Wearing Deceased Wife's Clothes

[sissystephanie]

How many of you ladies who are widowers wear any of you deceased wifes clothes? I can, and do, wear some of my dear departed wife's bra's and panties on a regular basis. I thought that since she usually wore petites, or medium size, that there was nothing else I could wear. To my surprise, and joy, I found that a lot of her stuff did fit me!:heehee: I rescued, from the Charity pickup, 3 dresses, about 7 pairs of pants, and at least a dozen tops of all kinds and colors. I normally wear a size 16 dress, which fits me perfectly. Her dresses, the ones I kept, were sized as Large, which is usually a 14. However, they all fit, and since I liked them I kept them. One was a Basic Black Dress and every girl needs one of those!:love:

So, any other stories like this out there? BTW, wearing her clothes makes me feel that much closer to her! I still miss her!!

Sissy

More Girl than man

[DeAnna Elaine]

I am fortunate to have never experienced the loss you have. In a world as cold as this one can be, your wife was very blessed to have been loved by you.

[Sejd]

CD or not? it makes sense to me that you would want to wear what your wife had on when she was alive. Especially if you loved her. Why not. How that is connected to being a CD I don't know since your broader story has not been told, but - yeah, it makes sense.
hugs
Sejd

[Billijo49504]

I know what you mean. I walked in those shoes. I went through it about 23 yrs ago. And yes I wore her clothes. Actually she was barried in my new panties and bra. She shared her clothes when she was alive and it made me feel closer to her, when she was gone....BJ

[Snookums]

I pray I never lose my GG SO,but if it happens,her clothes will not fit me,she's 5'tall and about 90 pounds,I'm 5'8"and around 245

[Teresa Amina]

Ah! We share a strange commonality. My wife died almost exactly a year ago and, yes, there are some things of hers I like quite a bit and kept. But most were things she never wore and, even so, since she was 3x and I 1x, don't fit well anyway. I've bought many things new this year which fit and suit my sense of style better so her things stay on the hanger now. But I will keep them....

[sissystephanie]

I am fortunate to have never experienced the loss you have. In a world as cold as this one can be, your wife was very blessed to have been loved by you.

DeAnna Elaine,

You may be right about my dear wife being blessed to have been loved by me. But I was blessed a hundredfold more to have been loved, and accepted as a CD, by her. We had been married for 49 1/2 years when she died, but we had known each other since she was 8 and I was 10. True childhood sweethearts.:love:

Sissy

More Girl than man

[KarenSusan]

wearing her clothes makes me feel that much closer to her! I still miss her!!

You bring tears to my eyes, Stephanie. Although I have never been married, I can imagine feeling that way for a woman that I loved.

[sissystephanie]

You bring tears to my eyes, Stephanie. Although I have never been married, I can imagine feeling that way for a woman that I loved.

Karen,

It brought tears to my eyes to write that. When my wife and I married, we changed the weddings vows slightly. Instead of saying, "till death do you part", the priest said "you are married for all eternity." So in my mind we are still married, and always will be! My dear wife had a husband, a lover, and a girlfriend all in one person, and yes she did love me a great deal! I feel so good when I wear her things!:love:

Sissy
More Girl than man

[Cathleen]

. . . "you are married for all eternity."
This is one of the sweetest, most lovely things I have read on this board, Sissy.:cry: I'm actually embarassed to hear of the beautiful intimacy you and your wife shared and continue to share.:blushing:

May she and you continue to hold each other in love through eternity. :<3: :<3:

God bless :rose2:
Cathy

[vbcdgrl]

I have a few of my Xs things which I "appropriated" when she moved out and left them. Just recently, she picked up the last of her stuff. Since she really doesn't know what she had, I know she's not gonna miss a few things. I guess, since she is my X, if she died I would keep and wear the items. If she were still my wife when she died, I don't think I could wear 'em.

Vikki

[Lisa Golightly]

I was never married... Or really wanted... Awwwwww poor, poor, poor Lisa :) I think your tale is a common one... Touching Angel's is a personal thing.

Lisa x

[Andrea Nicole]

Hi,
I was married for close to 22 years, and my my passed away from cancer. She is the one who actually first jokingly dressed me up late in our marraige. We did go out to a few clubs about 3-4 times a year in the winter all bundled up so no one would "see" me even though I'm fairly "passable", I just didn't want to push it.
I never will find anyone like her, or will even try. Our kids are all grown up and spread accross the country. Even though we were pretty close in "size"...she was 5-5/120 and I am 5-8/145, I really didn't "fit" most of her clothes. I do wear some of her jewelry, some lingerie, lots of her stockings, and some heels like..slingbacks which are kinda "adjustable"...
I don't see any problem with wearing your wife's clothes... but, that's just my personal opinion.

[SherriePall]

My wife and I will be married 33 years. I have already told her she has to outlive me. One, because if she goes first, I don't know what I'll do. Second, because I fear my daughter will clean out the closet and then I'll either have to let her and my clothes go (I can wear hers). Or I will have to tell my daughter the truth. Being discovered by the children is one thing my wife fears. Before we go on a trip, she worries that something may happen to the both of us and then my things will be found (the shoes and my wigs would be the tip-off).
My heart goes out to those of you who have lost your wives or SO's.

[Helen MC]

To my mind it perpetuates her memory and the bond between you when both were alive.

[Brianna Lovely]

You really touched my heart, I had to wipe away my tears, before I could post a reply.

My wife passed, after thirty years together. Although CDing was the furthest thing from my mind, after she left, I did feel a special kind of love and closeness to her, when I wore some of her things.

That was ten years ago, but I still have two of her nighties, that I fondly touch now and then. She will always be with me, through my journey in this lifetime.

[Dragster]

Fortunately for me, my wife is still very much alive. She knows that I wear some of her clothes from time to time, when she is not around, and I too feel that "closeness" to her when I do, especially when there is a lingering smell of perfume from when she last wore them. Unfortunately, she does not approve of CDing, and doesn't want to know anything about it. If she dies before me, I know that I willl continue to wear her clothes, and like you Stephanie, I will feel that she will still be with me when I do.

Tony

[Wire Road]

I don't know, this all sounds so norman bates to me.

[sissystephanie]

I don't know, this all sounds so norman bates to me.

Excuse my ignorance, bur who is Norman Bates and what does he have to do with this thread?

My wife and I had a relationship that many would give their firstborn to have. And as far as I am concerned, we still have our relationship. Maybe some think that is crazy, but that is the way it is for me!

Sissy
More Girl than man

[Helen MC]

Norman Bates was the male lead in Alfred Hitchcock's Psycho. He kept the mummified body of his mother and dressed up as her to perform the murders such as the famous Shower Scene. At the end of the film when he has been arrested one of the policmen mentions that he was wearing his mother's clothes when apprehended. Another cop snarls "Was he a Transvestite" as if that was a far worse crime than murder! This reminds me of Bernard Shaw's "St Joan" where the prosecutor for the Inquisition makes as big an issue of Joan of Arc wearing male clothing than that she is allegedly a Heretic and the other serious charges against her. Just goes to show how twisted priorites were then as now.

[Wire Road]

Excuse my ignorance, bur who is Norman Bates and what does he have to do with this thread?
the movie Psycho. he dressed up in his dead mother's clothes when he killed people. very creepy.

[DeAnna Elaine]

Norman Bates HATED his mother and IMHO, hate has no place in this forum. This thread is about LOVE.

[terrinoble]

There was an episode of "King of the Hill" in which Hank's friend Bill, heartbroken over the loss of his wife, started to wear her dresses. Eventually, Bill was wearing his wife's clothes in public, and it creeped Hank and his friends out - especially when it go to the point where Bill pretended to be his wife!

[Agles]

to lose a lived one i something that i have felt, losing an aunt i was close to. it is never a good thing.
i dont have an SO who would have clothing left so i cant say i would. but i would feel to do so would be alittle taboo. in that it would bring back feelings i may have had and may feel loss all over again. i hide my feelings so i dont vent them i dont get things off my chest, they just sit there. so to do such a thing would be sad and not a happy experance for me.

='.'=
Jamie

[Bernadina]

I lost my first wife a few years back. Anything that fitted and looked nice is still being worn by myself, my daughters and granddaughter. Unfortunately I found very little that would fit me.

I did get her wedding and engagement rings joined and resized. I wear them when I go out dressed.

[Angie G]

Hi Sissy my wife and I just past 38years and I hope to have meny more its nice you have some thing of your wifes to wear and I think it of love you do this you both were blessed in your union I think it nice that you feel closeto her if my wife leaves before me I will do as you have.
Thank God that love like this can be found on this earth God bless you sissy
Love from your sister
Angie

[Penny]

When someone dies, they leave a legacy of memories for those who knew and loved them. Wearing you wifes clothes, in my opinion, is a very special
way of rekindling those memories and when this happens, I believe that person who passed on rejoins us to share and shape our lives. A person dies only when we fail to remember them.

[sissystephanie]

I lost my first wife a few years back. Anything that fitted and looked nice is still being worn by myself, my daughters and granddaughter. Unfortunately I found very little that would fit me.

I did get her wedding and engagement rings joined and resized. I wear them when I go out dressed.

Since my wife and I married "for eternity," she is still wearing her rings. As small as her hands were, it would have taken a Major resizing job to make them fit me.

Whoever it was that said this thread is about love is totally correct. I wear my wife's things because I love her, and they bring back sweet memories. A couple of day ago I found a Hawaiian dress that I had bought her the last time we were in Hawaii. It was a large, which is what I wear. I put it on and sat for an hour in my recliner reliving our trip. Yes, I did cry a little, but isn't that what girls do? To me, it was a wonderful time!:love:

Sissy
More Girl than man

[DeAnna Elaine]

Angie, I could not have said it better myself. God bless you, Sissy.

[immike]

My dear mother passed away sometime ago,unaware that I had been
wearing her clothes for many years.My favorites were her good business
suits&dresses&heels:D

[Wire Road]

Norman Bates HATED his mother and IMHO, hate has no place in this forum. This thread is about LOVE.
whatever. wearing dead people's clothes still sounds creepy to me.

[GG Vanya]

Karen,

It brought tears to my eyes to write that. When my wife and I married, we changed the weddings vows slightly. Instead of saying, "till death do you part", the priest said "you are married for all eternity." So in my mind we are still married, and always will be! My dear wife had a husband, a lover, and a girlfriend all in one person, and yes she did love me a great deal! I feel so good when I wear her things!:love:

Sissy
More Girl than man

Stephanie,

What a beautiful love the two of you (still) have!

While I have never lost a soulmate (and can't bear to think of losing Trudi) I did lose my Mother a year ago (10/02/05). I was her primary caretaker right up through the hospice stage and was with her when she crossed over.

I kept many of her clothes. Even though she was morbidly obese and they are float around me like a cloud, I often wear her nightgowns and house dresses. They bring me a sense of comfort and closeness.

I also took some of her nightgowns and sealed them in "seal a meal" bags. When I feeling her loss more than usual, I'll open the bag and take a few deep breaths. They still carry her scent. Moms, each and every one, have that distinctive scent. I find SO much solace from that one thing. I'll have a good cry, then seal the bag back up for the next time I need to "be" with Momma.

Your story is an inspiration dear. Great loves are rare, and you are truly blessed to have one. I'm sure your wife smiles through her "good" tears when she reads your words.

I'll ask my Mom to give her a big ole hug for ya!~ :hugs: :happy:

[sissystephanie]

GG Vanya,

My sincere condolences for your loss. Losing any family member is hard, even when you know it is coming. You are a blessed person for being the caregiver your Mom needed.

You write so eloquently! Yes, we did/do have a very loving marriage. To me, or rather us, that is what marriage is supposed to be.

We had one very ironclad rule. That was, we never, ever went to bed angry at each other. Sure we had arguments, as do any married couple. But we ALWAYS made up before going to bed! That way, if for any reason one us did not survive the night, we would know that we were still loved.

I wish I had thought of doing what you did sealing your Mom's things up. Not so much for myself, although I liked her scent, but more for my daughter. When my wife had been gone only a few months, my daughter was over at our house and started sniffing some of my wife's clothes. I asked her what she was doing and she replied, "I'm smelling Mom" and started crying.........
Sorry, I teared up writing that. Guess I am an old softy! I have intentionally worn my wife's favorite perfume with certain of her clothes so I smell like her. Not around my daughter though! She doesn't know, and I don't know if I can tell her or my son.

What part of the deep South do you live in? I live near Atlanta, which is part of the South but not very deep. Originally from the Pacific Northwest.


Sissy

More Girl than man

[angie^]

My wife is still alive and kicking, but if and when the time comes, I will wear her things, as I do now. She is o.k with it now, so why wouldn't she be when I am without her ?

Angie^ xxx

[Felicia]

My S.O passed away earlier this year. She knew and accepted that I like to dress fem. She also accepted that I liked wearing her thing (most didn't fit) and although I had more fem clothes then she did it still brought a close feeling of her while wearing some of her things. Yes I can still feel a special closeness and bond to her when dressed in her clothes. Also the fem clothes that she bought for me are likewise special.
For those who have never had someone love you the way that we did then you are not able to fully understand why we wear them. For example: when I am in one of her dresses it is like she is hugging me (one of the many things I miss). Also it is worn with her approval. Another thing I cherrished when she was alive. (HUG) Felicia

[Warbender]

From a very yong age I wanted to wear "girlly things", but I didn't start wearing woman's clothing until my then travelling partner Mariko, and I fell for each other. We travelled together for 3 years ending up in Seattle 2 days after her 19th b-day. 1 month latter I turned 18, and I married her. (god I still can hear her voice sometimes) 2 months latter she was pregnant with our first child. 4 months after we found out about the pregnancy she was killed by a drunk driver.


In all of my time on this planet. I have yet to find all of the pieces. I loved her so much. She accepted me in totallity. Weather in drab, or not (actually she was the one who got me to go a head and start back up c.g.ing. I hadn't crossdressed since I was 3.) I had the best three and a half years of my life while i was with her, and I had kept all of her things. I even could wear her stuff then too. ( all of witch was burned uf in a fire 2 years latter. all I have left is the ring I put on her finger when I married her)

So here is a:hugs: from me, and I hope you are doing better dealing with it than I

[Scotty]

From a very yong age I wanted to wear "girlly things", but I didn't start wearing woman's clothing until my then travelling partner Mariko, and I fell for each other. We travelled together for 3 years ending up in Seattle 2 days after her 19th b-day. 1 month latter I turned 18, and I married her. (god I still can hear her voice sometimes) 2 months latter she was pregnant with our first child. 4 months after we found out about the pregnancy she was killed by a drunk driver.




I am SO SO sorry to hear about this!! This state has been SO soft on the criminals that have done this. My cousin was killed in her 16th birthday by a DUI.

At any rate, I believe that if your wives KNEW about the CD'ing, then they would be OK with it whether they approved or not.....

I might find it a bit strange if they knew nothing of it, that would seem unusual to me - but it's a free world.

But I am glad to hear of all of your relationships with your wives.
I hope someday I can meet someone like that!!

[Billijo49504]

I don't know if I posted to this one yet. BUT, My 1st wife and I were married for almost 13 years, before she died of brain cancer. For many years I wore things of hers, just to be close to her memory. I still have a few things of hers, but most of my clothes are mine, bought with the help of my present wife. We will be 22 years on the 9th of this month. She is special, she helped my raise my girls from my first wife. What a lady...BJ

[suzy]

Fortunately I have not experienced your loss and I hope that I won't. But, since we share our clothes frequently because we wear the same size, her clothes are equally mine and vice versa. I have no doubt whoever goes first, the remaining person will wear our clothes proudly.:D

[Billijo49504]

More power too you Suzy...BJ

[Glenda58]

I did for months till the family came over started taking things not know I was wearing her cloths we wore the same size. I was sad when they took the last dress to the garage sale. I did keep the the jewelery and some lingerie. Still miss her after 8 years.

[Charleen]

I lost my Sweety after 30 years of marriage last year to cancer. Yes, I wear her things.When I went through the closets, I took out the things that not only didn't fit, but the ones I could picture her wearing, her favorite clothes, and gave them to a friend that has regular yard sales to benefit the ACS. The dress in the avantar is one of hers. The one thing I won't wear is the night gown she wore on our honeymoon. That stays in the draw.
I wear the wedding ring on a gold chainn that was a Christmas gift from me when we first got married. The ring is special to me. Arlene, my wife, lost her own ring. I don't have to tell how devistated she was, and didn't want to tell me. She went to my Mom for advice on how to tell me, and what to do. Now we had lost my Dad a few years before this, and my Mom gave Arlene her wedding ring to wear. How could I be mad then? I couldn't. So the ring I wear around my neck is extremely special to me. I thought of resizing it, but it is now so old and dear that around the neck suits. Beside, more people notice it there.
This is off topic a bit, but after reading the posts on this thread, I feel I have to ask that if you can, please support the American Cancer Society so that in the future, near furture I hope, no one will have to endure what I and others have gonr through. NO ONE should have to go through the roller coaster we did for her year of chemo, and then have her die in your arms as my Sweety did, especially at the age of 53. So please give.
My heart is with everyone that has lost a loved one.
Love and xxxx, Lily

[sissystephanie]

I lost my Sweety after 30 years of marriage last year to cancer.
This is off topic a bit, but after reading the posts on this thread, I feel I have to ask that if you can, please support the American Cancer Society so that in the future, near furture I hope, no one will have to endure what I and others have gonr through. NO ONE should have to go through the roller coaster we did for her year of chemo, and then have her die in your arms as my Sweety did, especially at the age of 53. So please give.
My heart is with everyone that has lost a loved one.
Love and xxxx, Lily

Lily and All,

My deepest condolences to you, Lily. My wife also died of cancer, but the Good Lord saw fit to take her just 2 1/2 months after she was diagnosed so she really didn't suffer. But you are right, no one should have to go thru what you and I, and many others, have gone thru. Cancer can, and will, be beaten if we all help support the research being done.

I said in an earlier post that my wife has her rings on, but I have a lot of other jewelry of hers. Of course, my daughter expects to get most of it which is fine with me. I have already picked out the things I want. Unfortunately, my wife's earrings were, with one exception, all for pierced ears. Since I am in sales, primarily to senior citizens, I can't get away with pierced ears. But there is plenty of other stuff.

Thank you to all of you for your nice comments directed to me. Our marriage was, and is, very special and always will be. As someone else said, if you really love someone they are always with you! I know my wife is always with me!

Sissy

More Girl than man

[Warbender]

I am SO SO sorry to hear about this!! This state has been SO soft on the criminals that have done this. My cousin was killed in her 16th birthday by a DUI.

At any rate, I believe that if your wives KNEW about the CD'ing, then they would be OK with it whether they approved or not.....

I might find it a bit strange if they knew nothing of it, that would seem unusual to me - but it's a free world.

But I am glad to hear of all of your relationships with your wives.
I hope someday I can meet someone like that!!

I thank you luv for the words. I must say though. that the time I had with her was the best 3.5 years of my life.

[FOCD]

You have given new meaning to the wearing of an Angel on your shoulder

[Warbender]

You have given new meaning to the wearing of an Angel on your shoulder

We all have our angels, and devils ridding along with us durring our life's journey