Hormone Therapy,an alternative?

[Sakura Kinomoto]

Well girls I am giving it a lot of thought,and I decided to start a hormone therapy maybe in secret without my parents knowing or ever finding out.
The catch is to talk to a doctor to determinate how safe it is for me to
start taking female hormones.I want results,I want to finish my transition as a woman.So what do you think?Should I do this in secret?The point is that I dont want to be in the closet anymore and I want to fullfill my dream...


So,any opinions?What I am afraid is that I am 30 years old,and that it might be too late to start an hormone therapy....

Hugs and kisses,Sakura

[Sakura Kinomoto]

I'm not a fan of people that start hormone therapy without telling their spouses, but other than that I don't see any reason why you have to inform anyone else. I don't think that you really have to start informing family members until you are ready to go full time.

You seem to be close to your mother, so this may be difficult for you. But you should do what you need to do.

Keeping it secret shouldn't be too difficult. No one will notice that you are on hormones for quite some time. The facial changes can be dramatic over time (6 months to 2 years), but the daily changes are so subtle that it can take a long time for family and friends to notice (if they ever do). The hardest part is hiding breasts (if you get significant development), but that can be managed with wardrobe for quite awhile (unless you get exceptional growth). One word of caution: constant long-term breast binding is probably not healthy for growing breasts.

Someone your age should not feel that they need parental permission to proceed, and not telling family until it is too late to stop you is probably frequently easier than telling them early on.


As a general rule, the younger you start the better. However, hormone therapy can still have a dramatic effect on people much older than you. It is never too late to start HRT (if you really are a transsexual person).

I feel more relieved,you see,I am going to make an appointment with a doctor next week to see what he tells me.I dont want to be a man anymore,I really hate it,and I want to start an hormone therapy as soon as possible.
I know that,despite the fact that I am 30 years old,well I look younger,
I look 22 at most so that probably might help.And I wont tell my parents,this is an incredible personal matter,and even if I tell them,somehow I fell that they wont understand and that they would freak out.If I lived in the USA,
things might be different,but this is Mexico,where a man MUST be a man,
and nothing else.If you are a man and decide to change female,you are marked by society and family forever.Still,this is my decision,is my body,
and I believe that I am entitled to do with it whatever I want.

Kind of scared of what the future might bring,but I have decided that it is the right thing to do.Deep In my heart,I really feel it.

Besides,if I really have an intersex condition going on,that might help to become a woman more easily I think.

Hugs and kisses Sakura

Besides my parents dont really need to know.Its my life,isnt it?

[Sandra]

Can I ask how are you going to keep it from your parents? You have said yourself in threads that you are changing. Surely in time they are going to notice the changes if they haven't already.

[Robin Leigh]

Hi Sakura!

I guess you've finally found yourself a job, if you can afford to start buying hormones. Congratulations! :happy: Are you still living with your parents? Has the doctor done any tests yet to find out if you're truly intersexed?

:hugs:

Robin

[MJ]

hi Sakura

what can i say congratulations you made the decision. but it's not that easy now you see your doctor . he/she will properly want you to see a doctor of psychology first and then the fun Begin's they will want you to start the real life test first. then after 3 months you might get to start hormones if you are lucky. i don't think your good doctor will put you on hrt right away.

Besides my parents don't really need to know.Its my life,isn't it?
this is my decision,is my body,
and I believe that I am entitled to do with it whatever I want.

you are going to have to tell them Hun and your family too. get it out in the open then you will know who will be there for you. you will lose some but then some will hang around and then there will be some betting on how long this lasts before you fail . when everybody knows then you will be free to be who you relay are. i know it's going to be hard on you please get it out in the open trust me i know..

if you don't then you will have to keep switching back and forth between friends and family and still living a lie

and what about the questions like why did you get your eyebrows done like a woman ? or the gg's for me was look at your nails i don't have mine that long

you will find new friends out there that will accept you just as you are the only way you will find them is being out there full time as the woman you always should have been. good luck hun...

hugs Marissa

[Sakura Kinomoto]

Well although I made my decision,I know is very hard,still I dont think that I am ready to tell my parents,because I have the feeling that they wont understand it.I have the idea to tell my mom but I have an idea of what her reaction will be,and I am scared of that reaction.She will ask "What?You wanna be a girl?Why?I am sure that I raised you as a boy".True,she raised me as a boy but in time I realized that I dont want to be a boy anymore....

I mean,how can I tell her something like that???That is why I dont why to tell them,becuse what I have to tell might kill them....

However,they might notice anyway the changes I am having...I havent thought about that....

[Robin Leigh]

Well although I made my decision,I know is very hard,still I dont think that I am ready to tell my parents,because I have the feeling that they wont understand it.

I think that at heart you're a good person Sakura, but I don't think you're being very realistic.
And you haven't answered my questions, so I'm forced to rely on my psychic powers. :D

I'm guessing you haven't discussed this with a doctor yet, and have not had tests to see if you do have the sex hormone anomalies you talked about in a previous thread. You are still living with your parents & you don't have a job. You expect your parents to pay for the hormones you want to take, but you are afraid to tell them. :(

I doubt any decent gender therapist would consider you a very suitable candidate for transition the way you are at the moment, and unless you improve your financial situation, there's no way you'd ever be able to afford full SRS.

Now, taking hormones may do wonders for your state of mind, but this isn't some kind of game. If you start taking hormones, there will be some permanent effects. It's not like dressing up & putting on makeup, that you can just take off. You really do need to see a qualified professional about this.

:hugs:

Robin

[Sakura Kinomoto]

I think that at heart you're a good person Sakura, but I don't think you're being very realistic.
And you haven't answered my questions, so I'm forced to rely on my psychic powers. :D

I'm guessing you haven't discussed this with a doctor yet, and have not had tests to see if you do have the sex hormone anomalies you talked about in a previous thread. You are still living with your parents & you don't have a job. You expect your parents to pay for the hormones you want to take, but you are afraid to tell them. :(

I doubt any decent gender therapist would consider you a very suitable candidate for transition the way you are at the moment, and unless you improve your financial situation, there's no way you'd ever be able to afford full SRS.

Now, taking hormones may do wonders for your state of mind, but this isn't some kind of game. If you start taking hormones, there will be some permanent effects. It's not like dressing up & putting on makeup, that you can just take off. You really do need to see a qualified professional about this.

:hugs:

Robin

Ia realize that taking hormones isnt like crossdressing,and that for my transition I need lots of money,patience and understanding.
I really dont know what to do,if I tell my mom,she might freak out,
on the other hand,she might understand better if I told her....
Um,I need some time to think it over.You are right however I am looking for a doctor....patience is the key to a good transition....

Hugs and kisses Sakura

[Erica4U]

I have been struggling with the same thing only I am keeping it from my wife! I haven't started yet but next week after seeing a doctor for some time, I am going to take the "Big Test" to see if in fact I am eligible to begin hormone therapy! I am scared and excited! It is expensive and so is feminine Facial Surgery which I want as well! I have far too masculine a face! tell your parents! Your obviously young enough for the hormones to work at their best and why not have it be a celebration for all of you! It may take time if you feel they will not understand or agree but if your going to do it anyway, including them will make them feel good about it rather than you didn't trust them enough to love you!

[Sakura Kinomoto]

I have been struggling with the same thing only I am keeping it from my wife! I haven't started yet but next week after seeing a doctor for some time, I am going to take the "Big Test" to see if in fact I am eligible to begin hormone therapy! I am scared and excited! It is expensive and so is feminine Facial Surgery which I want as well! I have far too masculine a face! tell your parents! Your obviously young enough for the hormones to work at their best and why not have it be a celebration for all of you! It may take time if you feel they will not understand or agree but if your going to do it anyway, including them will make them feel good about it rather than you didn't trust them enough to love you!


The most important thing is to tell your parents,of course,I guess it will be wrong not to tell....but how can you make such a decision in a country like Mexico?????

[Bridget]

However, in order to get prescribed hormones, don't most therapists require you to dress full-time and live full time as a woman first for a period of several months or so?

[Scotty]

However, in order to get prescribed hormones, don't most therapists require you to dress full-time and live full time as a woman first for a period of several months or so?

No. For surgery yes, a full year.

I'm not familiar with the customs in Mexico, or for someone that may be a minor so my advice is to either begin living on your own (Or if you will be within a year).
At that age the hormones are going to work muy bien y muy rapido!! (Did I spell that right?).....

[Sejd]

Hi Sakura
Sakura is a blossom isnt't it? You write that you are 30 years old, and that you still live with your parents.
that's a hard one to crack, or for me even to understand. Is there any way you could move on and become independant? Seems to me you are doing the things in the wrong order.
I would work on first becoming independant of my parents, and then pursue your sexual preference. Maybe I am skipping some information you have given in previous posts, and in that case disregard my comment.
I wish you all the luck and success you can get.
huggs
Sejd

[Jayson]

Ia realize that taking hormones isnt like crossdressing,and that for my transition I need lots of money,patience and understanding.
I really dont know what to do,if I tell my mom,she might freak out,
on the other hand,she might understand better if I told her....
Um,I need some time to think it over.You are right however I am looking for a doctor....patience is the key to a good transition....

Hugs and kisses Sakura

Dear Sakura!!

First of all Iòuld say you are really lucky to have such poeple like Robin and others on the net,who are there for you and guiding you through this as far as they can.All the coments to your post makes sence in different ways.But one is clear you are not in the posission to keep this away from your family and as long as you live under the same roof its almost impossible.Why impossible? You need your Mom for financial support and for the roof over your head.I don`t know how old you are but, I think the best that you could do is to first find yourself a job and than do everything in your power to keep it, than move out and find your own appartment.

I don`t know your family but one thing is sure!! I´m originaly from Africa,And the mentality of African and Mexican is not realy so much different when it comes to the topic Homosexsuality ect.From my own experiance I`ve never toled my family about it,They have to just see the changes themselves and if they have questions about it than I`ll answer them instead of explainning my self to them as if I ows them an explanation. When somebody starts with The hormone process, judgement is the last think that you need.but support .

PS.Jayson.