Wife found my clothes!

[MsCorrinne]

Hello all. I have read many entries on here about gurls being found out. There seems to be alot of fear involved. I shared in that FEAR! Yesterday my wife found "Corrinne's" suitcase in the basement. She came walking up from the basement with a pair of my platform shoes in her hands...thinking they were left behind from the previous owner of our house. That was until she saw the look on my face..which told her different.

I gave her a few minutes of "silent time" and then went to her and asked for a hug and told her that I was sorry for embarrassing her and myself. She said there is nothing to be sorry about. Come to find out her main concern was that the clothes belonged to another woman...Hmmmm size 14 shoe, I think not..LOL! I thought for sure the walls were going to come dumbling down around me. Oh, the thoughts that ran through my head. Her freak'n out. Divorce. Finding a place to live. Her telling everyone I know that I'm a crossdresser. YIKES!!! FEAR!

Last evening we talked when we went to bed and she said that she would fully support my dressing, so long it was with her and only with her. But if I felt like I wanted to keep it to myself, she was fine with that too. Just so long as the clothes were mine and not some other woman's. So 18 years of marriage and keeping this little secret to myself...was wasted. All because of fear. I almost purged my entire inventory of things too...what a waste that would have been..LOL!

So, I guess the moral of the story. Be yourself and tell the person you love the truth about yourself. Don't let fear rule your life.

I'm sure there are other gurls and GG's who have experienced the same thing.

Corrinne

[Helen MC]

Glad it had a happy ending for you but I still feel it is far better to be open up front with a G/F before she becomes your wife.

[MsCorrinne]

Oh, I agree. In my case I was a casual CD who wore more of other people's clothes and none of my own purchases. Mostly pantyhose. But a few years ago Corrinne was born and I started buying my own clothes. So, really I have kept Corrinne a secret only for a few years now. I do feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders..that's for sure.

Thanks for commenting =)

Hugs!

[maybeJan]

You've got a wonderful wife.... Congratulations.

Jan

[Atlanta Peach GG]

Corrinne!!!!!!!

What a totally awesome story!!!

Have your wife register over here on this board........the GG's here can help her out alot!!!

That is just a great story that she is going to be supportive and tolerant.

Like I said, get her over here, or at least to check the board out here...........

[Dawn29680]

Yes a very good story. Glad it worked out for you.

[Maureen Henley]

I'm happy to hear that the disaster wasn't a disaster. Take you wife to Lincoln Mall (or whatever they call it these days) and treat her and Corrine to something pretty.

[DAVIDA]

What Helen said!

[ronni]

That is an amazing story, Corrinne!
Do you think her reaction would have been different had she walked in on you dressed up than just finding your shoes? Would you have handled it much differently?

[Sam-antha]

That feels a lot better now ? It does.
Now a bit of peace and get her to come in here, or at least to look over your shoulder at the folk you know would interest her. We are a happy group and she should be in it withyou since she knows.
Huggzes from ~Samm

[Penny]

I am so happy for you two. Now you have a chance to be open and honest
and as long as you can comunicate your relationship will grow even stronger.

[Robin Leigh]

Hello Corrinne, now you can start making up for lost time. :D

Give your wife a big hug from all of us at the forum. :hugs: Women that support their SO's CDing are worth more than their weight in gold. :happy:

You may want to just cut & paste a few choice articles & messages to show her before you unleash the full force of the forum onto her. :)

:hugs:

Robin

[sue ellan]

you have a terrfic wife. just love her to death.
sue ellan

life is like a roll of tp. the closer to end the faster it goes.

[Holly]

Corrinne, I'm glad that things worked out well for you and your wife. Fear can be such a crippling behavior! Since she has asked to be included in your dressing, take her up on the offer... but resist the temptation to overwhelm her all at once. Slow but steady wins the race.

[Stephenie S]

Dear Corrine,

What a wonderful, loving, response. You lucked out when you found her!!Take this woman out to dinner and a show.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[AprilMae]

Interesting how you had an out when she thought they belonged to the previous tenant, but you betrayed yourself. I guess you aren't much of a poker player.:p But coming clean is the best way. I was similarly dragged out of the closet when she wenyt into the closet in my den, looking for a tote bag I usuall hang on the door outside the closet. Even then it was only because I left the closet door open partially that she even looked inside, I must admit she is the least nosy woman I have ever known.:tongueout
At first she thought maybe the clothes were hers, because we have a shortage of closet space, and stuff is intermixed all over. But when she saw skirts, which she rarely wears, and denim skirts , which she wouldn't be caught dead in she knew something was up. She looked at sizes and put 2 and 2 together and I was busted. Fortunately she did some research and asked the right questions and it all worked out.

[lahr]

What a great story. You are Blessed with a wonderfull Wife.

[Tree GG]

Last evening we talked when we went to bed and she said that she would fully support my dressing, so long it was with her and only with her. But if I felt like I wanted to keep it to myself, she was fine with that too. Just so long as the clothes were mine and not some other woman's. So 18 years of marriage and keeping this little secret to myself...was wasted. ..

So, I guess the moral of the story. Be yourself and tell the person you love the truth about yourself. Don't let fear rule your life.


Corrinne

OK, phase I complete. After 18 yrs of marriage (I found out around 26) this will be a big change for her that will take time to fully process. Especially when she starts advising/purchasing and sees you en femme. Be prepared for the 180's and days of silence while she figures out things about herself she never knew and resolves emotions she never expected.

On those days, make sure your wife knows how important she is to you and just wait out the emotional storms.

Congratulations on making it to the next level:D , and good luck.

[Sandra]

Just don't get pushy now and try to rush things like dressing every touch and turn, and keep talking to her, it can be a lot eaiser when an SO knows and more fun.:)

[AprilMae]

Just don't get pushy now and try to rush things like dressing every touch and turn, and keep talking to her, it can be a lot eaiser when an SO knows and more fun.:)


And find out what her boundries are, and don't violate them without renegotiating. That's the most important part in my opinion.

[Elly]

i love happy endings or rather, joyous beginnings, or are the two one in this one, anyways, i just recentaly come out to my wife about a month ago and i have to say/agree that it is so much better when your SO fully supports you by accepting it and giving you the emotional support you need, but don't forget that she needs the same emotional support from you as well. there are some that become so wrapped up in the new freedom they are given to dress by thier SO that they forget their SO's needs, never forget to remind her how special she is and how happy you are with her, remembering that helps smooth out any rough spots you may encounter. an SO like yours is verry special indeed and those of us with these special wives/GFs should never forget just how special they are to us... ok, i feel i may be rambling but i just woke up a lil while ago lol hope i made some sense...

[melissaabom]

Wow Corrine !!

Glad it turned out in a positive manner .
Yes it is always good to have your own clothing make up jewelry and shoes

Huggs

Melissa

[CoachTomXXX]

CDing has added spice to our marriage. It was my wife who first started me into CDing. She began by slipping panties on me as a prelude to sex, then stockings, bra, slip, shoes, etc. I think it's all a GREAT marital aid. It's definitly NOT something to hide from your wife.

[MsCorrinne]

Bless you all for your support, feedback and counsel. I made a point to tell her last night before going to sleep that I LOVED her. I fully expect that there will be those moments of silence..but they existed prior to her finding out...LOL! She actually broached the subject of "me". She said don't forget that my needs need to met too. So she's being very practical in her thinking here..which surprises me..since she is more brash than thoughtful in nature. If she doesn't understand or accept something she is very quick to shoot it down. We actually had a good conversation and I explained where I was coming from. I envisioned so much pain and stress..and this was probably the less stressful I've dealt with lately. Go figure!

I like many of your suggestions, especially taking her shopping, dinner and expressing my appreciation. Which, in guy mode, I'm not the best at doing. I even offered my help in cooking dinner for a party we have coming up. So, for me to do that...its a break through. Too bad I can't dress the part..but I don't think the church folks that are coming would appreciate my hot legs in heels..LOL

Mucho Hugs to you all!

As far as getting her on the forum. I would love to do that..but she is not a computer person. She works on at work..but at home, forget about it! Sorry.

I will try, but no promises :happy:

[Jenniferritchie]

hey fantastic news that everything is working out for you both, my wife has know for many years but still has her days when she will not entertain jennifer and then the folling day we might be out shopping and she will buy me a skirt or blouse, even bra and pants. but there you go. we must always remember that our so's need to have their time with their husbands aswell as their new found female partner, so yes take her out and give her a day to remember as her "man" and you never know what will happen when you come home. i talk from experience. you have many happy times to look forward to :love:

[Rachel Morley]

Fantastic news! I'm very very happy for you Corrinne ....now don't blow it. Go slowly, do not go overboard. For the moment just be happy that there are millions of people out there that want to be you - namely that you have an accepting wife who loves you. :happy:

I agree with the others, you are on the verge of the beginning of the most awesome and amazing part of your life. Talk lots with your wife about how she is feeling and just let things (slowly) take their natural course. Respect her boundaries and don't ever let her feel that she is not loved and adored.

I know I personally also am in a fantastic position, with an accepting, encouraging and participating wife who seeming encourages me to be more and more feminine all the time, but that's (in part) is both of us not rushing into things and gently exploring crossdressing within our marriage. It's taken 4 years to get to where we are today.

Best wishes and good luck

[Byllie]

Fear is a mighty thing. It can drive folks to things that when sane they'd never consider. It's an irrational thing, often conjuring up scenarios that could never come to life. But to be fearful is to be human. We are all prey to these contrary emotions, and need to admit so. we also need to be kind to ourselves, say we are only human, and learn from the experience if we can.

So don't worry about having been afraid. Rather, rejoice in the love that is between you and your wife, a love that has vanquished your fears.

[Timberley]

Hi Corrinne, that is great news. Isn't it a relief to get it off your chest? I was so stressed. Took me a couple of weeks to bring it up, she knew something was up, it was eating away at me. When I told her, we talked lots, and everything looks to be going great.

Congrats!

:0)

[Glenda58]

Glad it was a good outting with your wife. Go slow and listen to the GGs here. When my wifes found out all %&*L broke loose. Now I'm looking for someone to share with.
good luck Corrinne

[Blonde]

When I got caught by my wife (my GF at that time), I gave her the Monty Python sond, "I'm a lumberjack and I'm OK" at the time.
She was mostly concerned that I wanted to be a woman and that she might one day be living with one one day.
I told her the truth, that I had no interest in loosing "mr. winky", and was really a "lesbian trapped in a man's body" (hetro all the way)...
The rest is history (we got married, I still dress, and I am considering joining the Cornbury Society)
I keep it private (dress at home only) to keep a sembiance of a "normal" life for both our sakes

[Ellaine]

Give your wife a big hug from all of us at the forum. :hugs: Women that support their SO's CDing are worth more than their weight in gold. :happy:



I'd like to echo that Robin...


Hi Corrinne We always fear the unknown lol So glad it worked out for you...so far...If I may offer a word of caution...Be very careful about promises and limits. As I've been oft reminded on here, "I don't know" is a valid answer. Keep the love fires burning and good luck to you both.

Hugs
Ellainexx

[sally Dickson]

My wife found some knickers (yes knickers):p in a cupboard not too recentlywhile we were having a good clear out. they obviously were not hers and she challenged me, I very sheepishly admitted they were mine and liked them. She was obviously shocked and there were a few tears and hugs from the two of us. I thought she would throw them out but she folded them and placed them neatly in my drawer. Nothing more has been said by her.

[Paula Thomas]

Corrinne - I am glad everything is working out well.

In my case, I told my wife (before she found anything), and she is supportive.

Her greatest fear is that I would leave her (regardless of the reason), and anything less she is happy with.

Leaving her for ANY reason had never crossed my mind (I could never get past the first 3 lines on a medical form without her to fill it in for me).

Fear of a bad reaction causes a great deal of stress.

Hopefully you will both work toward an even stronger marriage (and no keeping secrets - except what you are getting each other as gifts).

[KarenXDR]

I too am honestly delighted at your newfound success, and as Elly said, don't forget your wife's needs as a result of this change.

That said, may I remind you of the horror stories you alluded to and which most of us have witnessed on this site. We've seen gurls thrown out on there ear, bawling wives, cessation of normal marital sex relations,etc. The fear is LEGITIMATE. I'm blessed with a wife who dresses me and gets hot doing so, but there are other gurls who are sitting on a time bomb.

If you're closeted, approach this one cautiously. Have conversations where you parry about women's clothes, the feel of silk, etc.. You only get ONE CHANCE!!

Lipstick kisses

Karen

[Mia001]

Hi,

I'm glad it worked out for you. It must be a big relief not to have to keep it to yourself anymore.

Mark.

[bgirl]

It certainly is a relief not to have to hide anymore. My wifes acceptance of me made it possible for me to better accept myself.
It will be a work in progress for awhile. Go slow. And let time do its majic trick. I am happy for you. Beth

[Jasmine Ellis]

you have one in a million

[cindyxdresser]

It is a shame you didnt get caught a lot sooner,but now you are free.You are so very lucky to have a wife so understanding and open minded enough to support you,,You need to show her your appreationas often as possible.I am out about everything i do,and decided along time ago that if i started getting the slightest bit serious with someone that i would tell my secret.I have stuck to that,and have made sure that there were no secrets concerning me .I have a lot of females as friends ,they love having me visit and be dressed ,,and treat me as though i am one of their girl friends.However one thing bad with being out as i am is that i have not found any girls who are wanting a feminine boyfriend,but i know one day i will meet the girl for me.That is one good thing about hiding your being a crossdresser,,but i cant do that,the way my luck is when i confessed my secret i would be single again .I figure one day i will meet the woman who is right for me,since i am open about me and my desires i will meet the dominant woman who wants me to be her sissy slave,and will marry me as fast as she can

[ebony_tgirl]

I couldn't agree with you more, it's interesting ... well from personal experiences at least, I've noticed that an individual you have an intimate relationship with is for the most part understanding ... I'm gradually alluding to my tendency to cross dress to my current girlfriend (haven't exactly told her yet, but it is pretty obvious by now lol) and she says that she understands why I love to dress up ... girls know how fun it it to accessorize with clothes, make-up, nails, heels ... and kind of sympathize with the drab nature guys are confined too ... they are pretty understanding

[MsCorrinne]

Just wanted to keep you updated on things. There was no discussion about my clothes until this morning, which is probably why I'm so excited to post..LOL!!

Anyway, my wife asked that I would put some coffee in her cup while I was up and I said "honey, I would do anything for you..and I mean anything!" Well, she mumbled something and I didn't hear her...so when I returned I asked her what she said..and she ah, nothing! I said, no really what did you say..again she said "nothing". So I pressed on and she said..well I know we said that I wouldn't press you about the bag in the basement...but if you wouldn't mind dressing in those clothes for me!" I said that I was thinking of moving them into the closet, if you wouldn't mind. Then they would get damp and musty. She said fine, so long as there isn't any bondage crap in there (which there isn't). For some reason she makes this CD/bondage connection in her mind? Any ideas why?
She said the bag is big and there are some lumpy things in there...I said that's the 6 pairs of shoes I own..LOL!!

Anyway..I'll keep you all posted. Right now I have three dresses and my shoes in "my closet" in the bedroom!! THAT'S HUGE FOR ME!

Have a great Sunday. Luv you all!!

Corrinne

[Dragster]

Was it due to something you put in her tea Corrine. If so, would you get some for me???

Tony