Uh oh! Caught myself.

[Deidra Cowen]

Was at the office this morning..in boy mode of course! Someone had left coffee in the pot all weekend. I left our suite to go wash it out in the bathroom down the hall near the lobby. When coming back we have a large glass wall at the entrance to our suite.

The light and all that was just right to where I could see my reflection in that wall of glass. Know this sounds crazy but this really happened....I clearly saw myself doing a femme walk! Had a moment of panic since there was a co worker in the hall with me. Lord gotta be more careful, makes me wonder how many mixed signals I am giving out these days. I still have girl mannerisms on Monday at work it seems...and then by Friday night I still can't shake all my male moves either when I convert over to girl mode. I usually get in the femme groove by Sat morning. :eek:

Anyone else catch themselves being femmy sometimes when in boy mode?

[Sherlyn]

Wow I do too Deidra not as much in mannerisms . ...I usually do the pace setting (drywaller) with my partner..however days I'm feeling very Sher ''I'll stand back and wait for him to lead ..he then asks sometimes ...Whats Up ? are you ok ..lol its freaky ..but can't tell him how I'm feeling

[racquel]

[QUOTE=Deidra Cowen;Anyone else catch themselves being femmy sometimes when in boy mode?[/QUOTE]
I find if I am talking to women for a long part of the day my mannerisms change.I usually notice when I am talking to a male and catch myself using feminine gestures.:heehee:

[Kate Simmons]

Hi Deidra, It's all about awareness and mindset. Personally, I don't act much differently as Ericka, that way people don't expect anything different. I DO walk from my hips, though, somewhat unconsciously when in femme mode. My personal problem right now is trying to act and dance like a guy. Since I dance like a girl, it's somewhat of a disaster when I try doing it otherwise (like when Ericka CD's as Eric). Guess I've programmed it in as Ericka and it's hard to act masculine sometimes. One of the perils of going back and forth.:happy: Rich

[Kaitlyn Michele]

deidre -

i see it all the time in my walk...i have to stop!!! or do i??

LOL

[janelle]

Let yourself go, whats the worse thing they can think,.....your gay. Big deal let them, you know better. I have started to be me wherever & when ever no matter how i am dressed. For me i truely feel i am the woman i should have been. Yet i am still working on being the girl that i can be. I found the hardest part of this was believing who & what i am. Loook at yourself, see where you want to be, believe in yourself & go enjoy dear.
I know alot easier said than done but it does work. Good luck hun & enjoy life, its to short to worry.
:love: Janelle

[Karren H]

Yeah....especially walking up stairs....start a bit of a fem swish....lol

Love Karren

[Kimmie W]

You are absolutely right, Monday mornings are always a shock. It is a real effort to get back to "acting" like a man, especially after feeling free all weekend, but that is part of the allure. I kind of like having a secret life!:bighug:

[Stephenie S]

We have one woman at work who has apointed herself Gender Policewoman. She is continually telling me I have to, "stop walking like that".

Lovies,

[Penny]

Well yes it does happen. It's sort of like toast. Most of the time when you push the toaster down, the bread gets toasted. But sometimes you push the toaster down and the bread pops right back up. Then while you're looking for the jam you find out you are in it! (lol)

[JenniferMint]

I don't know about mannerisms, but I have noticed myself inadvertently using girl voice while in guy mode.

[Charleen]

Oh yeah, the femme mannerisms stay around and I'm O.K. with it. the way I walk and also hold my hands and arms are femme most times now. Even when I'm doing my macho best on my ghost tours! I even wear a little perfume on my tours. Don't care. Wore womans jeans and boots to the office today.
An aside to Stephanie, Ask that woman why she cares how you walk, and just what business is it of her's anyway?!
Love and xxxx, Lily

[stefie22]

there has been a few times when i would be visiting a friend and she doesn't know. i don't think she knows, but she told me i was walking a bit womanly. she has also commented on the way i was sitting a couple times. she said that only women sat that way. i wonder what she thinks.
:heehee:

[krisybryant]

Jack Nicholson what did you do with our Ericka! Bring her back at once! eeek :eek:

[ColleenCD]

The mannerisms appear more through my hand gestures than my hips. There are times I wish I was Colleen out and about instead of drab.

Colleen

[JenniferMint]

there has been a few times when i would be visiting a friend and she doesn't know. i don't think she knows, but she told me i was walking a bit womanly. she has also commented on the way i was sitting a couple times. she said that only women sat that way. i wonder what she thinks.
:heehee:

Years ago (when I was living 100% as a guy and wasn't aware of my gender issues), a female friend told me that I cross my legs like a woman. (I can cross them even better now that my testicles are gone! hee-hee)

[Billijo49504]

The other day, we were going to a meeting and some one behind me asked if I had something loose back there. I guess my butt was wiggling. I lied, and said my back was hurting...BJ

[Brianna Lovely]

Hmm, I would love to walk like a girl, giggle.
I'm in semi mode all the time, nails done (Revlon Strawberry Electric) this week, or sandals or carrying a purse. I guess I'm just mixing the two styles, most of the time.

By the way, around here, there are so many GGs wearing shorts and jeans, that I think, they are all starting to walk like guys.

[DeeDee3]

Hmm, I would love to walk like a girl, giggle.
I'm in semi mode all the time, nails done (Revlon Strawberry Electric) this week, or sandals or carrying a purse. I guess I'm just mixing the two styles, most of the time.

By the way, around here, there are so many GGs wearing shorts and jeans, that I think, they are all starting to walk like guys.

I have noticed that a feminine walk is not as apparent with GG's much anymore. And it seems that the sight of a dress, skirt, is getting rare. Sweats, shorts, and jeans seem to be standard attire. I don't think we have to practice walking like a woman to much anymore from what I've observed. DeeDee3

[AnnaMaria]

I have to agree with Deedee on this one. I have noticed this myself on several occasions in a lot of different situations.

But, to get back to the question. Lately I have been trying not to loose my fem mannerisms when I have to stay in drab for days at a time simply because that is really my only outlet for who I really am and the way I see it is if someone wants to think that I am wierd or something then so be it. And if someone asks me about it I am simply going to tell them that it is non of their business how I act so long as my wife doesn't see anything wrong with me I really don't care what other people think.

Anna

[Kate Simmons]

Jack Nicholson what did you do with our Ericka! Bring her back at once! eeek :eek:Jack might be around for awhile, Krisy. I have a reason for doing this (a very good one for a very special lady). Hint: Never considered myself an "admirer" but one of my CD gal friends prefers me as Rich. This is exclusively for her. I'm killing two birds with one stone really. Giving the biddy (Ericka) a break and fulfilling this gal's fantasy. Really not a bad feeling. Hopefully, I don't like it too much. :heehee: Rich

[Clare]

Not so much in the physical sense as for many years i'd suppressed my girlish movements, but that's changing. In recent times I have received comments about my posture and the way I move in a feminine ways.

But I mainly get caught out in conversations - usually with GG's. I'll get involved in chats about women's fashions, activities, and so forth. Many times have I been asked "you know a lot about this ..." for a man? And I just seem to blend in to the group of GG's like I belong too!

[noname]

"We have one woman at work who has apointed herself Gender Policewoman. She is continually telling me I have to, "stop walking like that"."

That wouldn't last long with me. I'd probably go out of my way walk that.

I think I'd also tell her not to tell me how to walk or sit or conduct my mannerisms.

[Siobhan Marie]

"We have one woman at work who has apointed herself Gender Policewoman. She is continually telling me I have to, "stop walking like that".

I'd tell her to mind her own business and that I'll walk how I want to walk. I've been caught walking like a lady a lot and it really doesn't worry me.

:hugs: Anna x

[Priscilla Ann]

The thing I have to keep from doing is going up to a woman at work that I notice has on a really attractive outfit and saying "That top really looks good on you with that skirt. I just love the color."

[Lisa Golightly]

Do you mean do people suspect my pouty, huffy, hissy, mirror centric, earring fiddling, hair teasing, gossiping, touchy feely body language as not being overtly masculine... Maybe, but I suspect it is my use of the terms 'Darling', 'Angel' and 'Poppet' that give me away. ;)

[SherriePall]

My wife doesn't like the way I bend over to pick up things. I bend at the knees and squat -- quite woman-like. I tell it's the proper way to pick up objects - safety-wise. Actually, most of the time it's because I'm too tucked to bend any other way.

[Bonnie D]

I work in an office with more women than men. I do have to be careful about when to join in on their conversations and when not to. One day, not too long ago, a few of the women in my area were talking about something and I threw in a comment in a overly deep masculine voice. They laughed at my comment but one of them said that it was even funnier since I had my hands on my hips. I made a mental note to be careful. My SO works a few floors down and I wouldn't want it to get back to her.

In the last year or so I've taken to seeing how long I can grow my fingernails before I break one and decide to cut them all. I think my longest period has been a month. I do have to be careful how I hold my hands when I'm around others. I usually fold my fingers in when someone's around. No one has noticed or commented on them, not even my SO.

Bonnie

[JoAnnDallas]

I eat lunch with four women. I have had acrylic nails for a year now and yesterday, one of them took my hand and was looking at my nails. She then said, "sweetie, you need a fill bad." I looked at my nails and said "yep,guess it is time to make a apportment with my nail tech." Another one of the ladies then asked if I evry had a pedicure. I answered I that once a month, I get a manicure, fill, and pedicure and last month I got my eyebrows waxed. She said 'No way" and I said "Yep". She then said "Well they look radiant." I have so much fun at lunch. LOL

[tekla west]

I have always had some traits, carrying my books in front of me with my arms wrapped around them instead of down at my side in one arm, the way I hold my hoodie or sweater together in the front when its a bit of a chill, I tend to gather my clothes around me when I sit, much like I would in a long skirt and flowing items.

That stuff follows me no matter what I wear, and I'm good with that. Just like some of the guy stuff that is in me no matter how pretty or how pink the skirt is. I'm looking for a balance that is constant in my life no matter where I am, or how I am dressed.

I will always talk to girls about clothing, makeup, and perfume, and if I need to I can talk with the guys about football and beer. I do wave a very girl wave at people, but like I said, its OK because they know about me.

Now that means that when we have two nights of the Siccors Sisters and all the drag queens are out then I'm going to get a bunch of grief. On the other hand, when one of them yells out "Kat" at me, I don't have to worry about waving back at them and yelling "Hi ya Girl!"

And not matter what I'm doing, I do have "those shoes and sox" as one of my workmates calls them.

[Julogden]

Was at the office this morning..in boy mode of course! Someone had left coffee in the pot all weekend. I left our suite to go wash it out in the bathroom down the hall near the lobby. When coming back we have a large glass wall at the entrance to our suite.

The light and all that was just right to where I could see my reflection in that wall of glass. Know this sounds crazy but this really happened....I clearly saw myself doing a femme walk! Had a moment of panic since there was a co worker in the hall with me. Lord gotta be more careful, makes me wonder how many mixed signals I am giving out these days. I still have girl mannerisms on Monday at work it seems...and then by Friday night I still can't shake all my male moves either when I convert over to girl mode. I usually get in the femme groove by Sat morning. :eek:

Anyone else catch themselves being femmy sometimes when in boy mode?
When I first had the freedom to really do what I wanted, I was really getting into my feminine side, and it was definitely showing, as I got comments at work sometimes, just ignored them and let people guess as to what was going on. Management never said anything, so I didn't worry. I didn't lose any friends there, either, but I did finally slow down and toned down the fem aspects when in man mode.

But I still got the occasional passing car-full of idiots that would yell "Faggot" while walking in my neighborhood dressed as a guy, so I guess it was definitely still showing.

Carol:hugs:

[zoe jordon]

Yea all the time
sometimes when bending or nealing on the floor!!
manly when im at work too!!!!!
l also like to cross my legs alot as well but its still enjoyable to catch yourself doing it i like it!!!!!
love zoe xxxxx

[Joy Carter]

Yea all the time
sometimes when bending or nealing on the floor!!
manly when I'm at work too!!!!!
l also like to cross my legs alot as well but its still enjoyable to catch yourself doing it i like it!!!!!
love zoe xxxxx

Zoe crossing your knees is bad for the joints because it stresses them while over the other knee. But kneeling down, my father taught me to do that to save my back when I was still a kid. I tell anyone who makes a comment about my posture or anything else, "What's Yer Point +? " That stops them pretty much.

[susan elizabeth]

Hi
I've had a couple of potential "self-outings" ...
Several years ago, I was in Kmart and as I passed the shoe department, I decided, what the heck, I'm going to buy a pair of heels. Definitely in drab.
I didn't want to draw attention to myself, so I continued down the aisle, and glanced at the shoes on the end cap ... looking at sizes and styles as I passed. As I passed back down the same aisle, I reached down and took the first pair of heels in size 10 I saw - and put them in my cart.
Fast forward to the chekout ... waiting in line. When my turn comes, I put the guy clothes I went in to get on the counter, and then the shoes. Real casual like. Heart beating a mile a minute, but no sweat - just me being cool. She rings up my other stuff and then reaches for the shoes. And right in front of everyone, OPENS THEM UP AND PULLS THEM OUT OF THE BOX!
I must have turn crimson, but didn't say a word. I just kept looking straight ahead until she was done, paid, and left very quickly.

Suze

[Khriss]

..OSHA.. describes such movements as "safer for Your BacK" ??
.. required movement then ??:eek: :D hehe..xx"K"

[Karen Johnson]

My wife has been helping me learn to walk right. I have trouble, especially in heels. Anyway, several times I've caught myself at work and to make matters worse, I work in a machine shop. I'm surrounded by manly men who do manly things, not proper ladies. If that gives anyone occasion to talk about me and that's the worse they could say, then that's not too bad of a thing.

[Diana West]

The thing I have to keep from doing is going up to a woman at work that I notice has on a really attractive outfit and saying "That top really looks good on you with that skirt. I just love the color."

I have made similar comments but about shoes.

[ronnie06]

I highly doubt I EVER stop doing my military strut.

I did my time, back in the 'nam era..........

and yet still today I walk with a military strut..and always.........start with my left foot.

they teach you stuff...but no one unteaches you.

cannot forget...it is just...hammered and programmed into me.