I'm done

[seanmc]

Well, I felt like I should crossdress again after a 3 month "vacation". So, I tried it. Shaved my legs, donned some of my formerly favorite shoes, hose, and dress. Put them on, strolled around the house after re-getting used to the high heels, and guess what? I felt nothing. No excitement, no feeling like I had before. I really think I'm done. I have to much other stuff going in my life and this just isn't coming with it. Moving on to bigger and better things so to speak. So, I'll still lurk around here, even post, but I feel my crossdressing days are over.

StacyMc 1999-2006.

Thanks for your love and support,
SM.

P.S. I'll keep my stuff around for a year or so just in case. If nothing after that, I'm ebaying it.

[NickyJane]

Bless ya honey X X X

Wise move to keep your stuff. Just because you dont feel anything right now dosent meen that urge will stay away.

Anyway all the best for the future and you know that this site and all its members will be here waiting for you if and when you need us again.

Nicky Jane

X X X

[ashlee chiffon]

well, i've heard of this happening, and am finally glad to meet someone who purged and intends to never look back...and Sticks With It!
you are a rare breed of cd...a small club...

most don't last a year...so save those clothes by all means!
good luck!

[seanmc]

Thank you. If it's gone for 3 months, and nothing, put something on, and nothing, I do feel it's not for me anymore. I am especially attracted to the women now that wear what I did. So it seems the focus has shifted.

[NickyJane]

I am especially attracted to the women now that wear what I did.


Hell me too!

I saw a pretty little thing in town the other day wearing the same pink combats I got! man it gave me a stirring in the loins! ! ! !


Nicky JAne

X X X

[AprilMae]

It may come back. I went about 3 years between cyles, had no desire than started up again about a year ago. And actually I didn't do much during this past summer, and am just starting up again.

[Kristen Kelly]

I hope you are right if that’s what you want. I tried it for 2 years, thought I had it out of my system, and purged all. Then the feeling started coming back, I fought it, now I realized I was so unhappy, I gained 30 pounds, was so depressed, almost ruined my relationship with my GF. Funny that was just a year ago this weekend, when I started again I tried to make up for lost time, lost 38 lbs, started going out very often including daytime, have amassed a good group of girls I enjoy going out with and now I couldn’t be happier. Three years ago I would have never seen myself at this point, I am still pushing the limit haven’t reached it yet, I know I will never be going for GRS but stating electrolysis last week, image is everything now, my dressing drives my life but does not control it.

[Daintre]

good luck Stacy, I wish you great success, it is a good idea though to hang on to the clothes like you say.

[Charleen]

I'm dressed at all times one way or the other, and the only thing I feel is comfort. Got passed the "thrill" a while back and like the way I am now even more. But that's me. I wish you the best. Love and xxxx, Lily

[Angie G]

Stacymc good luck and best wishes in your quest in life don't forget us keep in touch hun and keep the girl things you never know :hugs:
Angie

[LeahCD2002]

I've had feelings like that before but only very short-term. If it is truly meant to be, you will come back to your initial cd feelings.

Best of luck,

Leah

[Joy Carter]

Much luck to you hope you find happiness along the way. Thrill for me has been gone for years I have realized this is who I am and I'm happy with being a part time gurl.

[Karren H]

May need to keep it longer....mine went away for 10 years.....

Love Karren

[eleventhdr]

That won't work trust me it most always come's back!

Jay Suzy!

[susiej]

Stacey,

We read a lot of text in this forum expressing the general belief that this thing is difficult to kick permanently. My heartfelt congratulations if you have, because heaven knows living as a tv/tg/ts is a challenge!

IMHO the reason not to purge has nothing to do with economics. Rather, I think that the temptation that is available (e.g. in that box in the attic) is less powerful than the one that requires you go out and buy a new outfit, including all the thrills and fears of shopping. So, oddly, if the stuff is available, the "forbidden fruit" factor is lower, and it's easier to decide, "naw, don't need it today".

Also, I think it's important for us all to realize that cd-ing is not like alcoholism -- it may be a psychological addiction, but it's not a particularly dangerous or illegal one. So, if in six months you're tempted to dress once, it's not a defeat, like falling off the wagon. You can do what you just did, spend a few hours with it, and perhaps, once again, conclude you're "over" it.

In this forum, we don't hear a lot about guys who've cd'ed for a while, and then given it up -- because they don't come back! As a result, we don't know their stories. Please consider us the neighborhood you moved away from, and keep in touch. Put in your calendar for six months from now, to check in with us.

May the goddess bless you!

Hugs,
Susie

[Sophia Rearen]

Well, I felt like I should crossdress again after a 3 month "vacation". So, I tried it. Shaved my legs, donned some of my formerly favorite shoes, hose, and dress. Put them on, strolled around the house after re-getting used to the high heels, and guess what? I felt nothing. No excitement, no feeling like I had before. I really think I'm done. I have to much other stuff going in my life and this just isn't coming with it. Moving on to bigger and better things so to speak. So, I'll still lurk around here, even post, but I feel my crossdressing days are over.

StacyMc 1999-2006.

Thanks for your love and support,
SM.

P.S. I'll keep my stuff around for a year or so just in case. If nothing after that, I'm ebaying it.

Oh, come on! The only thing that isn't absurd is you say you will hang on to your stuff for a year.
So, you take a vacation, and then, just for the hell of it, you decide to get all femmed up? Including shaving your legs. Think about it, you take a vacation and then out of the blue, you decide to dress? There had to be a trigger. And, don't you think that trigger, or a similar one will return in the future? You're 30 years old. Chances are the cd feelings are going to do nothing but increase with age. I'd be willing to bet that by the time you are 40 you will have reached self acceptance. Ten years from now, you'll be saying "I am a CD".
Since Stacy has been layed to rest, God rest her soul, an added benefit of being CD is another girl can easily replace her. So then, Tracy, Marcy, or Lacey, when you do decide to return, make sure it isn't a "lurk", head straight to the member introductions and reintroduce the new girl.

[Robin Leigh]

I sometimes don't dress for months at a time, but the urge always returns. I haven't tried to suppress it since I was in my twenties, I just try to keep it in balance with the rest of my life. Sometimes when I've been depressed, I've tried to dress up when I didn't really feel like it, thinking that it would cheer me up, and it has turned out to be not much fun. :(

We may not hear from members that stop CDing & never come back, but there are lots of members who stopped dressing before marriage, only to start up 10, 20 or 30 years later. There are some members who only started dressing in their 40s & 50s, although I guess they may have had CD thoughts in their youth.

CDing is a bit like making music. Some people do it, most don't. But once a musician, always a musician, even if they don't write a tune or touch an instrument for years. It's always there, inside. :)

What ever you do Stacy, I wish you well. You will always be one of the gender-gifted, whether you choose to dress en femme or not.

:hugs:

Robin

[sparks]

Never say Never Again!

I'm with ya it can be done. But it has to be for you and not someone else.

[KarenSusan]

Good luck to you, Stacy, if this is what you want. I have to say, though, that I did not dress from my 20s to my 40s and then it came back with a vengence.

[vbcdgrl]

Hey, Stacy. As they say down on the farm, "don't count your chickens......."

Vikki

[Sweet Susan]

I've been having similar thoughts, myself. I haven't even been on this site since September 9th, which I believe is the longest I've ever gone. The urge is just not there. I'm hanging on to my stuff for awhile, don't know how long. I'm not going to ebay it however, just trash it.

[Rachel Morley]

Hummm....well, I guess (technically) it is possible. I mean we're all individuals so on the face of it, the idea that crossdressing just doesn't do for you anymore and that the desire has just evaporated is conceiveable.....but somehow I just don't think it's completely gone. Maybe you'll just stop dressing, but still keep thinking and reading about it and that's all you'll need to be happy. :happy:

Anyway, good luck and be happy!

[Bev06 GG]

Hi Girls,
I hate to be the one to throw the spanner in the works and disagree with everyone, but it can be done, and some people do genuinly lose interest in it. Ive only actually met about three CDs that have managed to do it for any length of time but heck Ive only been around this scene for three years so maybe there are others out there, I just haven't met them.
Some guys liken it to a phase that they went thru, and as quickly as it appeared it disappeared. One guy that recommended his best friend come and see me has not dressed for 11years. We had quite a conversation over the phone with him. He didn't even feel the urge when mixing with his CD friends. You really are a complex lot aren't you (Thats a joke by the way)/
Tale care
BEVxxxxxxxxxxxx

[seanmc]

Sophie, I shave anyway to wear a compression wrap around my legs that helps when the vericose veins start bothering me. Shaving seems to help with the pain of the hairs pulling out when I take it off. Once my legs were shaved, I said "I wonder..." and donned the stuff. There was no need to it, like there would have been before. After having it on for a while, I just didn't feel the thrill, or even anything about it. It's like I was completely indifferent. I'll be around looking, but just not donning the stuff. Like I did say tho, just incase this is just some type of rut, I'll keep the stuff for a year.

[Melinda G]

Don't throw anything away, unless you want to buy it all over again. Trust me. It always comes back. I've lost interest many times, due to other distractions, new girlfriend, new boat, new cottage, etc. But eventually it always comes back. Like a virus,it lies dormant for long periods of time, then suddenly erupts all over again.:D

[Jasmine Ellis]

I think this isn't the last time you dress again not for a week or two it may take you a year but you will come back and I'll welcome you back with open arms. But, good luck

[Adrienne Heels]

I didn't dress from June to September because if the kids' school vacation.....but when September came around, I couldn't resist being femme. You'll have the urge again.

[seanmc]

Everything is now packed up and put away.

[Tessa Wire]

Good luck, and I wish you all the best.

As always Loves :hugs:

[Marg Lindenwald]

I know for sure Why I have quit at least a hundred thousand times.

Luck to You Honey
Marg Lindenwald

[seanmc]

I think this was all just an experiment. I didn't really need to do it at all. Oh well, I can't say I didn't have fun with it. So, this is something else to put on my resume, lol.

[Tina Dixon]

I had the same feeling a while ago but saved my stuff, good thing to, but hang in there it comes back believe me.

[seanmc]

I just feel I can choose either or. I don't have this strong desire to present myself as a woman...I never have. I've never done makeup, wig, gone out, etc. Never felt compelled too. Do I feel men should be more liberated in choice of clothing? I'd be lying if I said no. If this feeling ever comes to where I need to wear women's clothes, you guys will be the first to know.

[Andrea's Lynne]

I've purged several times, and regretted each one. I think the knowledge that my "girly" stuff is in the closet makes me less likely to want to buy more new stuff. Once the house is empty, after a while, I feel the need to "own" some feminine things.

That's how it has worked for me anyway.

Best of luck to you!

[carol ann]

Best of luck Satcy, life will be much more straightforward and simpler without the urge or need to crossdress.

I am inclined to agee with others though, In that I would not dispose of your wardrobe for at least twelve months judging fro mine and others' experiences.

[paulaN]

good luck stacey.

[ashlee chiffon]

ummmm...i gotta throw it back atya on this...
i have a long time friend that recently returned to the fold...hadn't dressed for almost 20 years...and know of others that went for many years and then rekindled the dressing.
i think the urge can be postponed, but it is always there beneath the surface...
the overwhelming statistics show that transgender tendencys are very seldom overcome in therapy and even in its simplest form....crossdressing...is usually only repressesed....
not "cured"...
but i could be wrong!

[GG Vanya]

Stacy,

Unlike the majority, I'm just going to say Congratulations on your choice. :happy:

And for the others:

Why can't you just be happy and supportive of this person's decision, instead of tearing down his resolve by insisting that he will fail? Does it somehow lessen your own guilt to insist that crossdressing is INCURABLE? Do you get some sort of thrill when someone does try to quit and fails?

Shame on ya all.

[miche_miche]

... StacyMc 1999-2006

For me, dressing is something which won't ever go away, but I'm not you. You may be "done," indeed. I hope you come back and post and let us know what it's like to be an ex-cd. Maybe the reason we believe that no cd ever gives it up is that the ones that do don't come back to tell the tale!

Wishing you the best whatever you decide!

[Kate_Uhler]

I was just writing to another one of us that I went 20 years through a marriage without any real desire. Then 2 years after my divorce, a girlfriend I was dating put me in her pantyhose one night and 'prest-O-change-O'. Several hundreds of dollars in clothes, shoes, wigs and makeup later :D I don't regret having it open back up.. I just went with it.. I think its a healthy expression of my feminine energy and I'm grateful that I'm willing and courageous at times to express it.

Purge…. Not purge.. its not the issue for me really.. Hell who doesn't enjoy new clothes.

But for me I've found it's important to be honest with my true feelings and desires, otherwise they go underground and unconscious where they can cause the real trouble, like the game 'wack-a-mole' they pop back up in weirder and oftentimes more dangerous and self destructive ways.

stacy, I would say you don't have to decide for the rest of your life actually. I sense that you're trying to convince yourself that you don’t have the desire anymore. I found it was better to say I've had the desire, but just decide I didn’t need to act on it at those times in my life when it’s inappropriate, too stressful, or the consequences too socially embarrassing.

Hope this helps.
Kate.

p.s. what’s your size?

[Lisa Golightly]

Why can't you just be happy and supportive of this person's decision, instead of tearing down his resolve by insisting that he will fail? Does it somehow lessen your own guilt to insist that crossdressing is INCURABLE? Do you get some sort of thrill when someone does try to quit and fails?

Perhaps they speak from experience.

[Sophia Rearen]

:iagree:
And then there is this; Hi all, I'm a long time lurker. I have recently accepted myself as a crossdresser. First I was really into high heels and hose and I thought I'd be happy with just that. Well, turns out I love everything else that goes with it. Being recently self accepting, I don't have hardly anything in terms of clothing. I have a few pairs of heels, and maybe 3 articles of clothing.

Anyway, long story short, I'm glad to have found this place and look forward to posting.

Thanks ladies,
Stacy

Posted by Stacy in her member introductions.

I don't we are trying to tear someone elses resolve. And, when you start a thread that blatently says "I'm done" isn't that a statement that might be lessening to the others here that don't feel the same? "Why can't I feel the same as him? What's he have that I don't?

Stacy's member intro was just in May of this year!
I find it hard to believe that one can turn on and off such deep emotions as if they were some kind of faucet. If it is true, then great for her and I'm sorry to cast doubt. If so, what's wrong with me?

[Sedona]

Hi all,

I don't see why it's not conceivable that Stacy's urges are simply gone. Personally, I've always enjoyed dressing, and I think that most of us will be CDers for the rest of our lives, but I just don't think that everyone can be painted with the same brush.

Something to kick around, but perhaps we're saddened when one of our sorority girls talks of leaving our club?

Thx,

[seanmc]

I did recently accept myself, but I never felt compelled to go all the way. The urge is just no more. Like I said, if I ever feel the need, you will be the first to know. I don't feel like I need to sit here and explain myself anymore. So, I don't think I'll be visiting here anymore since I'm just going to be ridiculed for my choices.

Good luck all.

[Gabriellia_Cd]

Good Luck Stacy,

I sometimes think we would all have an easier life if Cd'ing was not part of it. As much as I love it, it does make things difficult at times. Good luck, and check up on us girls from time to time...

love,
Gabby

[Jaydee]

Good Luck Stacy,
More Power to you. Life is certainly simpler without having to cover your tracks in the closet or taking chances with your SO relationships. I am envious. I had about a 10 year hiatus from any CD thoughts, and then it came back stronger than ever. I hope you have better luck.

Jaydee

[melissaabom]

Stacyme !!

Hold on to your femm wardrobe ...lock it away ffor now....and see if the
urge to dress comes back ....

Melissa

[jessica123cd]

Good luck and best wishes. Life would be easier at times without dressing.

[Janelle Marshall]

Good luck Stacy! Please accept all these comments only at face value. Many of us may wish to do as you are stating and many of us would not make that choice if it was there for us. If you are still not dressing, or have no desires to do so after long period of time, that would be significant information to pass on to us. You see, many here have gone long periods, even decades( in my case) where the desire or ability to dress was not there, only to have it roar back unexpectantly and unbidden. So we do support you, but our own experiences tend to cloud our beliefs and perceptions. Best of everything to you!
Janelle Marshall:2c:

[digitallonestar]

good luck in the future

[Gretchen]

Stacy, good luck in your new directions and new pursuits. I truly hope that you can find whatever it is you need without having the urge to CD again.
That having been said, I would just suggest that any of us here be careful to avoid saying "never" or "forever" when it comes to stopping and staying stopped.
After a relatively short time of limited dressing (stockings and girdles) from age 12 to 15, I lost interest, considered it a passing fancy, and started dating and mostly forgot about dressing for a long time. I had a few tempting thoughts and urges and actually donned nylons or pantyhose three or four times in a span of 44 yrs.
In Jan. of 2005 the urge to dress returned and I answered the "call" and have not looked back since.
Anyway, I do wish you all the best in your life activities and hope that it all comes together for you. If you are able to turn away from this lifestyle, more power to you.
Love,
Gretchen

[Robin Leigh]

Why can't you just be happy and supportive of this person's decision, instead of tearing down his resolve by insisting that he will fail?
Well, I think my post was supportive, but realistic. If we'd all known that Stacy's CDing was an experiment that lasted less than 5 months, I think many of our comments would've been somewhat different. I admire the courage of anyone willing to conduct such an experiment, even if they never fully dress or go outside en femme.


Does it somehow lessen your own guilt to insist that crossdressing is INCURABLE?
I'm a little surprised to see that statement coming from your good self, Vanya! How can you cure something that's not a sickness? :D I don't have Gender Identity Dysphoria, I'm blessed with Gender Identity Diversity... and a great pair of legs. :heehee:

:hugs:

Robin