krisybryant
09-09-2006, 11:03 PM
Other than your typical fluffy 'what do you think' poll on here I have a real concern.
My roommate (a GG) yesterday opened her mouth and spilled several 'ideas' to her two boys. We were in the car on the drive back to our house. She said things like "[krisy] was wearing my clothes when we took pictures last weekend", and "you never know, you might like wearing bras when you are older." They are 10 and 18. She was directing the last comment to the 10 year old who is lately getting curious about sexuality (aka speech includes 'boobs', 'tits', '****', 'balls', etc. then of course he laughs). The retorts from them were "that's gross" and "there are men out there that do dress as women."
I was mortified and defenceless. I couldn't do anything but take it.
Later (this morning) I confronted her and said that it is my choice to tell them not hers.
I understand her wanting to test their bounds to see if they are curious, but at whos expense. I told her if they get curious they'll come to you, and then you can talk to them about it. And, that she knows about as much as they do right now about what a man feels when he wears a bra and panties.
My concern is this: if you come out to our wife/SO you should realize they are their own person. They are not you. They may reveal things you are terrified to reveal with little or no thought about it even if you expressly tell them otherwise. For that reason it is very important that you can trust those you come out to. I thought I did. I came out with little hesitation because she gave me every assurance that I was safe.
I had to vent this. The female inside has a need to vent sometimes. I'm affraid if didn't I would not get vendication. I know it is of little consequence if you vendicate it now as the situation has passed, but I feel better for saying it.
My roommate (a GG) yesterday opened her mouth and spilled several 'ideas' to her two boys. We were in the car on the drive back to our house. She said things like "[krisy] was wearing my clothes when we took pictures last weekend", and "you never know, you might like wearing bras when you are older." They are 10 and 18. She was directing the last comment to the 10 year old who is lately getting curious about sexuality (aka speech includes 'boobs', 'tits', '****', 'balls', etc. then of course he laughs). The retorts from them were "that's gross" and "there are men out there that do dress as women."
I was mortified and defenceless. I couldn't do anything but take it.
Later (this morning) I confronted her and said that it is my choice to tell them not hers.
I understand her wanting to test their bounds to see if they are curious, but at whos expense. I told her if they get curious they'll come to you, and then you can talk to them about it. And, that she knows about as much as they do right now about what a man feels when he wears a bra and panties.
My concern is this: if you come out to our wife/SO you should realize they are their own person. They are not you. They may reveal things you are terrified to reveal with little or no thought about it even if you expressly tell them otherwise. For that reason it is very important that you can trust those you come out to. I thought I did. I came out with little hesitation because she gave me every assurance that I was safe.
I had to vent this. The female inside has a need to vent sometimes. I'm affraid if didn't I would not get vendication. I know it is of little consequence if you vendicate it now as the situation has passed, but I feel better for saying it.