JennyCA
12-26-2004, 07:44 PM
I read a story about a woman training a man to be feminine and press the envelope in public by wearing certain subtle feminine items. I can no longer find the story, but it had her tell the person to wear such things are femine pants, or a piece of feminine jewelry. Three questions:
1. Do you have any suggestions (be specific)? (Considering pants, nails, jewelry, light make-up, jewelry, shirts, and hairstyle)
2. Are there any like-minded friends out there that are willing subtly be more feminine outside the confines of their homes without stopping traffic?
3. For those of us who have accepted that this is who we are, it will not go away, and our choices are: a hidden, closet expression wherein we live two lives, or? Is there not a chance to close that gap without wearing fishnet stockings, 6" heels, and a mini in public. Or even going out dressed fully as a woman?
I have been in a serious relationship, live in relationship with a woman for most of the past 20 years, and am now living alone. I am trying to take advantage of this time with many things not able to do in the past. A live in would surely notice me leaving wearing feminine pants, or shaving my entire body of hair (which I did yesterday). I can also keep my toenails painted.
Someone I know, and see in public places, wears his fingernails long and with a french manicure. He also has his long hair dyed purple and is simply seen for being his own person. People seeing him from this perspective, hardly give the nails a second thought. To me it is an area I am willing to move into, and a no longer hidden expression of my true self with willingness that what people see, and how they react, will not always be possitive, but closer to who I really am.
Thanks all,
Jenny
1. Do you have any suggestions (be specific)? (Considering pants, nails, jewelry, light make-up, jewelry, shirts, and hairstyle)
2. Are there any like-minded friends out there that are willing subtly be more feminine outside the confines of their homes without stopping traffic?
3. For those of us who have accepted that this is who we are, it will not go away, and our choices are: a hidden, closet expression wherein we live two lives, or? Is there not a chance to close that gap without wearing fishnet stockings, 6" heels, and a mini in public. Or even going out dressed fully as a woman?
I have been in a serious relationship, live in relationship with a woman for most of the past 20 years, and am now living alone. I am trying to take advantage of this time with many things not able to do in the past. A live in would surely notice me leaving wearing feminine pants, or shaving my entire body of hair (which I did yesterday). I can also keep my toenails painted.
Someone I know, and see in public places, wears his fingernails long and with a french manicure. He also has his long hair dyed purple and is simply seen for being his own person. People seeing him from this perspective, hardly give the nails a second thought. To me it is an area I am willing to move into, and a no longer hidden expression of my true self with willingness that what people see, and how they react, will not always be possitive, but closer to who I really am.
Thanks all,
Jenny