How 'Good' do you think you look.or does it really matter?

[Janice Ashton]

Hi I'm fairly new to this site and apologize before hand if this Thread has been posted before?

In all honesty "How good do you think you look? or does it really matter"? the reason I ask this question is, I think I look reasonable in the way I dress and although my confidence is not high I go out dressed in what I feel comfortable in and what I feel apporpriate for my age. Having said that, I see other CD's TV's etc, on this and different sites and think 'WoW' why can't I look that good! on the other hand, I see some and think, 'Urgh' I'm glad I don't look like that! So how do 'You' in all honesty see yourself?

Do you dress to impress and get as close as you can to the perfect woman you want to be? looking good is the be all and end all, or, do you simply dress because you enjoy doing it and don't care how you look because to 'You' it's about enjoyment or may be relaxation and it really dosen't matter?



Sorry no pics yet, working on it.

Best wishes Louise x :wave:

[SherriePall]

Louise -- It all depends on why I'm dressing. When I have dressed to go out, I dress to get as close to perfect as the situation allows (blending in counts here). When I'm at home in the safety of my room, I do not hold the same high standards. Guess it's the same en drab. Lounging around the house or going on a job interview. And how do I feel I look en femme? Some days I think. "I look great! Just look at me!" Other days I feel like I put my make-up on inside out.

[sue ellan]

i try to dress as close as possible to look like a girl. i know that i will never be able to pass as one so i just try to look as nice as possible. i never worry about it if i don't pass or not
sue ellan.

[Calliope]

Do you dress to impress and get as close as you can to the perfect woman you want to be? looking good is the be all and end all, or, do you simply dress because you enjoy doing it and don't care how you look because to 'You' it's about enjoyment or may be relaxation and it really dosen't matter?


I certainly do not dress to impress and I've always questioned the conception of the 'perfect woman' (is that Hillary Clinton or Britney Spears?). Feeling fem (stressed out taking care of the kids, anyone?) certainly is more important to me than looking fem (ideal woman image) - yet that is dialectical because the appearance has a mighty impact. That said, I have found satisfaction in pleasing myself - and from that internal achievement comes the ability to go out, passing on occasion. Of course, I'm 5'8", 130 lbs (size 6) and have superlong hair so ...er, maybe biology is destiny after all.

:bonk:

[hotbobbie]

I try to look the best and as close as i can. Most days it works and then the other ones for some reason miss.

[ArleneRaquel]

I think that I look great ! How other people see me I really don't care. When I look into the mirror I see a great beauty. Then again, without my glasses I am as blind as a bat ! Katrina sends her :love: to all Forum Members

[Marla S]

Do you dress to impress and get as close as you can to the perfect woman you want to be? looking good is the be all and end all, or, do you simply dress because you enjoy doing it and don't care how you look because to 'You' it's about enjoyment or may be relaxation and it really dosen't matter?

At the first instance I want to be me, which isn't exactly a GG. Thereby I constanly try to improve my style in order to get reasonable* result that is type, age, and mood appropriate. Still a lot of fashion mistakes though (see left) - lack of practice ;)

*reasonable: because I am not a beauty-wonder.

[Daphnie-Duck]

I certainly do not dress to impress and I've always questioned the conception of the 'perfect woman' (is that Hillary Clinton or Britney Spears?).

Neither. The perfect woman would be Erin Gray. :love: :notworthy:

[Jenna1561]

When I dress to appear as a woman, I attempt to be the best woman I can be and hopefully that I will "pass" as a woman. Now I am 5'10" and 265# so I am a "big" girl - but when I do a good job of getting ready I think I am reasonably passable as a large woman; "Big and Beautiful" is the current tagline I believe.

Other times I dress in fem clothes but am presenting as a man. I prefer the look, feel, and fit of women's clothes. I cannot remember the last time I actually dressed in all male clothes, except for work. And even then it is usually a mix.

Today for example, I wore Lee ladies khaki trousers (No back pockets), a white shell and a men's short sleeve green dress shirt. Along with ladies trouser socks and women's black suede ankle boots.


Jenna

[Lawren]

I think that if I go all out I can look reasonably good in my fem clothes. Sometimes I do try to look totally fem but just cannot seem to acquire that passable look. Most of the time I just wear the clothes, sans makeup etc., because I love the way they feel on me. When I put my best effort into it, it is mostly to make the clothes look as good as possible on me. I guess you could say that, in my case, it is all about the clothes and not about me or how I look in them.

[pennyma]

when I dress I try to look as fem as possible I think I do a pretty good job of that most of the time.

[Calliope]

Still a lot of fashion mistakes though (see left) - lack of practice ;)


Are you kidding?

You look superb!

[Tracy_Victoria]

When I dress to appear as a woman, I attempt to be the best woman I can be and hopefully that I will "pass" as a woman. Now I am 5'10" and 265# so I am a "big" girl - but when I do a good job of getting ready I think I am reasonably passable as a large woman; "Big and Beautiful" is the current tagline I believe.

Jenna

I very much agree with what jenna has said above here, being a big girl also, When dressing I like to dress fully and as feminine as is possable. and to me there has alway been a desire to do it completely, or not bother at all. ie I only dress fully as if I'm to be going out, or there is no point in bothering at all.

I also agree it possable to be big and beautiful, and I also believe us larger TV's do actually have a slight advantage when dressing as well, ie I (and clearly jenna doesn't seem to have) a problem with heavy five o clock shadow, as our faces tend to be more rounded it softer and therefore more fem, and because of our body shape, we tend to not need the padding to give is shape as it's already there.

Thankfully, we don't have to be stunning to be taken as female ie big can be both beautful and atractive with the right look and added accessories, ie the only bad comment I've ever had when passing out, was to have been called a fat cow! by a yob! (which I took firmly as a compliment, and noted, job done)

Thankfully, RG's, come in all shapes sizes and levels of atractiveness, as do Us TV's

[Roberta Lynn]

I don't know if anybody else has this problem, but my mirror and my camera don't agree.
I always look better in my mirror than in a picture. Can't figure it out.:heehee:
To answer your question. I try to look as good as I can look but mostly enjoy the sensations, clothes, hair, makeup. love it:happy::happy: :happy:

[angelfire]

I am by no means good looking en femme, mostly because I have no real desire to pass. I also only enjoy lingerie at this point, so its not like anyone else should be seeing me in it anyway (Except when I find an SO).

[Noel Chimes]

For me it's "all or nothing." If I am not going to put my best foot forward, there is no reason to get dressed. But to each her own.

[Caitlintgsd]

I try my best. But I'm 6'2" and wearing a size 22. But then again, the people who really matter to me know me for me. It really doesn't matter but I do try.

[Lindahexi]

When I'm dressed I become quite vain and see myself as a reasonably attractive female, I certainly don't dress to impress, but I do dress in a way that pleases me personally.

[Lilith Moon]

Sometimes the mirror shows me a sexy looking lynx and sometimes I see an old man in a frock looking back at me. The camera is even less flattering, although perhaps one pic in twenty looks OK.

[Angie G]

Don't think I look all that good can't pass but I feel sexy and beautiful thats works for me
Angie

[Kimberly]

I have tried to pick out clothes suitable to my age... and getting a helping hand from friends on style means I haven't drifted into ****ty or chav.

I think I look okay... but the one thing I'd change: my chin.

Goddam the need for men to have square chins!

[Skyie]

Hi,

Hehe, I look an awful mess. I make no effort when cross dressing. As far as does looking good matter. To me I really don't care, a guy of my build is not going to look nice in ladies clothing. I glad I don't want to try and look as good as I can though helps me do what I want to do.

Cheers,
Skyie

[KarenSusan]

Most of the time I don't use makeup and just dress because the clothes feel right. If I'm going out I will try my hand at makeup so I can maybe pass to a myopic person 250 feet away in a rainstorm.:p

[Myst]

As I get more into dressing as a woman, the more I think that it is important to look and feel good all at once.

A few months ago, I would throw on what few items I had, I'm sure that anyone who would have seen me at the time, I would have probably appeared quite ridiculous!

Now, I try to co-ordinate and match my clothes so that it looks good and is a type of outfit that a GG wouldn't be affraid to wear.

As a matter of fact, just today is the first time I actually accomplished just that. I bought some new things and man! I feel like a woman! :happy: There are still a few things I need to do and get before I could pass, but as it is right now, I feel good and I am on my way to looking good!

[Lee51964]

and I think I look great

[Calliope]

it only matters to me how I look and I think I look great

You got it, sister.

[Staci]

I always think I look like the sexy girl that I pretend I am when dressed. However, if anyone else saw they would probably see something else.

[Bobbie cd]

I don't think that I will ever be confused for a fashion model, but I do try to look as nice as possible.
Like many others have said, my main goal if and when I ever get truly out in public will be to blend as much as possible.

As I get more practiced with the makeup I think I am achieving a better more natural look. If I never completely pass, that is okay with me.

But, I think I look fairly good for an old broad! LOL :D

[Calliope]

I don't think I look "good", in the sense that one might say, "Thats an attractive woman", but I do think that I look good enough to be mistaken for a woman, even if she is not the type to draw attention. I kinda like that way.:happy:

Judging by your avatar photo, you'd draw my attention - just 'cause you look so intelligent.

What's 'attractive' - and does it remain constant?

[Barb Valentine]

I'm one of the ugly one
Couldn't pass in a backout doing 100 miles a hour (or 160 km for you UK girls)
But I don't care ,yes it would be nice but it's not going to happen
I just feel comfortable when I dress

[GG Vanya]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lee51964
it only matters to me how I look and I think I look great

Quote:
Originally Posted by DayTripper
You got it, sister.
__________________

And THIS is exactly how women feel when they're dressed in slacks instead of skirts, tennis shoes instead of stilettos!

(hoping I hear the sound of lightbulbs clicking on over a few heads)

[Jenna1561]

Vanya, I agree with you too. Yes I like to get dressed up to the nines every once in awhile, but if I did it every day, it would soon grow tiresome and lose its excitement.

Most of the time that I dress, it's jeans, shorts or capri's, a nice top and sandals or tennis shoes. I blend in much better dressed like that and I am very comfortable. I dress in a nice skirt and blouse once a week or so because I enjoy the look and I get all dolled up less frequently and mostly just for myself on a stay at home day.

Of course I have to put on my "face" as I need to do something to help soften my appearance.

But I do indeed understand the reason for comfort. But what I dislike is both men and women who are uncaring about their appearance. Clean, neat and comfy is fine, but dirty and unkempt is just plain distasteful. BTW that's one of my biggest arguments at home with my sons. Arghh, where did I go wrong in teaching them personal hygiene and fashion?


Jenna

[GG Vanya]

LOL Jenna,

I raised three sons, I know where you're coming from! One of my proudest moments was when my youngest announced:

Mom, take me to town and get me some plain ole Levis. I'm tired of this sagging look. It's not comfortable, and I'm not going to wear something just because it's in STYLE. Besides, they look sloppy! (He was 15 at the time, and had been one of those "label conscious" youngsters since he was six or so.)

Just hang in there, they'll outgrow it! One day you'll look up and realize: Wow, that's a handsome young man, FINALLY! :hugs:

[Jenna1561]

Thanks Vanya, at least I know there's hope. Maybe it'll be my youngest who just turned 13. He is constantly changing his hair (style and color) and prefers polo shirts to tees. And is constantly on the phone with one of several girls in his grade.

Just have to get those oversize baggy shorts off him. LOL


Jenna

[Calliope]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Lee51964
it only matters to me how I look and I think I look great

Quote:
Originally Posted by DayTripper
You got it, sister.
__________________

And THIS is exactly how women feel when they're dressed in slacks instead of skirts, tennis shoes instead of stilettos!

(hoping I hear the sound of lightbulbs clicking on over a few heads)

Lightbulb's been burning bright here since 1970 or so.

[Charleen]

Lightbulb's been burning bright here since 1970 or so.

Yeah, but I've had to change mine as they've burned out. But at least I kept it burning, even after this latest burn out, it's lit.

[Rachel Morley]

I try my best to look like the woman I would have been had I been born a girl. In other words being 43 years old and happily married, I'm not trying to attract attention or look like a teenage sex kitten. I just try to dress appropriately for my age and try to blend in with all the other women around me....especially when en femme in public. The only time I "sex it up" a little is when Marla and I go dancing at Faces (a gay night club), no matter how short my skirt is or how high my heels are, I still totally fit in. I can't hold a candle to those drag queens :D

[Melanie]

When I went out a lot back in 1997- 2001 I was told by a number of sisters that yes I am passable.Time has flown by and age sets in a bit so I am undecided at present since the last time I ventured back into the public in early Aug.I will hopefully have another go this weekend and get a little more practice in with the makeup.
I hate getting liner all messy around my eyes,it sucks.But yes my eyes are very pretty when made up correctly so I've been told again,lol and I'm still fairly slim and only 5ft 6 so should blend in.

Will post some pics when I get a chance which seems to be taking forever....
cheers girls,

Melanie :hugs:

[JenniferMint]

Do you dress to impress and get as close as you can to the perfect woman you want to be? looking good is the be all and end all, or, do you simply dress because you enjoy doing it and don't care how you look because to 'You' it's about enjoyment or may be relaxation and it really dosen't matter?

TS issues aside, I dress to look like an attractive young woman and I think I manage to pull it off on a good day. (Maybe on a bad day too but I'm not that confident)

[Lisa Golightly]

So how do 'You' in all honesty see yourself?

Second string Rita Hayworth... Which I can live with :)

[ReginaK]

I believe anything worth doing is worth doing all the way. But dressing up usually takes most of the day. So whenever I have the time, I dress to the nines.

[myMichelle]

I certainly do not dress to impress and I've always questioned the conception of the 'perfect woman' (is that Hillary Clinton or Britney Spears?). Feeling fem (stressed out taking care of the kids, anyone?) certainly is more important to me than looking fem (ideal woman image) - yet that is dialectical because the appearance has a mighty impact. That said, I have found satisfaction in pleasing myself - and from that internal achievement comes the ability to go out, passing on occasion. Of course, I'm 5'8", 130 lbs (size 6) and have superlong hair so ...er, maybe biology is destiny after all.

:bonk:


Hippy chicks rock:D


Now bring on that mini dress and the go-go boots, lol:love:

[Wendy me]

i would say it's all good from the ones so far in the closet to out and about ...

see it is what it is .... by that i mean you should enjoy this side of you from fab and fem to the 9's ... or just wearing that one item that dose it for you...

all too often we try to one up the next person (such a guy thing) for me it's not about impressing any one ... it's not about looking like a supper model ... it's so about me being me..... i can be me all decked out and girly with makeup and clothes just right .... or ..... i can be me hanging out relaxing looking like a guy in a dress.....

[Larissa]

I dress the woman inside. When I look in the mirror, that's the person I see.

[Ronda_B]

I only dress to impress myself or my wife, I'll never pass because my wife likes my mustache too much. I guess it's her way to insure that I wont dress to impress.I look good to myself and that's all that counts.

Alice

[Karren H]

Of coarse it matters....else they wouldn't have invented makeup...hehehe. Probably matters more to the stock holders of L'oreal!! :). But that's another story....and yeah.. I think I look good...a lot better as a woman than a man...but not as good as I would like to...

That's where the practice practice practice thing comes in....its hell playing catchup hockey....down in the third period by a goal...hehehe. Running out of time!! Having to pull the goalie, I mean pull out the makeup case and freshen up! :D

Love Karren

[MsJanessa]

well take a look at the photos in My avatar and profile as well as those I've posted in the photos section and judge for yourself----the truth is that T-Girls are like Real Girls or GGs in this regard----some of us are absolutly gorgeous and some of us have a long way to go and most of us are somewhere in the middle---my only comment is that is how most GGs probably feel.

[bgirl]

When I am in the all femme mode I think I look OK and feel prety good. When I am in the male mode, I can see I didn't fool anyone but myself. But thats good enough and I still feel pretty good.

[alison]

I dress the woman inside. When I look in the mirror, that's the person I see.

That's exactly how I feel. I don't feel like I'm dressing like a woman. I feel like I'm a woman getting dressed. I don't know if I'm passible or not, but I feel 100% woman.

[Kaitlynn]

My Figure is good and can look very feminine (5'7", 138lbs, size 7 shoes yadda yadda), alas the Face needs some work/practice and looks very male.

I know I have features I should feel blessed about (and I do), but the things that let me down are the things people look at first.

I am totally convinced it's the only thing holding me back.

[Tina Dixon]

Well a lot of you get to dress a lot more than I do, but most of the time when I do dress I try and do the best I can, make up dress or skirt with my heels, now if I was 24/7 I would for sure dress down but thats not in the works for me, so what I'm saying is I do my best to look good.

[raquel]

:hugs: Hi this is interesting,because I have a chance to have 2 or 3 days away
on my own.and should I try to it "en femme"?
I have always enjoyed dressing but until earlier this year it was not
serious.
So,the chance to drive 250 miles and stay away for several days is
tempting,but what should I do?
I am 5ft 8in 180lbs mid 50's and look mature.this would be a first.
help!
let me know.
Hugs and kisses
Raquel

[Ranee Daze]

In another thread I mentioned that face it, you will always get read. Usually because you are better looking than most females you'll find at the mall or wherever. I don't suspect Canada is much different than any other country, but spotting a well groomed, well dressed and poised female in public here is a very rare event indeed and people will take their first look just because of that, then you get the smirk, and the odd giggle, even fingerpointing when your big shoulders, voice and feet give you away.
So, accepting this fact the real essential for me is to not look or sound anything at all like my manself in any way at all. Discovery in my community would be ruinous, but that doesn't mean that I should be afraid and sculk about. I never use a wig in my own colour, and if I style my own hair or have it done it is lightyears away from my mancoif. I disguise my voice because if there is one thing people remember about you, even from a first meeting, is your voice. Adding a fake southern or English accent is an easy way to start.

[Snookums]

I really don't care as long as my clothes are clean,my heels are polished.