Getting Hit On, What Would You Do?

[krisybryant]

RE: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=39788
I didn't want to hijack snowball's thread so I'll start another. I aim this at the borderline hetro/bi-curious crowd amoung us.

What would you do if you were hit on by a male while en femme?

Personally, I don't know what I would do until it actually happens. Part of me would be flattered (probably the femme side), part of me would be offended (the other side). Honestly, I would probably see how far he wants to take it just out of curiosity. I wouldn't play him though, I'd be honest when we were alone, but I think I'd follow through if he wanted to continue.

[angelfire]

I guess it would depend on the guy. If I found him attractive I may very well consider it. I would definitely be flattered (Even if not en femme, I would be flattered to be hit on by a guy). I also won't know until (if) it ever happens. Am I totally ruling out the possibility? No way.

[Yes I am]

I'd try to get as many free drinks out of it as I could, then ditch the poor *******.

[GG Vanya]

I can tell ya what Trudi did once :D

On her way across the parking lot to a Starburst Meeting (a support group in Tampa bay) while enfemme, a guy walked past her and said "nice ass".

She replied in her deepest most masculine voice possible "well thank you very much!"

After the guy picked his chin up off the pavement, Trudi suggested that he be more a gentleman when complimenting ladies in the future. :devil:

If the guy's feet were tires, he'd have been burning rubber as he left.

For the record, no Trudi wasn't alone when this happened nor would she or I ever suggest doing this unaccompanied.

Also for the record, :devil: the guy was speaking the truth! it *is* a nice one!:D

[Billijo49504]

Sorry, but I'm a one woman gurl. I have a very nice lady that puts up with me for almost 22 years. And I think it will be a lot more years.
But on the other hand, if you are not attached, more power to you. enjoy your life...BJ

[GG Vanya]

I'd try to get as many free drinks out of it as I could, then ditch the poor *******.

And what is it they call GG's who do this? :thumbsdn:

[Robertacd]

When it happend to me I just said "Sorry hun, I am married" and showed them the ring on my finger.

[Yes I am]

And what is it they call GG's who do this? :thumbsdn:

"Typical?"

I'm only joking, please don't hate me. :(

[ArleneRaquel]

When it happend to me I just said "Sorry hun, I am married" and showed them the ring on my finger.

But I also like to be complimented for my looks. ! :love: From Katrina

[KarenSusan]

I would be incredibly flattered and then offer the guy a free trip to my optometrist.

[ArleneRaquel]

I would be incredibly flattered and then offer the guy a free trip to my optometrist.

An excellent reply and very funny. I wish that I had thought of it. :love: From Katrina

[GG Vanya]

"Typical?"

I'm only joking, please don't hate me. :(



Well, if this has been your experience, I refer you to that ole sad country music song:

Lookin for love in all the wrong places....

[Yes I am]

Yes, yes. We all live and learn, usually.

[sandra-leigh]

What would you do if you were hit on by a male while en femme?

I had that happen a couple of months ago; I was in a club, done up nicely in a nice looking long velvet dress: attractive but not necessarily sexy. The pick-up guy could tell I was a guy (I was having some extended male-voice chats with the female employees), but still tried to pick me up. I was quite amused, a bit flattered, and was not offended at all, but not tempted even a smidgin.
(Poor fellow; I wasn't trying to be rude or off-putting to him, but I really couldn't fit another drink just then! But I did talk to him a bit.)

[Lisa Golightly]

Oh, I have this innate ability to attract all the very worse sorts... In all honesty I should run as fast as my heels could take me away from there. Still, life's not like that and I'm a sucker for beautiful eyes and humour...

[Kate Simmons]

It happens to me once in a while. I usually just enjoy it and play it to the hilt to see what his intentions are. Usually guys only have one thing on their mind whether you are a girl or guy/girl. I respond like any red blooded woman and eat up the attention. :happy: Ericka Kay

[Kate Simmons]

When it happend to me I just said "Sorry hun, I am married" and showed them the ring on my finger.Hi Roberta, I'm usually wearing my wedding rings. Doesn't mean much to some guys though. Ericka Kay

[Kristen Kelly]

It happens to me once in a while. I usually just enjoy it and play it to the hilt to see what his intentions are. Usually guys only have one thing on their mind whether you are a girl or guy/girl. I respond like any red blooded woman and eat up the attention. :happy: Ericka Kay

Ditto here. Makes my night, puts me on such a high. I have been hit on from men and women while dressed and choose to leave alone, but have had some great conversations so I was glad not to quickly brush them off.

[Mandy Salamander]

this actually happens t' mee quite a bit,,, 'n i'm not soooo flattered 's one might imagine, as generally occurs at a club or bar, 'n that IS what they're there for!!!,,,,,, i mostly flirt 'n tease 'n play along for a bit,,, but am really not that kinda girl 'n let them know b'fore toooo long!!!,,,,, i never rule out th' possibility, 'n am not saying nothing could ever happen, or ~giggle~ hasn't happened, but they'd hafta be a pretty special person(M or F), b'cuz i think i'm a pretty special person!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[lexygirl]

I haven't had that happen yet but I'll tell you when I dose:heehee:

[JenniferMint]

I made a topic about one time when I was out walking at night and got hit on 3 times:
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=37832

I just walked past them/politely declined them. In fact, I was on my way to pick up my boyfriend from the station (I only like girls, and my boyfriend also only likes girls, but we're somehow in a relationship o_O romantic but non-sexual though).

[Joy Carter]

Simple, I'd hit back.:heehee:

[JoAnnDallas]

I have not been hit on while out and dressed, but have had men IM me, not knowing that I was a CD. I remember the first time this happened and we were chatting away and I mentioned the wife. He came backing asking if I was a Lesiban, since normal girls don't have wifes. All of a sudden I realized that he thought I was a real GG. Yes I was flattered to say the least. I didn't say anything for a little while longer, but finially asked him if he had read my profile on yahoo. He said he had and I asked if he noticed the part that I was a CrossDresser. There was silence for a couple of minutes and finially he IMed me that he had taken another look at my profile. He Apologized and said that he was not looking for that kind of relationship. He was a real gentleman about it all and we parted on good terms.

This has happen a few times and each time it makes me feel real fem inside, but I believe that they should know what I am and if that is OK with him then I'll continue the conversations or they can hang up.

[Stephenie S]

[ I wouldn't play him though, I'd be honest when we were alone, but I think I'd follow through if he wanted to continue.[/QUOTE]

Dear Krisy,

Dangerous behavior here, dear.

The time for honesty is BEFORE you get alone. Many of us have been severly beaten and some have died by getting alone before we tell.

Homophobia is alive and well in the good ol' USofA. It's a good idea to remember that.

[Paula Thomas]

I would be flattered, and would talk to him/her as if I were a GG.

However, if I thought that they actually believed I was a GG, and was serious about more than talking (or, perhaps, dancing - which I am NOT good at), I would tell them the truth (BEFORE being "alone" with them).

If he/she wanted to continue talking, etc., I would be more than happy to.

Note - My wife may have other ideas, but she is so extroverted that she would probably not have any problems unless he/she wanted to take me somewhere "private" (at least, if she could not go also).

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

I think the issue here is that many t girls secretly seek validation from men but with no interest beyond that. I would love to have a male find me an attractive women but that wouldn't mean that I was attracted to him.

Sasha Anne

[laurajeantv]

I thinkthat I would enjoy the attention, let the moment happen and then let my instincts take over. Frankly, I suspect that my instincts would tell me to run away, but there would be a certain vampish lilt in my step for the rest of the day.

Hugs,

LauraJean

[Julogden]

RE: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=39788
I didn't want to hijack snowball's thread so I'll start another. I aim this at the borderline hetro/bi-curious crowd amoung us.

What would you do if you were hit on by a male while en femme?

Personally, I don't know what I would do until it actually happens. Part of me would be flattered (probably the femme side), part of me would be offended (the other side). Honestly, I would probably see how far he wants to take it just out of curiosity. I wouldn't play him though, I'd be honest when we were alone, but I think I'd follow through if he wanted to continue.
Back when I first started going out to T-friendly spots (late 1980's), the first time that happened to me, I freaked and actually left and went home.

After that, I learned to deal with it, and would tell them that I wasn't interested in men, but if they still wanted to talk, that was OK, met some decent people and got lots of free drinks! I did have to call for the bouncer once though, that wasn't pleasant, some guys don't believe you when you say no.

Carol:hugs:

[MsJanessa]

It happens a lot with Me(must be the way I dress--lol) It really depends on who is doing the hitting and what he or she(yes I have been hit on by women when dressed) presents as----I'm usually complimented unless its done in a rude crude manner in which case its a turn off and I usually have a curt snappy reply----if the person is polite and respectful I'll let them buy Me a drink and I'll flirt with them. If they are polite, respectful, submissive and attractive, I may take them home and have done so on occasion. One note, it gives Me a sense of satisfaction sometimes just to flirt with them but then not go home with them---appeals to the Bitch in Me and gives Me a sense of power---ooohh am I bad or what?:dom:

[Sky]

What would you do if you were hit on by a male while en femme?

Right now I would say "thanks a lot honey!". Because last few times I went out I didn't get hit nearly as much as when I was younger... :sigh:

[ReginaK]

Tell them I appreciate the attention, but it's not that kinda of party.

[Jena11]

This was very good question. It was something that I discussed with my close GG friends when I told them. I have been hit on by guys when I have been out dressed a a guy. I beleive in honesty, I am truley not into guys so I will not even concider leading someone on. I have only had 1 negative time. I was dancing with a girl at a bar that is mosty gay women and a guy asked me to dance and nicely told him that no thanks I am not intrested in guys. He was not happy and asked why I was there. I told my firends are here and I come here because people here are always freindly to everyone. He then did not like it that I would not dance with him. I again said sorry, I would not like to. Jena:o

[Georgina]

I'd run a mile. Whether in trousers or skirt I do not want male contact of that nature. Georgina.

[Sky]

It seems like the vast majority of you girls don't want anything to do with attracting any kind of male attention. Yet, most of you wear the best girlie stuff you can, and some are quite partial to downright sexy stuff, short minis, spiked heels, large boobs, which is exactly what attracts guys. Is it only me seeing the inconsistency?

I am not saying you should all dive into the nearest motel room with the first guy who hits on you (as Seinfeld would say, not that there's anything wrong with it...:heehee: ) but at least be nice and appreciative to the guy.

[lorrieanne]

I am a closeted cd so i have never had that happen to me. I do wonder what i would do if hit on. i know it would make me glad that someone saw me as a woman. I guess if he was a hunk anything could happen.

[Patty]

I have gone to a gay (CD friendly) bar a few times and got hit on by two different men. The first one was a real shock. The second one was very nice to talk with - he asked me to go dancing at another place but I said no thanks. Have talked to him another night after that-very nice man.

[JenniferMint]

It seems like the vast majority of you girls don't want anything to do with attracting any kind of male attention. Yet, most of you wear the best girlie stuff you can, and some are quite partial to downright sexy stuff, short minis, spiked heels, large boobs, which is exactly what attracts guys. Is it only me seeing the inconsistency?

Think lipstick lesbians.

[noname]

I had some creep following me around the book store. I wasn't dressed to pass or decked out or anything. When I was about to leave the store he started to approach me, I gave him this exasperated 'oh plz' look. Fortunately he took the hint and did an immediate 180 turn and walked away.

[Annette49]

I agree with Sky; if your going to dress sexy you need to understand you will get some attention from men.

[swiss_susan]

Never happend to me while dressed,

However being the stunning individual I am (notice the modesty) I would likley do the same thing I would when it happens in drab. politely decline their advances. But I would take it as a compliment I guess.

Susan

[LouiseCassell]

RE: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=39788
I didn't want to hijack snowball's thread so I'll start another. I aim this at the borderline hetro/bi-curious crowd amoung us.

What would you do if you were hit on by a male while en femme?

Personally, I don't know what I would do until it actually happens. Part of me would be flattered (probably the femme side), part of me would be offended (the other side). Honestly, I would probably see how far he wants to take it just out of curiosity. I wouldn't play him though, I'd be honest when we were alone, but I think I'd follow through if he wanted to continue.

I would do the only thing worth doing .... make the most of it :happy:

[Ranee Daze]

Just to start, when I get hit on by guys en drab this is my standard response "Thankyou for the compliment, really, but I am afraid we don't have much in common, have a good night/day, whatever". It's never happened while enfemme, except onece in a salon where I was getting my hair done by this gorgeous young female student, but my response would be the same. Most men are jerks, why would I get all gussied up to waste it on a gender I care not for?

In truth, it's really not the time to decide your sexuality on a sidewalk or in a bar with some offhand comment about your ass or hairstyle, is it? How would you approach someone in a social situation? Make that your standard and stick with it. It's a dangerous world out there!

[Sherry Ann Evans]

Part of me would be flattered (probably the femme side), part of me would be offended (the other side).

OFFENDED? I find your comment offensive. Even if you were 100% straight, why would you be offended?

It would be flagrantly hypocritical for somebody like a CD to be intolerate of homosexuals.

Even when I'm in drab mode, if a guy hit on me, I'd tell him, "Well, I'm not gay, but thanks for the compliment!"

[Calliope]

It seems like the vast majority of you girls don't want anything to do with attracting any kind of male attention. Yet, most of you wear the best girlie stuff you can, and some are quite partial to downright sexy stuff, short minis, spiked heels, large boobs, which is exactly what attracts guys. Is it only me seeing the inconsistency?


I certainly see the inconsistency.

And I think this lies at the core of 'passing,' too. If passing means men see you as a woman, then mating impulses naturally brings the CD into the crosshairs. Dressing sexy usually means 'I am sexually active and looking around.' Remember this basic rule when deciding to go out looking like a centerfold fantasy.

And, yes, it's a thin line because the limitations of CDing requires a certain amount of makeup and fem+ attire to disguise our maleness.

Weirdly enough, I once got hit on. Me, looking granny-like. I figured the guy was totally hardup and certainly he was inept at flirting. I got away from him ASAP, no compliment there.

If the girls will dance with me, then I feel I've done OK.

[Cheryl T]

First I'd check my makeup...

Then refer him to my eye dr....

[tekla west]

Be nice, be polite, think saftey, tell the truth. If all that works out, then take if from there no matter what direction you are leaning. No one has to say yes, but there is no reason to be rude either. "Thanks, but no thanks" tends to work most of the time.

[Marla]

It truly depends on the guy. If I find him attractive anything goes. The attractive part is the problem. When I used to look for women there wern't
many to choose from and its the same with men.

[bean]

Ditto girl I have been hit on plenty of times I usual say thank you, but if I were a real woman I would be a lesbian. They get a kick out of that.

[Sky]

It truly depends on the guy. If I find him attractive anything goes. The attractive part is the problem. When I used to look for women there wern't many to choose from and its the same with men.

I used to wonder "why do I always seem to get all these unattractive, ugly guys?"

Then I looked in the mirror and thought "oh, that's why". :lol:

[Snookums]

I think I would tell her,I'm married,I would tell him that I'm straight and don't follow that path.

[Karren H]

Hit back.....

Love Karren

[Jodi Lynn]

When it happened to me it made me feel great, I played along a little but nothing really happened.

[samantha#1]

Only twice have I been hit on and on each ocassion I was with my wife on a night out. The 1st was two drunk business exes who we basically told to go and jump in the lake. On the second ocassion and again with my wife, a very nice and charming young gentleman partook in an evening that I am sure he will remember for the rest of his life.
Samantha

[cateK]

men are not used to getting hit on, for ggs it starts when they are young and they learn how do deal with it. I would think that who was doing the hitting and how it is done makes a difference.
it has been years since I went out dressed, I was hit on a couple of times and felt awkward. Now I would like to think of it as a compliment...but then, I would have to assess the situation.

[Priscilla Ann]

Hit back.....

Love Karren

Karren, is that with or without the hockey stick?

[Priscilla Ann]

As a man and a crossdresser, I have come to believe that many men will hit on anything that even slightly resembles a female and thusly wouldn't think much of it if I were to ever get hit on by a man. Having said this, I must not be doing too good of a job in presenting myself as a female since I have been en femme in bars where there were men and even drunk men and have yet to be hit on....:sad:

[Jestina]

Look him right in the eye with a coy smile...
and say "Thanks but I think my girlfriend has first dibs"

That might cause a double loop de loop.

[Marissa Mae]

With all honesty, I think I would be uncomfortable with being hit on by a man. I in no way have any intent to dabble or experiment. I am happily in a heterosexual relationship :o and like to enjoy dressing in my own way. To respond though, I would speak in a normal male voice and say "thanks for the compliment, but I am a straight man".

Like someone expressed above, it is ironic that alot of us, including me, like to dress scandalously but have no urge to hit or be hit on by those the clothing is meant to attract. Like the CD'ing itself, it is something I am not exactly sure of. But it is the way it is.

[jessica cd]

Right now I just depend on my looks. Once I spoke though the guy would know that i'm a man too. I had that one trucker leering at me last week and I played the demure role. Just looked into my purse while my wife thought it was hysterical. Anyway I did get a taste of what women have to deal with. (and I am an offender). I guess too, it depends on the guy. If he's an ass i'll just have to put heels to em.

[jessica cd]

With all honesty, I think I would be uncomfortable with being hit on by a man. I in no way have any intent to dabble or experiment. I am happily in a heterosexual relationship :o and like to enjoy dressing in my own way. To respond though, I would speak in a normal male voice and say "thanks for the compliment, but I am a straight man".

Like someone expressed above, it is ironic that alot of us, including me, like to dress scandalously but have no urge to hit or be hit on by those the clothing is meant to attract. Like the CD'ing itself, it is something I am not exactly sure of. But it is the way it is.

I agree.

[Stephenie S]

"Honestly, I would probably see how far he wants to take it just out of curiosity. I wouldn't play him though, I'd be honest when we were alone, but I think I'd follow through if he wanted to continue."

May I add here that waiting until you are alone my be a tad bit dangerous.

Steph

[GG Vanya]

I agree with Sky; if your going to dress sexy you need to understand you will get some attention from men.


I'm sure the lesbian contingent would say this isn't something one must tolerate.

[PatriciaCD]

It would depend on the guy. If I tell him and he still wants to go forth then let the evening go where it will.

[Niya W]

I usualy tell them I'm a lesban :). If the guy is a creep I just ignore him. Some times I'll let guys buy me a drink . But if you dress and act like a woman you need to get use te bing hit on.

[gwenrob43]

Hey Day Tripper, you ain't so old. Now, I'm old! I sure wish I could trade a few of my years of experience.... Ha Ha

hugs
Gwen

[Sarah Smile]

I'm sure the lesbian contingent would say this isn't something one must tolerate.

Well, getting attention is one thing; getting persistent, unwanted attention is something else.

While I have never been out en femme, I do dress femininely (for a guy). I have encountered men who, because of this, have assumed I am gay and try to flirt with me, even though I am not gay. I have turned them down politely, and if need be, persistently. Treat others as you would like to be treated. Frankly, if I was acting like a jerk, I would be prefer to be treated like one. Hopefully it would wake me up.

[ArleneRaquel]

When I am enfemme I become very sexual, so I would probably flirt with him and see what happens. Though, in the back of my mind, I would fear what he might do, if he discovers that I am not really a she. Any Gentleman who flirts with me is either blind or drunk. :love: From Femme - Fatale Katrina

[Kaitlyn]

I would love for that to happen.. hehe, now I just gotta get my buns out there en femme and see if it will happen. :heehee:

[Ohio_Allana]

well that depends on whether or not he took to me actually being male. I am quite bi, more toward gay, and I really like looking fem to attract guys.

I'd be upfront about it, after teasing for a little bit, of course. I dont' want to lead someone into something they might not want to do.

[noname]

This happened to me in guy mode while wearing a denim skirt. While at the store this guy kept crossing paths with me. I shrugged it off as chance. As I was nearing the end of browsing. I look up, and there he is AGAIN heading for me. I gave ( with out thinking ) an exausitive look that said, ohhh pleeeeease. He immedately did I 180 and walked away.

I am very very strait. Did I mention I was strait? So this was definately an unwelcomed advance.

[JennyTVPerth]

I don't go out dressed in very public places, but if/when I reach that stage (and assuming that the guy in question otherwise seemed nice), then I would flirt back and see how things progressed from there.

[sophie69]

It would be flattering, but would be very uncomfortable. Being hit on by a gg when dressed would be out of this world though! wow! Soph

[sterling12]

When it first started, I was very uncomfortable with it. Now I take it as a compliment, whether or not the "hitter-oner" is straight, gay or whatever!

Remember, I never instigate these episodes. When it does happen, I normally use my best "Blanche Dubois, drippy southern accent", and say "Thank you honey for bein' so charmin' and complimentary". If it continues, his usual next line is "can I sit and talk to you?" That's when I inform The Hitter, "sure you can talk to me, but you need to know that I'm straight and a guy...but,we can be friends". This usually ends the conversation and my admirer shoots away, like he's got a rocket perched up his rectum.

Then I go back to having fun with my friends! Oh well, as an Ex once told me: "They are just like buses, stand around for a few minutes and another one comes along".

Peace and Love, Joanie

[joanne_mi]

This has to be one of the toughest questions out there for me. I can honestly say I have no idea what I'd do. I'm exclusivley straight (only GG's for me thanks), but the validation I'd get from that may trump my basic sexuality. I don't know.

What I wouldn't do, is allow him to believe I was a GG, that's wrong in my opinion, and it's dangerous. If he KNEW I wasn't what I (sort of) appeared as, I may play it up some. Again, I don't know.

I was chatting once online, and a troll asked me the most apt question I've ever gotten from anyone regarding this sort of thing. It still bothers me to this day.

"Why would you dress like that if you didn't want men's attention".

I had no answer for that. And I still don't. Maybe I do want their attention, but nothing more than that. Or maybe not. Again, I don't know.

I'm sure this cleared exactly nothing up regarding this great question. :p

[REBECCA62]

RE: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=39788
I didn't want to hijack snowball's thread so I'll start another. I aim this at the borderline hetro/bi-curious crowd amoung us.

What would you do if you were hit on by a male while en femme?

Personally, I don't know what I would do until it actually happens. Part of me would be flattered (probably the femme side), part of me would be offended (the other side). Honestly, I would probably see how far he wants to take it just out of curiosity. I wouldn't play him though, I'd be honest when we were alone, but I think I'd follow through if he wanted to continue.


hi krysy,
like you my femme side would probably be very flattered.
tho' i dont understand why your drab side would be offended.it is after all you who is out en-femme and the poor guy wouldnt know how you feel on the subject would he.
as i said in a thread the other day it is a subject ive wondered about before and like you would, if he were suitably attractive to me, probably go all the way. out of sheer curiosity if nothing else. i mean, i keep hearing that you should try everything once, and like i said in the thread i have become curious as to what it would be like to take the femme in me to the ultimate degree.
if i didnt like it, i needn't do it again but at least i'd know what it was like and would have learned something wouldn't i :D

lots of love
rebecca
xx
:doll:

[beckynytv]

Wow - its like the STAMP of approval in my mind. You have finally pulle dit off where you are attractive enough as a lady that men find you sexy. I embrace it - to a point. HOnestly I thoroughly enjoy being hit on and gladly flirt back. It is not right to lead a guy on and can get dangerous i'm sure. BUt in my eyes, show a little leg girls and have some fun with it!

Becky

[MJ]

well that depends if he knows about me then.. sure i would after all there will be no surprise. and i get the chance to see if i could you know do it (i have never done so ) but if it's a stranger then i think not. i am still not sure about men and there intention. after all i want to live and enjoy my new life

[Sky]

...if he were suitably attractive to me, probably go all the way. out of sheer curiosity if nothing else. i mean, i keep hearing that you should try everything once, and like i said in the thread i have become curious as to what it would be like to take the femme in me to the ultimate degree.
if i didnt like it, i needn't do it again but at least i'd know what it was like and would have learned something wouldn't i

Like an old Jacqueline Susann book said, "Once is Not Enough"

You need a little practice to find the fun in it. :D

[tallyman]

This is a soul searching tread. One that mkes you think. Yes I would love for men to see me as a female. If one hit on me then I would know that I could pass as a female. I think I do when I look at my self. But is that enought.
I have always had this thing about my wife and other men. Is this becouse of my CD. The answer in truth if is if it ever happed and my wife was part of it then yes I would enjoy the moment. But in real life will it be the same the morning after . Thinking is one thing doing is another.

Marrige is to important to find out so even though I may love the attention no I would not get involed.


Love Michaela:love:

[Sweet Jane]

I would be terrified...I'd take the compliment and be beating a hasty retreat...I have done the same en homme too, where I have been hit on...taken the compliment and left. I just love my wife too much, I suppose.

[GG Vanya]

While not wishing to offend, I still need to ask:

How many of you stop to think that getting hit on by a man is not indicative of the holy grail of passing? That perhaps men *do* realize that you are a male crossdresser, but have assumed that CDs are promiscuous. Yes, there is that element out there, and unfortunately it's the element that draws the most attention/publicity and therefore it's entirely possible CDs are hit on by men for this reason.

[Lady Jayne]

I have to agree with Vanya on this one, unless the guy is very drunk there are very few of us who could "pass" in a close up one to one situation like that I wish I could. I do think though that a lot of guys who hit on us are Bi Curiouse and use the CD thing to justify thier interest.
That said I was once pestered by a guy who wouldn't take no for an answer and it scared the hell out of me, so much so that I haven't been out since.

[gwenrob43]

I have very mixed emotions, especially when I'm dressed. I often consider the idea of being hit upon, and want that to happen. I would tell the person that I'm a guy, it's too dangerous not to. If he wanted to continue, I think I'd continue. I'd like to try it anyway.

[TG-Taru]

Not by a guy, but a girl did ask me to dance once (I'm no good at dancing either, or small talk, or..). It was a girls party, she was most likely a lesbian, and I'm unsure if she knew what I was. I'm really bad at that sort of thing so nothing more happened (apart from the dance), but sure was nice anyay :)

Either I was passing as GG or not, in guy or girl mode, I'd welcome being hit on nicely, and either graciously accept and move on or play along. If I liked them and it was getting serious I'd make sure they knew the actual deal before going further. They should have doubts at least by then anyway.


sucker for beautiful eyes and humour...
Oo those beautiful eyes... I'm usually not interested in guys (especially in guy mode), but dang one had pretty eyes and lashes. It was a work meeting in guy mode too, kept glancing once in a while :D

[Josie06]

Lorrieanne, I agree with you. I still am in the closet too, but we do dream ... and even fantasize at times.

I would be so flattered that a man thought that I was beautiful, feminine and a woman. That he was paying such attention to me that ... I know my heart would also be pounding with the excitement and exhilaration his attention would bring to me. Wow!

Nothing could happen of course, beyond the talking, if I could even get the words out of my throat initially. I don't even know if I could flirt back, though it might be interesting. Maybe I'll just just ... swoon and faint.

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[Jillian310]

When guys 'hit' on me, I am very upfront on my full particulars, and if there are good vibes, I like to take it as far as it will go. The way I dress when going to venues where this may happen is designed to draw that kind of attention. For those girls that like to lead the guys on then throw cold water in their faces at the critical moment, we had a term for that in High School. They were called pr..k teasers.

[Kimberly]

showed them the ring on my finger.
I'd just show 'em the finger... :tongueout

... especially if it was in the WOC. :devil:

[Billie Jean]

Since I'm not that passable, the only person who would hit on me would probably be lesbian. Billie Jean

[Francesca Chantel]

My wife and I went out grocery shopping last Saturday night. I had on a midlength black dress, short blond hair and heels. Pics soon. Some creepy guy did hit on me in the bread aisle. I brushed him off.

I didn't think too much about it. We're putting groceries into my car and my wife looks over to see her ex husband getting into his car. I never met him, nor had the desire to in polite company. She points him out and I'll be damned if it wasn't that same guy...

Needless to say, when I told my wife, she laughed for a solid hour...:itsok:

[carolinebrookes]

It's a fact of life that if you are out dressed up to the nines or even remotely looking like a woman, there are some guys out there who will hit upon you. Some Men, (and I should know as i am one!),are always after trying to get laid. Male friends of mine are walking glands and I have absolutely no doubt that if it got that far, some would not care if it were a GG or cd/tv/tg they were involved with!
Personally, I take it as a back handed compliment. Whether or not some guys have "seen through me" is another matter. I've never let it get that far down the road as I'm only interested in GG's. I just smile, thank them and move off elsewhere using body language to let them know I'm not interested.
Unfortunately persistent ones have to be told what I am.

[Joanna Renee']

It happened to me on my second night out I was so flattered, Then I didn;t know where it would lead, so for both our sakes i told him who I was and it didn't faze him. We spent the rest of the evening in good conversation and even though we did not get intimate it made me relize that i could get a man's attention. I hope to run into him again:heehee: Joanna Renee'

[Jestina]

Since I'm not that passable, the only person who would hit on me would probably be lesbian. Billie Jean

Oivay!!

This one makes me smile but hurts my head at the same time...

Oh what a tangled complicated web...

Jestina