Signs your SO will reject you...

[loki_uk]

Ok we get plenty of coming out posts with happy endings (thankfully), but for those who fell by the wayside, in hindsight what were the signs looking back that you could have picked up on

I've already had you're not one of those trannies after screaming a lot but that was years ago, and I've accidently or subconsiously deliberately left a lot of clues since, and well I'm probably not the only one to have this thought stick in your mind....what if

Ok I shouldn't be serious having spent most of the night squeezed into a kiddies plastic chair...but hey that's life

[silkrose]

Well have'nt fallen to the wayside ...yet. But imagine some signs to look out in your spouse are:

1. Has expressed negative remarks of gay/lesbian lifestyle.
2. Has expressed negative remarks about cross gender situations in real life or characters in movies.
3. Views anything other than plain vanilla sex as "deviant".
4. Generally conservative.
5. Has shown themselves to be the unforgiving sort when you have committed far lesser sins.

I'm sure there are lots more........

[Phyliss]

Well have'nt fallen to the wayside ...yet. But imagine some signs to look out in your spouse are:

1. Has expressed negative remarks of gay/lesbian lifestyle.
2. Has expressed negative remarks about cross gender situations in real life or characters in movies.
3. Views anything other than plain vanilla sex as "deviant".
4. Generally conservative.
5. Has shown themselves to be the unforgiving sort when you have committed far lesser sins.

I'm sure there are lots more........

I can very well relate to statements #3,4, and 5. For #'s 1&2 nothing is spoken about THAT because of statement #3.

I've got a very long way to go before I can begin to "get anywhere"

[Nigella]

Signs your SO will reject you...

Signs are there for the reading, how you interpret them is up to you !!

[Satrana]

SOs with strong feminist views who view crossdressing as an invasion into women-only territory.

[Kate Simmons]

The SO heaving "sighs", things disappearing, being distant, pretending it doesn't exist. That's how my wife reacted. Ericka/Rich

[bgirl]

If I went by some of the signs mentioned I would be reluctant to come out. In fact I was reluctant to come out, but when I did come out, my loving wife was able to overcome her phobias. Just like I am overcoming mine.

[Nigella]

:2c: I do wonder how many of those who have "difficulty" coming out, have held back the secret from their SO and then built a relationship on a lie.

[sparks]

There were many signs but i married her anyway. I shoulda taken all the signs and wayed them against or happy life of just dating. We most likely would not be married had i been truthful to myself and to her. And who knows maybe we both would be happier in that different life.
But together we are and in general happy with our life together but if she had her way I wouldn't be like I am.
I can't tell ya the signs because the are personal to her and that's her story to tell not mine. But if the signs were any bigger thay would been up on boullivard somewher screaming one word "DON'T"

[ReginaK]

If she's walking around and breathing, that's a pretty good sign.


Even the most open-minded women can become as narrow as a drinking straw when something personally affects them.

[GG Vanya]

I had every psychological/emotional reason in the world to reject Trudi. I simply didn't. I stepped right into the relationship with an open mind and open arms. It still amazes me every day that I didn't go catatonic when he told me,(given my history) but I am so very thankful that I was granted the wisdom and grace to accept ALL of the man I love honor and cherish. :love:

[Stacy GG]

Excuse me my new-ageness, but how about actively looking for signs of your SO accepting you, and not otherwise?

yes yes !! let's be positive :love:

[Angela Burke]

Some of the signs that I found that a former girfriend would
reject me when she found out I was a CDr involved her screaming
things like "you f***ing pervert!", slapping me, and throwing me out
of her flat. I got the message.
I think it's great when I see couples here who obviously have loving
relationships but I'm also quite jealous.
I've had two relationships break up because of my crossdressing.
Not all women are happy with their men being CDrs.
We don't always live happily ever after.

[Debb]

Some of the signs that I found that a former girfriend would
reject me when she found out I was a CDr involved her screaming
things like "you f***ing pervert!", slapping me, and throwing me out
of her flat. I got the message.
I think it's great when I see couples here who obvious have loving
relationships but I'm also quite jealous.
I've had two relationships break up because of my crossdressing.
Not all women are happy with their men being CDrs.
We don't always live happily ever after.

This is quite true.

I told my wife almost two years ago, and she has been loving, forgiving, and accepting for most of that time. She recently announced, however, that now she is having trouble with it (perhaps in part because I took a break from dressing -- six months -- and now lately have been having the urge again).

Troubles can come at any time, but you'll find that if each of you is worth the trouble, anything can be overcome.