Anyone Else 'Cut To The Chase'??

[Melanie]

After numerous shopping trips in the past as I re-eqipped my fem clothes,makeup,wig,shoes etc I found that I could no longer fib or hide the truth when purchasing or checking out fem attire.Besides a forceful salesgirl could try sway or highly recommend something that you really don't want and then you waste everyone's time here.

Now I brazenly go right up to the sales girl/woman and after they say' can I help you find something?",I say yes and then say' oh btw it's for ME ok?".

You should see some of the reactions they are worth taking a photo of,lol.:heehee:

Anyone else brazen enough to blurt it out as I now do?,lol.:eek:

Hugs,
Melanie,

:hugs:

[Dana Carlton]

I can't say that I've told a sales person BEFORE they actually say something. I have had them ask me "is this for someone special?" or "who is this for?", then I will tell them it is for myself. But if they don't ask first, then they don't need to know. And yes, the reaction after they find out can be quite priceless. But then there are others who just go with the flow. So each reaction is different.

[Sophia Rearen]

Melanie, the crossdressing shopping martre. :D

[noname]

Usually I think they don't know or just figure it out.

[Lisa Golightly]

Last year when I was buying some knickers in M&S (the only shop to buy knickers in) the sales assistant kindly proffered the excuse 'For your girlfriend?' to which I replied 'No, for me'. My reward? The wickedest smile in Christendom.

[paulaN]

I had the chance to say"its for me" the other day. but I died. next time I'll be more prepared.

[Brianna Lovely]

I always say it's for me, for all fem items. Most of the time I just get a polite "Oh" and a smile.

[Annaliese]

Anyone else brazen enough to blurt it out as I now do?,lol.:eek:



:hugs:

I did that a Fredicks of Hollywood once and the Sale assistant was great and made me feel welcome.

[Jennaie]

Yes, I have done it many times Melanie. Actually, my best shopping experiences in drab have been when I was very up front about it all. Strange.:happy:

[Phyliss]

When I get the "May I help you?" question my usual answer is: "I'm just looking right now, to see if something jumps out at me and says "Take me home". But I'll ask for you if I need any help. Your name is....?"

By this time, they kinda figure it out. If not I continue to shop as if I were looking for a fishing lure. I've learned to drop any embarrassment at the front door.
No bad reaction yet.

[SherriePall]

Have done that several times now, usually around Halloween, but I have done it a couple of times besides near the upcoming holiday. I had one girl giggle when I told her, but she settled down and fell all over me trying to help.

[Linda-x]

I was at a Victoria Secret once, and the sale's girl was so sweet, and friendly, That when She asked what I was looking for, I said "a bra, and that I'm a crossdresser". She got a big kick of that, and started showing me all sorts of things !..LOL . Also, I was trying on womens shoes at a Payless shoe store, when an older sales lady walked up and asked if I was finding everything alright. I just said, "yes, and I bet you don't see many guy's trying on womens shoes" !! Her response was, " I'm not shocked, I came home once, and found my boyfriend putting on my make up" !! Her and I always have a lot to talk about, when I stop in there now , LOL !!.

[Tessa Wire]

I must say that telling the SA up front is the best way to be. Most of the time they are very helpful, and most become less aprehensive when dealing with who like that. Some even ask questions, which is a great time to explaine my self to them and to get the word out about my lifestyle.

As always Loves :hugs:

[Kristen Kelly]

I usually don’t go out of my way to tell them but I have and have gotten a few giggles, and dropped mouths. The best was at Macy’s. I was shopping in drab and I had found on clearance 2 pair of $60 jeans for $8.99 a pair and a $36 top for $3.99. I took the to the cashier to check out when she said,” Wow what a great deal your wife or GF is very lucky to be getting these”, to which I replied, “ She better not touch them.” There was silence for a moment then she just gave out a little chuckle, and a “Have a nice day.”

[CharleneCD]

Back this past spring I had no choice but to come out and say it was for me. I was out looking for a formal gown and there was no way I was paying that kind of cash without trying on the dress. So my wife and I went in and set up an appointment and told them it was for me. The whole thing went well, and the gals there treated me good. I returned the compliment be calling the manager to let her know how happy I was.

As for everyday shopping, I still tend to play the " its for someone else" game. But I don't push it too much, and with the serious way I look at clothes...... I dont think I am fooling anybody.

[Jodi]

When shopping in drab, I always tell the SA beforehand that the clothing is for me. Have never had a problem. Generally, the answer from the SA is "that's cool". As has been said, this let's the SA relax and do her job. I have also been complimented by SA's for coming out to them. I've been told that they appreciate my courage to be myself and be honest. They, then, tell me a number of stories of guys shopping for themselves and the marvelous stories they make up to cover for it.

Be open, be honest. You won't die on the spot.

Jodi

[Karren H]

I have told many a SA and checkout clerk that the things I was buying were for me...and they usually just smile.. But I don't blurt it out... They ask if its for my wife or a gift..

Love Karren

[shericd7]

Once when I was buying a pair of black pantyhose the salesgirl asked what I was going to wear them with? I told her a denim mini shirt,blouse and cowboy boots..And invited her to the bar when she got off work...

[Samantha B L]

I do a great deal of my tg shopping out at malls,department stores,shopping centers and I started when I was 19.I'm 50 now.For years I would have all these feeble lies concocted for myself such as it's my "Aunt's Birthday","Present For My Sister","Xmas present For My Girlfreind" and I'm very sure that the salespeople always saw through my B.S. and that they must've thought to themselves "why the elaborate lies from this guy I don't even know anyway"After awhile I eventually had chances to shop at businesses that have a big tg clientel.There was no point in trying to cover up with apologetic cover stories.They would just ask me outright if I liked the color of a wig or lipstick or scarf.So over the years I've just decided that I buy what I want and I don't even explain if it's for me or not to the store employees.But if pressed I fess up and go ahead and tell them that it's for me.I've gotta say that I really think that with rare exceptions most businesses are tg freindly.Samantha

[TaniaInTas]

When shopping for shoes, out of town, the need to get a proper fit dictates that I be up front, and I am yet to experience a negative reaction. Mostly neutral, but some very positive.

[angelfire]

I've never told them, but only once lied about it. I used the "Its for my girlfriend" excuse only once. That was only because she asked "Is it for your girlfriend" and I just agreed. She was still very helpful.

Although last time the woman clearly knew it was for me. I mean, she basically watched me, the only customer, browsing women's wear for like...an hour. Then when I went up to the cash she avoided eye contact mostly, then commented "This is a really nice skirt." I smiled and said thanks, and she said "Have a nice day"

I have the philosophy "Don't ask, don't tell"

[Adrienne Heels]

I am up front and let them know I am shopping for myself. The SAs at the stores I usually shop in know me now and know what I have and like. That makes shopping a lot more fun and much easier. They treat me just like another woman.

This may sound silly but I am more comfortable and confident shopping when I let them know I am shopping for myself.

[Krystal Lee]

I usually don't just blurt it out that it is for me but if asked I will be honest and say yes it's for me.

I have been shopping at one store for so long that all the girls know me and are very helpfull. Last noght I went in for a sale and one of the gals (the assistant manager) came over and told me that if I would be more comfortable she would let me shop after hours. "You could shop to your hearts content" was her statement to me.

I may just have to take her up on that as she is very cute and it would be a thrill trying things on with just her in the store with me.

Hugs Krystal

[Sonia_cd]

In the past, I used the usual excuses - "girlfriend", "special friend", etc. Now, I just ask for what I want and get it. If quizzed on size, I tell them if it fits me, its fine. That leaves it open to interpretation, it could be for me or for a person built like me. Don't incriminate myself nor do I reveal my crossdressing.

Just that I see no reason why an SA should know I am a crossdresser. If it doesn't fit, I can always exchange it.

Love,
Sonia

[Sejd]

Melanie, you got the right attitude for sure.
LOL
Sejd

[angelfire]

In the past, I used the usual excuses - "girlfriend", "special friend", etc. Now, I just ask for what I want and get it. If quizzed on size, I tell them if it fits me, its fine. That leaves it open to interpretation, it could be for me or for a person built like me. Don't incriminate myself nor do I reveal my crossdressing.

Just that I see no reason why an SA should know I am a crossdresser. If it doesn't fit, I can always exchange it.

Love,
Sonia

If you try it on and say "Its for someone my size" chances are they are gunna guess its for you. Not that it matters, but chances are...

[Barb Valentine]

I haven't done it yet but
I'd love to say yes it's for me
You got a problem with that !

[stefie22]

I used to have a friend bring stuff out from the city when i was thinner. it was easy to get away with it because my girlfriend was the same size only shorter.(i married her after, she knew) then i gained weight.now there is one store that i go to for buying my frillieswhere the owner knows. i once went in for a silk chemise and just told her it was for me. now i buy my stockings hose and fancy stuff there. she is very helpful and tries to make sure noone else is in the store at the time. its handy.

[sandra-leigh]

After numerous shopping trips in the past as I re-eqipped my fem clothes,makeup,wig,shoes etc I found that I could no longer fib or hide the truth when purchasing or checking out fem attire.

I answer the same way as when I'm looking for mens' clothes: if I don't have anything particular in mind and am just checking things out, then when I'm asked if I could be assisted, I say "Just looking at the moment", or "Not at the moment thank you". But if I do happen to be looking for something, whether known in advance or inspired by something I've seen, then I do just go up to the SA's and say, "I'm looking for..."; and don't hesitate about sizing or colour information. No "Ummm, I think she's a size 12" for example), just "I'm looking for size 14" (or as appropriate.) And if I'm interested in something, either seriously or just wondering what that style or colour would look like on me, then I go ahead and say, "I'd like to try these on please". For sizing, I don't worry if I happen to phrase it as "I probably need a size 16", and I readily gesture to my own body to show that I'm looking for longer cuts or long-sleeves. "Hmmm, I don't think I'm interested in that colour", or "I'd rather something plainer, without that kind of stitching or rhinestones".

If the SA hasn't figured out that I'm looking for myself before I ask to try the things on, then it's not for lack of clues. And if a SA asks, "is that for you", then I just answer "Yes" conversationally.

About the only time I hesitate about saying something clue-laden or asking to try something on, is if the store is relatively small and there are children or teenagers in easy hearing distance. In such cases, I somehow feel that I would be "imposing" my cross-dressing on the parent/child situation. But I feel differently about that if I'm walking around in a mall or on the street or sitting in a bus, and I'm "readable" en femme, or perhaps feminized but not trying to pass: in those cases, where I might be seen "in passing" (or browsing the racks), I somehow have much more of an attitude of "Hey, if the parents didn't want their kids to be exposed to things like this, they don't have to bring the children here; in public, I'm going to wear whatever tasteful thing I feel like, and if some kid happens to ask their parents, then it's a good chance for the parents to talk to them about tolerance and diversity." It's just in close-quarters with minors around that I hesitate or hold back.

(The hesitation I mention maybe has some link to my not liking to be seen in the process of transitioning. For example, I won't put my bra-forms in in full sight of people, but yeh, I'll slip them in even walking down the street if no-one is near-by or paying attention. Similarily, if I have a skirt on under my jeans, I don't like to be observed taking off the jeans -- I'm comfortable with the jeans on covering everything, and I'm comfortable walking around with the skirt, but pulling off your pants in public is Not Done, even if you are fully decent for the entire process...)

[Vash]

I think one of the great things about being up front about this, is that you have a much better chance of getting the right size,fit and look that you are looking for. I have gotten a little more bold about saying who it's for these days. I am trying to buy better and more upscale clothes these days so I really want to make sure it is "exactly" for me. I just bought a jacket from Kasper. thought I was one size but it turns out I needed one size larger <damn M&M's>.The one thing I have only had the nerve to do once like that was buy shoes. I really need to work on that.

[Billijo49504]

I was redeeming a coupon for a free pair of panties at Victoria Secrets, and the coupon is also for $10 of of any bra. When I tell them the panties are for me, they ask if I'm interested in a bra for $10 off. They don't care, so why should I. It's only a piece of clothe...BJ

[RachelDenise]

I've said "it's for me" more recently as I have gained more confidence, but I don't open the conversation with that information. Since I'm tall and wide there is an inevitable question about sizingand who is the purchase for, and lately I have owned up to the clothes being for me. Varied reactions, but SA's know where their commission comes from! On a particulalrly helpful trip to Lane Bryant, I had such a good experience with a helpful SA, I even signed up for a charge card.

[Phyliss]

I even signed up for a charge card.
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Rachel Denise

Oh Oh, Now you're in trouble.
I have one and know how "dangerous" that can be. ;) ;)

[Sonia_cd]

If you try it on and say "Its for someone my size" chances are they are gunna guess its for you. Not that it matters, but chances are...

Agreed, but at a 150 pounds and 5'7" without heels, most things fit. Besides, I don't try it on, just provide the SA with an estimation of size. And if they do guess, like you rightly put it, does it matter!!

Love,
Sonia

[Angie G]

When my wife and I are shopping we talk like do you like this or she may say
do you want ths skirk or blose I pick out pantys for myself and carry them around thr store.
Once a sa sed wour wife is a lucky woman And I just sed yes she is:hugs:
Angie

[trannie T]

I got in an argument with a sales associate one time. As I was paying for a skirt she said that she wished her husband would buy her clothes as I was doing for my wife. I smiled and told her that the skirt was for me. She said "No, it's for your wife." As I finished paying I said again that the skirt was for me. I should have shown her the panties I was wearing.

Recently I bought some panties, at the counter were two young sales associates. One picked up the panties and joked "I hope they're not for you." The other one had seen me before buying women's things and said "Yes they are."
As the first one looked back to me I said, "Yes, I'm a crossdresser."

[Ginger62]

Hello Girls,

Earlier this week, I bought several pairs of thigh highs, some at Wal*Mart, some at Kohl's. The sizes are on the large side, E/F or Q. Lack of eye contact is mostly what I've experienced. I do get the "Have a good day" comment, however. Once, when full-on dressed as a man, I was called ma'am when the clerk saw the stockings! He may have been a little off. I do live in a generally conservative area.

Frankly, I think that guys don't know what they're missing. I LOVE the way the thigh highs make my legs feel. I'm on my feet constantly through the day. The stockings give my legs a little extra boost, my brain a little extra endorphin shot and at the end of the day, I have a little mor energy to spend with the family.

I think that it takes a lot of guts to walk into a store, buy something that is regarded as "for women" and make no apologies or excuses.

Hugs,

Ginger

[KellyCD]

I did that a Fredicks of Hollywood once and the Sale assistant was great and made me feel welcome.


I had the same experience, I love fredricks. I almost want to send them a letter about how nice their sales people are.

[Julie in Virginia]

I am jealous of your candor.
I have only occassionaly told the sales associates that I was shopping for me.
Almost every time, it has been a very positive experience. I don't know why I just don't get over my inhibitions and be more honest. It's not like I'm fooling anyone with the "it's for my girlfriend" line.

[sparks]

I once bought a bra from a sale rack. After purchasing it the sales girl said that it was non-returnable. I said "Hon I won't be returning it!" She turned beat red and we both laughed.

I miss the big city it's so much easier to buy what you want. Here the Sales People are your Neighbours! It sucks!

[Dave3]

On Saturday afternoon I was in a department store, lucky to find exactly what I wanted - one size 12 & two size 14 "SASS Ruffle Satin Skirt with Side Tie". I had previously bought a size 12 (a 'tight' fit), and these are so good I just had to have more! That they were on special (marked down from $60 to $45) just made it irresistable.

Taking the three skirts up to the counter, I was asked "are these all for you?".

Had I read this thread earlier, this might have been the start of a good conversation. But I was caught so off guard, I couldn't even speak!

[AmberTG]

Ya, Dave, been there, done that! I just wasn't ready for the comment on the day that it came, from a mature woman cashier, at that. She just caught me off guard that day. I've learned to deal with it better sense then.

[Rachel Morley]

Apart from the time I bought my wig at a specialist wig store, and I told them ahead of time that I was coming in to buy for myself, there has only one time I actually volunteered "it's for me"....and that was for a pair of girl's jeans. :o

I usually don't say anything. If the SA comments on how she likes the top or skirt I'm about to buy I usually just smile. However, I would be happy to let them know it was for me if I felt that she would be able to help me choose something appropriate and suitable. Except this is unlikely to happen nowadays because my wife Marla almost always comes with me when I go shopping for clothes :happy:

[AprilMae]

I generally have a good eye for size, when buying clothes for either side, I rarely need the help of a sales person. I don't go for form fitting clothes so a little leeway is there.I don't find much hassle in the few times I needed o return things.

[Jodi]

Apart from the time I bought my wig at a specialist wig store, and I told them ahead of time that I was coming in to buy for myself, there has only one time I actually volunteered "it's for me"....and that was for a pair of girl's jeans. :o

I usually don't say anything. If the SA comments on how she likes the top or skirt I'm about to buy I usually just smile. However, I would be happy to let them know it was for me if I felt that she would be able to help me choose something appropriate and suitable. Except this is unlikely to happen nowadays because my wife Marla almost always comes with me when I go shopping for clothes :happy:

Angel, When the SA smiles and compliments you on your selection of a skirt and top, she is letting you know that she knows you are buying for yourself. That should be your opening--take it from there.
Jodi

[Jodi Lynn]

Only two times have SA said anything to me, one time I was buying pantyhose and the girl asked if I was going to rob a bank, and I said no wear them. The other time I was buying some lipstick and the girl said this shade should look good on you and I said I hope so and smiled, she smiled back. Those are the only time I have said it was for me, just a few weeks ago I was at wal-mart and picked up a really pretty top went to the check out and I know I have seen this girl that was at the checkout before when I was buyiong other fem things, and she said oh this is a lovely top with a smile I just said yes I think so and thank you. I am sure she knows the things are for me by now.