Understanding the term, "you look good"

[Phyliss]

We've all heard and used the term ,"you look good" . There has always been something in the back of my mind that didn't quite understand it. A good example was the other day when I bought my Nu-Bra. Irene said to me "You look good" Now, while that's a nice compliment, there is the reality of the fact that I'm a guy wearing boobs. I guess I was raised with too much practicality instilled in me. Never have been real good at "make believe", in some of my psych classes in college where we'd have to "role play" I always found it difficult. Dressing as Phyliss is easy, but actually being Phyliss is something I have to work at. So when somebody says to me "you look good" I still think about the fact that I'm a guy in a dress with projection that shouldn't normally be there.
Friday evening I just had to show off my new "girls" to my sister. Before I put them on I mentioned that I had bought them, and that they were a size C. Her comment was something to the effect that it was too big of a size. She's a C and so she knows what a "real" C looks like. I felt a bit disheartened because I do value her opinion. I figured that Irene had simply said that I looked good to make the sale. Too late now, I bought them and I owned them. The Nu-Bra is meant to be a bra so that if a GG is a C then she should wear a C. As for me, with my naturally occuring small B I thought the C looked fine in the store. Anyhow, I stepped into the bathroom and put them on and pulled a "T" shirt on. When I stepped out to show off she was a bit surprised at the look, and said "you look good". Again with the "look good".
I asked her just what she meant by that, afterall I'm a guy with boobs, how can I "look good", it's not normal. That's when she explained to me that while true it isn't "normal" for a guy to have that much projection, the proportions weren't out of line with my body size and shape. Anything larger, like a D or DD would look too obvious and attention getting, or smaller wouldn't have the desired effect. She said that she was surprised that a C fit me so well. She understands the idea of "blend in" and don't try to be too much of an "in your face" person. I tried on a few other blouses I have with similar results.
So, now I "get it" when I hear the term "you look good" it isn't about beauty, (trust me, I ain't got that) but it's more about proper proportioning for my size and being tasteful in what I wear. I'd love to be able to wear a mini skirt, fish net stockings and 6" heels with a pair of size DDD boobs, while walking through the mall, however the reality is that I'd be very far out of place. For somebody of my size and age, a loose or flowing skirt, beige stockings, sensible shoes, 3" or at most 4" heels and a size C chest, is more correct. I'd "look good" not like some flaming queen trying to be somebody I'm not, nor ever could be.
So for anybody who has heard those words and felt uncomfortable because of self doubt, this is my understanding of them and it works for me.

[eleyna]

Brilliantly written, Phyliss. When I first started dressing I bought the usual lingerie bits and bobs and some of those mesh/lace items could mince well-cooked beef, so they can be nearly torture if you have a protrusion not factored into their design. I'm not a masochist, so I could not understand how I could "like" clothing that seemed such a punishment. And of course I just couldn't see how I could "look good" in any of the items. I'm not Kate Moss.

I took an instant liking to stockings but the effects were undone once I saw my manly looking hairy legs in them in a mirror. It was only last year when a GG had me take <-- that picture. Her response was "you look good in them!" - and I had the same reaction as yourself. I protested my bony knees and manly ankles, but she simply came back with "well, they look good on you" but I still didn't get it.

I've become quite attatched to the picture; I don't see manly legs in stockings anymore, I see stockings emphasising the shape and cut of my legs and feet the way they do on a woman, if not completely to the same final effect :)

Your post has given me insight into understanding that, wonderful food for thought!

[Joy Carter]

Great thread Philiss, you do write well. When I first stated on the forum I asked the GG's what I could do as a CD not to degrade women in my dressing. I was told that taking the time to dress properly and real was one thing the GG's appreciated in a CD. So that is my goal to be an example. Not that I'm putting down other gurls who dress otherwise. I just feel even though I'm a guy in a dress I can do a good job of presenting myself as an example to others. :happy:

[Teresa Amina]

"You look good" has a undertone of surprise- as if they were thinking "Holy c---! I thought you'd really look awful!":D But any compliment is a good one

[Raychel]

Phyliss, I think that if you can get women to look at you and say that you look good, then that is a huge accomplishment. I have never had the occasion to be seen by anyone other that myself. And I fear the day that my wife does actually see me dressed. If she laughs at me, I would feel just horrible.

So take it for what it is worth. If a GG says that you look good, then you probably look good. And Congratulations to you.:thumbsup:

[myMichelle]

Thanks for your post, Phyliss. It made me stop and think a bit...

First of all, I'm happy that you have now sorted things out to the point where you're comfortable hearing someone say that you "look good." I can totally relate to where you're coming from. I used to go out enfemme with a GG I knew...we'd go out for lunch, walk through a mall, etc. I was frequently told that I "look good," and I often wondered just what to make of that comment.

Like you, I wear breast forms that require a size C bra. I know exactly where you're coming from here, too. On the surface, a size C can seem a bit large--especially when considered in the context of being worn by a male (lol) But, like you, my goal is always to dress in a way that allows me to simply blend into a crowd. I do not willfully dress in a manner that screams out "Hey everybody. Look at me!" (Maybe I should stop wearing those mini skirts, LMAO!) Anyway, you don't sound too out there. I can totally relate to where you're coming from.

BTW: Speaking of "blending," one of the most fun things I have ever done enfemme was to just put on a pair of blue jeans, sling my purse over my shoulder and walk down the street...May not have been the most fun I've ever had, but I bet it was the best job of passing that I've ever done!

[Jenny Beth]

Good post Phyliss. My wife often says the same thing when I'm dressed. I used to feel a bit awkward about it, as a male I'm not used to being complimented. I asked her once just what she meant, she replied that I had good taste in mixing and matching my skirts and tops. In male mode I only wear jeans and T shirts but as Jenn there is lots of colour and I'm a sucker for long flowing skirts. So when I hear, "You look good" I know it's because I'm wearing some of the nicest things I own and it feels great when she comments on my efforts.

[Mitzi]

"You look good" has a undertone of surprise- as if they were thinking "Holy c---! I thought you'd really look awful!" But any compliment is a good one

A couple of times, I bought femme items en drab, (a corset at a TG store, and beard cover at Penney's). The sales girl at Penney's even offered me a free makover the next time I came. On other occasions when I revealed a femme item was for the drab me, I'd get "You don't look the type".

So, when I went back to the two places, this time en femme, I got the somewhat astonished "You look good". I'd like to think I looked "good", but I think part of it was just as Teresa says..."Holy c---! I thought you'd really look awful!" BTW, the Penney's girl didn't repeat the offer of a free makeover.

Mitzi

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Phyliss,

Humm...yes, this "you look good" comment when as you say "afterall I'm a guy with boobs, how can I "look good", it's not normal" I think I know where you're coming from with this.

I remember once (a few years back) after we had had a costume party and I went dressed as a woman, in the pub the following night, I was talking with two GGs and one said to the other (in front of me) "he really looked good in that long dress didn't he?" and the other said, "I think he looks better in a short skirt". I remember thinking at the time what the hell are they talking about?...I'm a guy, how can "he" look good in either? and how can these two women be happily discussing the merits of feminizing me without any cause for concern? They had never said I looked good in guy clothes, only when I was in girl's clothes...at the time, that made me feel weird.

Perhaps "you look good" means just that, meaning how you are presenting right there and then suits you...even if you are a guy? or maybe she means that the image is believeable and your boobs look credable and genuine. Perhaps she means that the boobs themselves look good not so much boobs on a guy look good...I don't know? :strugglin

Anyway, I'd take it for what it is, a nice compliment from a friend :happy: ..and I do agree with the others, it's the sort of thing people say when they are suprised by what they see, because they were expecting something else.

[Kate Simmons]

I take all the compliments I can get gals. After all "He's" who look like "She's" CAN look pretty damn good. Most of the time the compliments I receive are genuine. I haven't been "patronized" yet. :happy: Ericka Kay

[Sky]

We've all heard and used the term ,"you look good".

Personally I don't make too much out of it. It's just a cliché. Most salespersons (but mostly girls) would swear I look like Beyonce if that fools me into buying a damn t-shirt. I trust the mirror better.