she knows I CD, she doesn't accept or want anything to do with it.

[Danielle2]

Last week, my wife found this site on my computer. I was hoping she might read at least some of the posts but this did not happen. It did cause quite an arguement for the rest of the evening as she very strongly believes dressing is just wrong. I have tried to explain that I cannot continue to lie about my dressing so when she asked a question, I answer truthfully. She still insists that I promise to quit and I have tried to explain that I could not quit even if I wanted to.

[lahr]

Yes. My wife knows and we have read some of the post's here together. She even helped me send out a private message or three. At first she was suprised about the honesty and openess here but after a few visits she's not really showing much interest........lahr.

[Trisha]

yep my wife found this site and is on here a lot moor than i am =+)

[linnea]

No, she doesn't. I don't think that she would approve of it either.

[Tina Dixon]

She don't care what I look at on the internet even thought with she found out I dressed I told I have friend on the net that all so dress she still didn't care where I surf.

[MarilynH]

My wife knows, but doesn't visit. She prefers to ignore anything to do with my dressing, though she doesn't keep me from it. (Life does enough of that. :Angry3: )

Hugs.

[MsEva]

My lovely wife knows about this site, has visited it with me from time to time, although she hasn't become a member. I think she is happy that this is at least for the most part an above board type of place with not too much hanky panky going on. :heehee:

[Sejd]

Yes, and she loves that I am involved also. Sounds to me like you have done a lot of ground work already. Maybe a good therapi situation would help you make her understand the whole CD thing better. My advice, find a good Sex therapist. They normally know this stuff much better than an average therapist. My wife likes this site because she ses it makes me so happy to write with other CD's and have my own comunity around this. After all, this is my thing ( our sexualiy always belongs to us right?) and she honnors my being. She's the best.
Sejd

[bredalee25]

and wants no part of my visiting this site. She says keep it to yourself don't tell me about it. btw she doesn't know about my dressing only that i visit this site.

ttfn

[natasha]

No the wife does not know about this site specifically, but I'm pretty sure that she knows I browse around. She knows of and supports my CD'ing but we dont share my "basement" decompression time.

[swiss_susan]

Well since my SO is a member I hope she knows I visit :D

Susan

[Ellaine]

BG knows, and has even joined the site.
That's as positive as it gets though. I know all about patience, being the man she married and tollerance, but she doesn't do what she says she'll do. It's just words she knows I want to hear. They are almost meaningless, and I'm realising, I could be happier elsewhere. Yet there are rare times when she drops all her baggage and we enjoy a few hours of amazing fun. And then it's gone again! I've always been open and honest.....and manipulated!
There I've said it. After 30yrs together, I should know better.

Who said time to get gone!?

[prissylucy]

Yes she knows

[Alice460]

My partner knows that I dress and that I visit forums.

[Meag]

My wife found this site while checking the history for the day. She read the posts that I had added to. If I am on, she doesn't look over my shoulder, but I think she does read what I write. She is accepting of my dressing to a point, as I have said before, she will not accept bra's. I do wear my skirts and slips and cami's, panties and hose with high heels. I don't have to hide it from her, I wear skirts and cami's at home. She hasn't said a lot about what I have written, but I know if I write something about things we haven't talked about, she will question me on what I had said. That is alright with me, no secrets here. I really love her for the way she has accepted my dressing and I respect what she is accepting of. The other day she gave me a blouse of her's that I really like.

Meag

[alison]

my girlfriend knows and supports my dressing, but doesn't know about the forum. i should tell her about it though, so she can learn more about CDing. i always worry that she's going to cool-off to the idea of Alison.

[EricaCD]

Mine knows. She is a member here (HeleneGG) though an infrequent poster, and we occasionally have helpful discussions arising by talking about posts we both see here.

Erica

[wifeofsissy GG]

I know. I actually joined before my husband did:heehee: Having lots of fun PMing each other:tongueout

[DeniseNJ]

My wifes knows I dress at times but as with many others, doesn't want any part of it. I wouldn't show her this site . being part of this site make you feel that it is ok to feel feminine and dress as a woman. My wife wouldn't like it if she knew how I truely feel at times..

[rachellenicole]

Yes, my wife "Buttercup GG" posts occasionally. The site has been a good thing for us both. She is VERY supportive of my CDing.

Rachelle

[sami1952]

mine does,we talk about it and sometimes we shop together

[cdwales]

mine know about my crossdressing but has an idea what im looking at ,trying to pluck up the courage to show her hoping she will not go mad!

[Jenn2716]

My wife knows and has joined the forums as well. Though like some wives here she doesn't post very often.

I've only been posting sporadically for the last few months, due to a lack of interest in cding due to the heat and family visiting. Howeve, I am back in full force again now that it has cooled off and all of the family has gone home.

Time for Jenni to come back into the light!!

[CDBarbie]

Yes. My wife does know about this site. I have asked her in the past to visit with or with-out me. As far as I know, she has not been here yet. I don,t think she likes that I have posted myself.

[Lisa Edwards]

My Wife does know - I told her; however, I have not told her my feminine name or that I have registered with this website. She does not want any part of it at all but does allow me to shave my legs (although she does not approve).

Shame really.

I had a GG that I also told and initially said she found it fun on webcam but we have now fallen out. I really miss her.

[corynnswife]

I love this place. You are all divas! My Corynn and I are getting married this year and I found out about the Crossdressing early on in our relationship (about 4 months ago and we've almost been together a year). I love it and it just blows my mind how manly and womanly can be. I have the best of both worlds and I'm so fortunate to have them both :heehee:

As for those of you who are not able to reach out to your wives, I really hope to be a support and inspiration to you.

[Christina Nicole]

My wife knows and she knows my pseudonym, but she doesn't make an issue of it.

Warm regards,
Christina Nicole

[Paula G]

My wife doesn't know about this site, but then I don't ask her about where she goes on-line either.

[Luciana Vitale]

Mine does not know, but I think she suspects that I am here, because when I am at the computer she never come to this room, and later when I check the history from the computer I know she was here checking the messages, but never says nothing to me.

Luciana:heehee: :heehee:

[kittypw GG]

My husband invited me to join. I did reluctantly since most of the crossdressing places were gross and just about porn and dirty pictures. I was pleasantly surprised when I got a good look at what everyone was saying and talking about. I was so glad to find out that there were real people just like me who had this lifestyle in common. It gave me hope beyond belief. We did belong to triess but the chapter was a 4 hour drive and I never really got to know any of the so's. The gg forum has been a very special place for me and I love the diversity of the forum. I really feel like I belong here.
My hubby is a member but he is as quiet as a church mouse. Maybe he will come out of his shell some day? :hugs:

[nettiereno GG]

Hi,

Adora and I joined this site together.

Annette

[Francine]

No.
:sad:

Francine