loki_uk
08-31-2006, 08:43 AM
How many of us are in that sort of situation where the other party knows but you've never had the big talk
Just got me thinking seeing the jeans thread, at least for me I'm the one refusing to talk rather than my missus I still feel too insecure to talk about something that I can't explain rationally
I even had my missus waving some knickers at me that she found wanting to know whether I'd had another women in the house as they weren't hers, I couldn't say much apart from that there is no other women but I couldn't admit they were mine when I know it's rather obvious I just couldn't talk about I'm not ready for that big talk and more than anything I don't want a big row leading to a divorce so for every incident I've bluffed my way out of it
But now I know it's something that will have to be talked about and I wouldn't know where to start, I certainly can't answer the why questions
I know I can let this blow over for a while (again) but I want her to see the man she married not the other bit of me I don't want things to change...I fear change to much but that's the way it is
Considering she screamed at me seeing me dressed as she jokingly told me to do it when she was younger...it's been something I've been hoping to avoid
No doubt I'll go home and avoid the issue again when I get back, but it's one thing that keeps coming back
How do you deal with this, and yes I know honesty is the best policy but divorce is rather painful when you have children and something I'd like to avoid
Just got me thinking seeing the jeans thread, at least for me I'm the one refusing to talk rather than my missus I still feel too insecure to talk about something that I can't explain rationally
I even had my missus waving some knickers at me that she found wanting to know whether I'd had another women in the house as they weren't hers, I couldn't say much apart from that there is no other women but I couldn't admit they were mine when I know it's rather obvious I just couldn't talk about I'm not ready for that big talk and more than anything I don't want a big row leading to a divorce so for every incident I've bluffed my way out of it
But now I know it's something that will have to be talked about and I wouldn't know where to start, I certainly can't answer the why questions
I know I can let this blow over for a while (again) but I want her to see the man she married not the other bit of me I don't want things to change...I fear change to much but that's the way it is
Considering she screamed at me seeing me dressed as she jokingly told me to do it when she was younger...it's been something I've been hoping to avoid
No doubt I'll go home and avoid the issue again when I get back, but it's one thing that keeps coming back
How do you deal with this, and yes I know honesty is the best policy but divorce is rather painful when you have children and something I'd like to avoid