Phyliss
09-23-2006, 09:27 AM
An attribute of mine is, when I become interested or fascinated with a particular subject, action, cause, or project I have a tendancy to become very involved with it. When the initial interest/fascination wears off, I either loose interest and completely forget about it, or become somewhat sloppy about it and just "don't care" anymore.
Examples:
In the late sixties I got interested in sound recording, and music. Had about 3 or 4 reel to reel tape recorders, amplifiers, mixers, turntables, and all kinds of extras. Had quite a collection of records and various sounds I had picked up along the way. Somewhere around the early seventies I kinda lost interest and after awhile I ended up getting rid of everything, (yeah, I know, I can kick myself now)
I found a new hobby, ceramics. Not the "potters wheel" but rather the pouring of the mix into preformed molds, and then the painting and staining of the various items. Spent many dollars on paint, brushes, scraping tools, pallet knifes, work table and other goodies that I figured I"d need. Got to be pretty good at it. Was complemented on attention to detail and quality of finished product. After about trhee years of this, I again "lost interest"
Got into wood working. Built some furniture for us. Nice stuff that lasted many years. Bought all kinds of tools, fittings, work bench and invested gobs of hours. Still dabble in it but not like I used to.
Had a wonderful vegetable garden for many years. Picked up a rotor tiller, tractor, hand tools, rakes, shovels, hoes, and a boodle of other items as I went along, but as with other things, I gradually got away from it.
Was involved with the local girls softball league, (got into it because of two daughter playing) rose form a helpful parent, to equipment manager, to recording secretary, to president of the league. Not that I tried for the position, but more like I couldn't get out of the meeting room fast enough, (anybody who has been involved with volunteer programs knpws how that works) After two years as president I "lost interest" and quit.
The point of the proceeding examples is to establish my patteren. I get "into" something go "all out" and soon enough loose interest. Now, CDing is a bit different, to me, in that it isn't a hobby to be dabbled in but rather a life style that I can make into a hobby. (Does that make sense?)
So I guess the whole point to this is, my " Pink Fog " is the initial feeling of euphoria that I have, at finally coming to terms with myself, and gaining the courage to make purchases while admitting that the items are for me. Once I've crossed that line and realize that I can do that much there is no "going back". Kinda like a "junkie" who needs a bigger high each time. This past spring I finally had the chance to buy a skirt and top in a store where I had been buying panties and one of the mgrs. finally approached me and told me that if I wanted to buy a skirt or dress she would open up an hour early just for me so I wouldn't feel uncomfortable. Took her up on the offer and while truly scared about it I never felt so good before. Since then I've made many purchases during normal business hours and have tried on many things. Do I go "out" with my clothes? No, but just the idea of being able to buy is a wonderful feeling.
So, I guess my definition of "Pink Fog" is that time when we've finally gotten to a point of comfort where buying clothes is no longer a problem and we have the closet door open, but aren't really "out" or if we are "out" then we end up going overboard.
I'm finding for myself, now that I don't have any problem with buying clothes, I'm buying way too many skirts for the amount of time I can spend wearing them. I don't have a problem with intimate clothing as that's all I own, (except for one pair of tighty whitey somewhere in the bottom in the back of one drawer somewhere I think) all my socks are either knee high ladies trouser socks or thigh high stockings, all my "T" shirts are from Lane Bryant. My jeans are all from Fashion Bug. Shoes are from Payless. Other than outer shirts I completely dress Fem everyday. Even use a bit of makeup on a daily basis. (foundation, mascara and light pink lippy) Finger nails always have a clear coat of polish.
Day to day clothing isn't the problem anymore with me. I've gotten pretty comfortable with that. Wife hasn't said anything about it yet, Don't know if she suspects and doesn't want to say anything or is totally unaware.
One of my worries, about this "Pink Fog" is that once I've "come out" to wife and feel a bit of freedom to dress as I want, I'll be spending way too much more money on clothes and end up stuffing it in her face at every chance which, unless she is VERY supportive, will only end up driving me back into the closet.
I know I have to "come out" sooner or later. Believe me I have my hand on the door knob and am turning it to open that closet door. This is going to be really frightening for me. I suppose if I "got caught" and had no other excuse I'd be able to admit everything, but putting myself in such a position is a frightful thought.
I'm in the construction trades, and at least once a month I wack my thumb with a hammer, (ruins a perfectly good nail) and yeah it hurts but then I wasn't expecting it, and it's over with, but to say "here, hold out your thumb and I'll wack it." Gives me a reason to think if I want to do it. Same pain and hurt but I know what's gonna happen and that's the scary part.
Examples:
In the late sixties I got interested in sound recording, and music. Had about 3 or 4 reel to reel tape recorders, amplifiers, mixers, turntables, and all kinds of extras. Had quite a collection of records and various sounds I had picked up along the way. Somewhere around the early seventies I kinda lost interest and after awhile I ended up getting rid of everything, (yeah, I know, I can kick myself now)
I found a new hobby, ceramics. Not the "potters wheel" but rather the pouring of the mix into preformed molds, and then the painting and staining of the various items. Spent many dollars on paint, brushes, scraping tools, pallet knifes, work table and other goodies that I figured I"d need. Got to be pretty good at it. Was complemented on attention to detail and quality of finished product. After about trhee years of this, I again "lost interest"
Got into wood working. Built some furniture for us. Nice stuff that lasted many years. Bought all kinds of tools, fittings, work bench and invested gobs of hours. Still dabble in it but not like I used to.
Had a wonderful vegetable garden for many years. Picked up a rotor tiller, tractor, hand tools, rakes, shovels, hoes, and a boodle of other items as I went along, but as with other things, I gradually got away from it.
Was involved with the local girls softball league, (got into it because of two daughter playing) rose form a helpful parent, to equipment manager, to recording secretary, to president of the league. Not that I tried for the position, but more like I couldn't get out of the meeting room fast enough, (anybody who has been involved with volunteer programs knpws how that works) After two years as president I "lost interest" and quit.
The point of the proceeding examples is to establish my patteren. I get "into" something go "all out" and soon enough loose interest. Now, CDing is a bit different, to me, in that it isn't a hobby to be dabbled in but rather a life style that I can make into a hobby. (Does that make sense?)
So I guess the whole point to this is, my " Pink Fog " is the initial feeling of euphoria that I have, at finally coming to terms with myself, and gaining the courage to make purchases while admitting that the items are for me. Once I've crossed that line and realize that I can do that much there is no "going back". Kinda like a "junkie" who needs a bigger high each time. This past spring I finally had the chance to buy a skirt and top in a store where I had been buying panties and one of the mgrs. finally approached me and told me that if I wanted to buy a skirt or dress she would open up an hour early just for me so I wouldn't feel uncomfortable. Took her up on the offer and while truly scared about it I never felt so good before. Since then I've made many purchases during normal business hours and have tried on many things. Do I go "out" with my clothes? No, but just the idea of being able to buy is a wonderful feeling.
So, I guess my definition of "Pink Fog" is that time when we've finally gotten to a point of comfort where buying clothes is no longer a problem and we have the closet door open, but aren't really "out" or if we are "out" then we end up going overboard.
I'm finding for myself, now that I don't have any problem with buying clothes, I'm buying way too many skirts for the amount of time I can spend wearing them. I don't have a problem with intimate clothing as that's all I own, (except for one pair of tighty whitey somewhere in the bottom in the back of one drawer somewhere I think) all my socks are either knee high ladies trouser socks or thigh high stockings, all my "T" shirts are from Lane Bryant. My jeans are all from Fashion Bug. Shoes are from Payless. Other than outer shirts I completely dress Fem everyday. Even use a bit of makeup on a daily basis. (foundation, mascara and light pink lippy) Finger nails always have a clear coat of polish.
Day to day clothing isn't the problem anymore with me. I've gotten pretty comfortable with that. Wife hasn't said anything about it yet, Don't know if she suspects and doesn't want to say anything or is totally unaware.
One of my worries, about this "Pink Fog" is that once I've "come out" to wife and feel a bit of freedom to dress as I want, I'll be spending way too much more money on clothes and end up stuffing it in her face at every chance which, unless she is VERY supportive, will only end up driving me back into the closet.
I know I have to "come out" sooner or later. Believe me I have my hand on the door knob and am turning it to open that closet door. This is going to be really frightening for me. I suppose if I "got caught" and had no other excuse I'd be able to admit everything, but putting myself in such a position is a frightful thought.
I'm in the construction trades, and at least once a month I wack my thumb with a hammer, (ruins a perfectly good nail) and yeah it hurts but then I wasn't expecting it, and it's over with, but to say "here, hold out your thumb and I'll wack it." Gives me a reason to think if I want to do it. Same pain and hurt but I know what's gonna happen and that's the scary part.