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[Pamela girl]

I am wondering where to procede with my gf. As I posted last valentines day about texting some messages about me wearing the sexy outfit to her and she was texting yes. Then this summer she bought 2 sexy nighties saying one was for me one was for her. Well I surprised her and put one on when she wasn't looking then walked out wearing it. She just said "OOOOHHHH" and attacked me and took me to bed. She came home one day and I was taking a nap wearing one of her nighties and when she pulled the coveres down I just said "Ta-Da" We had sex again. Last week after we had been taking some vitamans which are supposed to make you sleep good and have very vivid dreams I called and told her I woke up from a dream in which she had shaved my body, legs, chest and underarms, and had me wearing a mathing bra garter and thong with hose and 5" heels. She wanted to know what happened then. I told her I don't know I had woke up. She wanted me to go back to sleep and se how it ended. We talked and she said If thats what you want just let me know and I will try to make your fantasy come true.
This sounds to good to be true, Found a woman who has put up with me for 2 years, we are making some plans thet will be 4 or 5 years to completion then talking of buying a condo on the beach in Fla after that is done. Or is this one of those deals where I live out my fantsies then get burned when we are no longer togather.
Mabey its just me being paranoid about bearing my soul to someone then loosing them over me being me.
One day before this happened we were watching tv and there was somthing on about someone crossdressing and I made the comment about I was going to dressup like that one day and wait for her to come home just to freak her out, She actually acted like that exited her.
Sorry about the long rant, I just had to share with someone

[MsJanessa]

and your problem is????

[AprilMae]

One thing you have to consider, while many women wouldn't object to wearing nighties and such for Bedroom Activities thinking the better you are aoused the beter she is, they my not be so accepting that you want to wear that stuff as an everyday or non sexual thing.

[Tree GG]

..., they my not be so accepting that you want to wear that stuff as an everyday or non sexual thing.

Maybe, but I say don't go looking for trouble - you usually find it when you do. If you have no reason to doubt her sincerity (which doesn't sound like you do), enjoy what you have together now and be sure to communicate any progressions you plan on making. As long as she knows your intent, I'd say you've found a partner.

[Robin Leigh]

I think you & your SO are headed towards a long, happy & healthy relationship, if you can get over this trust hurdle.

Some GGs are actually interested in CDs & seek us out for romance, not to rip us off or embarrass us. But the life of a female trany admirer is a hard one: people tend to think you're a weirdo. Just ask kathy gg how hard it can be. :(

Sometimes ex-SOs of CDers will out them to all & sundry but it's pretty rare actually, since the GG doesn't want to be seen as a tranny chaser.

Robin

[Karren H]

and your problem is????

Hehehe. I'd trade her "problems" as would most on this forum!! :)

Love Karren

[Sandra]

I think you may have found an SO who is willing to accept, just make sure she understands that this may not be a sexual thing all the time.

[Pamela girl]

Thanks for your input. It may just be a trust hurdle I have.

[kathy gg]

Hi Pamela

Your girlfriend sounds willing to experiment and open minded. THose are both precursors if this is something that has some meaning to her. But it could jsut mean that she is the type who just tend to be the "try anything once or twice" catagory...I mean she might have taken to s&m if that was your inclination....

And then there is a small chance that this is something which does excite her and possibly even something that she is discovering about herself as you to her continue to engage in this game.

THis is where it gets tricky though. If indeed this is somethign which she likes, sometimes the moment of self confirmation is freaky and scary and a little upsetting. If she turns out to really like this, she may have to take time to come to her own level of self acceptance. This will have nothing to do with you being a crossdresser. Obviously having a cd partner will have its' advantages, because you can both support each other {I'm not a weirdo....your not a weirdo}.....or she could get sort of angry at herself for being into this. {that is where I was a very long time ago}. Being into this breaks every code of hetrosexual femaleness...

This really will come down to *if* you do decide to bear your soul.

If it turns out that she is really into this....you need to get her on this forum, and she needs to find support. Cd's think they are a minority...try being a gg into this...we are the minority with-in the minority and it can feel very very lonely when you have no one to bounce stuff off of. That was a hell I would not wish on anyone.

But I would make sure that before you decide to buy property together she know the whole story. If you play this off as nothing but a sexual game, you are not giving her the full story. And that is not cool...she deserves that before you go to that next level of committment.

[DonnaT]

What ifs. Lots of what ifs.

Wouldn't it be better to find out for sure?

Y'all are having fun with it, she's expressed interest in your dressing, so it's time to sit down and have a frank discussion, IMHO.

Start of with something like: "You know, my dressing up in nighties for you is considered as a form of cross dressing." and then ask her what she knows and how she'd feels about cross dressing.

Find out now whether she thinks could handle more fem attire, more frequent episodes of dress, the possibi;ity of going out together, etc.

Let her know if you can be satisfied with just the nighties, or infrequent dressing episodes, or just staying home, etc.

[mikala]

ya, mine will have sex with me while in lingerie, but not too keen on fully dressed