The One Regret I Have In Life Is ...

[Clare]

... not having any Sisters.

I have two younger brothers, but ever since I can remember, I have wanted to have at least one sister that I could share girly activities with. I especially recall being lonely and needing a sister about the time I really became aware of my crossdressing desires at around ten years of age.

Ok, there is the aspect of perhaps wanting to have access to female clothing in a similar size to me at that age, but as I think about it, I really wanted a sister so that we could play together and share our lives as sisters.

Even today as an adult, I still miss not having a sister. I'd love to be able to have special moments with a sister. Maybe if I had a sister, i'd even have 'come out' to her first since I imagine we'd have a close and trusting relationship?

Has anyone else felt like this? What about those of you with Sisters? Is your relationship with them like a sisterly thing or still just bro/sis relationship?

Love to hear your thoughts!

[Phyliss]

My brother is 8 years older than I and while we're close as a brother to a brother, I "came out" to my 3 yrs younger sister this last May and WOW has it been fun. I don't think we've ever been as close as we are now.
My heart goes out to you not having a sister.

Now I must confess when I was younger (around 9 to 14) if I could have figured out what to do with the body, she wouldn't be around today. We really didn't get along. Glad I didn't now.

[Sonia_cd]

Don't know if I agree. I have a sister and we are like the two poles. Its almost impossible for us to have a conversation and it feels like i don't have any siblings. Mind you, I'm only 29 and she's 23 but its been like this for almost a decade or more now.

Having said that, no way I'd want a brother but I would certainly not mind having an elder sister. Methinks that might be a tad bit more fun that feeling the way I do now.

Sonia

[Girly Sara]

My main regret is not having access to the internet when i first gained an interest in cross-dressing back in the early 80's. If i knew then, what i know now and had the support with the likes of Crossdressers.com, my life would have been fulfilled a lot sooner and who knows how far Sara would have reached in her feminine journey.

Sara xxx

[ChristineRenee]

I don't have any sisters either. I have one brother who is 10 years older than me...and though we are closer now than we used to be...we still aren't what you would call "close" as brothers. We are very different types. His ex-wife probably described our relationship best as our parents raising two "only children".

Being as a how I had a very male childhood, and didn't really have any girl playmates growing up, I don't know what the impact of having a sister, whether she was older or younger, would have had on my life. I just can't say Clare.

[moira1952]

In contrast to Clare , my biggest regret in life was having a sister , she in the end not only exploited my ' dressing' to her advantage but held it over me to force me take so much abuse from my own family ...sisters , yes ......mine ..... Clare you can have her , no returning please.:heehee:

[Siobhan Marie]

... not having any Sisters.

I have two younger brothers, but ever since I can remember, I have wanted to have at least one sister that I could share girly activities with. I especially recall being lonely and needing a sister about the time I really became aware of my crossdressing desires at around ten years of age.

Ok, there is the aspect of perhaps wanting to have access to female clothing in a similar size to me at that age, but as I think about it, I really wanted a sister so that we could play together and share our lives as sisters.

Even today as an adult, I still miss not having a sister. I'd love to be able to have special moments with a sister. Maybe if I had a sister, i'd even have 'come out' to her first since I imagine we'd have a close and trusting relationship?

Has anyone else felt like this? What about those of you with Sisters? Is your relationship with them like a sisterly thing or still just bro/sis relationship?

Love to hear your thoughts!

Clare, I can share that regret as I'm an only child.

:hugs: Anna x

[Nigella]

Life is to short to have regrets, just remember, "Today is the first day of the rest of your life"

[angelfire]

I am an only child as well.

But I don't see how you can regret not having a sister. I mean, regret is to wish you hadn't done something you did, or regret not doing something you could have. That is totally out of your control, so I would be more disappointed than regret it.

[Sejd]

My sister would never understand what we go through as CD's. She and I were very close as kids and even sought comfort with each other in a sexual way, something which is not unusual with kids left alone a lot. Later in life, she refuse to touch on the subject, and all she seems to think about is her own security and reputation (she eventually became a famous public person). I wish I had a close, and intimate relationship, one of understanding and trust again. Luckilly I have my SO who is fantastic. So we play "Girls" together and have a blast. Mostly we love to play cards.
love
Sejd

[Clare]

My main regret is not having access to the internet when i first gained an interest in cross-dressing back in the early 80's. If i knew then, what i know now and had the support with the likes of Crossdressers.com, my life would have been fulfilled a lot sooner and who knows how far Sara would have reached in her feminine journey.

Sara xxxDitto Sis - I can relate!

[DAVIDA]

I had the best of both worlds. I have an older brother and sister ,and I have one younger sister. I have always had strong bonds with all of them. My older sister has known about me for a long time. I recently told my younger sister about me. She was kind of surprised, but she has no problem with it. I never wore any of their clothes because they would not fit.:mad:

[LisaRose]

I grew up with 4 brothers. I wish I would have been the sister.

[CaptLex]

Clare:

I'll gladly let you have my sister (we don't get along), but I bet you'd give her back. She's not too girly either, so she may not be of much use to you. There's never a guarantee that you and a sibling will bond and share just because you're related.

No reason to have regrets, though. I've always wished I had a brother, but it didn't happen so I've "adopted" brothers instead. I've always bonded with guys and have had male friends since I can remember. It comes in handy now when I need transitioning advice too.

So my advice is to adopt some sisters . . . I'll bet there's plenty on this site who would love the privilege.

[ColleenCD]

Not many regrets, But the internet would have been very helpful during those periods that I was the only crossdresser on the planet.

Colleen

[Snookums]

My only regret in life is I was born to brutal parents,my dad tried to cure me with beatings.
No it didn't work.

[Miss Vicki]

I do have two regrets. One is that the internet was not available many years ago. It would have been fun to talk / listen to other people that are "just like me". And to shop without being scared or paranoid.
Second regret. I wish that I could have married an understanding and supportive GG. This was probably my biggest mistake. From reading posts from the Girls that have supportive spouses, I am extremely envious.

Miss Vicki

[Danni Barron]

Yes I wish I had had a sister, but 3 brothers was my lot.

Crikey, one of 'em has recently 'come out the closet' as a crossdresser :eek: Something which unforunately I can't do :sad:

[Kristen Kelly]

I have many adopted “sisters” here, I see them more and share much more with the girls here than I do with my other brothers. You can pick your friends but you can’t pick your family.

[Vicky_Scot]

Don't know if I agree. I have a sister and we are like the two poles. Its almost impossible for us to have a conversation and it feels like i don't have any siblings. Mind you, I'm only 29 and she's 23 but its been like this for almost a decade or more now.

Having said that, no way I'd want a brother but I would certainly not mind having an elder sister. Methinks that might be a tad bit more fun that feeling the way I do now.

Sonia

I agree. I have nothing in common with my sisters. As you said communication is a effort as we do not have anything to discuss. One is younger and what might surprise some is the other one is my twin.

Probably my biggest regret in life was not expressing my fem side more when I was younger.

[Charleen]

Only child here as well. Had mostly girls as friends up 'till age 8. No boys in the 'hood. Also a very feminine Mom who I saw more of than my Dad 'cause of their work hours. Do I miss not having any siblings? Don't know. I've seen my late wife and her 2 sisters and brother together and all are different as everybody on the planet. Being blood don't mean you get along. The saying about choosing your friends but not relatives is true. I will admit that it might have been nice to have an understanding sister, but oh well. I can't but wonder what would have happened if I had been honest with my Mom when she found one of her bras I had added on to to fit me when she found it in my closet when I was about 14. Looking back, I think she might have understood, as in hind sight, she didn't treat me as a boy most times. I'll never know on both as Mom's dead, and no sibs. I would like to echo the sentiment about the web and this site, yeah it would have been great to have this available years ago, saved me alot of anquish, but again, it wasn't, so .......... Love and xxxxx, Lily

[pinkshelly]

I grew up with a 14 month youger brother and an 8 year younger sister. I came out to my sis a year ago and she has been great. We for the most part alway got a long. She is the ruling child, cause she WAS the only girl, till now. LOL. She has been wonderfull about it and I wouldn't trade her for anyone. The brother on the other hand does not know and probably never will unless he comes over at the wrong time. lol.
Huggs, Shelly.

[Gretchen]

Would have to agree that I would have liked to have had a sister, older or younger doesn't matter. I had neither brother nor sister and up until college was pretty much a lone wolf type. What difference a sister would have made for me is really hard to even imagie, but it might have taught me the need to share and be more sociable. Whether it would have had any effect on my early teen urges to cross dress one way or another is also unknown, but I would like to think it might have had some positive influence of acceptance or self awareness.
But that was late '50's and early '60's and "normal" was a very strong "rule" indeed.
Gretchen

[Calliope]

Grew up an only child and never regretted it. I can appreciate a CD might wish for a sister - all that girl loot, plus seeing the magic in action. But, the down side could well be the parents' seeing the M / F divide in sharper focus - which wouldn't be fun for any boy relating to the other side of the fence. A real dialectical razor there, I think - when I was age 5-10, I always wanted the neighborhood girls to visit or invite me over but they rarely did; with a sister, they'd be over but most likely I would have been be an outsider. (Things have improved considerably since the early 60s of course.)