How important is dressing for your sex life

[Sheila]

To the cds
What part does dressing play in your sex life?
Does your dressing drive your sex life?

[Kate Simmons]

My dressing is about identity only. Ericka

[Sharon86]

I voted 50/50, however, in the past it did play a big part, but no so frequently now though, but i do now find that if i've been able to dress for a significant number of days, then i do start to feel a lot sexier (for the want of a better word). It doesn't always lead to sex, which isn't always a bad thing i find, as i feel as if it heightens my feeling of femeninity and sexuality. Lol Sharon xx

[Jeanette TS]

I dress for me and whats sex it's been 2 years when i last had any sex :rolleyes: I must get my act together.

Lov Jeanette

[Annie(ozcd)]

So what is sex?

[Sharon86]

Annie it comes between 5 and 7.:heehee:

[Karren H]

What sex life? :(

Love Karren

[Daintre]

I voted so I should say why. dressing has never been a sexual thing for me, and sex, well that is something I have not been involved with since my divorce years ago

[Jeanette TS]

What sex life? :(

Love Karren
Oh sorry for this, but i feel better now i am not on my own :clap: :p

Lov Jeanette

[Angie G]

Mywife is accepts and is somewhat supportive my dressing turns her off to sex to have sex I must present as my male self witch works for my :hugs:
Angie

[Tina T]

I voted 50/50, but I don’t think it quite applies to me.

I don’t need to have sex if I dress, and conversely I don’t need to dress to have sex….but it does spice it up if I do. :o

[Charleen]

Yeah, had to look the word up in the dictionary. Wife was sick for a year and half, and I'm widowed for close to a year, but what it said in the book rang a bell. Love and xxxx, Lily

[Holly]

No connection between sex and dressing at all. That arrangement works well for me and my wife.

[AprilMae]

In the past was a big part, usually in "self exploration", but in actualy relationships, not much directly. However indirectly it sometimes creates a subtle arousal that I guess carryies over into the bedroom.

[Gabriellia_Cd]

I like to dress for sex but it does not happen as much as I would like, but when it does that makes it even more special..

Gabby

[Marla S]

Does your dressing drive your sex life?

I'd assume it is not that much different from other people.
Sometimes one expresses an erotic mood with dressing.
Sometimes dressing can produce an erotic mood.
In general it's neiter the one nor the other that drives the dressing or the sex life. Just a different level of emotions.

[Karren H]

Oh sorry for this, but i feel better now i am not on my own :clap: :p

Lov Jeanette

Well glad someone feels better. Hehehe. Anyone know of a good convent near Pittsburgh? I do look good in black and white!! :D

Love Karren

[Jeanette TS]

Well glad someone feels better. Hehehe. Anyone know of a good convent near Pittsburgh? I do look good in black and white!! :D

Love Karren

You know i thought that the first time i saw you looking good in black and white. :hugs:

Lov Jeanette

[ColleenCD]

I'm more of a 50/50 split now. It used to be 90% sex. I still wear night gowns, but full dressing is a different pleasure.

Colleen

[veronica_gr]

i vote this it's a roughly 50/50 split

because i enjoy the sex with my wife and dressed and undressed :D

[nicolecdgal]

In my house it can only be one way...no dressing and sex...or dressing and no sex....since sex only lasts a few minutes and my wife's not into it anymore...I much prefer to dress!!!!

[julie w]

I think for a hetro female sex with a man dressed as a women would be a big
turn off .I know my gf would run for the hills ,I guess there must be bi females that might like it .

[Kristen Kelly]

There was a time when dressing was a sexual thing, now dressing satisfy the soul.

[Jenna1561]

For me, dressing no longer has anything to do with sex, as someone said earlier - it's an identity issue.


Jenna

[linnea]

Dressing and sex have little, if any, connection in my life. When I first was dressing, I think that there was some arousal involved, but that is long passed.

[dave]

Well glad someone feels better. Hehehe. Anyone know of a good convent near Pittsburgh? I do look good in black and white!! :D

Love Karren

u r not kidding!!! u look great in black and white!

[dave]

dressing for me, is very important in my sex life, though not essential... I kind of have spells where its really important then it eases off for a while.

[CDLauraNJ]

I voted 50/50, however, in the past it did play a big part, but no so frequently now though, but i do now find that if i've been able to dress for a significant number of days, then i do start to feel a lot sexier (for the want of a better word). It doesn't always lead to sex, which isn't always a bad thing i find, as i feel as if it heightens my feeling of femeninity and sexuality. Lol Sharon xx


I feel the same way as Sharon. Definately feel erotic if I was dressed before sex or am thinking about being dressed. My wife wouln't allow me to be dressed during sex although a few times I have kept a camisole on under my t-shirt.

[lahr]

Yes! Dressing is at the heart of my sex drive but lets be honest. The original coca cola bottle was shaped as a women in a dress Uh Huh!!!! True. Take a good look at one of those old glass bottles of yester year. With further research you will find that it was an advertising ploy. Those bottles we're something that the females could relate to and the men wanted to get their hands on and we didnt know why. Now look at the GGs hobbeling around in 5" platform heels or better yet Tune to a late night show, Hbo, Showtime or something surreal like sex in the city. YOW! Yes! No matter what I do Its all about sex.If there wasnt any women around where would you be living? What would you be driving? What would your goals be? Oh Yes! I strive to help others but it all gos back to sex.

[Paula G]

We never had much of a sex life in our marriage due to abuse issues my wife went through as a child, and when she came to the realization she was gay a few years ago that really killed it for us.

When she finally figured out her sexual orientation, I tried dressing for her in the bedroom to make her feel more comfortable, but all she could see was her husband in women's clothing. My dressing is not a sexual thing for me.

[Jillian310]

How do I react to this question? For me, each piece of clothing I put on when I am dressing notches up my sensuality. It is a ritual for me: After the shower, touch up shaving, face shaving, application of appropriate creames and perfume, it goes like this ~ garter belt, stockings (fishnets if available), satin panties, bra and falsies, femmy top, then the makeup, mini, and finally heels, feeling 'hotter and hotter' with each step. The final step is combing out the gel set in my hair, fluffing it onto my face and shoulders. Then the jewelry, many rings, bracelets, and dangly earrings. When the transformation is complete, I am fairly ready to burst at a sensual high. And if anything, as time goes on, for example driving with my skirt up and garters exposed, my head swims with heightened sensuality. The high remains until released or until I undress. So dressing is a definite very positive drive that puts my sex drive in overdrive! When I complete the act, I ALWAYS do so in at least panties, and for me, there is nothing that compares!

[Diana]

Well, the answer to this question depends on just who one is having sex with. If you mean sex with one's self (me in this case), then dressing is of major consideration. The various items of feminine clothing (nylons, thigh-hi's, pantyhose, or tights an absolute must) do very much highten the excitement and final release.

In by-gone days, just 'panties' could excite me enough to do the job. But, now, as the years have gone by and I am now into wearing 'panties' (thongs) 24/7 and trouser socks/knee hi's all the time when wearing long pants and regular shoes, it takes a lot more effort to reach that climax of pleasure. But, it does seem to be so much more pleasureable when release does come along.

But, on the other hand, if, as in my case, you are speaking of sex with my wife, then dressing is an absolute 'no-no'. Well, when I say 'sex with my wife', I should say when she pleasures me. You see, due to various complications, we haven't had intercourse for years. She get no pleasure out of it and, so, has no desire to have intercourse. She does, however, do things to pleasure me at times. But, only if I am not dressed, other than my 'panties' (thongs) in the beginning. Of course, they come off as we get into it. Many, many times as she is doing her thing on me, I am deep in fantasy wishing she would say, "Honey, why don't to put one of your bras on and some hose" or some such as this.

So, I guess I will vote 50/50 on this issue.

Diana

[Dominique Melt]

I voted 50/50 only because it was the closest -- I love dressing for sex, especially hen my GG GF insists on it. But I function quite well drab-wise, although the desire for CD sex is ALWAYS there.

[dontay155]

I hate to have sex (if that is possible) w/o getting in my bra and slip or short **** skirt and cami first. There are times when it is required to have sex with no accessories, and I'll be a man and stand up to the task, but in my sissy mind, I'm thinking, "gee, this would be so much hotter if I could see my boy bits peeking out from under my pleated school girl skirt". The good wife goes with the flow here, so to speak. I get such a rise from wearing a bra and panties, that she sees the benefits. I've explained it as viagra made of nylon, so to speak, and so much cheaper without any of the side effects, other than having to put up with a fellow in a frilly skirt and lacy bra in your bedroom.

[AmberTG]

At this point in my life, sex is not a big thing, just ask my frustrated wife:o
I dress for identity, but in the past it was a big turn on. My wife will have sex with me while I'm dressed, but she'd rather see me naked. When she's in the mood, it doesn't matter what I'm wearing.

[melissacd]

Hmmm...sex...been so long now I cannot remember...what was the question again?

Since my wife has realized my cross dressing is not going away there is no more sex with her at all so I guess if I want to have sex then my safest choice is get dressed up and take care of my own needs. Not my idea of the best solution in the world. I do dream of the day that I will once again be in the arms of a loving caring GG, dressed or not and it appears that dressed or not it won't be my wife.

[Kiwi Primrose]

Sex is still a large part of our lives and my dressing has done two things - mellowed me and strengthened my sex-drive.
My wife doesn't want me in the bed dressed but is more than happy to accept that earlier dressing has contributed to both my mood and my sexiness.
Love from Primrose

[jenny c]

Dressing for me is not about anything Sexual its something i enjoy doing maybe it is a identity thing who knows?

[Sheila]

Thankyou to all who took the time to vote and to those who also posted with their vote thanks, What a great bunch of people we all are :gh:

[Raychel]

My dressing is totally unrelated to my sex life. My wife will have no part of my dressing. She does tolerate my wearing lingerie to bed. But that is the limit. As far as a sex life. maybe 4 to 6 weeks in between. Or whenever she is in the mood.

[BlkNYLONS]

When I first started cross dressing as a child it was before anything sexual. I have to admit though ever since I was a teen and everything became sexual, dressed does put on a edge in favor of a better experience for me by myself or with another. If you must dress to enjoy sex I think that would be a problem. Now let me adjust my seamed stockings and head for the bedroom!:heehee:

[Clare]

I almost voted for "Dressing is not a sexual thing for me", but that is not strictly true. When I dress up to the max (and i'm not the ****ty type), especially if the makeup looks perfect, I get a very good feeling about myself which can on occassion lead to a sexual aspect to my dressing.

But on the whole, when I dress casually in womens clothing, there is no sexual aspect to my everyday life as a TG. I wear femme undies as a normal thing, I wear femme jeans as a normal thing, I wear femme earrings as a normal thing. What i'm saying is, It has to be a special occassion for me to get a sexual response from my crossdressing (which are few and far between i might add!).

My ex never knew I crossdressed, so I have no idea if it would have enhanced our sex lives - probably not as she was traditionally old fashioned in her attitudes.

[eleventhdr]

Exactly what sex life have never really ever had one of those in this incarnation lifetime!

But then again nothing is impossible hmmm.

Indeed!

Except for my own self expression if you do get my drift here right

I would have no outlet for myself!

But then!?

Maybe there is someway yet out of this.

OH well!

Jay Suzy!

[suzy]

Excellent question. Thanks for bringing it up!

I dress because I love the way I feel when dressed enfemme. It makes me feel more compassionate,more caring, more sensual, and more loving. I tend to be more tender and loving towards my wife when dressed. I'm not sure why.

She supports me in my dressing and takes an active role encouraging me, occasionally, and that is probably the best relationship I could hope for. I don't think I would want her to encourage me too much more. It might make me wonder why and what she's up to...:D

I enjoy sex very much. She and I have sex, both while I'm dressed enfemme and while I'm masculine and we both enjoy each. If I had my wishes, I would have sex while dressed more often. She wishes that I have sex with her as a man at least 50% of the time and that works for us. She is happy I am very happy and we enjoy ourselves.

It isn't only related to sex. I dress at home and she assists me. She shops but before she leaves she asks me to put on this pretty little enfemme outfit and do housework, and she usually brings me something feminine back just for me... lip stick, mascara, perfume, or maybe panties...

We take drives out and about. She may select my dress (enfemme) for the day. It is great fun to go to the next town, dressed, and shop....and eat...and just being together.

All this to say... dressing enfemme for me is me....the way that I am...and my wife not only accepts me but encourages me.... and I love her so much for that!:love:

We're certainly not perfect, but we are both happy and secure with who we are and we are both in it together as partners! How do I know? Communication.... we talk... and we walk and we walkk and talk...and I know her and she me. :D

[Robin Leigh]

I was dressing up before puberty. Even then, it was still an erotic experience. And the first time I did have an orgasm, I was wearing pantyhose.

I can enjoy sex not dressed, but I very much prefer to be dressed, to some degree. With semi-tolerant gfs, I've been able to act masculine when required, even if I might be imagining myself to be wearing lingerie & makeup. :)

I think being a CDer is good for foreplay. When I spend all that time getting ready, I want the fun to last. :)

OTOH, I must confess that I've been single for over a decade, with no casual sex. Sometimes I wonder if I would still be able to function adequately in a "normal" sexual interaction, especially if I wasn't dressed...

Robin

[Sam-antha]

Whatever it may have started as, dressing has been for me, for a long time an experiencing of someone other than the public me that you grrls do not know.
I love it.
~Samm

[christie]

I know that if I start to focus to much on my cding then my sex life decreases. But I don't dress for sex. I think it would be fun, but the SO would not go for it.

Christie

[GG Vanya]

I think for a hetro female sex with a man dressed as a women would be a big
turn off .I know my gf would run for the hills ,I guess there must be bi females that might like it .


ummmm nope. I'm not bi, and I adore having Trudi in my boudoir! :D No matter the outward appearance, we both know what's under the clothes.

Being married to a CD is easier, by far, when you're both realists. Sure, we "visit" fantasy, but reality is our home base.

[Sheila]

suzy,:yrtw:
What a wonderful post.
Thankyou for posting as well as voting.
As a totally new SO it has given me a real lift to read how committed you and your wife are, sometimes when reading post you forget the gems of relationships in all the heartache that is felt by so many cdr's and ,their SO's who sometimes, (and some quite regularly) feel very very neglected, undervalued, and in many cases unloved.
Your post will have given hope to a few more of us SO's.

Claire in case you get round to reading this YES I know you love me XXX

Jess(so)

[Marla]

I used to have a problem with tucking and now I dont. I guess age does have it's advantages.

[JennaisahottieNC]

i love to dress for sex and it turns me on like nothing else!!!!!!!

[SatinSarah]

I voted A Must. Even when not dressed I imagine being feminine with my wife. In fact I think I NEED to feel girlie to really enjoy it. My wife has just let me start dressing again when we make love. She treats me like a girl and does all the things I do to her. It is very special.

Love sarah

[Deidra Cowen]

I don't do sex as a guy anymore! Hmmmm....don't really don't sex too much as a chick either! :( :tongueout

I like sex, like dressing, like being a fem...but I just find other stuff like going out with friends is a lot more fun. But I still mess around once or twice a month....always enfemme these days.

[RaeCD]

I had to vote 50/50 on this, while I dont dress for sexual reasons it has made a difference in my sex life.

[Lisa Golightly]

Er, tbh... undressing is more important to my sex life ;)

[tracy_Trevor]

Well as I always wear nighties in bed i voted 50/50.

Tracy

[Snookums]

what is a sex life,I have high blood preassure and type 2 diabetes,the veterans administration treats these medical conditions,and the meds have killed my sex drive.
I cannot take meds such as viagra and others because of the type 2 diabetes.
It's been 2 years since my GG/SO and I have been intimate,she understands and constantly gives the VA doctor hell for what they have done to me.

[ReginaK]

Sex while dressed? Messing up my clothes and makeup? I can't have that. My sex life and cross-dressing couldn't be further away from each other.

As a matter of fact, I become pretty frigid and distant while i'm dressed. I don't want people touching me. I don't want to touch them. I just exist in my own little world.

[Katie Ashe]

Dressing as a propery lady is part of whom I am, It is not required for the bed room. But, all ladies look nice all dolled up :battingeyelashes: don't they.