Coming out to the kids.

[Caitlintgsd]

I saw my gender therapist earlier this week. She stated that I should come out to my kids. My wife has been against this for a few years. She stated that she wanted to discuss this with my son's counselor first.
This a.m. we met with the kid's counselor. I brought the topic up. She (counselor) looked at my wife and stated "What did I tell you a long time ago? It's better to discuss this with your children now than later. I told you that a couple of years ago".
So now we just have to figure how to break it to the kids. I'm glad. I feel like a big burden is being lifted off of my shoulders.

[JenniferMint]

How old are your kids?

[Nigella]

Kids are very resilient, When we told our daughter her response was "I had an idea", where she got that from I don't know, but she has been very supportive, to the extent that anything I had she borrowed :(

[Sejd]

Dear caitlintgsd
I came out to my son who is 25 today. He asked me how I was doing in therapy because I had told him I was going to a therapist. I asked if he really wanted to know and he said yes. I then told him I had embraced the fact that I was a transexual person and that I loved the fact that I no longer wanted it to be a secret. He was concerned if I was gay, but then at peace when I told him that Itwas about expressing my female side. I also explained to him how this is hereditary and he then told me, "You know, I think I have a bit of that in me too" That felt good to me, because he does not have to wait until he is 55 to feel free enough to live it.
thanks for sharing your story.
love
Sejd

[GypsyKaren]

It really does depend on how old they are, as to whether they'd understand it and such. I know I just sat down with mine and told them what I was and what it meant, no beating around the bush and such.

Karen

[Caitlintgsd]

My daughter's 10 and my son's 16. One of the things his counselor asked me was if I had accepted myself. Hmmm, been on hrt for 15 months now. I guess I'm happy with who I am. But it's a valid question. Just wish that I'd accepted myself 20 years ago,